#bad feminist

[thejakeformerlyknownasprince]

Actually, your answer makes a lot of sense, and has given me a new perspective on the issue of the #Problematic. Due to personal trauma, I've always been very wary of those who enjoy certain problematic media, because I assume that means they support it, which is clearly an assumption that I need to work on. Hadn't considered that I enjoy problematic stuff myself, and criticize it. Being aware of the problematic and not replicating that on Real Life is enough when dealing with fiction.

Anyway, thanks for a good dosis of self-awareness.

Yeah, it's a messy and complicated issue. Because I recognize that, for example, women who say "a guy who mentions on the first date that his favorite movies are Taxi Driver and American Psycho is sending up a red flag" are probably onto something. And I've had students tell me "the Joker from The Joker makes some really good points", and I've felt a prickling of discomfort at their words.

But. I love Fight Club. The movie is a darkly funny critique of the alienation of capitalist life. The book is a brilliant horror story, written by a gay man raised by a single mom who wanted to understand why "masculinity" is considered this fragile thing that must be defended with violence, as someone who was himself shut from qualifying for the precious "man card." I got hooked on horror from Fight Club, I've written imaginary-friend-as-boogeyman as a result of Fight Club, I cosplayed as Tyler Durden in high school, I drove an hour to see Chuck Palahniuk speak... and I'm only spending an entire paragraph defending my love for Fight Club because I know what it looks like and that fragile part of me is tempted even now to scream I'm not one of THOSE guys, I swear!

So, I think it's best to recognize that my opinions can make other people uncomfortable, and that other people aren't having opinions at me. Even the people who like James Bond or Gone with the Wind might do so out of ignorance, or willingness to forgive sexism because of good cinematography, and the best thing for it is just to disengage from the conversation and find other people to talk to.

Which is where the internet can be nice. I fully support blocking and muting people whose opinions make me uncomfortable. I support others blocking and muting me. In fact, my most-used reason for blocking someone is that I'm unsure whether or not I qualify for their DNI (do not interact) list. I can't tell if I'm a BNHA Apologist or not... guess I'd best not interact. I googled KL//Ance Shipper but nothing came up, and I might support KL and Ance's romance... guess I won't interact. So on. I never hear from them, they presumably never hear from me, and we're all so much happier than we would be if we got into a shouting match over Your Fave is Problematic.

#fandom #fandom etiquette #on loving problematic things #bad feminist #misogyny #fight club #your fave is problematic #internet etiquette #i've seen 3 episodes of bnha and it didn't hook me #feeling cute might apologize for it later #the night is still young

[iwishyouroses]

i still think about this a lot

#fleabag #hot priest #bad feminist #itll pass #fleabag quotes

[thing4olderladies]

I'm a bad feminist. I try to get my girlfriends to lean over for downblouse pics when we're out.

"Oops, a little too much cleavage!" I'll say and pretend to delete it and then take a more modest pic and send it.

I save the pic to my secret folder. Sometimes I'll show The Fella and pretend to get mad if I think he's aroused by it. "What, you want to fuck Marcy now?" I might ask and love how he backpedals saying "No." But if he'd said "Yes, I want to fuck her as she's eating out your pussy" I would fuck him right there..... and start thinking about how to get Marcy into a threeway.

OK, not really with the threeway and would be jealous if I thought The Fella was really into one of my friends. But gals can have a Spank Bank, too. "Flick Pics" maybe? I have so many downblouse and nip slip shots it's not funny. (No, I won't post.)

Pic isn't mine BTW

#bad feminist #bad feminisim #down top

[leer-reading-lire]

JOMP Book Photo Challenge

April 12: This is so important

(Confessions of a) Bad Feminist by Roxane Gay.

#jompbpc #book photo challenge #justonemorepage #roxane gay #feminism #feminist #bad feminist #booklr #books #leerreadinglire

[books-in-media]

Amber Heard, (Instagram, June 26, 2019)

—Bad Feminist, Roxane Gay (2014)

#amber heard #Bad Feminist #Roxane Gay #books #celebrities

[anthroxlove]

All too often, when we see injustices, both great and small, we think  'that's terrible', but we do nothing. We say nothing. We let other people fight their own battles. We remain silent because silence is easier. Qui tacet consentire videtur is Latin for 'Silence gives consent.' When we say nothing, when we do nothing, we are consenting to these trespasses against us.

Roxane Gay, Bad Feminist

#quote #roxane gay #bad feminist #consent #injustice #silence #amber heard #i stand with amber heard

[monicascot]

Prominent Feminist Meghan Murphy Fights Back Against The Takeover Of Women's Spaces | Woke Up

Meghan Murphy one of Canada's leading feminist writers and activists rejects todays modern feminist movement. Meghan has dedicated her life in helping marginalized women, however does not support the cultural changes in feminist circles. Murphy has suffered relentless attacks due to her stances on transgender issues and her critique of third-wave feminism

#woke up #when did the feminist movement start #first feminist movement #feminist art movement #feminist movements today #feminist movement start #feminist movement timeline #feminist movement history #bad feminist #feminist approach #famous feminist #feminist books #feminist criticism #feminist person #feminist movement #radical feminism #intersectional feminism #types of feminism #takeover of women's spaces #prominent feminist meghan murphy #meghan murphy fights

[tante-litfass]

Sie [Roxane Gay] fragt sich: Kann ich mich überhaupt als Feministin bezeichnen, wenn ich meine Ideale sogar bei so banalen Dingen wie Lieblingsliedern verrate? Und nach langem Überlegen meint sie: Ja, denn die Forderung, in jeder Lebenslage eine »perfekte Feministin« zu sein, sei vollkommen unrealistisch. Kein Mensch lebe ja immer nach seinen Idealen. Sie plädiert folglich für einen Feminismus, der von den Frauen nicht erwartet, humorlose, stets perfekt informierte, militante Gerechtigkeitskrieger*innen zu sein, sondern anerkennt, wie widersprüchlich das Leben ist.

— Nina Kunz über Roxane Gay: Bad Feminist in: Ich denk, ich denk zu viel (Kein &Aber 2021)

#Zitat #Nina Kunz #Roxane Gay #bad feminist #das wort zum sonntag #widersprüchlich #leben #feminismus #Lektüre

[veryslowreader]

Bad Feminist by Roxane Gay

She-Hulk: Attorney at Law: "Is This Not Real Magic?"

#bad feminist #roxane gay #she-hulk: attorney at law #michel curiel

[alien-i]

nothing triggers me more than spending time with my best friend. she is an absolute smoke show- a litteral 10. and she's fun and social. she's a magnet, gets sooooo much attention, showered in compliments by strangers 50x a day, yesterday i litterally stood next to her while some guy- a designer- came up to her and offered her a modeling job for his runway.

ok... so.. i'm not ugly, but i'm leaps and bounds away from her. i don't even know if i'm really envious because i HATE when guys lurk at me- gives me the ick- does it too when they do it to her, creeps me out, it feels so shallow and gross, like i can see on their faces exactly what they are thinking. but she seems to really love it, answering them, being really cool, thanking them and all that. good for her i guess, being the object of desire to so many. kinda jeallous also really not. i wish i was prettier- but in a world with none of those gross dudes. ugh. i feel like a bad friend for comparing myself to her and being somewhat envious. idk.

all i know is i just always feel really ugly and fat when i'm with her. great way to stay on track.

#tw ana relapse #i will reach my ugw #ed bullshit #th1n$po #ana trigger #bad feminist #bad friend #anatwt #tw ana diary #ed but not sheeran #notprojustusingthetags #i wish i was thinner #i wanna be perfect #i wish i was skinnier #i wish i was weightless #i will be thinner #i want to disappear #i am so shallow

[laestoica]

Ph: Fabrizia Milia

Me quedé sin experimentar una propuesta de matrimonio. Sé que es una cursilería, pero vamos, pensar que alguien quiere celebrar su unión contigo, que tiene fe en la posibilidad de compartir una vida juntxs... Debe ser bonito. Además me gusta la idea de una ceremonia para dar comienzo a un ciclo tan importante.

Eso nunca ocurrió, y hablo en pasado porque ya no es algo que desee. Pero me hubiera gustado. Prepararme para ese día, elegir el lugar, la hora, el atuendo, los invitados, la música... Algo muy sencillo, auténtico y especial. Sí, siempre lo imaginé. Quizás tenía un tablero en Pinterest con fotos de vestidos, ideas, checklists... Quizás en mi mente ya estaba montado el escenario.

Pero dicotomía del control. Para casarse se necesitan dos, y nunca alguien deseó vivir esa experiencia conmigo.

#wedding #bbt #photoart #woman #dress #white #beautiful #art #reflections #love #fabrizia milia #dicotomía del control #dreams #pinterest #bad feminist

[welcome-to-my-college-life]

I think fleabag was onto something when she said “I’m afraid that if I had bigger tits I wouldn’t be a good feminist” like she is so real for that. I am afraid that I’m not a good enough feminist because I have big tits

#fleabag #feminist #bad feminist

[shitiunderline]

We need to stop playing Privilege or Oppression Olympics because we’ll never get anywhere until we find more effective ways of talking through difference. We should be able to say, “This is my truth,” and have that truth stand without a hundred clamoring voices shouting, giving the impression that multiple truths cannot coexist.

Roxane Gay, Bad Feminist

#roxane gay #bad feminist

[iliketoread]

"Stories have always given me a place in which to lose myself. They have allowed me to remember. They have allowed me to forget. They have allowed me to imagine different endings and better possible worlds."

Roxane Gay, Bad Feminist

#roxane gay #bad feminist #books #reading #book quotes #stories

[shruusblog]

Easy to make friends but to carry on the same is difficult.

#roxane gay #bad feminist

[betsy-the-eclectic-reader]

No matter what issues I have with feminism, I am one. I cannot nor will not deny the importance and absolute necessity of feminism. Like most people, I’m full of contradictions, but I also don’t want to be treated like shit for being a woman. I am, therefore, a bad feminist. I would rather be a bad feminist than no feminist at all. 

–Roxane Gay, Bad Feminist

#roxane gay #literary quotes #bad feminist #quoteoftheday #poets on tumblr #women of tumblr #writers on tumblr #readers on tumblr #nonfiction #spilled truth #booklr #spilled quotes #quoteblr