#internet etiquette

[fixing-bad-posts]

just be polite

#fixingbadposts #fixing-bad-posts #erasure poetry #internet etiquette

[crazycatsiren]

Some of you kids are starting to get a bit too comfortable with plagiarism and it's quite frankly worrying me.

"But it's the internet!" It's still plagiarism.

"But it's a blog/social media post!" Taking something somebody who's not you wrote without credit is called plagiarism, sweetheart.

I'd hate to see the lot of y'all kicked out of college or fired from employment because you apparently think plagiarizing is no big deal, or believe that stealing other people's writing from anywhere wouldn't count as plagiarism.

Trust me, making a habit of this will one day come back and bite you hard in the rear, especially considering how much more easily accessible online information has become nowadays.

#mother witch ramblings #plagiarism #social media #internet etiquette #writeblr #kids these days

[gilbirda]

Another fandom PSA - Bookmarks

Hello everyone, I am back with yet another informative post, since I've observed some behavior that could get out of control real fast.

Again, the point is never about shaming those who have done this, but to inform and warn about how disheartening these things can be; and what can you do to avoid hurting anyone in the future.

Let's talk about bookmarks.

Looks easy enough to add a bookmark, just type some notes — maybe to remind future you what the fic was about, maybe some random thoughts of the fic, maybe the chapter where you left of — add some tags if you are that organized and slap the bookmark to a Collection if you have that.

But I want to bring attention to this little guy:

If you are going to leave a hurtful message, at least have the decency to not leave it where the author will see it.

Authors can and will see the bookmarks! I can only speak for myself but I do check the bookmarks because sometimes people get creative and have funny Notes, or their tags are hilarious.

But, sometimes, we wonder if y'all know authors can see the bookmarks, unless you set it as a Private Bookmark.

What do I mean with hurtful bookmarks? Well:

*gestures vaguely towards these*

Granted, not all are rancid takes, but some truly give weird vibes? As in, it feels like people doesn't know authors can see their Notes and bookmarks?

You can have an opinion about the story, that's completely valid, but the option of setting it to Private Bookmark is right there.

So, as a rule of thumb, if you wouldn't like someone telling your words to your face then have the courtesy of not doing the same for someone else.

Mark it as Private if you'd rather not let the author see your Notes.

For more information about Bookmarks, AO3 provides a FAQ page.

#ao3 etiquette #fandom etiquette #internet etiquette #ao3 bookmarks #fandom psa #im begging you the Private Bookmark box is RIGHT THERE #some bookmarks are very confusing but nice?? #awful bookmarks are not the norm but lets not make it the norm #thank you

[mind-over-madness]

PSA: FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, PLEASE TAG YOUR POSTS WITH THE REAL WORDS!!! PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE. Tagging something with variations on the words makes it impossible to filter out. As someone very carefully filtering tags that are very upsetting to me (namely, triggering trauma-response sensations and emotions), it SUCKS SO MUCH to have shit that is improperly tagged just appear on my dash. Please y’all.

Tag it “food” - NOT “f00d”

Tag it “kink” - NOT “k!nk”

Tag it “rape” - NOT “r@pe”

Tag it “suicide” - NOT “unaliving”

Etc etc etc… we can help each other out, y’all. Tag it right. Just do it. Please.

#tagging #internet etiquette #tumblr etiquette #trauma #ptsd #help each other #come on this is just not that hard #I’m looking at you TikTok people #tag it right

[chaotic-archaeologist]

got a question for ya regarding sex and online safety.

Background; I am an adulty adult. I have been able to and have voted in more than 3 elections. [I know you take interactions with minors seriously]. I am also ace and autistic. as a result I have never felt the urge to date and I normally don't mind having friends close by.

However, I also just moved for the 4th time since 2019 and would like to meet people.

So I downloaded Grindr. already got my first dickpic lol. I have also been chatting with a fellow who I like and would like to be friends with and I also wouldn't mind exploring my kinks with people... but I have never had to worry about safe online sexy stuff before so I don't know the basics beyond normal internet safety.

What do I do‽‽‽

Okay first, thanks for clarifying the adulty part. This is an awesome question, and here's the advice/steps that I personally follow for situations like this.

Have your first meeting in a public place. Go for coffee or ice cream or lunch or dinner or whatever. But don't meet them alone. This way, if you get uncomfortable with anything that's happening, they're much less likely to continue with that behavior after you attempt to extricate yourself.

Make sure there are no expectations. Plan not to have sex on the first date/meet up. Grindr often tends to ignore this rule since it's very hookup centric, but you're absolutely within your rights to insist on taking things as slowly as you want to.

Don't rely on the other person for transportation. If you choose to meet someone, get yourself there and plan to get yourself back. Walk, bike, drive, public transportation, unicycle, it's all good. But there's much less room for pressure if you're not depending on them for a ride home. This segues nicely into my next point:

Do not tell them where you live. At least, not right now. Plenty of people on Grindr are willing to "host" meaning you can come to their place. That's fine for them, but I err on the side of never giving anyone my address until I've had a thorough chance to assess their character and meet them a few times.

Tell someone where you will be. Let someone who cares about you know that you're going out, where you'll be, and what time you expect to return. Establish a time to check in when you're going home/if you choose to extend the meeting. There are also apps like Noonlight that can function similarly.

Be careful about what you consume. If you're going to enjoy and mind alternating substances, be very, very careful. This goes for anything from getting drinks at a bar to any and all of the recreational drugs on the market.

Be prepared for a little bit of awkwardness. Meeting someone in person is often very different than chatting online. If the conversation is awkward or halting, that's okay. Give it a little time (but also don't be afraid to trust your gut if it's telling you something is wrong).

Communicate clearly. If you have any needs—which can range from an allergy, not being able to stand for long periods of time, needing them to speak loudly so you can hear them, safety concerns—the best way to get those met is to be upfront. You don't need to disclose the reason why you need something if it makes you uncomfortable, just state what you need. People worth spending time with will respect that. The same thing goes for your wants.

Use protection. Maybe this isn't applicable for you specifically, but I think it belongs on this list. Condoms. Dental dams. Gloves. Someone on an app telling you they're negative for any number of things is not an actual guarantee they're not lying to you. Not wanting to use protection (not just for anal/vaginal intercourse, but for oral sex as well) is a huge red flag. Decide in advance what your boundaries are and stick to them.

If it sucks, hit da bricks. Fundamentally, you owe this person nothing. There is no consequence for saying "you know what, I'm not feeling this and I'm going to leave." Be as polite as you want to, but put yourself first.

At the end of the day, the only thing you have control over is you. How you react, where you meet this person, what you do—that's what you control. Hopefully any meet ups will be fun and relatively safe, but just in case, set yourself up for success by maintaining what control you can.

From one adult to another, these are all suggestions rather than rules. Many people on Grindr choose not to follow various ones, and that's fine. Take some time to think about what you're comfortable with and make your decisions accordingly.

Also, best practice for someone sending an unsolicited dick pic (if you don't want them) is just to block that person. But sending a return picture like this one is a hilarious option.

-Reid

#he speaks #sex advice #sex education #internet advice #life advice #grindr #internet etiquette #internet brother

[red-dead-sakharine]

Though I don't mind my gifs being shared - especially as reactions, or fic fluff, it's a bit iffy when entire tumblr gif sets are reuploaded on twitter without credit, and the reuploader just farms likes and retweets, while my own twitter gets ignored.

Feels bad man.

@cherriesandsulphur 's gifs suffer the same. Dunno how you see that, or if you're even aware.

Like, I'm really happy when people like my gifs so much, they use them for stuff and want to share them. But the repost as set on another platform as if they were made by the poster, with no link or credit back to me is kinda... meh.

Am I egotistical for feeling this way? AITA?

UPDATE: The person who prompted this topic with their re-uploads apologized and took the gifs down. I appreciate that. I'm glad us Raphael fans once again proved we're a good community 🤝

(ofc there might be more theft from other people out there. but at least one instance of it was done without ill intent and solved)

#bg3 raphael #gif #gif set #internet etiquette #am i the asshole #also applies to screenshot dumps #not just gif sets

[runawaydr3amerao3]

Poll: Drive-by Fic Recs

So I'm still pretty new on Tumblr and have a question. Since this site has an algorithm and shows you posts by strangers and friends of friends that you might never have interacted with, is it considered rude to leave a fic rec (by yourself or another author) on a stranger's post even if the subject is relevant? Obviously only if it's in the same fandom and pairing, although not if it's someone else's actual fic post. Like it's a meta discussion or a headcanon post or something.

I often come across posts where I think, "Ohh, I've read a fic just like that!" And I love giving and receiving recs, but I've been tending not to share because I'm not sure if it will be welcome. Especially if it's a self-rec.

Hence, poll.

All input welcome, and if you could reblog for a larger sample size, that would be super!

ETA: I'm definitely not talking about reccing fics on other fics' posts. I may be new but I'm not that new, don't worry. 😂 Fair point, though, for sure.

#polls #tumblr polls #fanfic #fanfiction #fic rec #supernatural #spn #archive of our own #supernatural fandom #supernatural fanfiction #spn polls #tumblr etiquette #internet etiquette #self rec

[astraltrickster]

Some reminders for whenever you're in a predominantly queer hobby space:

There is no universal queer experience that is not also a universal HUMAN experience. No, not even that one. Not that one either.

Being gay and homophobic isn't a jokey laughable meme because it's impossible; it's a jokey laughable meme because it's as tragic as it is assholey

Just because a stereotype is affirming to YOU doesn't mean you get to throw it at other people

Top and bottom are sexual preferences, not personality types, which ties to -

Reinventing and especially holding others to stereotypes from ancient Greece doesn't become the height of progress just because you turn it around and say "and that's okay and fun to be uwu"

The line between celebrating queer genderfuckery and doing those last 3 things is easier to miss than you think it is when you're crossing it

Either all words can be degendered or none of them can (and in practice it tends to be a quantum superposition such that they all can but also can't); don't try to use surface-level feminism to make it "okay" to misgender someone in one direction but not another, and DO respect people's boundaries about gendered terms, yes this means WITHOUT accusing people of sexism and toxic masculinity for being uncomfortable being called "princess"

People do not owe you any details about their queerness, they don't even owe you being out at all, and trying to pry because you feel entitled to a disprivilege checklist to contrast against your own is not only a dick move but also highly suspect

Bullying someone for being a flavor of queer that you can argue is theoretically more privileged than you is still bullying a marginalized person for the same reason they're marginalized from mainstream society and you're still an asshole

"Gatekeeping is bad 99% of the time" means the 1% exception is for assholes who enter a space actively showing disdain for the people already in it, refusing to learn the rules and culture, and demanding it be changed to their specifications, NOT "cringey" obscure identity groups, no not even if you can stereotype the whole group as said assholes

Someone talking about their own oppression experience and how it ties into the hobby space is not denying the existence of yours

If you publicly use queer terms as insults, even lightheartedly, you are indistinguishable from a garden-variety 4chan troll

If you use slurs as insults against other queer people, you are not "reclaiming" them

If you are in a predominantly queer space and you're convinced that you're just SURROUNDED by an unprecedented concentration of pedophiles and other sexual predators, congratulations, you've internalized some VIOLENT queerphobia, now go unpack that instead of making it everyone else's problem!

The "vibes" you're "picking up" are probably just old stereotypes you internalized, especially if you're new here

You cannot make sex-negativity queer-positive; most queer people fuck, many queer people have WEIRD sex sometimes, and sometimes in creative hobbies we will even express it THROUGH that hobby; you're free to be grossed out by any detail but other consenting adults' sex lives do not have to be appealing or even palatable to you, learn how to say YKINMKATO and filter shit instead of making it everyone else's problem

Finding you personally annoying is not inherently queerphobic

Not being down with the specific approach you take to queering the hobby is not inherently queerphobic

Liking the same thing does not make people inherently compatible as friends and being queer doesn't change that; the block button, on the other hand, will ALWAYS be your friend

Just because someone doesn't talk about queer issues outside of how they relate to the hobby space doesn't mean they're "faking," "playing the queer card", or reducing their own issues to petty hobby drama; it's far more likely that it means they're using the hobby space to get AWAY from that shit but unfortunately can't do so entirely because too many people forget a lot of shit on this list

#serious tag #internet etiquette

[tervaneula]

Hmmmm a little PSA of sorts, if you may.

To start, I'm always so happy when I hear that I've inspired someone to draw or write something! It humbles me, it's an incredible feeling and I love it more than I can put into words. Inspiration and creation are precious things.

However:

Please always be mindful of the OP's boundaries;

Please don't repost my art, or anyone else's for that matter, and instead just tag the OP and link straight to the original post;

Please ALWAYS use the appropriate relationship disclaimers/tags! For reference, platonic relationships are referred to with an & (et) – if it's a romance, the / (slash) is used instead. For example, Leo & Usagi would indicate a friendship, and Leo/Usagi is a romance. Never mix up these identifiers because it will result in upset. Also, if you need to use the old-timey list of disclaimers and your work is platonic, please opt for "relationship" instead of "pairing".

There are probably more points I could make but these are currently relevant – you guessed it, I'm making this post because of something that happened and I ended up hurting a person's feelings because I took their fic disclaimer at face value. For obvious reasons, I will speak out and absolutely won't read a fic with shipping tags just to check if those tags were correctly used, no matter how happy I was at first (reposting aside) that someone was inspired by an art piece I've made.

All of us are here just to have fun and using correct tags and disclaimers contribute to everyone's good time. It's 100% worth it to do your research before posting!

#fandom etiquette #internet etiquette #important #it's terv #rottmnt #rottmnt fanfiction

[fixing-bad-posts]

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Okay not to be that person but I'm getting really sick and tired of hearing/seeing people be mean, so stop.

And yes, labels can be fluid and contradict each other sometimes <3

Bi lesbian is a valid sexuality

No hate on my dash.

Edit: Adding on real quick, nb people can be lesbians If you identify as a lesbian.

#fixing-bad-posts #fixingbadposts #blackout poetry #internet etiquette #bi lesbians #bi lesbian positivity #bi lesbian #pro mspec #mspec lesbians #nonbinary lesbian #queer inclusivity #queer

[crazycatsiren]

Maybe sometimes, people just need to vent, in their little corners of the internet, to their online friends.

Maybe you're the one who ought to learn that not everything requires your input and that you're much better off minding your own business.

#mother witch ramblings #social media #tumblr bloggers #tumblr drama #internet etiquette

[mejcinta]

I mean, is it a crime to prefer one ship over another?

Wouldn't it be easier to maybe just leave people alone instead of hammering people with useless questions that you know the answer to? And attempting on several occasions to get me to love your preference??

I would really respect some of you more if you just stopped being pushy and harassing me and others I follow like @witheredoffherwitch using Asks like this. And if you're truly bothered by my disagreeing with you or me not responding to your questions like customer service, simply unfollow or block me. (Actually this individual is the first person I've blocked in my 6 years of being on Tumblr!)

This game is getting so, so tiring. Stop playing it and choose instead to find your happy place where you can enjoy your preferred content and ship without any resistance.

Stop playing victim over drama that you start by slithering in my Asks.

#fandom bs #internet etiquette #shippy discourse

[thejakeformerlyknownasprince]

Actually, your answer makes a lot of sense, and has given me a new perspective on the issue of the #Problematic. Due to personal trauma, I've always been very wary of those who enjoy certain problematic media, because I assume that means they support it, which is clearly an assumption that I need to work on. Hadn't considered that I enjoy problematic stuff myself, and criticize it. Being aware of the problematic and not replicating that on Real Life is enough when dealing with fiction.

Anyway, thanks for a good dosis of self-awareness.

Yeah, it's a messy and complicated issue. Because I recognize that, for example, women who say "a guy who mentions on the first date that his favorite movies are Taxi Driver and American Psycho is sending up a red flag" are probably onto something. And I've had students tell me "the Joker from The Joker makes some really good points", and I've felt a prickling of discomfort at their words.

But. I love Fight Club. The movie is a darkly funny critique of the alienation of capitalist life. The book is a brilliant horror story, written by a gay man raised by a single mom who wanted to understand why "masculinity" is considered this fragile thing that must be defended with violence, as someone who was himself shut from qualifying for the precious "man card." I got hooked on horror from Fight Club, I've written imaginary-friend-as-boogeyman as a result of Fight Club, I cosplayed as Tyler Durden in high school, I drove an hour to see Chuck Palahniuk speak... and I'm only spending an entire paragraph defending my love for Fight Club because I know what it looks like and that fragile part of me is tempted even now to scream I'm not one of THOSE guys, I swear!

So, I think it's best to recognize that my opinions can make other people uncomfortable, and that other people aren't having opinions at me. Even the people who like James Bond or Gone with the Wind might do so out of ignorance, or willingness to forgive sexism because of good cinematography, and the best thing for it is just to disengage from the conversation and find other people to talk to.

Which is where the internet can be nice. I fully support blocking and muting people whose opinions make me uncomfortable. I support others blocking and muting me. In fact, my most-used reason for blocking someone is that I'm unsure whether or not I qualify for their DNI (do not interact) list. I can't tell if I'm a BNHA Apologist or not... guess I'd best not interact. I googled KL//Ance Shipper but nothing came up, and I might support KL and Ance's romance... guess I won't interact. So on. I never hear from them, they presumably never hear from me, and we're all so much happier than we would be if we got into a shouting match over Your Fave is Problematic.

#fandom #fandom etiquette #on loving problematic things #bad feminist #misogyny #fight club #your fave is problematic #internet etiquette #i've seen 3 episodes of bnha and it didn't hook me #feeling cute might apologize for it later #the night is still young

[moondirti]

Some of these anons really do be submitting the most demanding stuff

I’m not upset, as I think it’s a thing that’s typical to any new (and let’s face it, even some long-running) fandom. People have all these ideas and not all of them know how to approach it themselves. The excitement might cause them to lose sight of how to phrase things in people’s inboxes, lol.

That being said, I just want to remind everyone of some basic request/internet etiquette, from someone who doesn’t take requests:

Don’t send multiple blogs the same request!

This is something I’ve noticed after receiving a Miguel O’Hara one that I had just seen someone else write a response to, and I really hope I don’t have to convince you why this is not only super risky, but just blatantly disrespectful. Writers are not your personal content machines. Some of us take requests because we hope that our readers love our writing enough to want to see it in multiple scenarios. Approaching multiple individuals with the same idea just screams that you don’t give a fuck about the personality we can bring to it, that you just want your plot written for free. And I’m speaking for myself here, I definitely don’t expect anyone to agree, but I hope y’all understand that there should be decorum and respect within fandom because at the end of the day, it is a community propelled by sheer love alone.

There’s also the additional fact that, by sending your request to multiple writers, the potential for originality claims and allegations to be thrown around skyrockets, which would cause so much unnecessary drama within the community. If you want to keep seeing writers - and, on a whole, creatives - produce the work that you love, then don’t create any reason for them to quit/be attacked.

Remember your manners!

Please, thank you, or even a simple compliment letting us know that you actually appreciate request-taker’s efforts make all the difference in the world. Again, writers are not your personal content machines. We have lives and jobs and work separate from this, and we choose to create only because it brings us joy. By being demanding and rude, you suck that joy right out.

#psa #internet etiquette #miguel o’hara #x reader #fanfiction #fanfic #fanfiction community #general #༄dee answers #༄dee rambles

[theboombutton]

I just got rate limited for posting comments on too many posts incorrectly tagged as #tmagp vague .

#tmagp vague is for hype that DOES NOT (significantly) SPOIL the episode it's about. If you put spoilers in the #vague tag you are ruining the vague experience for the people who want to use it!

Good vaguing for tmagp 8: The "Beyonce?!" meme

Hypes up future listeners

Ambiguous - is there a character who is actually like Beyonce in some way, or is this a metaphorical Beyonce in that it is a concept, object, or person that fans recognize and didn't expect to encounter?

Very minor spoiler. Readers know there is something that they will be excited to see, but not who/what it is or why they will be excited

Can be fully appreciated only after listening

Bad vaguing for tmagp 8: "OMG it's NAME and they're HAPPY!"

Spoils the surprise

Robs future listeners of the dawning realization

There's no mystery - they're just waiting for [name]

Listeners are likely to focus on waiting for [name] to the detriment of their enjoyment of the rest of the episode

Please, please, please stop posting major spoilers in #tmagp vague.

#tmagp vague #tmagp fandom #online etiquette #internet etiquette #tmagp 8 #tmagp 08 #tmagp s1e08

[mads-aka-mirror]

If you come across some accounts making stuff you find morally repugnant, the safest thing you can do is block them and move on.

If you engage with them at all, your social media algorithms are going to put more of it on your feed. If you respond to them, all you're doing is putting it on your friends' feeds as well. If you talk about how bad X, Y, Z, thing is in general, you're going to see more of it, because algorithms pick up on keywords.

If you make callout posts, all that's going to do is invite people to harass you in turn. And listing your traumas and DNIs on your profiles may as well be handing bad actors a list of ways to hurt you the most.

Literally, blocking and moving on is the safest and most effective way to curate your online experience. Yes, it requires a little bit of work on your part, but if you're not willing to be responsible about it, you shouldn't be using social media in the first place.

#internet safety #internet etiquette #internet culture #proship #i dunno what to tag this lol #btw this is strictly about people posting fictional content #please dont what-about me in circles about this