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vegance · 2 years

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So I’m p sure you do this to promote education and to stop misinformation, but why do you engage with anti-vegan shithead carnists like sebbiesheepie, agro-carnist or dairyisntscary? I’ve tried in the past, especially for the above listed reasons but I’m found that engagement with them is less productive than talking to a wall and usually it comes with harassment and death threats sent to me from their fans. I guess, why would you subject yourself to such idiocy on their part? Also wanna give a shout out of a big “FUCK YOU” to these anti-vegan blogs and others like them 🥰

I guess as a follow up to what I just sent. What I mean to say is IMHO it’s a waste of time to spend on those cretins, and your mental and emotional well-being far outweigh their smooth brains. ❤️ 2/2

honestly i struggle with this, and i'm not sure i've found the best way to do it yet. but like you said, its to put some real information in a sea of lies and misinformation. i definitely don't think i will change their mind, some of them are definite trolls and the other ones...

but i do think its important to spread information where there is misinformation. its not for the person spreading the lies, its for the "audience". maybe some person lurking on here is going to scroll through the notes and see my reblog and look through it, see if my arguments and sources are more compelling. and that's why i do it.

i try to make some rules, i wont (generally) engage with a post that has very few notes (no point), and i wont engage with straight up trolls. but right now i feel like its important to be a counter voice to that i guess? i don't always follow my own rules, and i should do that more though :D

but also like...it doesn't super drain me atm? i have a bunch of resources that i kind of just copy, and i like scientific research (writing a paper on climate change and veganism for uni rn). and i want to help vegans find ways to argue against these things, to have resources and facts to use when they encounter such arguments. actually thinking of maybe making a quick resource post (though @acti-veg has so many resources, not sure it is necessary haha)

and i honestly could not care less about the anons lol. ignore and delete.

but thank you for pointing it out, this is definitely something i'm still figuring out, and i always appreciate input/counterarguments on this issue!!

#content #this is also my sideblog so i cant really talk to people in comments #which would be one way of doing activism without promoting their stuff i guess #ask #hope its ok to publish #i always publish unless ppl tell me they wanted it anon??#but maybe others can give me advice #probably going to take a step back from reblogging straight from the most blatant liars out there #the ignorance and stupidity is honestly hard to bear #and i want to find other ways of making vegan #that helps vegans stay vegan and tries to deal with everyday problems #but i have no idea how to do that on here #and i hate all other social media #also i love ur blog

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uncanny-tranny · 10 months

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Periodic reminder that unless a person specifically and clearly tells you it is okay to tell others they are trans or queer, you should err on the side of caution and assume they do not want you to tell people (especially random people!) about their transness or queerness.

You have no idea, generally, why somebody doesn't talk openly about their trans or queer status, and you have no idea, truly, how somebody might react to that information. The most progressive person out there is still capable of harbouring incredibly negative thoughts about somebody's queer status.

#lesbian #gay #bi #bisexual #trans #transgender #queer #lgbt #lgbtq #ally advice #inspired after somebody at work outed me (again ×3)#i don't care how 'safe' you assume they will be! you cannot TRULY guarantee their safety!#you are effectively gambling with somebody's safety by assuming you can out them #also even if their safety was somehow 100% guaranteed it is still not your place to dictate what others know about THEM #like it isn't your own information you are giving out. the other person is a real human being with real thoughts...#...and there are real ramifications to your actions! this is like... real life and like... real people #anyway. i'm still fucking horrified at how cool people are (at least wrt me) with outing others 🙃🫠#and it just... further reminds me that others see me as like... a thing to be talked about/over and i'm not seen as an autonomous human #maybe that's not their intentions 9/10 times but that still doesn't justify it nor does it change how i interpret that behaviour 👍#it's just dehumanizing imo to be reminded 'your comfort DOESN'T MATTER. i think you should be talked ABOUT not TO.'#clarification for the first tag: this is the THIRD time somebody has outed me. i NEVER talk about being trans to... pretty much ANYBODY irl #it's shit like this that i have to resist taking the 'doompill' over #because it's scary and dehumanizing every. single. time. i feel so fucking scared each time #because - AGAIN - i know my safety will NEVER be guaranteed because i am trans and queer

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ecoamerica · 25 days

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isfjmel-phleg · 7 days

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#random personal stuff #personal whining ahead feel free to ignore #it's sinking in that the increase in the displaying of these 'jokes' at work is related to our boss no longer being here #it can't have been a coincidence that the picture in the inbox went back on top the very day we threw her her goodbye party #apparently this man thinks that she was the one who was pushing back against the nonsense?#and maybe she was - I don't know what went on between them #(though I always got the impression that she seemed a bit afraid of him for whatever reason and just let him do whatever most of the time)#but I'm tired of having to put up with this and angry at the situation in general #and I really will go and talk with the VP of Academic Affairs once I can get some advice from my communications major friend #so I can avoid just walking into her office and exploding #(I don't understand this I don't understand why he feels the need to display these images in the office & always about this now-completely-#irrelevant topic and even if it were relevant the 'jokes' are juvenile and mean-spirited and I know he thinks he's doing the Lord's work in #picking the kinds of books that he does but tell me exactly how this garbage is the Lord's work and what he thinks he's accomplishing with #this other than making himself look petty and giving me further cause for frustration because it isn't just the stupid pictures it's the #pervasive attitude behind them that I have had to deal with for years now and I wish I were a different person so I could get right in his #face and tell him that this is unacceptable and expect to be heard and regarded)

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selkiecoded · 7 months

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not having any friends or being in any clubs is so funny sometimes actually. my english professor is asking us to discuss discourse communities we're in (basically just groups where communication happens to promote a shared goal) AND a communication artifact (a visible way in which the group interacts) and i dont know how to be like hey. i dont have any of those. literally going to get a failing grade for not having friends.

#PLEASE dont give me advice by the way im just venting #i might have to do like one of my other classes but all the communication happens in person so ive got nothing to show for it #or like the few online group chats im a part of but i dont know how comfortable i am sharing something that private #do i need to get into religion or something is that going to be the easiest way to meet people #or the qsa i guess but ive only gone to like two things for it. i could do like. a fanbase or something i guess????#but that embarrassing and also really really disparate.#dont do this to meeee im already embarrassed by not having a lot of connections. maybe i can do my old choir n stuff.

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none-tadashi-left-hiro · 27 days

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Is my toxic trait psychoanalyzing other people and thinking I’m the exception because I’m actually soooo observant and aware of the signs

#I mean people just say Some Things that make me think they can’t not be dealing with self worth issues #like someone said they hate bugs bc what purpose do they serve other than to be annoying #so it’s fine to kill them or whatever #and I’m just like I wonder what that says about you 🤔#but guys I’ve ended up being right before #it’s also because of things they’ll just self admit sometimes though #like saying they feel like they’re not a helpful person or they’re feeling worthless #and then acting all confident #and trying to act like the high bitch in charge despite knowing nothing about what is going on #and I’m just like hey do you have imposter syndrome #and they’re like yeah #am I toxic for asking that #even if it’s based on Several Observations #some of which they openly admit unprompted themselves #someone was like how dare you analyze them without consent meanwhile #they’re spilling their own guts left and right already like #I’m just naming what I observed in behavior and giving it a label #genuinely is that toxic of me though lol #I mean it’s really easy to do with toxic people bc not toxic people like don’t have issues to psychoanalazye as much #like to me it’s like going hey not to armchair diagnose but maybe talk to your doctor about if you have ADHD #bc based off observations #you can fucking tell #I have never been wrong abt someone having adhd #bc paradoxically I realize I am not immune to being wrong about someone #I’m just very observant idk #the without their consent response is throwing me off #like I get offering unsolicited advice #but I think going you have imposter syndrome vs asking hey do you think you have imposter syndrome #are two very different things

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running-in-the-dark · 3 months

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hm. am I downloading Night Court right now? possibly.

#don't know if I care yet #tbh I have never seen John Larroquette in anything ever (and it will take me a while until I can spell his name without checking 3 times)#before the librarians #so. I don't know. if it's a character specific thing. or if I just think he's cute. or if I think he's cute now but not when he was younger #but I will find out #because honestly it's possible that it's 90% his voice. very good voice. best voice. love it.#hmmm okay no I've just watched a clip on YouTube and he really is just very cute. damn.#annnd. oh noo. I have to check something #oh crap Brent spiner was born in 1949. that means this is. if my brain decides that this is gonna be something. the first time it's someone #older than my dad :') don't like that #but! my dad's dead! so who gives a fuck!#I'm fine. :)#(also damn I'm lucky my dad was so very very old. otherwise that would have happened much sooner)#(guess I'm joking about that now! interesting development)#anyway yeah he cute. though cuter now tbh. might be the belly. idk. this is very confusing and unusual for me #especially. since. the other crush. is not even close to being over. that's not something that happens. and it's already very bad rn. soo.#that should be interesting. maybe I should just forget all about it and not look at him again when I'm done with the show in a few hours #that'd be best I think (doesn't mean I'll listen to my own advice. he is a man and he is cute so. I've already lost)#it's just. I see Jenkins and it's like. JENKINS!! 😍😍😍😍 I'm very weak #and he's so funny 😔#sigh.#just be normal 🤦🤦🤦#i don't know if it makes it better or worse that I'm fully aware that this is most likely happening because I'm in the middle of some sort #of crisis right now and that's how I've always coped but. eh it is what it is #trying to be nicer to this stupid brain and all that #let it have fun looking at an old man it's fine

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gatheryepens · 11 months

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Doing a past paper the night before the exam was not the move 💀

#it was horrendous #I didn’t do as well as some other past papers #I think mainly because the wording of the question threw me off ALOT #I’m trying to block it out #because other past papers I’ve done fine in and I can do maths 😭#- <- maybe? ;)#my brother tried to give me some advice #and said maths is like truth or dare you just got to pick one #……#my guy there was a 10 marker on differentiation I don’t think you just pick one 😭😭#gatherrambles

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wikipedie · 9 months

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me: yes! i helped this person and i offered them genuine advice that i thought is good from my perspective, i tried to be genuine. i hope they know i care about them and i wish them all the best my anxiety: actually, you ruined their life and they hate you and they think you have ulterior motives and shouldn't trust you at all ever

#anxiety #personal #and then i'm like OH SHIT do I have ulterior motives and maybe i shouldn't be trusted????#and psychoanalyze everything i feel and say just to make sure i'm genuine and in tune with my feelings #and don't let them cloud my thinking too much so that i can offer advice that i genuinely think is good for the other person #unfortunately...still doesn't help. i'm still sure that like half of the people i work with hate me now just because of my brain #why am i like this #i should stop talking ever and i should never say anything and never try to give advice #and i try! i genuinely try not to! ESPECIALLY if the other person doesn't ask for it i'm careful to keep my thoughts to myself #because i know how annoying it is to receive unsolicited advice

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uncanny-tranny · 9 months

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Over the years, I've gotten a lot of cis people messaging me about how they should go about dating or courting somebody who's trans, and I always felt like my responses would almost... disappoint them because there isn't this magic secret to dating us.

Cis people, if you want to date us, just date us. We're human beings, we're not wild animals to tame! I promise you can have a healthy relationship with a trans person without needing to feel like the world will end if you mess up.

Trans people who date cis people often want to feel secure in your acceptance of them. You don't have to talk about our transness for hours on end to prove that you accept your loved one. You don't have to put on a display and cabaret about how Much You Accept Us. Just be a person around us, and let us be people, too!

I almost want to disappoint cis people by reminding them of this. Some of the best relationships I've had with cis people have been ones where my transness is acknowledged, sure, but it's acknowledged in the same way that my left-handedness is. It's not a joke to them, it isn't something to be horrified about, but it's also something that they don't objectify me for.

#trans #transgender #lgbt #lgbtq #ftm #mtf #nonbinary #watching a video about this topic and it just reminded me of this #like there have been plenty of cis people who have come to me for advice and while i appreciate the thoughtfulness (don't get me wrong!)...#...part of me just feels like... they see trans people as needing to be Tamed in some way or Appeased...#...like they see us as people but it's more like they see us as Trans People and not... people...#...and maybe i'm looking too deep into it. maybe i'm jaded but that's sometimes how it can feel with some people...#...like my besties that i talk to fully accepted me...#...though it is funny when they forget i'm... not a trans woman or (with other friends) that i'm... not a cis man #(maybe i just give off ambiguous vibes irl and online because it's happened irl and with my online buddies)#adding once again: i don't think ALL cis people who ask this are doing so in bad faith #cis people i'm glad you are vulnerable about not being sure about how to go about transness...#...however i don't always think it's the best move to go to a stranger about your interest in a trans person in your life...#...simply because: 1. transness isn't a monolith and...#...2. it feels awkward because you aren't going to *them* to have this conversation that will ultimately affect *them*...#...because your relationship with a trans person will likely /not/ affect a trans stranger...

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buckleydiazmp4 · 7 months

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it's tag venting time

#i've had this friendship. of like. 5 years #and well #we used to be really really close #and in hindsight i guees it was because we literally saw each other for 8 hours straight every day of the week #and then that stopped happening #i literally haven't seen this person in about a year and a half i think? maybe more?#despite the fact that we basically live walking distance from each other. which. already says a lot #but then there's also a bigger issue. because hey i get it we're both busy ppl it's okay if qe haven't seen each other in a while #(despite the fact that in this case it is because of a lack of trying -i like to believe not on my part- but ignoring that)#we text sporadically when we have something to let off our chest so it's like this back and forth of voice notes every week or so #but lately its has turned into them sending me groups of 5-minute voice notes at a time because their life is so. so dramatic #and like. hey if this were still like a mutual communication i would enjoy it because i am indeed a good listener #and i like to believe i guve good advice. and i used to give this person good advice like. it was a nice friendship back then #but it became so one-sided as in i received info dumps and vents about the same stuff over and over and the few times i talked about myself #i received some half-hearted dismissals like. oh cool or oh that's so sad. anyways. and then we went back to talking about them.#and it was so frustrating but at first i thought well if they're gonna use me as a venting device so will i despite getting no input like #they became a void to me which i was getting gradually accustomed to it was fine. but then today they asked if i could talk on the phone #i said yes because i wanted to prove my theory. the plan was: i answer #let them talk without offering any input whatsoever. see how long they can just talk and talk and then in the end see if my lack of answer-#-elicited any reaction at all. and unsurprisingly it didn't. i waited for them to finish and then i thought #well at least they might ask me how my day was or something just to confirm i was listening like idk but #i personally would find the quiet unsettling and would ask.but they didn't even do that. asked me if i had homework i said yes. that was it #that was IT!!! i felt so frustrating but at least i was entirely correct and it does hurt to lose a friend but this had been coming #for a long long time. the thing is though i cant just cut this person off #i hate confrontation so all i cant do is keep up this sort of a 'quiet quitting' kind of attitude. pretty easy to do with someone like this #so anyway. that's how you realize a friendship is fake and now i am a bit angry and also sad. but i guess i'll deal with it and move on #if you read all this hi and sorry for the venting. i just had to get it off my chest #vent post

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salsflore · 1 year

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#oh mika there is beauty in life~ look at your future! everything will be worth it in the end~#my favorite image on this device btw ^#cw negative #cw vent #you know where this is going. apologies my mind is a mess and i really just need to get it out because i find its better than-#-writing a semi formal email to that One (1) emotional support organization and i’m afraid to make a call so #but i just genuinely believe things would be better off if i weren’t alive. a bit of a silly thing to jump to i know but #my tuition fees aren't cheap and i'm not even that great of a student or a daughter or a sister and i-#-have no talents or remarkable feats. i’m not impressive in any way. and i hate hearing shit about how ^_^ its okay! we all have something-#-special about ourselves! for example maybe you have really good hand writing and thats good enough ~ but that doesn't work for me because-#-i have nothing. my handwriting isn't good my singing isn't good i'm not artistically gifted i don't have some random affinity for puzzles-#-i'm not charming or somehow really good at calculation or super creative or a really comforting friend i really have nothing at all #i don’t want to die. i have no plans on doing that sort of thing anytime soon— don’t misunderstand me #i just wholeheartedly believe i don’t deserve to be here anymore not because i’m not loved. i just can’t stand myself and my teenage years-#-feel so long and i'm so fragile how much longer do i have to tolerate. i'm contributing nothing. why should my family have to feed and-#-clothe a burden like me who provides nothing. why should my friends care for someone like me. i’m not really that funny or sweet or great-#-with advice giving or pretty or helpful in any way. why is it that life is genuinely easier for others. what did i do? what can i do?#how much longer must i tolerate this? would you believe me if i said i really did try to change my mindset this time?#i have no one in real life to talk to. therapists are pricey and i don’t think mine was helping me in any way anyways. she was nice though #so every night i sleep hoping i wake up somewhere else. somewhere where i'm happier and i can live all my silly fantasies where i'm a fun-#-and lovely person who has everything she wants and nothing goes wrong ever!!#how much longer must i hang onto the little things. i’m in such an exruciating amount of pain that i want to kill myself without dying? lol #everyone repeats the same stuff. get bit #i can't rely on the joy of having coffee every morning or persevere for the sake of seeing cute cats on insta. nothing will ease the burden

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ecoamerica · 25 days

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finalhaunts · 9 months

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I hate you skincare i hate you hair care i hate you conflicting and overwhelming information on how to take care of yourself i hate you advice influenced by the pursuit of beauty and not actual concern for health I hate you 7 step skincare routines I hate you “tame frizz!” I fucking HATE you i HATE YOU !!!!!!!!

#.txt #my grandma forced me to have a keratin treatment while down in cleveland #even though i absolutely did not fucking ask for it #and maybe its my ocd or something but like this hair shit has been plaguing my fucking mind ever since #am I actually taking care of my hair right? am I healthy? am I doing everything right?#and then it evolved to also include skincare too #because I don’t really use lotion often or wash my face #and its aagaghhhh kill me fuckkng KILL me !!!!!!! I HATE THIS !!!!!!!!!!!#WHY IS ALL THE INFORMATION SO CONFLICTING !!!! DO I EVEN NEED TO WORRY ABOUT THIS!!!!!!!!!!!! DOES THIS SHIT EVEN MATTER !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!#SOMEONE FUCKING GIVE ME A STRAIGHT ANSWER #i dont even know what my hair type is #fuuuckkkckckkckckckkck&;&;&&4&3&2&&2&:&;#also like. even the smallest and simplest routines. are still taking time out of my day.#and I hate it #i dont have the time to fucking worry about my skin and hair amongst all the million other things #but my ocd has fucking LATCHED onto this and it wont leave my head !!!!!!!#if someone has like. any advice or anything. please just let me know #someone tell me if this is something I actually need to worry about or if i can just go Thog don’t caare

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hey-op-just-kill-me · 1 year

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#hi I’m going to complain for a quick second #so my parents have not contributed a fucking cent to my higher edumacation besides maybe three train tickets #I have paid two semesters so far by my self and with my grandmother giving me some money to help for transportation but that’s legit it #like my parents haven’t financially helped me at all okay #so my dad was going to do taxes today and he told me to print out the college tax thing and I got angry at him #because fuck you use me as a discount when you start to actually help me out at all #so we’re yelling at each other and he’s like oh isn’t there a parent account I can log into and I explain that no it’s fucking college #you do not have a day at all #he does not like this because he really likes being in control of shit #but it’s funny because for the first 16 years of my life he couldn’t give a shit less about my education last two years of HS he tries #to give unhelpful advice that just led to more stress (as in I got a 90 on a test and he’d ask why it wasn’t 100)#so we’re yelling at each other and my sister says to just ignore it because someone might aswell clame it for taxes instead of the state #and yeah sure fine but at least provide some support for me. or fucking tell me you’re proud of me that’s it that’s all I want #the only thing he has given me for school was a fucking BC tee shirt off of Amazon… that’s it #so now we are just fucking avoiding each other and it’s fucking awkward but my mom is treating it like I’m the bad guy here because #I’m angry they told me I had to go to college and now they won’t help me #like I understand that a lot of people don’t have their parents support to pay for college and they do drive me to the train station but #it’s just rude. and I can’t even talk to him about it because oh no big man feelings get hurt when $ is a topic but like grow the fuck up

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tyrianlynch · 2 years

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Anyone have any suggestions for when u start feeling really bored of the art style ur in but don’t really know how to do any other art style?

#I keep looking at other ppls art styles and am like ya that’s the vibes I wanna have but idk how to actually do it #but the art style I’ve been doing for so very long is becoming tiresome #I’m getting better and better at realism but I don’t want things to look real I want things to ellicit emotion #and none of my pieces feel like they’re eliciting any sort of emotion lately #like the people look like people but they’re people idgaf about yknow?#so how do I start making art that I actually give a fuck about?#like how can I make art that makes me feel something?#idk maybe I’m just depressed #but advice would be appreciated regardless

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