#Queer stuff

[queerism1969]

#sex is not gender #gender #sex not gender #gender critical #queer #lgbtq #lgbt pride #lesbian #lgbtqia #lgbtq community #sapphic #nonbinary #nonbinary lesbian #gay girls #gender abolition #queerness #gender stuff #genderfluid #trans stuff #gender ideology #queer stuff #intersex #terfblr #terfism #radical feminism #radblr #terfenadine #radical feminists do interact #terfsafe #transgender

[timeladix]

Y'all wanna know what's so fucking cool about figuring out you're aroace?

It's that, after, when like the adrenaline is over and it all *clicks* you finally FINALLY breathe. Nothing's changed, you're the same person as before, you just keep on living like you've always done and just continue being you.

So what actually changed? The expectations you put on yourself, the "i gotta try and learn how to behave like a person that could potentially feel those types of attractions and try to relate to people that do" when you don't and you can't. Yk how fucking exhausting it is, not only masking to fit in with the neurotypicals, but also masking to fit in with the allo people??

I👏Need👏A👏Fucking👏Break👏

And knowing i'm aroace kinda (even tho it shouldn't be a requirement) gives me permission to just be. Like NO MORE FUCKING EXPECTATIONS, I'M DONE PRETENDING AND ANALISING THE SHIT OUT OF EVERY INTERACTION I HAVE. Please i just want to liveeeeee

Ughhh

Yeah

Thanks for listening to this aroace autistic's ted talk.

#aroace #aromantic #asexual #asexuality #aromantism #autistic #actually autistic #aroace autistic #aroace stuff #queer stuff #personal stuff #autism stuff #mine #i'm not even gonna get into the enby stuff and how tiring it is to just let people misgender you on a daily basis cuz you gotta keep #yourself safe

[absaart]

Me, seeing a beautiful gay photo, "Oh I'll make a quick study/wriolette !" hm, maybe not so quick 👀

#neuvillette #genshinimpact #wriothesley #fontaine #wriolette #genshin fanart #genshin #genshin impact #fanart #queer stuff #genshin wriothesley #genshin neuvillette #kiss the neck of the otter

[infiniteorangethethird]

sure "romantic" isn't the only type of love but also "love" isn't the only type of positive feeling. So maybe stop insisting everyone needs love to be happy and accept that loveless ppl exist? Pretty please?

#man february arrived and im on a roll with these posts #thought to myself 'tumblr could use more loveless-posting' #decided if no one's gonna do it im just gonna do it myself #also this isn't directed at anyone specific im just being salty at random #loveless #loveless aromantic #loveless aro #aromantic #aro #arospec #loveless apl #loveless aplatonic #aplatonic #aplspec #lgbtq #queer stuff

[transonlyspace]

"queer identities are getting too complex" good. be complex. confuse cis people. confuse straight people. aim to be what cishets call cringe. be incomprehensible. be unfathomable.

#transgender #trans pride #transisbeautiful #transmasc #trans rights #gender identity #nonbinary #transfem #gender stuff #queerness #queer stuff #queer rights #queer community #queer #lgbtq #lgbtqia #be here #be queer #be queer do crime #be complex #fuck exclusionists

[hamletthedane]

cw transphobia

obviously this is an extremely bizarre tweet that got ratioed to hell and back, but it’s also hilarious that of all the authors in the entire English literary canon, she somehow landed on Shakespeare as the epitome of cisnormative writing.

like ma’am shakespeare’s characters go on stage and announce their gender to the audience within the first few lines in nearly every play. Including…you know….the very play you reference???

#ah yes…the famously strictly cisnormative writer shakespeare #cw transphobia #cw homophobia #shakespeare #willy shakes #queer stuff

[pademelonluck]

Reblog to give a transphobe indigestion.

*gurlegurgle*

#we all punch transphobes #transgender #trans joy #trans pride #let's not forget nonbinary! #nonbinary #genderqueer #genderfluid #gender stuff #queerness #queer stuff #gender things #I can already hear the gurgling! 😈

[phoenixyfriend]

DISCLAIMER: I am not trans myself*, but I've been wondering what the spread of phrasing is. I consulted with a trans friend for options. These are ALL things I've seen or heard people say, including "back when I was a man" from a trans woman. This isn't about what you think people SHOULD say, just what you personally use.

Please stay polite about how people use language to describe their own experiences.

Cis people PLEASE do not vote, I want to see the actual spread of results, and too many "other" or "this is how I WOULD if I were trans" votes will skew the results. You'll get to see the answers in a week.

Finally, I recognize that some of these can describe different points in the same transition (e.g. "before I figured out" and "before I transitioned" can be used by the same person to describe experiences at two different moments), but just go with what feels best.

* I have a weird relationship with gender that's mostly cis but not quite, and not different enough for me to feel like Trans applies. I originally had a different, more joke-y phrasing there, but was told I might get flack for it since most people do not live in my brain.

#queer stuff #trans stuff #polls #Phoenix polls

[identitty-dickruption]

yeah? well have you tried being a dyke about it?

#sorry I don’t even know what this means #it just came to me in a vision #queer #queer stuff

[queerism1969]

#lgbtqia #lgbt pride #lesbian #nonbinary #lgbtq community #queer #lgbtq #sapphic #nonbinary lesbian #gay girls #gender #gender ideology #gender critical #gender abolition #sex not gender #gender stuff #queer stuff #queerness #genderfluid #trans stuff #intersex #trans sports #trans woman #trans women are beautiful #trans women are valid #trans women are amazing #trans women positivity #trans joy #trans people #transblr

[timeladix]

The straight and closed off from meaningful human interaction to "am i bi?" to gets one good friend they can open themselves to for the first time in A WHILE "is this what falling in love feels like?" to gets other friends and realises it's been all platonic to AROACE AND IN LOVE WITH THE WORLD pipeline

#aroace #aromantic #asexual #aromantism #asexuality #aro #ace #queer #not fandom #queer stuff #mine

[nothing-an-iratze-cant-fix]

I’m curious - people always seem surprised that multiple siblings are queer, as if it’s amazing the gay lightning struck twice so close together.

But human variation is down to our genes and external factors. Siblings are logically more likely to both/all be queer than not.

So a wee poll if you don’t mind!

Anyone can take part, there should be an option for anyone but please let me know in notes if I missed anyone.

For reference: queer is anyone who wouldn’t describe themselves as heterosexual or cis-gendered or allo-sexual. Anyone we would include in the queer group. And if you’re not including people by their own identification, we can have words after…

Notes:

If you only have one sibling use the relevant all option.

If you have an issue with the word queer I truly don’t want to hear about it - that’s your choice, this is mine.

Reblog if you fancy! If you don’t then no worries, but if you can it would be nice to get a lot of replies!

And hey everyone, happy Pride!

#queer stuff #lgbtq+ #queer #polls #asexual #and #aromantic #people - I want to hear from you too! You are valid and queer if you id as queer #if you don’t know about your identity or you don’t know about your siblings identity - first off; sending you love. #second; if you want to take part just put what you think is most likely or your most comfortable putting #❤️🧡💛💚💙💜

[smoov-criminal]

did you know that if you use neopronouns, it/its, and/or nounself pronouns you're one of the coolest people on the planet

#mj.txt #queer stuff #neopronouns #it/its #nounself pronouns #love us/yall

[my-castles-crumbling]

Your identity is not a burden.

Your pronouns are not a bother.

Your sexuality is not "weird" or "inappropriate."

Your gender is not an annoyance.

Your relationship is not offensive.

And reminding someone of any of this is not being confrontational. It's being yourself.

Reblog to remind someone.

#queer stuff #queer community #lgbtqia #lgbtq #queer pride #lgbtq community #queer #lgbt #lgbt pride #lgbtqplus #gay rights #gay #gay pride #gay couple #lesbian #bisexual #transgender #transisbeautiful #non binary #transmasc #enby #trans rights #pronouns #gender fluid #gender #gender stuff #trans stuff #gender identity

[sharkfinsoap]

On balding.

#my art #trans #ftm #transmasc #transman #queer stuff #lgbt #transgender #hrt

[ltleflrt]

Figuring out I'm on the ace spectrum was so difficult because I have always been a horny bitch. I knew what sex was at a fairly young age, because I'd asked my mom and she's one of those good parents who'll answer questions like those, and as I grew older and would ask more complex questions, her answers would evolve along with my curiosity and understanding of the world. And I remember having fantasies as young as 9 or 10 years old, even if they were hella vague and nothing close to what sex actually is lol

So as I became a teenager, and all my friends' focus turned from playing with dolls to flirting with boys, I automatically thought I was attracted to boys. And I paid more attention to Cute Boys than I did to Cute Girls, because girls were just nice to look at while boys were People To Have Crushes On. Because of heteronormativity. Looking back on it now, I know there were girls I liked to stare at just as intently as boys, although less often because I wasn't trying to pay attention. And I certainly didn't fantasize about girls because I started reading romance novels in 5th grade, so I was fantasizing about male romantic partners because that was the fiction I was consuming. I didn't even realize fantasizing about girls was possible until I was 17, and I had a few "am I a lesbian" internal crises for years because of it.

So when I did start having sex, I had A LOT OF IT with SO MANY different guys, and eventually a couple of women once I started accepting that bisexuality was real. But it was never really fulfilling. Not like my fantasies were. Not like my books were. I was slutty because sex was fun, I was horny, there were plenty of options so I kept searching for that satisfaction I was craving.

Getting married was a relief (even though it turns out I'm aro-spec too lol) because I was tired of hunting, and even if sex with my husband was meh, at least I had someone around to scratch that itch if I had it, and he didn't mind if I occasionally took care of things on my own because I'd read an especially hot scene in a romance.

I learned about asexuality in my early 20s, but I brushed it off. Couldn't be me, I'm far too horny for that. But I think that comes from the fact that everything you hear about Aces is attached to sex-repulsion or sex-indifference. I wasn't either of those things. I was horny all the dang time. I was fantasizing about sex all the dang time. I figured actual sex was meh because my imagination was so vivid that real life could never match up. Which could be true to an extent, but I think not as much as popular opinion would have us believe. If fantasy was really that much better for everyone, then I think we'd have less incels and unplanned pregnancies than we do.

In my 30s I finally saw people talking about The Spectrum, and I started examining my past, and I figured out I wasn't really attracted to anyone I had sex with. I do occasionally find someone attractive; there are men and women and enbies who make my skin feel tight and give me a little wave of lightheadedness lol... but it's always always the fantasy that gets me really going. If given the opportunity I wouldn't have sex with any of those people. Thank you, but no thank you, I'd rather just imagine it than physically participate in the act with them.

(Ok I might go down on them, but that's less about wanting sex, and more about being able to add them to my Tally. Hell yeah I want to brag about making *insert hot person* have an orgasm. There's PRIDE in that kind of accomplishment lol)

I have a lot of respect for aces that are not horny. I understand it even if I don't share the sentiment. And I feel like most of them understand me even if they don't share the sentiment. There's a solidarity between us.

Until I go into a fandom tag for a character that the aces have glommed onto because they're canonically ace or headcanoned as ace. Good lord, the non-horny aces can turn into downright vicious bastards if a horny ace sexualizes their blorbo.

This post is for them.

Horny aces exist. Please look up "autochorissexual, lithosexual, and aegosexual."

Refer to those definitions in regards to romantic attraction as well as sexual attraction.

Some aces may not fall into one of those definitions, because asexuality is a spectrum, but they may still be horny.

Horny aces are not disrespecting you by enjoying being horny on main. We promise we'll wash the stickiness off our hands before we hold your hands in queer solidarity.

And most importantly: Your blorbo is fictional and does not need to be defended from icky sexuality. They exist in an infinite multiverse, so your blorbo and my blorbo are not the same, even if they appear to be on the surface.

AND:

This post is also for the people who are confused about themselves because they're horny but don't actually feel attraction. You're not crazy, you're not wishy washy, you're not "waiting for the right person to come along" (unless you are, in which case I hope you find them). You're just a thin strip of color on a massive rainbow that holds more unique shades than anyone can perceive at a glance.

You're valid. You're one of us too.

And don't be mean to the non-horny aces. Tag your smut so they can avoid it. (But actually so I can find it lol)

#ltleramblings #queer stuff #seriously the fandom fights are so exhausting #thank goodness for the block button #asexuality