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this is so cute 🥹

#🥲

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Harlan Coben, Just One Look

#fuck #grief #words

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this is good

#the withdrawal bit #rest in pieces #why couldn’t i be normal #besides that. good post imo

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quotidian | haley tippmann

#love these #illustration

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“My cat decided to arrive at precisely the right moment during story time with my daughter.”

(Source)

#aw ☺️ #cats

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It's actually only recently that I discovered what "the exception that proves the rule" actually means, and the more I think about it, the weirder it is that for so long, I just accepted the way most people (incorrectly) (including me before now) use that phrase.

People tend to use it to basically mean, "I have a freebie to reject one (1) example that would otherwise weaken my point, and act like it actually strengthens my point." If I say, "X is always Y," and someone gives an example of a case where X is not Y, I can just nod sagely and say, "Ah, but that's the exception that proves the rule," and everyone just accepts that that's A Thing.

That... makes no sense! Being proven wrong about something being universal doesn't somehow make you more right.

And the REASON it doesn't make sense is: *That's not what 'exception that proves the rule' means.*

"The exception that proves the rule" means that if someone has gone out of their way to make an official exception to a rule, it indicates that the rule exists in the first place, even if we don't have direct evidence of the rule. This can be particularly useful in, for example, the study of history. If you unearth some ancient tablets that say, "Let it be here decreed that on festival days, men shall be permitted to approach the Temple of the Goddess without covering their heads," that's evidence that a man going to that particular temple without covering his head wouldn't normally be allowed. Maybe we haven't found the tablet yet that says that. Maybe this civilisation never even bothered to write down that you can't go to the Temple of the Goddess bare-headed, because it was so obvious to them. But the fact that the exception exists means the rule must have existed.

#OH

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#🌊🤍 #photography

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normalize the concept of asking whether someone likes you enough. everyone makes the mistake of perceiving attraction either through “they like me” or “they don’t like me,” but it’s so much more complicated than that. if a person’s like “i do like you” chances are they do, but not to where they’d actually give you the time or attention you deserve

#alright

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#fucking hell

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thank you to every single fucking person on this god forsaken site that has ever posted your own art or writing. You really put a vulnerable, important part of yourself out in the open on the hellscape that is the internet and if that isnt an act of bravery and a labor of love I dont know what one is

#y e s #it takes guts #👏🏻

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Sloth playing with water

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#😭 #animals

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A Pastry    -   Adolfo Bigioni , 2011. 

Italian , b. 1974  -  

Oil on canvas,  40 x 40 cm.  

#how is this not a photo #art

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Villa No. 12 in Iporanga, São Paulo

#aah #nice #int.

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#so wholesome #stop

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Edward Gordon (American b.1940), Empty Rooms, Oil on canvas

#depth #art

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Random pieces of advice

The world is less scary and chaotic if you lie down on the floor

Noticing different kinds of light (stars, candles, sunshine or city lights) can bring back the feeling of wonder and hope

If you can’t shower, washing your hands and face will help you feel better and cleaner

If you can’t clean anything else, changing and/or washing your bedsheets can do wonders

Fresh air and being outside in general can help with depersonalisation

Spending time around animals can help you recognise what’s important and calm anxious thought cycles

Techniques for emotional regulation in children can really help adults too

Putting random asortment of food on a plate without creating an actual dish still counts as a meal

Drink something warm

Delete that app

Treat yourself as if you were a kid. Buy yourself a toy, play around, learn about cool new things

Fast paced life isn’t morally better and it’s not good for everyone

There is no good reason to keep yourself hungry

Singing to your full lung capacity can be a great way to let out built up emotion

Tension in the face can cause headaches. Try to massage your face regularly

Nothing is as important as your health

You are a whole person on your own, you don’t need someone else to be there to deserve love and attention. Your life can be full as long as you are present

You should cry things out whenever you feel like it

Slow walks are still movement and they do count

It’s never as bad as you imagine it

Try changing your toothpaste flavor if you hate brushing your teeth

Anything can be a stim toy - one of my favourites is a heavy dragon necklace that has a complicated surfice. It’s fun to touch and hold and it’s not even “actual” stim toy

Procrastinating and feeling bad about it is true waste of time. Learn to truly rest. It takes the same amount of time but it is useful

Sometimes you have to force yourself to do the things that make you feel better

Don’t trust the thoughts you have after not sleeping for a while

Friendships don’t have to be forever to mean something

#all these very good and sound #☝🏻 #ref.

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i want to build the home i never had. i want to fill it with plants and books and cozy blankets. i want to make tea in the morning for myself and my loved ones and go for walks in the evening. i want stability and comfort and soft light filtering through the blinds while i read on the couch. i may not be wealthy but we'll all have each other and i'll be full and i'll be loved. i deserve this, and i can have this.

#<3 #words