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“Hey friends. Just a couple thoughts.
It’s Ukraine’s party. We’re just inviting them to throw it at our house.
I know how much it meant to Kalush and the Ukrainian delegation that Eurovision would be held at home in Ukraine next year. And I’m not the only one whose heart is heavy knowing that that can’t be the case at this moment in time.
But what I would love to say to anyone watching this from Ukraine is that we know how to throw a party here in the UK and our excitement is outshone only by our focus on that one sole objective to hold space and be on hand to help wherever needed to host an event that celebrates Ukrainian culture, history and music, and to stand in solidarity with the rest of the globe shining a unified light.
Now, us… The rest of us are just loving facilitators and there is no doubt in my mind that we will all come together in the spirit of unity that Eurovision has always been about to celebrate the wonderful people of Ukraine.
I love you and I’ll see you soon. Peace!”
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I've seen a few posts that seem to imply it's somehow unfair to Jon for the others to talk through their options and decide on one, decide on what's going to happen with his life without giving him a say, that it's sad that he's expected to (paraphrasing) "just sit there and let them decide his fate over his head," that they're deciding for him even though he's pretty much said he'd literally rather die/sacrifice himself than go with the other options, but... maybe I'm looking at it wrong, but to me that's not it at all? Or, if they didn't do that, it'd be so much worse?
For one thing, it's not just Jon's fate that's decided, it's literally their whole world. Plus a bunch of other worlds, to be precise. And there have been a few pretty valid arguments, imo, for the plans that aren't "Jon becomes god and hopefully manages to retain enough of his Self to go through with his plan that ultimately doesn't save anyone either."
But also, the way I've seen it phrased, it just. Really rubs me the wrong way, to be honest. "Jon is so used to everyone deciding what's going to happen to him without his input, even things he actively doesn't want, even when he couldn't live with the guilt of dooming countless other worlds to save their own/himself," implying he should get to decide this himself - but the whole point is that it isn't his fault. His guilt is misplaced. He's not cleaning up his own mess or anything like that - okay, to a degree he is, but, as has been made clear in this episode, they all are. Jon feels guilty and sees it as his responsibility to set things right through whatever means possible, but how is that a good thing? How do you look at this man, who's beating himself up with guilt for things he's not even responsible for, and who's not remotely the only one affected by the choice that needs to be made, and go "yes actually the guy with the guilt complex who tends to martyr himself at every opportunity he sees should get to decide whether he wants to sacrifice himself here"?
Idk maybe I'm out of line but in all honesty to me this seems a bit in the same vein as... idk, letting a suicidal person just go ahead bc "it's their life and they should get to make that choice," even if maybe, instead, it might be a better idea to, you know. Stop them from suicide for now, and then tackle the root issues that led to the situation, so maybe they'll get better? Likewise, we might want to stop the Archivist from sacrificing himself out of misplaced guilt, and address that issue once the immediate danger has passed? (Ideally, of course. The characters are not aware they're in a tragedy the way we are, so I'm planning for a hypothetical best outcome here.)
(Also has no one considered that Jon taking Jonah's place might backfire spectacularly, he might lose himself completely and change nothing at best or make things even more horrible at worst, bloody hell this is so far from a safe plan wtf.)
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funkymbtifiction · 3 years
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I thought your typing of Cassie Thomas as ISTP is very interesting! At first I thought that her inability to move on from the past was a sign of Si, but now I know it's actually the grip of inferior Fe. Could you explain more how one can differentiate between Si vs. how other functions can cause someone to not move on from the past? 
First, it’s a great movie. More people should watch it.
Second, that twist about 15 minutes before the end shook me and then made me angry and I spent the last ten minutes or so trying to figure out how mad I was about it, but it turned out all right in the end. It was a logical consequence of what was going on, but still not what I expected.
Finally, Cassie. ;)
She is a pill to type, because she is so full of walking contradictions. Yes, on the surface at first she looks like a Si user stuck in the past and refusing to move on, but Si is more than about the past -- it’s about details and memories and being unsure in situations where you have no experience. SJs are cautious types who do not like to take risks -- and what she is doing by baiting guys and then confronting them is an extremely risk-taking behavior. Even if STJ worked in some way, she was too risk-taking and Te/Fi has no interest in doing anything irrational -- and what she is doing, confronting guys, is irrational. She’s painting them all with the same broad brush (justifiably so, since they’re all repeating behaviors she has come to expect from men) and then... confronting them in an attempt to prove to them that they suck. She kidnaps the dean’s daughter and mentally plays with her mom’s mind to force her to change her thinking about things. That’s Fe! Wanting to impact someone emotionally and change their mind to align with your feelings about it is Fe. But she’s too logical and cold and emotionally detached to be SFJ.
And she cannot be NTP because she never shows an ounce of intuition. She doesn’t put it together or even speculate that SPOILER the man she is dating had any involvement in what happened in the first place. She does arrange for “things to happen if I disappear” but that’s just being basically rational and accepting that my death is possible, it’s not intuition. So instead of looking for functions in detail, I fell back on my overall assessment within half an hour of starting the movie -- an ISTP who doesn’t know how to process their emotions and cannot move on, who likes to provoke people and has no moral qualms about some of the ways she does it. They would put themselves at risk, confident that they could adapt to the situation and change it. They would have poor emotionalism (as she does) and not know how to handle people they truly care about thinking ill of them (which she does). They would take risks that might get them arrested and/or hurt (which she does). And they would be emotionally immature enough not to know how to process loss (which she does).
You have to be careful when typing characters locked in the past, because some of them show real Si alongside it (it’s about more than “my past”) and others do not. For example, I watched Pretty Woman the other day and everyone seems to type Viv ENFP, apparently because she talks fondly about her high school days and has some sentiment for her childhood. But she’s a clear ESP type in how she admits she only lives for the present moment, she is risk-taking in who she takes on as a client, she loves sensory experiences, and has no real ambitions for her life other than “I’m here right now, aren’t I?” Sentiment or “I can’t get over this” aren’t necessarily Si, sometimes it’s just “being human (or a character).” Viv has no Ne -- no idealism, she isn’t about spreading ideas, she doesn’t read between the lines successfully, etc.
You just have to take characters on the whole and look at the big picture and sometimes ignore details that don’t fit and go for the type that overall seems the most likely. Since Cassie is low Fe in how she wants to confront people and force them to realize what dirt-bags they are (and in how she does it -- using manipulation and taking risks), no other type fits as well and can be proven as easily as ISTP. Look at the big picture with a character and go with whatever makes the most sense. STJ didn’t work mostly because she doesn’t use Te and was willing to put herself in unknown home situations. A Te/Fi would have an outcome in mind more than just confronting and humiliating men. She dropped everything, including her medical ambitions and career, just to let doing that consume her life.
As far as Si vs stuck in the past goes -- low Si can indeed get stuck there, but you need to prove Ne alongside it (multiple perspectives, reading between the lines, being accurate in assumptions). High Si can want to change the world to fit its perceptions if it’s stuck in the past (ISJ) by rejecting what is real for what is preferred (Captain America looking and acting like it’s 1945 instead of 2013). Sometimes refusing to move on is just...your feelings and not knowing how to process them. Higher feeling types know how to process loss, grief, etc., and go on about their lives, but lower types aren’t always sure how to deal with it, especially TP types.
More later if I think of it; gotta run!
ETA: Blaming total strangers for your best friend’s (presumed) suicide is also low Fe, IMO. Fi users understand that everything is an individual choice, so the blame falls with the person who chooses to do something, not everyone else. A Te and Fi user would hold the actual men responsible who assaulted their best friend, and not expand that to include everyone “who does that” -- thats’ Fe-ish generalizing and painting everyone with the same moral brush.
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Do you ever get weirded out when people insist that Dick is a "control-freak?" I don't really have a good counterargument for that supposed statement, but that just doesn't really click for me... It kinda feels like one of those fanon things that puts a ton of unrealistic pressure on Dick to be a "perfect being" if you know what I mean....
Yes and no? Like I just mean with this, this is one of those things that I actually do think is part of his character.....its just that it gets snowballed into being this huge flaw and yet another avenue to criticize or condemn him, rather than just being used to explore WHY Dick is this way.
Like personally, I think one of the biggest similarities between Bruce and Dick despite all their differences is the fact that they both have control freak tendencies.....BUT these manifest in very different ways, and IMO stem from very different mindsets.
Because I feel like Bruce’s control freak tendencies stem from his awareness of his own resources, capabilities and knowledge, all blended in with a thread of ingrained classism that frankly, its just unrealistic to think that a born billionaire managed to avoid being influenced by at all.
I think Bruce’s control freak tendencies spiral out of his brilliant mind’s ability to map out so many scenarios in a way that lets them end in an optimal resolution for everyone involved....but ONLY IF he controls as many of the variables as possible himself, because the variables are what make or break a projection and how much it ends up being fully realized.
Bruce is a control freak because when he’s in his own head, when he’s the one in control of all the many varied elements that have to come together in just the right way at just the right times to allow everything to fall perfectly into place and thread the needle so everyone makes it out alive, nobody has to die, so long as Order is allowed access to everything it needs in order to control an outcome, it will prevail and the senseless Chaos that has so often stolen the things Bruce loves and cherishes most in ways he sees as always being preventable, could have been avoided, if only he’d been able to control more of the situation than he actually had at the time........
When Bruce retreats into his own mind to analyze things and project outcomes and try and come up with the one course of action that will accomplish all of his intended goals without anyone being hurt......because he is the master of his own universe there in his own mind, he’s in complete charge of his thoughts, his brain always having been his greatest and ultimate weapon......because there’s nothing interfering with his control of all the little minutiae that need to happen just so in order for his seemingly impossible plans to come together properly......there, Bruce can see it all play out perfectly. A perfect outcome, nobody hurt, nobody losing anything, everyone accomplishing everything they needed to accomplish in order to rate the plan an unmitigated success.
But that’s only in his own head. Where he controls everything. The real world is not so easily controlled and shaped despite his best efforts and considerable reach......and thus, in my mind, the eternal tragedy of Bruce.
Because his control freak tendencies do come from a genuine place, a good place, a desire to see all his loved ones, and everyone else just safe and happy and protected and ALIVE...
But those good intentions butt heads with the fact that so many of the variables he tries his best to control are actually y’know....expressions of other peoples’ free will that he has no right to override or manipulate for them, no matter that he does so with the best of intentions.
Its okay to play God in your own head, in your own assessment of a situation as you run through how you would LIKE for it to play out, ideally.
But that doesn’t mean its okay to play God like that and to that extent in your real life, influencing and superseding the agencies of those closest to you to arrange them all like pieces on a chessboard because you’re convinced you are right and you know best.
Because the thing is - the tragedy - is that Bruce undeniably IS brilliant. His mind probably works in ways most people couldn’t even comprehend. His ability to analyze so many disparate variables and factors in his head and calculate projected outcomes, is like....second to none.
So the thing is.....in his own head, when Bruce maps out solutions to the various crises he comes face to face with.........with him controlling all the variables in play there, he truly does find an optimal outcome most of the time, I think. That’s the tragedy. I believe he really is able to 90% of the time calculate a strategy that could safely navigate everyone of his loved ones and teammates and allies through whatever dangers they face and see them safely through to the other side....but ONLY if he controls the majority of the variables, INCLUDING the actions of all those people. In essence...only if they all do EXACTLY what he tells them to, and just takes it on faith that he is right and knows what he’s doing and listening to him now will keep everyone alive.
And unfortunately, that’s just....not something you can ask of people, let alone expect. No matter how much they trust you, the kind of faith that’s asking (usually in life or death situations and the heat of the moment)....that demands ABSOLUTE certainty that this man has found the one truly optimal solution to their crisis, no matter what anyone else says to the contrary - and most of those other voices usually belonging to geniuses in their own rights. And especially when the things Bruce is asking of them or telling them to do flies in the face of other heroes’ own well-honed instincts that have kept them alive through years and even decades of being a superhero in their own right, without Bruce constantly looking over their shoulder advising them....sometimes, that’s just not something even people who know and trust him are going to be able to do.
Because as brilliant as Bruce is, he’s still human. He’s not actually God, he’s not infallible. He CAN be wrong. He HAS been wrong, and will be again. Even if he’s only wrong one out of ten times as opposed to most peoples’ 50/50 split.....that is still a margin of error, and ANY possibility of error, even a one in ten chance that Bruce isn’t right this time, he missed something or didn’t account for something or sheer dumb chance could potentially strike at just the single most critical moment and derail his whole strategy no matter how ingenious it was.....
*Shrugs* Well, when you’re talking life or death stakes, sometimes even just that one in ten chance this might be one of the times Bruce is wrong means that other experienced heroes, even his own family like Dick, have to do what’s right in their eyes, what makes sense to THEM, and not being able to see the world the way Bruce does, see the strategy he’s concocted run through its projections seamlessly and without a hitch in his mind......they sometimes have to say I do trust you, but I also have to trust myself as I’ve gotten this far, and every instinct, all my experience as a hero myself is telling me I have to go a different way on this one.
And the tragedy of Bruce is every single time someone does that, someone makes a choice he advised against instead of adhering to what he told them to do......he can still see in his mind, the shining perfect strategy as he’d envisioned it, still running from Point A to Point B without a single hitch as long as everyone in his mind’s eye performs exactly according to the strategy he’s mapped out....and when that happens, the scenario, the projection ends exactly as it always ends from the very first time he mapped it out and ran through it in his head, checking for flaws.
In his head, no matter how disastrously things might have gone wrong in real life, the second they diverged from Bruce’s plan or someone acted in a way Bruce had specifically advised against.......in his head, where those things don’t happen, where everything goes exactly according to his plan, where he has total, perfect control......there, his projections whether imagined ahead of time or running through them in hindsight, always arrive at the same conclusion:
The optimal outcome he was aiming for. The one where everyone made it home alive and safe, where all objectives were accomplished, where the good guys won and after the movie, Bruce and his parents got ice cream and then went home and nothing unanticipated happened or went wrong, because he had it all under control, as long as everything adhered exactly to his plan.
And that’s a hell of a thing to have to live with....a crystal clear image of things ending the way you wanted them to, the way everyone wanted them to....if only everyone had LISTENED to you and done exactly as you said instead of refusing to trust you or going off script and doing their own thing.
So Bruce is a control freak, IMO, but for a reason.....and that reason is such that no matter how many times his control freak tendencies clash with his childrens’ independence, his teammates’ trust, he can’t view it as a solution, to just rid himself of those tendencies.....because they WORK. When allowed to. He’s not controlling just for the sake of being controlling, he’s just trying desperately to keep as many people as possible ALIVE by the time he returns home every morning.......and even though he’s intelligent enough and self-aware enough to see where those very same tendencies cause major problems in his interactions and relationships with even his own children....I think Bruce is constantly stuck between a rock and a hard place, unable to keep himself from weighing that against his success rate, and how often embracing his control freak tendencies instead of dismissing them has led to an optimal outcome, and kept everyone safe, that he was trying to keep safe.
So I get it, even as it causes clear problems for a character I favor more than Bruce.
Because see, like I said at the start, I do think Dick has control freak tendencies too....but the problem I have with talking about them, or seeing them talked about elsewhere in fandom, is that I truly don’t think its possible to divorce Dick’s control freak tendencies FROM how Bruce’s impacted him while growing up.
Basically....you can’t productively talk about this tendency of Dick’s, IMO, unless you’re willing to also talk about Bruce’s control freak tendencies and how and in what ways they negatively impact his children, like Dick.
Because Bruce and Dick, while similar, are not the same and are never going to be the same, because there’s no avoiding the fact that Bruce is a direct and pivotal - most pivotal, lbr - influencer on Dick’s life, and the man he grows up to become.
And Bruce, as stated....is a control freak. And he already was, before Dick ever set foot in the manor. 
But Bruce grew into his control freak tendencies as a reaction to his trauma, the shock of the unanticipated stealing everything from him, in ways that later, in hindsight, Bruce can’t help but view as being entirely preventable, if only things had gone differently that night, if people had made different choices, if someone had CONTROLLED the situation.
Bruce’s tendencies grew out of a failure to react properly, and grew INTO an extreme form of proactiveness. Bruce doesn’t wait for things to happen, if he can help it, because too often that means by the time you act, its already too late. Bruce prepares as much as humanly possible. He acts preemptively to take out threats before they can become actual threats. He forms contingencies way ahead of ever needing them, because by the time he needs them, he knows he won’t have the time needed to properly map a plan out from scratch/
But this kind of proactive approach to life as a superhero - a mindset he never truly ever leaves behind in the Cave even though he changes before going upstairs, because the line between Bruce and Batman is far too blurred, there is no real distinction in Bruce’s mind...he’s ALWAYS Batman, and thus he’s ALWAYS on guard and doing his best to be prepared.
However, the caveat to that is that means that a lot of time, a lot of his life and how he goes about living it......is according to plans he’s mapped out to preempt or stave off or avoid even POTENTIAL problems or dangers in his day to day life.
In essence....he spends a lot of his life choosing his course of action based on not just avoiding existing threats....but even potential threats, whether or not they ever end up being something he had to be concerned about.
And the thing that gets left out of criticism of Dick’s control freak tendencies IMO....is this is Dick’s father. This is the man who raised him, for MUCH longer than any other Batkid has been raised by him. This is the way Dick grew up.
And it was fine at first! When he was younger, a kid, it didn’t bother him to live his life according to Bruce’s advice and wishes and plans, because children that young, like, they’re USED to parents making a ton of their decisions, steering them towards certain choices because they’re literally too young and too lacking in life experiences to know what the best choice to make even IS.
That’s the way its SUPPOSED to work, and thus, for a long time...it DID work.
But...at a certain point, parents are supposed to pull back, take off the training wheels, stamp down their desire to overrule the choices their children make that they view as misguided or disasters waiting to happen, because its their life to live now, and they need to be allowed to do that. For better or for worse.
And the problem was.....Bruce didn’t do that. Because I honestly don’t think Bruce knows HOW to do that. Because when he thinks he knows better than someone else, I don’t think he’s just sure he’s right, I honestly think he can SEE it in his head. He’s face to face with it, can’t avoid looking at it no matter how determined someone else seems to steer themselves down a far more harmful path, when it would be sooooo easy, in Bruce’s estimation, for them to get what they want without any risk of danger, he can see it so clearly, if only they would just LET HIM STEER.....
And as Dick grew up, grew into himself and his own surety in his own instincts and priorities and choices.......that just....didn’t work for him. At all. Its practically anathema to who he is and what he cares about most, values most for his own life. Its oil to his water. He CAN’T live like that, the very idea chafes at him, probably.....the thought of just surrendering his own choices to someone else’s directive, even if it is his own father, even though he does believe that Bruce only wants what’s best for him and for him to be safe and happy.....
Because the thing is, I don’t think Dick CAN be happy living like that. He is someone who desperately needs the freedom to make his own choices even if they’re the wrong ones, sometimes even especially if they’re the wrong ones.
Because Dick is a product of his own traumas and tragedies just as Bruce is of his own.
And the thing that took Bruce’s parents from him, ruined his life, wrecked everything and put him on the path to becoming the Batman.....was something Bruce sees as avoidable, preventable, with the missing variable being the control he lacked. But the thing is, Bruce always had agency. He grew up the privileged heir of a vastly wealthy and influential family. He NEVER lacked for personal power, for the ability to make choices and have them respected.
So the problem the night his initial tragedy occurred on was not that he was lacking control or agency he normally possessed, that someone else had removed it or countered it......he was the same as always. No, the problem was that even though he had his own personal measure of control, his personal agency....that wasn’t ENOUGH to subvert his tragedy. That on its own was never going to be able to seize control of enough of the variables in the situation that he could then guide it safely to a different outcome, no matter how many times he mapped it out in his head looking back on it. He had his control and agency, but it wasn’t enough....he needed MORE. Only by having more control over the situation, his environs, his person, the influence he could wield on people around him......only that could give him ENOUGH control to influence the high volume of variables needed in any given scenario, to assume control of that situation overall, and be the one most influential in deciding what outcome ultimately resulted from it.
But Dick is another matter entirely, and his situation - for all its parallels to Bruce’s - was always INHERENTLY different.
Because Dick wasn’t born the privileged heir of a family of wealth and power....and even after being taken in by Bruce, that didn’t remove his origins even in the eyes of Gotham society, and no matter how much Bruce’s wealth and connections made Dick’s life better and easier in many ways, merely being raised by him starting at age eight or nine was never going to actually give Dick the entirety of all the privileges Bruce enjoys, and always has, his entire life.
No matter the size of his bank account, the way the general public views Bruce Wayne and the way they view Dick Grayson, the poor circus orphan Bruce took in for some unknown reason....they are entirely different things, and not remotely interchangeable.
Bruce’s problem was that even as much control and agency as he initially possessed, it wasn’t enough to give him as much influence over outcomes as he NEEDED in order to protect people and keep them safe.
Dick’s problem was that from the moment his parents were murdered, he barely ever was even ALLOWED any control over his own life or personal agency at all.
Dick’s tragedy was preventable too - he could have stopped it from happening....if only he could have gotten someone to listen to him about the strange man he saw, to believe him and check things out as a result. But Dick was never the kind of kid Bruce was, even after he came to live with Bruce, because he needed to be the kind of kid people LISTENED to and took at their word in order for so many of the events of those first few years in Gotham to play out differently than they did....and he just wasn’t that kind of kid. 
He was a brown boy from a suspect background and heritage, he was willful and spirited and proud, which led to him clashing frequently with those who tried to look down on him and walk all over him....with him then often facing consequences from adults or authority figures, because.....he wasn’t the kind of kid they listened to and took at his word, about what had actually happened, not when more privileged kids were saying otherwise.
And that pattern has only repeated throughout Dick’s life....not just because of Bruce’s control freak tendencies, but because of classism, because of the prejudices that led CPS to unilaterally declare the environment he’d happily grown up in until then was no fit place for a child, and even freaking JUVIE was a place more ‘fitting’ for him. Dick never got any say about having to stay in Gotham, the city where his parents died, with him stuck and grounded in the one place that held the most painful memories of his life thus far, when previously he’d been a citizen of the world and used to traveling all over, never chained down to one spot, let alone a spot where he’d already lost so much.
And like I said, its only gone on in that same pattern ever since. He’s been brainwashed and had his mind messed with more than practically any other hero, and with some of these instances lasting months and even up to a year at a time. He’s been canonically raped twice and sexually violated and harassed in numerous other ways countless times.
His choice to honor his parents’ memory via his choices of costume and names are never respected or deemed good enough to justify said costumes’ or names existence.....the things he always intends as a memorial, a tribute to the parents he loved and misses always get weaponized against him and made objects of scorn and mockery instead, a reason for people around him to look down on him instead of trying to understand him and why he made the choices he did.
He didn’t get a say in keeping the name his mother gave him, when Bruce fired him and he was forced to come up with an entirely new mantle. He didn’t get a say when Bruce passed that mantle on without even asking him, as though the second Robin had become associated with Batman, that association took priority over all others, even the association with his parents that led him to choose that for his superhero name in the first place.
Despite living with Bruce the longest, Dick has had the least social influence and standing and legal benefits from being Bruce’s son, given that he was Bruce’s ward the entire time he lived with Bruce, his wardship dissolved at eighteen and he had no ties to Bruce whatsoever for at least another couple of years after, at which point he and Bruce finally reconciled, and it was still a couple more years after that when he was finally adopted, the way most of his siblings were adopted while still living at home and getting vastly more security and assurance from being legally bound to Bruce as his children by his choice, a choice that Dick was never offered, not until long after he was used to living on his own, and by necessity had already been forced to come to terms with not being Bruce’s child by adoption - Dick’s adoption has always in reality been more honorary than beneficial in a way he actually needed or could have benefited from, if it’d happened earlier or had been in place when first having issues with Bruce.
Etc, etc, etc.
So like I said way back at the start of this, the problem I have with talk of Dick’s control freak tendencies is NOT that he doesn’t have them - he does, very much so.
Its that you simply can not talk about them without talking about Bruce’s and acknowledging how Bruce’s affect Dick’s, IMO.....because while Bruce’s control freak tendencies are born of a desire to be as proactive as possible.....Dick’s are entirely REACTIVE in nature.
Dick’s a control freak not because he wants to control more than is healthy or acceptable without impinging on others’ agency and choices.......but rather, because he just wants to have the same kind of control and personal agency everyone BUT him seems to be granted in life.
They stem from the fact that so often in his life, even the most basic and personal levels of agency have routinely been stripped from him and denied to him. Bounced around like a pinball at the whims of others, who very rarely consider his opinion about his own life worth even listening to. They’re a reaction to the many times and many ways in which his privacy has been violated by Bruce and his boundaries crossed as though they’re nonexistent - which they are, if Bruce refuses to acknowledge them as existing and respect and abide by them. 
They’re born of his attempt to seize control of ANYTHING he can in order to ground himself, to be able to hang on the NEXT time the ground is ripped out from under him and his whole world is upended just like it was when his parents were killed and when Bruce fired him the first time, and the second time, and when the Titans disbanded, and when Jason died and Bruce hit him and when the woman he slept with was not the woman he was in love with but a virtual stranger who tricked him and started a chain reaction of events and fights and blame and resentment on both sides that ultimately ended in Dick and Jory breaking up. Or when Terra turned out to be a traitor or when he found out he’d been under the Church of Blood’s mental control for a whole year without even knowing it and he now had no idea which of the choices and actions he’d made the past year had been HIS and which had been the Church pulling his strings. Or when Joey turned out to have betrayed the team and then turned out to be possessed and then ended up dead. Or when Donna died or when Jason came back except he tried to kill Tim and instead of coming home devoted himself to becoming a literal crime lord. Or when Tarantula raped him and he was violated in that way for the second time, and Babs dumped him while he was blamed yet again for things that literally weren’t his fault and he was the victim of. Or when Blockbuster burned down the circus that had been his home for the first eight years of his life, just because it was his and he’d been happy there, or when the apartment building he’d gradually over time built into an actual community he was a part of rather than just a building he lived in was destroyed and everyone in it was killed. Or when his entire city was destroyed in part to spite him, specifically, 
Or in the New 52, when he found out that he wasn’t actually the only surviving member of his family....he had a great-grandfather except lol oh wait, whoops, Great Grandpappy is an undead zombie assassin with seriously whack family values and reveals that he’d been selected before birth and was intended to be groomed as a future undead zombie assassin as his ‘destiny’ because his homicidal Pappy he only just met had apparently decided his genes swimming around in Dick’s DNA meant his call to force Dick into a life that would actually span several lifetimes, in servitude and mindless obedience to people who opposed everything he’d ever stood for and fought against every single day of his life as a hero.
And forget about the lack of control Dick had in anything to do with Forever Evil and Spyral, or anything to do with Ric because its not Dick in the driver’s seat there, and lol ON TOP OF THAT it turned out RIC wasn’t even actually in the driver’s seat either, it was the Court of Owls all along, yet again pulling his strings like they thought he was Pinocchio and had a stamp on the bottom of his foot that said Property of William Cobb and His Cult of Crazy Bird-Equivalent-of-Furries.
So yeah. Bottom line is yes, Dick IS a control freak in a lot of ways at a lot of times, but like I often say about his instances of anger.....these are not flaws, these are humanizing aspects of his character that if looked at from his POV rather than just used as a reason to condemn him, they’re completely understandable even if they’re not always the ‘best’ of all possible choices or reactions he could have.
Dick’s a control freak because he kinda pretty much HAD to be. Seizing control of any scrap of well, control, within reach, any chance he could get, was initially just a survival mechanism built around what he considered necessary for HIS survival.....because to Dick, being alive means nothing if he’s not also allowed the ‘courtesy’ of being in control of his own mind, his own body, his own life and choices and path.
I believe for him, it started as a REACTION to Bruce’s own control freak tendencies, as well as the other factors in Dick’s life that habitually stripped him of his agency and choices. Controlling whatever he could in his immediate vicinity or sphere of influence was I think, initially just to act as a counterweight, balancing out the many times his personal innate agency was disregarded or taken away. If he couldn’t control his own life, be allowed his own choices, he’d just have to gain enough control of a situation through other means that it gave him a kind of leverage he could then use to take back what was taken from him.
And I think that’s absolutely understandable and relatable.
Obviously, there have been instances where Dick’s control freak tendencies have negatively impacted others the way Bruce’s have at times negatively impacted him. When he’s run over other peoples’ ability to make their own choices because he lost sight of what he was doing and why. Sometimes these are logical narrative choices and actual mistakes and errors he usually eventually acknowledges and tries his best to make amends for.......and of course, he’s just as vulnerable to being written by shitty writers who don’t know shit about things like agency and thus have him run all over other peoples’ agencies in ways that I don’t think are true to his characterization even with his control freak tendencies front and center. *Shrugs* Its all subjective.
But yeah. That’s my long dissertation on the control freak tendencies of both Bruce and Dick and why and how I consider them intrinsically linked. You can’t talk about the one without the other, because the one in large part only originated BECAUSE of the other. If Dick’s vigilante persona was named and themed Control Freak, Bruce’s status as KING Control Freak would be his origin story there.
Here endeth the word vomit. Byyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyye.
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Pellegrini and the future
Seems like quite a good time to assess Pellegrini's future imo - before the swings of a few end-of-season results muddies the picture based on our final placing. I’m broadly in favour of a change of coach/manager over the Summer break. It’s not a ‘fire the manager’ situation, I just think weighing up the pros and cons I’d prefer a change. Many will disagree and that’s fine. Obviously the overwhelming likelihood is that the club continues happily with Pellegrini. And the 3-year deal on a rumoured v high wage means it might cost up to £20m just to get out of it after a year. 
So not a decision for the club to take lightly, but my view is that when you’re talking about something so fundamental as the first-team coach, then almost whatever the cost of course-correction the right decision must be taken. Because it affects everything else, can’t really put a price on it. 
My view is that overall this season is, if at all, only a very small improvement on the previous two. Many of the broad indicators (shots for/against, possession) seem to suggest little or no change from previous seasons.There are some red flags in some areas - aerial duels, shots against. Set pieces for/against is a major weakness. The club is bottom three in xG against, suggesting that good fortune may be the prime reason we dodged trouble. These stats tallies with my own observations. Imo the team has shown promise for sure, and some aspects of our attacking have definitely improved, but it so often has seemed entirely hapless on the pitch. Looking through the games there’s only a handful I was genuinely happy with. Put short, I haven’t seen enough from the team to back the coach.
Fundamentally, with this group of players, I think of the three stock Pellegrini team shapes (4-4-2, 4-2-3-1, 4-1-4-1, which he has used exclusively since records of his tactics began) only the last offers enough solidity to function consistently in the current premier league. OPTAs records of starting formation suggests that for only 13 games out of the current 30 Pellegrini has utilised a shape that I think ‘could’ work. So over half the time I’m unhappy - I just can’t back that approach. And whatever the shape, you can’t carry players who are given little responsibility to work backwards and offer cover in defensive phases. The strikers and wingers simply don’t cover diligently enough and I think this comes from the coach.
My read of Pellegrini’s approach is a ‘boom/bust gambling mentality’. Simply sacrifice defensive solidity for attackers and see if it floats. On occasion it will - many more times it won’t. We’ve seen all the evidence of that. Crucially what I think was a fortunate win away at Newcastle parlayed into a good run of results at a crucial time with a favourable set of fixtures. During which imo we played a disfunctional shape and approach but got away with it - that’s the basis for avoiding a relegation scrap this season.
Compare to Allardyce. Allardyce prioritised defensive solidity and physical strength and hoped to snatch enough draws and wins for an acceptable return in terms of points. Turgid to watch, but I can see the logic. It usually works. Pellegrini prioritises attacking flair over solidity - sounds attractive in theory but you are betting everything on those attackers. If it doesn’t work there isn’t much to stop the house of cards collapsing. It relies massively on confidence and momentum.
I’d like to see the third way, which is any flexible or moderate plan that operates between these two extremes. That’s what I’d be looking for from a new first-team coach.
I think a key factor with the current manager is buying into this idea of a ‘big team mentality’. I think it’s an empty concept that sounds good to supporters but means nothing. Of course being confident and comfortable on the pitch is a plus. Yes of course I want us to attack opponents where given opportunity - if only our shooting stats matched that aim. They don’t. For shots per game we are 15th in the table fractionally above Cardiff. xG 14th. Of course, I want us to control the ball more so we can decide the course of a game rather than play reactive football. We just haven’t achieved that. Possession-wise we are 12th in the league, joint with Huddersfield.
Now it would be remiss not to say that the current manager works within a structure I also think isn’t fit for the demands of modern football. And perhaps I’m most disappointed by the lack of progress in this area. But I see Pellegrini as fundamentally an embodiment of these outdated ideals. He seems to have more control over targets and signings than any manager in our recent history, so actually represents imo a further step backwards in terms of modernising our approach with transfers.
It’s effectively just the next iteration of the cult of personality driving the club’s decision-making. The focus on South American flair is actually imo less progressive than Bilic’s pragmatism. And the further we go with it, the bigger the task for whoever follows it. I think we’re already in the situation where the next manager will need to speak Spanish. I consider that a massive limitation for an English club, and might yet prove very troublesome post-Brexit. It works directly counter to homegrown quotas and academy integration.
I think I’m in a minority of West Ham supporters over being disappointed with the club’s Summer window, presumably driven largely by Pellegrini’s targets (through his DoF Husillos). I think of the huge £90m+ outlay, we brought in roughly £50m+ of talent - hugely wasteful. Balbuena obviously a good value signing within that - a carefully measured catch, or a punt? Diop a talent but at an ultra-premium price. Fabianski quite brilliant, but at near-record price for a short-term fix given his age. Anderson for me is the sort of trap player the club must move away from - these mercurial high-ability creative forwards, so prevalent in less frantic leagues, so hard to implement in the premiership.
My view is that the return from these players has been actually highly positive given possible outcomes. Maybe the coaching deserves some credit there. But it betrays the reality that even with those outcomes it still hasn’t translated into much of a positive impact on the pitch. It all adds up to one of the oldest squads in the premiership, with declining resale value, that doesn’t seem to offer more than small pockets of hope for genuine progress in the future. I can’t back the architects of that.
January too, for me, was desperately disappointing. Safe in the league, a great opportunity to rebuild, and the club sits on its hands. I think this is a crucial error and misses an opportunity that it might be years before the club sees again.
Pellegrini and the academy production line? At face value, Rice has delivered, Diangana has been introduced, with a handful of other brief opportunities for younger players. I think it’s a step forward from Bilic and Allardyce who seemed to all but ignore that resource. But Rice was a gift that any manager would have benefitted from. Diangana has stalled, including a weird attempt to play him as a striker. Others have come and gone. Overall I’m disappointed. Most crucially, given a period of calm where young players could be blooded in the team for the club’s long-term benefit, there’s been almost no sign of them. The last few benches have been development-free. I can only conclude that when push comes to shove, the selector again has no interest in our young players and their future.
I want the club to build up and around the talent we produce from the academy. I want a coach who will commit to doing so. Of course a ‘big club mentality’ is to ignore the academy, and bank instead on expensive senior mercenary talent. My guess is the current approach is what a big-club mentality used to be in Pellegrini’s heyday - we actually see big clubs starting to change their approach. Spurs have changed their whole outlook by questioning this received wisdom. So imo we’re playing into a losing strategy. We will not be able to match the spending power of the top clubs. We will be paying over the odds to get the players the better clubs don’t want. We’re emphasising our weakness and ignoring a potential strength.
A counter-argument might be that Pellegrini is a positive factor in a bad structure. But imo it is the duty of an influential leader to question this structure, not to double-down into it. My guess is it suited him massively to exploit it. My read is that Pellegrini wanted to gamble with our budget, gamble with an attacking style, with mercurial attacking players, as a calculated risk to maybe climb back up the career ladder. Had it worked, he’d be back in the mix for a top job. It might still do - we’ll see.
I just don’t think it’s the best thing for West Ham. I don’t think it’s the worst either. I think this period might well be a useful stepping stone for us towards a ball-playing style that can be built on by the next coach. Look forward to seeing that.
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