#be normal about ace people

[ohara-n-brown]

Some of y'all be like 'eat the rich' then turn around and be classist when you don't like someone.

Same way y'all hate bodyshaming and fatphobia until you personally need to insult someone.

Same way y'all hate ageism then running to someone's bio to check their age.

Same way y'all hate aphobia but uh-oh someone is a little bit irritating then they need to get laid. Suddenly being a sexless virgin is bad. They've got no bitches and that's bad.

Love to talk about the benefits and beauties of online communities and how important they are until someone annoys you then it's go touch grass

Love to talk about mental health until you got beef now they're a 'narcissist' and 'delusional' and they need to 'get help' and don't get me STARTED on how people love using the word bipolar

Cant believe in saying this but y'all need to learn how to insult people better

cause mfer WE CAN HEAR YOU. You're not serving what you think you're serving

Always want to talk about how someone 'probably looks like' or what they 'should be doing' or whether they're 'unstable' or not.

Quit being ridiculous. Quit being a hypocrite and calling it cunty. Knock it off!! Learn how to read someone correctly or go home!!!

#time for another abelism rant #i hate reading though beef and being like word word #then they start using insults that are kinda rude to a group of people #and I'm like oh wait hold the phone homie EW #Start insulting me and mines and we ain't even in this like huh 😭 #it's not just on here its EVERYWHERE #Someone makes you a little mad BOOM #they switch to AAVE (not black) and start bodyshaming #be normal about poor people #be normal about fat people #be normal about ace people #and cluster b people #be normal PLEAS #rant #classist #classism #aphobia #asexual #asexuality #bodyshaming #fatphobia #ageism #mental health #anti-'narcisstic abuse' #cluster b #BPD #bipolar #NPD #disability #actually disabled

[mrtequilasunset]

Listen man, you guys can't be like "you guys need to be normal about asexuality" and then turn around and get weirdly judgemental when you find out someone doesn't have sex by choice. Like that's weird that some of you do that.

#like I love sex im glad we're hyping it up #but also genuinely some of you have got to learn how to be normal around people who dont want to have sex #even if you're not talking about asexuality when you say stuff like that you're still being a weirdass #im not ace myself but i keep seeing posts that come across like they're taking it personally that other people don't want to have sex #it sounds like theyre trying to prove something to someone

[redysetdare]

I'm an "AroAce Stereotype" I'm Romance averse/Repulsed> I'm Sex repulsed I'm non-partnering I hate the idea of marriage in all forms I don't want a QPR at all I'm loveless I'm someone who gets uncomfortable at sexual talk and sex jokes I'm someone who often has innuendos or sexual concept fly over my head. I'm someone who can't tell when someone is flirting with me I'm someone who can't pick up on romantic or sexual tension I'm someone who finds "shipping" to be annoying I'm someone who says "They just seem like friends to me" I'm someone who believed that attraction could be turned on or off I'm someone who can't make sense of romance at all and cant figure out what makes it different from every other relationship. I'm someone who thinks romance is stupid and sex is gross and I don't understand the big deal everyone makes about it I'm someone who never was upset to find out I was AroAce but rather relieved as I have a genuine fear of being stuck in a romantic relationship that i do not want. In all cases I am not an AroAce who can be considered "normal" by the standards of allo society.

I'm not just a stereotype for you to shit on. I'm not the reason aphobes are aphobic I'm not a problem that you need to erase and refute to be accepted by allos. I'm not an experience that you and ignore as "not really how aspec people are" just because You are not part of it. Stop leaving us behind. Stop throwing us under the bus. We deserve support too. We deserve to not be demonized and shunned because we're an "stereotype". We are not the problem. We are not a problem to be fixed. start fighting aphobes on their logic instead of trying to make up for our existence.

#text #ace #aro #asexual #aromantic #aroace #arospec #acespec #aspec #mostly talking abt aroace experience because thats me #but this can go for other aspec identities too #aphobia #im just tired of other aspec people agreeing with the oppressors that certain experiences are wrong #and promising that THEY aren't like that THEY are normal and shouldn't be ridiculed #but never do anything to protect the rest of us from ridicule #because really they just want to protect their experience they dont care about the wider community #and it's frustrating #because we should all be supporting each other because thats how things get better #if we tell aphobes there are exceptions then suddenly all aspec people can become an exception #because they dont care about us being socially acceptable aspecs they care about us not being aspec period #they dont want us to exist because then they have to question their world view and that dont like doing that #so they'll play nice with the ones they can pretend are normal before they decide that you're not good enough either

[softandwigglybones]

This one is for all the aspecs who didn't feel like there's something wrong with them. To all those too oblivious or too indomitable to feel alienated. You're still awesome and you're still valid

#aspec #aro #ace #aromantic #asexual #aroace #i pretty much constantly only see posts that talk about the ascpe experience of feeling different and being distressed by it #and those people are valid #but this one is for all my peeps that were more like “oh this label fits” and went on about their life as normal #don't derail please #gelatinous post

[fcstellae]

how people treat franziska in aa2 is a litmus test for how u treat women in media i think bc yes shes irrational and shes angry and shes mean to phoenix. she thinks her brothers dead. she thinks phoenix is responsible for that. not only does she think her brother is dead her father is recently arrested and has been disgraced and her entire world is flipped upside down and shes in a foreign country and shes barely 18 and her brother is dead and her fathers in jail for murder and she's the only von karma left. of course her only thought is revenge on the person who's caused it all. how would you react in that situation?

((also imo people are way too serious about the whole whip thing. Ace Attorney is a game with slapstick violent humor. It's supposed to make you laugh. She's not abusing Phoenix, the source material is making a joke. What's important to note is that AA's writing is very sexist at times and of course it's not treating her or her feelings seriously. But no one takes issue when Godot throws very hot coffee in Phoenix's face, or when Pearl hits Phoenix so hard he passes out, because they know it's the games comedy. So what's the difference when Franziska does it?))

#tbh I dont even think franziska is irrational in AA2 she's pretty normal all things considered #if i were in that scenario and phoenix said the things he did i would have literally just killed him right there #i also think theres an opposite phenomenon where people try so hard to pretend to care about her they call her a girlboss and stuff #without actually trying to analyze her or feel for her at all #they dont give her the same benefit of the doubt edgeworth gets even though the things he does throughout the trilogy are undoubtedly worse #franziska von karma #ace attorney

[parksrway]

multiple times now I've seen people genuinely claim that the solution to aphobia is for asexual and aromantic people to stop talking about their asexuality and aromanticism. if you think like this you need to be put in a meat grinder like actually

#'yeah guys the solution to aphobia is for aces and aros to just shut up!!' what if i destroyed everything you loved actually #and i assume the solution to homophobia is for gay people to stop talking about their homosexuality right? #same thing with transphobia? #yeah guys the solution to your discrimination is to just stay in the closet!! thats totally a normal thing to suggest!! #oh no suddenly thats homophobic and transphobic to say #but its fine to say it about aces and aros bc everyone hates us i guess #aphobia #asexual #aromantic

[egophiliac]

before episode 34: Kekera is the only fan of this godforsaken show who has a remotely healthy relationship with media.

after episode 34: frogman what have you done

#art #kamen rider #geats #geats spoilers #kekera: (whispering to beroba) see it's called whump... #i mean between ziin who 100% gets into internet arguments about how ace could totally beat up super saiyan goku #and mr. whoops-i-keep-accidentally-negging-my-waifu kyuun #kekera is still kind of the normal one #i guess it is canon that they forgot to give future people any empathy #anyway rip ben and john. you were defeated immediately and offscreen and honestly that feels about right. #i'm waiting in vain for sae to come back. where is she.

[c-is-for-circinate]

Look, I love me a good platonic marriage/partnership story. You know I do.

But. My friends. My babes. My guys.

Two people being in a lifelong, literally or effectively married platonic partnership are not obligated to forever forgo sex and dating with all other partners until death amen. POLYAMORY EXISTS. It exists for a reason! You can be married to the 100% nonsexual love of your life and still want sex to be in your life, and it still can be! Without feeling gross or empty or like a traitor, even!

(and yeah, this also goes for marriages/partnerships that DO already involve sex, but y'all are not ready for THAT conversation.)

#look this isn't JUST about Steve and Robin #but yes okay it's also about Steve and Robin #I need to get back to writing that fic #also this is NOT about ace people OR about devaluing nonsexual relationships #if two spouses had a lot of sex it would be normal for one of them to have a rock-climbing friend! #this would not be a threat! just a consequence of your wife not liking rock climbing! #SOMETIMES EXTRAMARITAL SEX IS JUST ROCK CLIMBING!!!

[unexpectedbrickattack]

get normaled, idiot

#pizza tower #peppino #arts #mine #anyway.... #i cannot for the life of me get it right #i need a ref or something #i have like SUCH a clear image of what i want him to look like and trying to imitate it just makes him look uncanny #like he needs droopier eyes and bigger eyes #and ive seen people who look EXACTLY like the ref i would love to have #ah well #i did get his mouth pretty close to what i wanted :) #other things; he has like a SMALL amount of accessories like necklaces n stuff. i think he is very Particular about his appearance #the balding doesnt bother him AT ALL so its not messed w in anyway #the most hell do is brush it down so its not in the way #and hes got hats for if he simply does not want it to get unruly in the wind #i was stuck deciding between a Normal earring and a stud but i think stud looks a bit better heehee hes got quite a bit of piercings #but hes stopped using them YEARS ago. they havent closed up so like. theoretically he Could use them again. but hes fine w leaving them be #also he is like obv a mess when hes in the back working the oven n stoves so hes sweaty and kinda gross if hes been in there TOO LONG #(and he is SO conscious about this; he gets a better ac unit postgame when he gets more funds) #but otherwise if hes going out somewhere he has like spicy smellin colognes. like the shit that makes ur head hurt when u smell it sdfkjdfj #meanwhile gus does not give a flying fuck #hes got 14-in-1 body wash and a prayer #you get what u get #which is admirable tbh #i just think it is funny for him to be particular about this. gus we are best buds but you are not coming out w me looking like this. #or the noise smells AWFUL bc he is covered in grease and sweat from tinkerin in his room all day #and peppino looks SO upset hes like get AWAY from me u smell like ACTUAL garbage !!!!!!!!!!!!! go get CLEAN you fucking BEAST

[starry-teacup]

so Johnny has canonically committed every crime known to man except for the sexual ones, right? And I know that he always assumed it was just a thing carmilla had built into him. but I like to imagine that he's sex-repulsed ace. this fact has never crossed his mind ever

#he's not acephobic #he just hasn't really thought about it #and I mean #he's Johnny d'ville #there couldn't be a physical experience he dislikes or avoids #right? #wrong #anyways he finds out through the polycrew that he's only really into snuggles and hair braiding #but it you ask if he's ace he will shoot you #cuz Johnny d'ville ain't afraid of nothing #(so I take it back there is some internalized acephobia there) #(but only for himself) #(other people are valid in his eyes) #the mechanisms #johnny d'ville #Johnny d'ville headcanons #people I'm normal about #the mechs

[plaid-maniac]

Do you ever think about how there totally could have been an old classmate of Phoenix Wright and Miles Edgeworth in the audience during like turnabout sister or turnabout samurai. Do you think they would realize? Like “hey, were those the guys in my class in like fourth grade? I kinda remember them. Wonder if they remember each other. But it was so long ago, I doubt they would even care.” Meanwhile Edgeworth and Phoenix are undergoing the most insane mental battles where both of them are going “I recognize my best friend across the courtroom and I desperately want to be close with them again.” And “god he is so god damn annoying I wish he would die already.”

#ace attorney #miles edgeworth #Phoenix Wright #not specifically ship so I won’t tag it but kinda ship if you get it #the classmate usually sits in courtroom trials because they love the drama #and honestly they like miles Edgeworth’s cases cause ‘hey I know that guy’ #but of course they don’t like go up and talk to him cause they weren’t really that close and he left kinda abruptly #cause knowing someone for like a year in elementary school and then pestering them about why they left 15 years later is a weird thing to do #course Phoenix comes in and now the classmate now has to deal with the knowledge that the defense and prosecution used to always eat lunch #together and play superhero’s during recess with that really weird kid who was always up to no good #what if one day the classmate was like ‘maybe I should introduce them to each other again. sure that we would all get a laugh or two in and- #-that would be the end of it and they would continue with their lives as normal people. they certainly wouldn’t get super gay and awkward- #-about the whole thing and just be completely chill.’ #god what would happen and Edgeworth v state? #the classmate would probably leave the third day like ‘I am a changed person. I can never go back to not knowing so much about this person.’ #and like they wouldn’t be able to say or do anything cause like??? how do you even have that conversation??? #‘hey I know you don’t remember me but I like sitting in the audience of courtroom trials and I was there for your case and I just want to- #-ask are you good? like honestly do you need someone to talk to?’

[lovelessrage]

A lot of people are completely disinterested in creating a safe space for all aros and aces because that would require letting go of being allowed to publicly shame things like sex and romance. There is a stark difference between repulsion/aversion and negativity, and that line stands where you treat those things as disgusting or as a personal fault/flaw. While I'm romance repulsed, I'm never going to go on my blog and call romance disgusting or gross, because it isn't; it's a feeling, neutral in morality, and a way to live your life if you so choose.

I don't think a lot of people get this or what the difference is. Anybody can be negative and anyone can have harmful ideas, favourable or repulsed. It's about how you treat it, how you express about it, and if you seek to demonise or make those things out to be disgusting, perverse, or deviant.

Even small things or "jokes" add up over time; put yourself in the shoes of someone who has to see those "jokes" made about their lifestyle and what's important to them every day, or even every hour. Would you still feel like they're lighthearted after even one day of reading over and over again?

[Not to say anyone who's done this in the past is a horrible, terrible person. You can change and grow as you take in info; that's just the life experience. But, to grow, you need to actively want to, and that means addressing biases and asking yourself "should I say this? Could this affect my peers?"]

#aromantic #aro #asexual #ace #arospec #acespec #aspec #scowl corner #listen. some of you. not all of you. need to recognise the internet is a community space #your words do not exist in a vacuum. your opinions are shaoed by the biases ideas and opinions around you. #sometimes those opinions or takes are not good and actively harmful to others around no #repulsion? normal to feel. completely normal. not what this post is about. i feel repulsion too. #if i see anyone in the tags calling out repulsed people i'm exploding them. #this post is about people who don't recognise their own internalised negative ideas and refuse to confront them for the comfort of others #begging people to be more considerate. begging people to remember respect is a two-way street.

[strawberri-draws]

Me when assassins r in a classroom (and are all in middle school)

#my art #fanart #strawberridraws #assclass #assasination classroom #assasination classroom fanart #doodle #sketchbook #traditional art #guys I’m normal I swear #just doing my yearly rewatch of AC #I’m so normal #I think people need to move away from what y’all usually characterize and talk about #and instead start talking about how middle schoolers are the lamest and funniest people on earth #and that it is hilarious that most of this cast is 14-15 at most #like. they should be at the club #except the club in this is their Minecraft themed bedrooms #like who is tucking these guys in at night #nobody has ‘killer intent’ they’re just in middle school #that’s how middle schoolers are man #-mostly joking but also not joking #anyways . I cannot draw karasuma and his fuck ass hairline if you payed me

[inkblackorchid]

queen of faithshipping content, i need your 2cents, do you think that babies kissed off-screen in the finale? 🥹

Ok first of all "queen of faithshipping content" is a title I don't think I deserve (yet) but I'll happily take it ^^"

That said. Do u know what u have just unleashed. Listen. Listen.

Obviously they kissed off-screen. Like, I get it, the writers were cowards about the whole thing because it's a strictly genre-defined shonen show aimed at twelve year-old boys, yadda, yadda, but for the love of all that's holy.

Their faces are reflected in each other's fucking eyes. They must be standing so close together I can't.

AND THEN AKI CLOSES HER GODDAMN EYES. WHAT THE FUCK WOULD SHE BE CLOSING HER EYES FOR IF NOT FOR A KISS. You cannot make this shit up.

^ Extremely intimate way to hold hands.

Like. Look. Look. I'm not mandating that everyone needs to ship these two. People have their Yusei ships, people have their Aki ships, live and let live, I occasionally enjoy content shipping these two with other people too. It's literally fine. BUT. As far as the actual show is concerned for me, they are canon. At least as canon as toolshipping, roseknightshipping, treasonshipping, firebirdshipping or what have you, at any rate. And unless the actual, real-life team who wrote, storyboarded, animated, directed, and voice acted the scene above literally comes out of the woodwork to tell me otherwise, it's always going to be a kiss to me. Case closed.

So, did they kiss? Short answer: Yes.

Long answer:

#yugioh 5ds #aki izayoi #akiza izinski #yusei fudo #faithshipping #yes I am very very normal about these two thank you for asking #I get why faithshipping isn't some people's cup of tea (or at least I try to) #but people who see their painfully obvious on-screen chemistry and go 'they wouldn't make a good couple' will always puzzle me #(this does not apply to aro/ace peeps. you guys keep truckin' I get why you're sick of all the allo shit bless you) #so yeah. obvious kiss. you cannot change my mind. #ask the orchid

[thecrabbybarista]

Ace people can have a libido btw. Because apparently some people still need the reminder?

#seeing some like. lowkey acephobic bs in the fandom rn #i swear people love to sexualize ace people who canonically don't like sex #and then get mad when ppl headcanon someone who does like sex as ace #like pick a struggle. or don't pick either of those and just be normal about us! #when ppl wanna sexualize us we can have a libido and when they want to infantilize us then we can't

[beanghostprincess]

i have a whole analysis in mind as to why ace, robin and sanji's backstories are pretty much parallelisms and they have very similar trauma responses but i'm probably not writing shit because then i will have the biggest breakdown known to mankind

#my fav arcs are wci enies lobby and post-marineford and y'all expect me to be normal about these three #they're extremely mentally ill and i love them so damn much istg #just saying luffy has experience with people hating and sacrificing themselves to the point of self-sabotaging #they can fit so much trauma in 3 silly people #portgas d ace #nico robin #black leg sanji #one piece