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thirteenemeraldcats · 3 months

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in one of your tags you mentioned-

'one of the things that gets chatted about A LOT in teaching is meeting students at their point of need- which ted does NOT do with jamie'

I would love to hear more of your thoughts on this! Both in terms of what that concept entails, and also what you think Jamie's point of need was at the time versus what Ted saw the situation needing

(You have excellent tags btw, don't know if anyone's mentioned that)

I HAVE MANY THOUGHTS ON THIS THAT I LOVE THAT YOU'D LOVE TO HEAR!

(I have more thoughts than I anticipated, this got errr, long. Whoops)

(potentially necessary/relevant background here is I am a high school teacher 👋)

Okie dokie, so, one of the principles of best practice in teaching is the idea I tag-rambled above; meet both the individual students and collective class at their point of need. Essentially this means practising differentiation in teaching and adjusting how content/ideas are communicated to students based on who they are as learners and people. Particularly if a student is performing outside the 'average' (either exceeding or still developing), this means adjusting to their needs by (among other things) curating differentiated resources and adapting delivery style. Differentiation is especially important in an all-abilities classroom, unfortunately public education is perpetually underfunded and overcrowded so everyone's just out here doing their best (the decent people of the world at least). BUT! WHILE I'M ON IT! SPEAKING OF THE THINGS I'VE TAG RAMBLED, the education system's (global) inability to adequately differentiate for students of different-abilities, particularly students with ADHD, ASD and Dyslexia, is perhaps the greatest failing of the whole dang thing and if anyone who ever stumbles across this is neuro-divergent and feels like they were a bad student or couldn't 'keep up' in mainstream education- THAT WAS NOT YOUR FAULT. You don't have to break yourself to 'fit', school is MEANT to bend for you. (Particularly when you're young, ESPECIALLY WHEN YOU'RE YOUNG)

ANYWAY, the fictional football of it all!

We don't see a lot of Ted actually coaching in this show (stick with me). The scenes in which he 'coaches' are typically him and various other coaching staff standing on the sidelines while the team skirmishes or occasionally runs drills, so me saying Ted doesn't differentiate is more based around his patented Ted-talks. NOW, Ted PROBABLY knows the team fairly well as individuals, particularly in season 2 and 3, purely by having spent quite a lot of time with them, despite this the only times we really see him 'adjust' his style with the team are ironically season 1 (examples include conferencing Jamie and Roy in 1x04 For The Children, and allowing/facilitating Nate's speech in 1x07 Make Rebecca Great Again). The moment that always sticks out to me as most significant is when he goes and seeks out Keeley's advice on how to get through to Jamie in 1x02 Biscuits.

Side note: I will be forever obsessed with Keeley jumping straight from 'blowjobs' to one of the four operant conditioning techniques (positive reinforcement) when asked about this. That woman is a very fascinating puzzle of a person.

Ted recognises that his typical perpetual-optimism-style isn't cracking the Jamie-Tartt-nut and seeks out a different opinion. This kind of collaboration and whole-system approach is key in teaching too, either by tapping the knowledge-well of a student's broader school context or the difficult-to-crack student's parents.

SO, having gotten the Jamie-Tartt-cheat-code from Keeley he DOES meet Jamie at his point of need, speaks clearly to him and communicates what he needs from him. AND IT WORKS! Temporarily! During the conversation between the two in Ted's office we see Jamie engage, he even practises self-reflection! Granted it's about his left foot cross, but still! The nut is cracked.

Jamie even maintains the perspective Ted has taught him for about two seconds while talking to Trent, until Jamie's other (definitely not positively-reinforced) behaviours rear up and he reverts to what James others have taught him.

On the other hand.

Multiple times throughout the show we see Jamie be visibly or verbally confused by Ted's communication style. Ted often talks in meandering metaphors that Jamie doesn't seem to be able to follow. We verbally hear him state 'Why doesn't he just say that then, do you know what I mean?' in 2x07 Headspace after Beard has to translate Ted's 'peas and carrots/beefchunks' analogy to 'starters and reserves'. Then there's the infamous 'What the fuck are Denver Broncos?' from 3x09 La Locker Room Aux Folles. The only notable time we really see Jamie 'get' one of these metaphors is the sewer-system-tunnels from 3x01 Smells Like Mean Spirit.

(His understanding of that specific metaphor, along with his use of the magnets to demonstrate total football in 3x07 The Strings That Bind, and a Watsonian-perspective of his near perfect mimicry of movements he saw two years ago when executing the decoy play in 3x12 So Long, Farewell, are actually all examples I use to head-canon Jamie as a primarily visual/physical based learner. For whatever that's worth!)

NOW! Ted's willingness to seek and apply alternate techniques in season 1 when he should know the team as both individuals and a collective the least, coupled with his inability or unwillingness to practise differentiation in later seasons when he DOES KNOW THEM is why I don't think Ted is meeting the team, specifically Jamie at their/his point of need. Any person's ability to differentiate behaviour to meet the needs/requirements/comforts of the individual or group they're talking to is increased the more they know them. (We all do this in life, consciously or subconsciously we typically try and 'match the vibe' of whoever we're communicating with [doubly so for people who're engaging in masking.])

Ted should and does learn more about Jamie as a person and his background as the show progresses. He listens to Jamie vocalise both his internal justifications for his actions and his reflections of those justifications/actions in 1x06 Two Aces, he sees him being explicitly physically abused in 1x10 The Hope That Kills You, he listens to him describe a spiralling mindset in 2x02 Lavender, he sees him being explicitly verbally abused in 2x08 Man City.

Of course, one of the fascinating things about Jamie is how much he learns and grows over the course of the show, and there are instances in which I don't think Ted is recognising that (primarily his dismissal of Jamie in 3x03 4-5-1 and not utilising Jamie's knowledge of total football as a resource from the beginning in 3x07 The Strings That Bind).

Ted understands and has previously applied Jamie responding well to positive reinforcement, yet at multiple times in the series doesn't respond in a way that reflects his perspective being informed by that knowledge. Essentially not practising the appropriate level of care/caution when interacting with/around Jamie.

There's not intervening on Jamie's behalf in 2x03 Do the Right-est Thing or 2x06 The Signal when the team and Roy are targeting or ignoring him respectively. The assumed absence of any follow up to the events of 2x08 Man City, the Zava of it all in season 3, and of course the eternal 'forgiveness' kicker from 3x11 Mom City.

POINT BEING. And to actually answer your inquiry lol, I think Jamie is someone who needs clear communication, ideally bracketed in positive reinforcement based operant conditioning as a learning technique (reward behaviour you want reinforced by offering something desirable [praise in Jamie's case]) and visual/physical aid/references for concepts; as a LEARNER.

AS A PERSON, there's more. Ted can readily infer from all he's heard and seen that Jamie's a victim of child abuse. The long term damage to the adult psyche that abuse during formative years has is astronomical, it literally changes the foundational structures of a person's brain. And yet, again, we never see Ted even acknowledge this. Jamie in 3x11 Mom City, incidentally compares his father to Freddy Krueger, Ted elaborates on the comparison, then Jamie reiterates that Freddy Krueger's 'fucking terrifying'. Ted doesn't reassure Jamie (the requirement of his point of need), he gives him a Ted-talk (and in doing so doesn't differentiate his perspective/communication technique).

As far as what Ted thought the situation needed... search me I've got no idea. I do think Ted projects onto Jamie a hell of a lot. That he gets Jamie's personhood and life experiences all tangled up in the emotions he has about his father's death and his consequent perceived abandonment, his insecurities about his own ability to parent Henry and even in his own inability to clearly communicate with his mother. I do think Ted relies on his own forced optimism to 'get by'. Like how a great white shark dies if it stops swimming, if Ted stops being 'Ted', if he stops swimming, his past and his fears and his feelings will catch up to him and swallow him whole. (For what it's worth, I do think Ted is more unwell than even the show explicitly tells us, much like Jamie experiencing ongoing trauma due to childhood abuse, the effects both short-term and long-term as well as potential causalities of having a parent die by suicide are... grim.)

(Essentially the entire fandom has talked about basically all of this at one point or another, I'm just using slightly different language.)

NOW! These characters are fictional (obviously) and I am judging them based on real-people conventions and the best-principles of my own profession, as well as my background in theoretical psychology (which I think I forgot to mention and is also probably [??] relevant). My Doylist-perspective of Ted and his coaching/communication style is ...kinder, but if I get too sucked into the narrative it results in either brief tag-rambles or... whatever this thing I've just typed is. I think it's been too long since I've written academically, my thoughts have gone circular 🫠

ANYWAY! I hope this made something-approaching sense! Thank you again for asking to hear my thoughts! Always happy to word vomit!

ALSO, thank you for saying my tags are excellent (you are the first and currently only to say so!) - The tags are where I send my thoughts to die (in a 'I must banish them to move on' kind of way rather than a 'I'm strangling them' kind of way) so you saying they're excellent is even MORE flattering than you realise! Makes my brain want to purr 💚🤣

#what do i even begin to tag this slab of text as YEESH #ted lasso #jamie tartt #theodore lasso #ask box is always open #come hit me up for teaching rambles or psych rambles or fandom rambles or general rambles ANYTIME #readwing #jamiesfootball #oh shit trigger warnings #suicide #child abuse #if this indeed makes no sense i would like to blame it on the fact i've written it while drinking wine through a straw #(it's my friday night okay)#i'll post this in the morning when i've had the chance to read it while NOT drinking wine through a straw #hola- it is now morning and i'm only slightly hungover! win!

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vivitalks · 3 months

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Six ways Nico says "I love you" to Jason.

this is me cheating legally on @jasico-challenges bingo by using up seven bingo prompts for this six-chapter 5+1 fic: one for each chapter and one for the work as a whole. however i am posting the whole fic together because i think it makes the most sense, and also, i want to.

#jasicobingochallenge2024 #fanfiction #tw anxiety attacks and unhealthy coping mechanisms and lots of trauma and guilt complexes and brain problems abound!#jason grace #nico di angelo #jasico #jasico fic #pjo #pjo fic #fic #my fic #if you want more trigger warnings they're in the specific chapter notes #or you can ask lol #stuff #ill probably make a moodboard for this fic at some point and make a new fic post with a moodboard and make it pretty #but icba rn #it's 5pm i have done literally nothing of value today #also oh shit i think i was supposed to do something for work that i didnt do #seriously what is this 'wfh' nonsense. it's a snow dayyyyy #anyway i should get dressed bc im going to a thing in an hour #and i should eat something lest i fuckin starve lol #i have turkey bacon but i dont think i can be bothered to make it #so i will probably have for dinner what i had for lunch: leftover box mac and cheese babey

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dootznbootz · 3 days

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https://www.tumblr.com/qualitydonutnightmare/748852794223706112/alright-im-gonna-share-my-epic-theory-now-anyone?source=share

everytime i see a "odyssey canon odysseus was unfaithful" i want to scream, blocking liberally ofc but sometimes one or two slip past and it starts all over again

Yeah, :'D I sadly usually just check on the Odysseus tag as...most people in there are FANS of him lol. And ofc I block liberally for my own health. :'D I don't even care to go in the Epic Tag sometimes because I'm so fucking tired of stupid people. (could be misinformed, yes. but honestly at a certain point...shut up. This is not Hamilton in which he willingly had an affair only to get blackmailed later. It was ALWAYS blackmail. It was Always Coercion.)

I think it comes from a lot of ignorance on how SA actually...goes down or happens?? Like people will blankly look over those parts of the Odyssey and not realize the distress there because idk, they've never gone through it, or are just so "This cannot happen to men." that it doesn't even register. As it is SO goddamn clear to me.

I said it before, I'll say it again. You can simp for Circe and Calypso without making fun of their victim, aka Odysseus.

#It's wild to me that people have been like “you're disrespecting actual survivors by saying he is one!” and I just ignore it. but I often #want to be like “I am one. I see it more disrespectful that you DON'T see him as one.” Everybody wants to hear “our stories”#until we actually say our feelings in a way. It's frustrating.#I usually try to get “warnings” whenever I read/watch/listen to things as you know. triggering. and so when I got warnings of #“Oh yeah. he's just a manwhore but nothing too graphic” only have incredibly graphic distress? graphic discomfort?#I just started crying and found the same passages in different translations to see if it's REALLY the same throughout. And it IS.#In every one (though some downplay it *coughs* WILSON *coughs*) he's upset. He's scared. he's FORCED. and it's so upsetting #seeing people call him names and shit. He's a piece of shit yes. but he's a victim and a survivor.#ask #anon #Mad rambles #shot by odysseus #tw sa mention

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ssreeder · 2 months

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I started reading this like 4 days ago, time has blurred together. I have not slept over 5 and a half hours of sleep in that time, I had to get up at 6 for something and was going 'just one more chapter' several times until it was 2am. The only thing that I can think about is LIAB, I am quickly losing my sanity to Zukka and the prison camp. I came here for a fun time, a good time and the sheer amount of angst that I had heard this had. And, I was certainly not lied to.

I am the type of person to read hard core angst. Impaling, torture , doesn't even phase me anymore (bit concerning but ignore that), I have taken to the blank word document to get that sinking, queasy feeling when the angst gets really hard core. First few chapters of this had me captivated and then Zuko came into it, *Chefs kiss*

I can't read long fics because I don't have the attention span, but for this I make an exception, also if you read it all in like 4 days the attention span doesn't have time to run out! I am on the 3 part, chapter 2 and I actively plan to binge read it tonight. Do I have school in the morning? Yes. Am I still going to stay up until 1 in the morning reading this and make up for my lack of sleep with caffeine? Also yes.

I really hope that Jet dies in this, I hope that he has a really anti-climatic death as well, like he falls off a slightly too high ledge. NO ONE and I mean NO ONE gets to separate MY GAYS LIKE THAT BECAUSE HE JUST HAD TO TELL FONG THAT ZUKO WAS AT THE BLOODY CAMP!

and the Forest Lesbians, may they live forever in the local folk lore about two witches that lived the forest and used the power of being gay to cure people.

thank you for writing this, it has really made me happy reading this even though my favourite gays are getting traumatised (more traumatised than usual for Zuko). I have only been reading this, my friends are concerned about me since I don't think I have willingly left the house in... *looks down at fingers, realises I don't have enough fingers to count this* umm... too long!

*holds your hands* how are you doing friend??

your ask had me both nervous and excited haha & the greatest thing about responding to this a few days late is that you’ve probably finished it by now haha. I feel sorry for your sleep schedule but I also don’t feel bad haha <3

I’m glad LIAB met your expectations in the angst, it’s probably one of the more angsty/ darker zukka fics & it’s probably going to get worse lol. (Not for zukka specifically, everyone gets to join this time) But you’ll see… if I can hold your attention until the end haha.

as for your Jet thoughts I’m sure you found out what happened to him by now ;) <3

thanks for this amazing ask seriously you’re great & you deserve to get yourself a treat for taking the time to send me this haha YOURE AWESOMEEEEEE

#I always get nervous when I get long asks #I think I have negative comment PTSD or something haha #I’ll get an ao3 comment or tumblr ask and I get all nervous like OH NO THEYRE GOING TO CRITICIZE MEEEEEEEE #& then it’s really nice and I feel SILLY #anyway yeahhhh I’m sure LIAB is one of the more darker zukka fics lol #I say that casually but also warn the shit out of people in the tags #I don’t want anyone to ever get triggered #Because I do think people sometimes don’t take tags seriously #But I’m glad you liked it so much you got all the way to the third book #You’re seriously amazing for reading all thay #I wrote all of it and I don’t even wanna read it all haha #I had to go searching for something the other day and I had to like suit up to dive into all that and find my fact #I’m very serious about connecting facts haha #I may have foreshadowed something in chapter 2 book 1 that I’m holding onto for chapter 20 book 3 haha #I’m crazy sorry haha #Anywayyyy I’m curious if you did catch up #I’ve got another 20k chapter almost done lol #Well anyway THANKS FOR THE ASKKKK #LIAB #RIA #ITF #ask

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nympippi · 4 months

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Laying in bed and then all of a sudden my nose starts bleeding, I looked like horror movie ghost or something. It was awesome I should’ve gotten a picture (´༎ຶོρ༎ຶོ`)

An artist rendition of what my bathroom mirror saw at 11:20 at night. Trigger warming blood btw!

#pippi speaks #pippi art #this shit is so ass btw but I’m tired and I wanted to draw my bloody nose experience #but like the minute I felt something was wrong I jumped out of bed and skedaddled out of there #how the hell do I tag a trigger warning???#tw blood #tw nosebleed #I had to wash out my mouth to get the blood out of my mouth is was nasty oh my god #please god don’t let anyone see this #btw do y’all wanna see my jjk oc 0.o #I’m checking to see who’s reading these. who’s reading my tag journal hmmm #my ocs name is periwin btw…I need new hobbies.#this is technically not a sona but me the nym. the pipster. the pippi if you will.

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the-smallest-gremlin · 11 months

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food gives me so much anxiety. it’s not just about the calories tho. it’s…

“is it going to be too hot or too cold?”

“is it going to be spicy or not taste good?”

“is there gonna be a hard/chewy part in it that i’ll hate?”

“is the textures going to be off somehow?”

“will i like it enough to eat it?”

plus, the anxiety about eating certain foods in front of people is getting worse…

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zerosugarcookie · 23 days

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mmmm should I read killing stalking AGAIN or...

#eating disoder trigger warning #ed moots #girlblogging #ed tmblr #sh vent #tw vent #depressing shit #disordered eating cw #ed tings #tw 3d vent #coquette #anime and manga #manga #manwha #killing stalking #oh sangwoo #yoon bum #south korea

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talentforlying · 8 months

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took me a while and now i desperately need sleep, but the condensed timeline of major events in constantine's life is up and attached to the about page! please mind the trigger warnings if you dive in.

#( ooc. ) OUT OF CIGS.#oh LORD mind the trigger warnings #'condensed' like i tried but that man had year after year of nonstop trauma for a minute there #my next project is to take that list of absurd shit he's done and get it all in order #bc i am damn well gonna have a comedy timeline to match the mess that is his normal one #like yeah the horrors but how many characters can you say have beat the shit out of satan AND kissed king arthur. come on. that's hilarious #don't even get me Started on the two-headed seal baby #nyway i will continue with memes and replies later! gnight

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wh1temonst3rsuprem3cy · 26 days

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I'm getting a new scale next week! 😭

It's a special one that tells you not only how much you weigh, but also a bmi calculator, a recommended calorie intake for that day, body fat percentage calculator, muscle mass calculator, body hydration calculator, and bone mass calculator????

How? I have no idea. But it's $25, and has everything I need. Next pay day, I'm buying a scale and the lowest calorie food and drink I've ever seen in my life. I'm gonna be tiny thanks to this mf 🥺

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shadowthian · 2 months

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in stars and time has me going absolutely fucking insane. i mean this with the utmost love and pure joy in my heart possible i have been STARVING for good time loop game and i HAVE IIIIT I HAVE IT I HAVE IT LETS FUCKING GOOOOOO

#literally fucking begging people to play in stars and time #absolutely heed the trigger warnings for it bc it gets INTENSE but holy shit oh my god oh my fucking god this GAME.

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rawliverandcigarettes · 3 months

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wow the end of teop is an actual nightmare. I had forgotten that, this being a much more upbeat story with fun scheming and plotting and conspiracies and the likes implies than when the curtain drops, it feels pretty much like being punched in the lungs at full speed.

#halfway home #the empire of preys #halfway home is like a droning of constant misery (which is partially a direct result from what happens at the end of teop)#but teop's emotional variation means that the range of emotions is much wider and. it kind of constrasts stuff even more.#so. not to uh. spoil anything but. there's a Certain Chapter.#that kind of change the status quo *significantly* and it's. not that fun.#(it's technically not a spoiler what happens is already revealed in hh)#(it's more the mechanics and reasons of why we got to that point and whose fault is it and how to feel about it --the answer is very bad)#(but in halfway home it's kind of a factoid that pushes the plot forward)#(when you get to live it through. it's. yeah. it's another story entirely.)#(also wild thing is it's technically a *very common* kind of occurence in the mass effect universe)#(shit like this happens all of the time it's half of what frames most sidequests --especially in mass effect 1 and 2)#(but BOY oh boy will there be a need to take the gun violence/terrorism trigger warning seriously for this one)

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halfd3af · 7 months

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I did the most grad student thing possible today and cried in a professor’s office

#his lecture tonight included a section about existential therapy in the style of Yalom and it triggered some recent trauma of mine #to the point that I teared up in class (no one noticed) and afterward I was like ‘oh I gotta ask him to content warn for stuff from now on’#so in his office as I was about to like… tell him… I started choking up-style crying which I NEVER DO #like ‘I can barely get words out of my mouth’ type of intensity #he’s very kind though so I felt comfortable doing that but holy shit I barely know him and there I was about to break down in his office #for merely trying to say ‘hey I had <trauma> happen to me this summer so could you content warn for that stuff in the future’#halfd3afbrainvomit

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tahtahfornow · 1 year

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wip game

ahhh tysm @pancakehouse for the tag !! mwah xx <3<3 imma copy yr abbreviated version & just post a snippet bc 1) lets be real i have like THREE wip docs total and i have written so little lately/already whorishly posted so much content from them i cant even remember what's new to anyone at this point ??? and 2) lazy :)

so yea here's something i'm pretty sure will be new to most everyone from the weird darkish snape-pov wolfstar prankfic that is like. just this side of crack & v low priority like honestly i cannot promise it will ever see the light of ao3 so !! at least we can air some juicy paragraphs here lol

“I want,” said Black, low and into his ear, hot breath hitting Severus’s cheek, “to tell you something. Because I don’t trust Dumbledore to have properly gagged you, the old man’s too bloody nice by half. I want to warn you that if you tell a soul—if you so much as breathe a word about Remus’s condition, if you even think it too loudly—I will kill you. Do you understand? I will kill you, and I will not need anyone else’s help. You ruin his life and I will ruin yours, I will have nothing to lose and I will stop at nothing until I have destroyed you.”

Severus forced out a laugh. “You’re all bluster and bravado, Black. You couldn’t kill me the first time, even with your pet wolf, and I dare you to try again.”

A slow, strange smile crept over Black’s face. “I thought you might say something like that,” he murmured. And then, without warning—Black kissed him.

Black was a sloppy, rough sort of kisser; he mashed their lips together wetly and shoved his tongue into Severus’s mouth, lapping it around indiscriminately and conferring what felt like actual spoonfuls of saliva. Severus tried to duck and pull away but Black grabbed him by the face with both hands, held firm. When it was finally over, his lips felt swollen, slick. Severus wiped his mouth on the back of his hand, grimaced and swallowed. He felt slightly dazed and shook his head as if to clear it.

“What’s your name,” said Black.

“Severus Snape.” But he hadn’t meant to reply so quickly, he hadn’t meant—

“Was that your first kiss?” he asked with a wicked little smirk.

“Yes.”

umm tagging @shipsnsails @heart-axe @pomegranate-pill @broomsticks @squidgilator @billsfangearring (cause i know you are a full fledged fic writer now okurr !!) would love to see wip snippets :) :) umm i feel like half of yall have already been tagged maybe so feel free to ignore but the pressure of tagging has made me suddenly forget the existence of like ... everyone ... my apologies <3<3<3

#tag games #wolfstar #fic #the prank #i dont freaking know whats going on here ok #wip #oh shit uh trigger warning !!!#nonconsensual kiss #nothing too graphic or violent but #still !!!!

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