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Let’s Talk About Writing!

Before we begin, I wanna make this very clear that I am not an expert at writing. I just like it, I'm just driven to write, but still, I can't pretend like I am the expert at it and I think you don't need to be an expert in something to preach it. One point that a lot of people miss is that a student explains can explain better to a student than a teacher may, which is kinda weird to say because it makes the student, a teacher but anyway, teachers should be student too. There should be a balance between studenting, and teaching, no matter who you are. My point is that someone who is already a student will appreciate that beginner sort of a stage of the other student more than the teacher would. Getting it?

One of my favorite humans on this planet is Dr. Jordan B Peterson. I absolutely love him! He has always been emphasizing on this idea that how just writing can make you a lot more thoughtful person in general. Three things that he talks about is, thinking, writing and speaking. According to him, if you can do these three things, you're that deadliest mother in the room. So many people think that thinking is the first thing, you have to do think first and then you may be able to write something but it does not work like that. There have countless times where I have felt like my brain is absolutely empty, I am not getting any idea, what the hell am I supposed to write, what am I gonna do if someone reads my crap. I have felt like that several time. Relatable? I know. Now, the catch is if you just start writing without thinking of whether you feel like writing or not, it is all gonna fall into place! For just one single day, try it out. Start writing without thinking of anything else. I know because mind is a pretty fucking stolon, it is hard to block your thoughts but you don't have to write. Start writing about what is in front of you, whether it is your mundane clock, your monitor, your kitchen, your toiler flush valvle. Whatever, just start writing! That's the point, you have to do it. Don't learn how to write and then start, but start at first and then learn more about it in the journey. I made these terrible mistake, I used to read about how to become a better writer, watch documentaries about it and all of that crazy shit. I am not saying that it does not help to consume stuff about it, what I am saying is that you have to suffer, you'll have to overcome that resistance to get up from your couch. I am not perfect either. I am still not the writer I would like to read myself and I accept this phase, I acknowledge my amateur phase and you need to do it too.

First, you need a problem. A problem that grips you so that you feel a desire to investigate. The next thing you need to do is have something to say about the issue. Reading is brilliant for that. You should read as much as you can about that which addresses the problem. You now have new information at your disposal, and it’s your job to elegantly formulate that - while being precise in your word choice. You then organize your sentences correctly. And your paragraphs. Hopefully, now the whole thing is coherent enough to make sense. While this is happening, you are sharpening your tools and integrating your personality at the highest and most abstract level of organization. You’re learning to think. You gain the ability to think by first learning to write. Pick some severe problems and learn to write very, very carefully. If you are a competent writer, speaker - communicator - you have all of the authority and competence that there is.

To those who are willing to fix their shit up, I say greatness is coming. Peace.

P.S-If you wanna get in touch, hit me up anytime and the coffee is on on me:D

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My Take On The "No Shame Period" Campaign

It’s my absolute dream that a woman should be able to go to a regular restaurant and ask for the menu with a heavy flow pad, as you might say. 

Hey kings! Hey queens! If you’re new here, I’m Paarth. Now, this thing has always bothered me that how the hell can I, as a sophomore, contribute to abolish this senseless absurd taboo. So what exactly is the point of me writing this? The thing is, even if I could impact just one person to give up on this silence, it’d all be worth it. So yeah, here you go. This article is distributed into 4 parts, a. Menstrual education should not be restricted to only women, b. Should menstrual products be made free? c. Encouraging eco-friendly alternatives to regular sanitary pads and finally d. The takeaway. Let’s get into it.

An incredible number of girls and women in our societies, especially those from not so affluent backgrounds with crisis settings who are impoverished and extremely vulnerable experience period related pain. Period shame is even more dangerous than the pain itself, because it makes barriers for them to access the basic menstrual health information and supplies. 

 It’s high time to start normalising the process because it is totally natural, and essential, part of the reproductive cycle; about half of the human population has or will experience it at some point of their life. It’s absolutely unbelievable that this process is shroud in mystery, leading to so much of unnoticed and systematic exclusion, and ruthless discrimination.

Menstrual education should not be restricted to only women. 

The first thing we need to do is to normalise this so-called stima of menstrual education and to demystify the ordinary human biological process and finally start promoting it as a human right and not only as a women’s issue.

“My aunty told me I should stay away from boys,” a 16-year-old girl in Zambia told UNFPA. 

“I want to study but the boys started bothering me,” a 13-year-old in Madagascar said.

The question is how to end this shame? Silence plays a significant role in perpetuating these beliefs, but things need to change. The upfront conclusion is to finally educate all the people of the globe, irrespective of their sex, genders, country, race etcetera and to encourage the issue as a human right issue. Education is the ultimate key to end the ongoing taboo. People need to know that menstrual blood is not impure, just like any other blood from a part of body, this blood too starts decomposing and thus emanates an odour.

Should Menstrual Products Be Made Free?

India eliminated its 12% tax on feminine hygiene products in 2018. This was after a year of lobbying by advocacy groups and even celebrities. ... In 2004, Kenya was the first country to abolish sales tax for menstrual products.

Every month, an uncountable number of girls and women face the cycle of pain, discomfort, shame, anxiety, and isolation. Yes, the periods, the menstrual periods. In so many countries like India, we have so many low income and even middle income families, where the access to sanitary cups, sanitary pads, tampons is very limited. As a result, women often rely upon these proxy materials like mud, leaves and even animal skin, in some part of the country. Hygienic and safe toilers are rarely available. One in ten girls aged between 14-21 years, even in developing countries like the UK can’t regularly afford menstrual products, forced to stay home.

The change has already started taking place, efforts have been made worldwide to empower and educate adolescent girls as well as guys about menstruation, and to highlight the right of women and girls to hygienically manage their periods. We applaud all of these efforts made by strong men and women leaders across the globe! 

But, at the end of the day, the needs of 300 million women and adolescents remain buried on a large scale. The reason is simple, because they are often embarrassed for casual and candid discussions about menstruation. It is time to finally give up on this senseless, pointless, absurd silence and start normalising the free menstrual girls. My dream is that  a woman should be able to go to a regular restaurant and ask for the menu with the heavy flow of sanitary pads. How can it be possible? By simply talking about it, just like we talk about our usual social and human issues. I believe that only words can change the world. Menstruation, a sign of a good health, must be normalised and in fact celebrated. 

Encouraging Eco-Friendly Alternatives To Sanitary Pads

Out of less than 20 % of the women who use some sort of sanitary products in India, the majority of them are only aware of regular sanitary pads. The problem with them is that sanitary napkins are 90 percent of plastic, even the upper layer commonly referred to as the fabric layer is a plastic woven sheet.  

A regular sanitary pad could take about 500-800 years to decompose because it’s made out of plastic that is totally non biodegradable and stays in the environment for absolutely ages.

Some cool  alternatives of the regular sanitary pads could be:

Menstrual Cup-  It is like a small, flexible, funner shaped cup kind of a thing which is made of silicone and rudder. It is inserted directly into vagina and provides absolutely leak fee experience for about 12 hours and is totally reusable. For the record, it can be used for more than 10 years, making it both environmentally friendly and economical.

Cloth pads- These come with the same mechanism of that of the disposable ones, the difference is that it is made of cotton layers encased in a waterproof fabric that can be washed or rescued.

Period panties- These are the undergarments with built in period protection that can be worn as normal knickers that we wear in general. This is the most comfortable, user friendly alternative of the regular sanitary pads which makes it the best option with heavy flow? They are reusable, washable, and absolutely long lasting. Can anything be better than that?

Outro- The Final Takeaway 

Menstruation is a normal and regular event in every healthy adolescent girl’s life. They need the support of their governments, families, and all the people around to them to have the access to at least basic sanitary products and gender equity to manage their periods We can take inspiration from many other countries like Kenya, which now provides absolutely free sanitary pads to girls in education, and Ethiopia, which now has established menstrual hygiene. Our strong community leaders, both men and women, the social media influencers are perfectly positioned to abolish this unwholesome stigma. The parents, especially in rural India, need to be educated about what are the things that are wrong, which is most likely to cause unintentional harm to our youth. For the purpose of establishing a social change, education is the key. The people from all the genders must be educated about menstruation and basic reproductive health to empower them to discuss comfortably about their periods and menstrual health. Not to mention, we should finally stop calling this process as ‘impure’ or ‘dirty’ because it is the cause of our very creation of life, the creation of human beings, our very own existence. How can anyone even to dare to call this process as ‘impure’, it is no different than calling our very creation as impure. 

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