#Only a spoonful

[lukakustriker]

#Meme #Spoon #Comically large spoon #Only a spoonful #Soyjak #Soyjaks #Wojak #Uranium #uranium 235

[bad-draw]

part 14

#kids next door #parody #pokemon #hex maniac #meme #hatsune miku #monster girl #oc #giantess #only a spoonful #spiral knights #gaogaigar

[mannofscience]

i condone the rat tail

#half life #barney calhoun #gordon freeman #gordon's genius way of drawing full body barney #freehoun #only a spoonful #doodle

[heirs-furry-art-blog]

happy birthday @dragonsbanelegacy have this mess

#my art #digital art #dnd art #dnd #dnd character #art #only a spoonful #dnd gnoll

[rabiesram]

You wouldnt believe what the fuck i just found

#only a spoonful #ignore the fact my arms are covered in fucking Fur

[pichibruh]

WHY IS THERE SO MUCH VANILLA EXTRACT POSTING

#vannila extract #help #eating a burger with no honey mustard #only a spoonful #king bach #epic vines #idk what else to put in the tags

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[gizmocreates]

god (the Dairy Queen staff) gives his finest soldiers (me) his toughest battles (most pathetic misty freeze known to man)

#gizmochats #random thoughts #no but seriously they gave my mom an actually decent slush-to-ice-cream ratio and then for me it was like #only a spoonful #then my mom tasted it #and she says “boy im glad i didnt get this flavor” #LIKE I HADNT GOTTEN TO TRY IT YET #DONT RUIN IT FOR ME ALREADY

[wikiingblog]

Spoonful of Sugar – Welcome to a sweet exploration of the surprising benefits of a spoonful of sugar! While sugar often gets a bad rap for its role in causing health issues, there are hidden secrets that make it more than just a guilty pleasure. In this eye-opening journey, we’ll delve into the lesser-known advantages …

#spoonful of sugar #only a spoonful

[beforeminutes]

#bright colors #eyestrain #only a spoonful

[spines-tvo]

Okay... DnD campaign, where at the end, you come across a wandering wizard who promises to grant you infinite power in exchange for a spoonful of blood.

#sure you can have some #only a spoonful #*pulls out comedically large spoon.*

[neilpissyrega]

my most sincere reaction after my esteemed chum displaying for mine eyes only his exquisite, yet comical in terms of size, steel spoon after humbly asking of me for but a spoonful of my sugary delicacy dubbed “ice cream” for him to consume

#hey dawg can i get some ice cream #only a spoonful #comically large spoon

[heritageposts]

During the recent “March for Israel” in Washington, DC, Al Jazeera interviewed a confident young man from Connecticut about the war in Gaza. Draped in an Israeli flag, Charlie appeared ready to answer any question. He made it clear from the outset that the ongoing war is not “Hamas vs Israel”, but “Hamas vs the whole world”. He said he regrets children’s deaths and prays for innocent lives lost. But he had no doubt about who is responsible for the death of civilians in Gaza. While Israel does everything to avoid civilian casualties, he said, Iran-backed Palestinian terrorists bomb their own hospitals, use civilians as human shields, and even place kids next to rocket launchers. Iran and its proxies are the source of all evil in Palestine and the region, he added. Charlie has clearly done his homework. He has studied the Israel Project’s “Global Language Dictionary [PDF]”, memorised its lines, and repeated them verbatim, not missing a beat. The playbook was created in 2009 after Israel’s first war on the besieged Gaza Strip, to guide Israel’s supporters on how best to speak to the media about the conflict. Inspired by Israel’s leading spin doctors, such as Shimon Peres and Benjamin Netanyahu, it is directed at young activists, as well as politicians, pundits, journalists and more. It tells its readers what to say, and what not to say, alerting them to words that should be used and others that mustn’t. One of my favourite tidbits in the playbook, as I wrote back in 2014, goes like this: “Avoid talking about borders in terms of pre- or post-1967, because it only serves to remind Americans of Israel’s military history. Particularly on the left, this does you harm.” And when civilian casualties mount during wartime in Gaza, the playbook recommends talking empathetically along these lines of “All human life is precious”, but emphasising that “it is a tragedy that Iran-backed Hamas shoots rockets at our civilians while hiding in their own” and that this “causes tragic deaths on both sides”. Sounds familiar?

. . . continues on Al Jazeera (20 Nov 2023)

PDF of the Israel Project’s "Global Language Dictionary"

#palestine #israel #gaza #i've been skimming through the global language dictionary and it's very eye opening #it's the same taking point you see repeated by zionists everywhere #of course only a handful of them will have read the actual dictionary but they've had these arguments spoon-fed to them by politicians #media personalities etc.

[spoonmoment119]

happy trans visibility day to my favorite trans eggs 🏳️‍⚧️🥚

#also happy easter #<- also egg 🥚 #spoon doodles #qsmp #qsmp juanaflippa #juanaflippa #qsmp tilin #? are there more trans qsmp eggs? idk i only watch slime #JUANAFLIPPA YOURE MY EGG AND I WANT YOU BACK SO BAD I BEG

[tethered-heartstrings]

If Will dies first, it is obvious Hannibal would cannibalize Will’s flesh. Hannibal mourned Mischa by eating her, and he would do the same for Will; to consume and eat and incorporate is part of grieving. But what would Hannibal do with Will’s bones? He’d eat the marrow, maybe make soup from them, but what of the calcified parts that remain, the parts that can’t be eaten?

I don’t really see him just keeping them around or displaying them, something stagnant and to be ogled. Burying them in the family plot in Lithuania makes sense because Will is family, but it also requires Hannibal to go back to a place he can’t go. Hannibal could cremate the bones, but then what? Spreading the ashes doesn’t seem like something he would do; he can’t know what happens to them. Keeping Will in an urn on his desk or a shelf also feels out of character, a memory collecting dust.

What if Hannibal had Will’s ashes pressed into pencil lead? There are ways to compress ashes into something that could be written with or drawn. What if Hannibal draws Will with his own ashes, commemorating him in a completed cycle. Sketching the man with his own remains. Remembering Will as he saw him, recreating moments they shared from Hannibal’s mind palace. Having Will live forever in depictions of himself. Hannibal would never be truly left behind. And Hannibal would sharpen the pencils as he always had; he isn’t unfamiliar with taking a blade to Will. Shaving off a layer but keeping him sharp.

Displaying and keeping art made from Will’s ashes would mean so much more than a reconstructed skeleton or an urn on a shelf or a plot that would become overgrown with weeds. He could draw Will in motion, alive, as he wished to remember him, and create moments and memories they didn’t get to experience together.

#yes ik bones are only like 15% carbon but let's live in the camp word that ignores logistics for 2 seconds #will graham #hannibal lecter #hannibal #hannibal nbc #nbc hannibal #hannibal meta #i guess? #hannigram #the speaking clown #maybe he pulls a dolarhyde and eats the drawings jk. unless? #also ty but fuck you spoon for this <3333 you are genius

[the-jennnster]

Something about the way bibliopunk/punk academia is treated on here Bugs Me and I think it can be best summed up as this:

You can't just throw the "punk" descriptor onto whatever you like and call it an aesthetic

Punk is not an aesthetic

Punk is a mindset, it's a philosophy-- it's a rebellion against societal systems

When I say bibliopunk, I don't mean sweater vests and old library photos and quotes from classics.

Bibliopunk, to me, a punk librarian, is about freedom of information. It's about making sure everyone and anyone can have the resources they need to learn, whatever that means for them. It's no late fees and fighting against censorship. It's defunding the police and funding community resource centers that specialize in making sure there's a place where people can go to ask for help, to read books on any subject they can think of, to connect with events and organizations that exist to help THEM. It's about making zines and learning how to bookbind, because fuck the idea that traditional publishing and Amazon are the only people that can make something a book.

Punk academia, which is used colloquially here, is related to this-- it's saying fuck the academic systems that keep out the poor, the people of color, and the disabled. Fuck your Ivy Leagues, education is whatever the hell you make it. College should be free, classes should be accessible WITHOUT being forced to give up all of your personal financial and health information, curriculums need to include as many varying perspectives as they can because fuck the idea that a cishet abled white man is the authority on any given topic.

Bibliopunk, punk academia, and any other Tumblr "aesthetic" with the punk descriptor is not just a moodboard of photos you stole from Pinterest.

Because what's more punk than a public library?

#punk #dark academia #punk academia #bibliopunk #punk aesthetic #this has bugged me for a while #as someone who really cares about things like literature and writing #but is also very fucking angry at the systems that make them inaccessible to others #the only shit you find on bibliopunk is aesthetic posts #and nothing about actual values #ive thought about writing up like #a bibliopunk manifesto? zine? thing #but thats a lot of spoons #and i am but a small cripple