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dailydivergent · 1 month

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Neurodivergent reminder: Overstimulation feels a lot like anxiety, and understimulation feels a lot like depression.

More importantly, you don't need to know which it is to practice self-care.

Self-caring anxiety and overstimulation looks the same:

Recognize you're feeling big feelings

Take as many deep breaths as your need to slow your mind

Identify what’s causing the feeling, whether sensory, environmental, or situational

Minimize that cause as much as possible immediately

Self-caring depression and understimulation looks the same:

Recognize you’re in need of stimulation

Turn on an interesting long-form video of some kind

Do some quick exercise like a walk or jumping jacks

Call a friend that'll let you infodump

If you're neurodivergent and easily get stuck on labelling things — I see you.

I'm here to remind you that you don't need to know what it is to take care of it in the meantime.

You can — will — figure it out later.

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kakooshi · 4 years

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hello dailydivergent

Uhhh, hi? 0_0

#misc #reply #anon #i...have not heard that url in awhile #btw it was dallyingdivergent #wow i had this lame ass name for 5 years shdkjhaskj but oh well #nice hearing from you anon #i hope youre doing well during this pandemic

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kellylimdesign · 7 years

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dailydivergent · 1 month

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This is your much-needed reminder to take transitions seriously. As a neurodivergent person, you need much more time to switch between tasks and activities. It's not just important that you take your time, it's imperative for you to be able to keep going. Just like an athlete gets benched when they get injured, neurodivergent people get extra time to switch tasks, start something new, go out, or wrap up whatever you're doing. Take transitions seriously, or they'll seriously affect your health.

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dailydivergent · 1 month

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If you're neurodivergent, taking a break literally requires planning.

This is because we often don't give notice to how much work we actually do in a day, because what constitutes as "work" for us is not "work" for others.

It requires me work to:

walk the dog

make a meal

shower

write a tumblr post

So of course taking breaks is going to require some work, too.

Here's how I've learned to plan for my breaks:

I give worry a time & place; this allows me to say, "now's not the time to worry" once I'm on break.

I accept all work as work (mentioned above)

I focus on doing the top 3 tasks in a day, not all of it; this combats the feeling that I need to do something to "deserve a break" (total bs, btw)

I listen to my body; it's not up to me to decide when it's "time" for a break

I have fun projects within my hobbies; this gives me a focus for my breaks, so I'm not spending time deciding what to do during my breaks

I know it seems convoluted now, but I promise you, this kind of forward planning for my breaks has allowed me to actually rest when it's time to rest.

I can finally rest on a daily and weekly basis without constantly solving problems in my head, ruminating on past conversations, or worrying about the future, because I gave worry a time & place.

I can accept that I do deserve a break every single day no matter what I actually accomplished, because I accepted everything as work, focused on my top 3, and listened to my body when it said it's time.

I can look forward to what I spend my breaks on, because I took the time to plan fun projects with other people, which holds me accountable to doing those things with my friends.

It took me a long time to get here, but I hope this post speeds up your process—even if just a little bit.

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dailydivergent · 2 months

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Repeat After Me: New Needs Come With New Diagnoses

Thanks to my recently discovered AuDHD (autism + ADHD), I’ve finally given myself the permission to slow down with life.

It’s allowed me the chance to discover who I really am—and that’s not someone who wants limelight or a rat race.

Instead, I need:

a 24-hour notice before plans

72 hours to respond to emails

healthy relationships to express anger

friends willing to let me fuck up

social time with 1 friend each week (just 1)

multiple mini breaks throughout the day (no matter what I'm doing)

What have you discovered you need post-diagnosis?

I wanna see how long we can make this list ~

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dailydivergent · 1 month

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Change your beliefs, change your life.

I recently started doing something that feels really dumb at first, but... it's totally changing the way I view myself, y'all.

It's called Belief Work and basically, it's taking your old shitty beliefs and turning them on their head 100%.

So instead of "I will never make it," I now tell myself intentionally "I will definitely make it."

The process is simple:

List out all the negative beliefs you have about yourself, whether about work, relationships, money, life, etc.

On a second sheet, list the exact opposite belief.

These are your new sets of beliefs. Repeat them as often as you can remember, preferably once per day.

I KNOW IT SOUNDS LIKE BULLSHIT BUT I PROMISE YOU IT'S WORKING FOR ME SO MAYBE IT'LL WORK FOR YOU???

#adhd tips #neurodivergencies #neurodivergence #belief work #beliefs #actually adhd #actually audhd #audhd #actually autistic #neurodivergent #neurodiversity #positive affirmations #change your life #changing my life #the daily divergent #dailydivergent

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dailydivergent · 2 months

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"When you live with a neurodivergent brain, you need things explained to you in creative ways. Social shaming and parents teaching you things one way doesn’t really work. Direct and repetitive communications does. This takes patience and compassion that not everybody has access to. Very few people, actually, once you factor in conditional compassion, or compassion that’s dependent on the receiver’s ability to understand you. These factors and more create a pretty shit situation for neurodivergent brains. A shituation, if you will." — The Daily Divergent

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dailydivergent · 19 days

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can you elaborate some more on breaks? what is a break? like how long is it, and how many do you take in a day? im curious what your typical day plan looks like, where would the “break” blocks go and for how long, vs “work” blocks. im into daily planning but i always fail to account for taking mindful breaks

Amazing question—and the answer, of course, is different for everyone.

But I'll try to answer as efficiently as possible.

A break is any moment you take to recollect your thoughts, energy, or focus.

Yes, it's nice to have intentional breaks built into your schedule, but if you're neurodivergent, then it's most likely going to have to be intuitive.

Intuitive meaning depending on how you're feeling in the moment.

It's practically impossible to know if something is going to tire you out after 30 minutes or an hour on this upcoming Friday, you know? We just don't have that kind of foresight.

So, really, building in breaks into your schedule means not packing your day with a bunch of things do to.

For me, it usually means only timeblocking half the day with stuff to do, so that I can be sure everything will get done.

Personally, I don't include chores into my time blocks, but you can if you want to.

Personally, I do include my morning routine and nightly routine into my calendar, but not each individual task. It just gets one timeblock called "morning/nightly routine" with the task list as the description.

Throughout my day, I take breaks every 45 minutes or so—even if it's just to stop looking at the computer screen and think for a second.

Usually, though, I recommend getting up (if you can), drinking some water, and maybe doing a quick stretch/head roll/stim to release some excess energy.

It's all about knowing when you're hitting a wall.

That's when to take a break.

When you decide to come back is based on:

Your mental health in the moment (do not push yourself if you're about to breakdown, no matter how important the thing is)

How much time you have in the day/hour (think timed items like tests or a work deadline)

What needs to be done today vs. what can wait (most things can wait, actually)

Which are all individual skills in and of themselves.

Taking breaks in a world that doesn't support neurodivergent minds is a complex problem, because there are multiple layers to sort through.

Give yourself the time (years), space (hour-by-hour), and grace (all the time) to figure it out.

Remember: Learning how to live takes a lifetime.

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dailydivergent · 1 month

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Representation is so hard because representation is a responsibility.

It is tricky. It is time-consuming. It is emotionally-demanding.

Because the same is true to not being represented.

It’s tricky to express your discontent about not being represented enough. It’s time-consuming trying to explain to people why it matters so much to you. It’s emotionally-demanding to always be the person on the representation soapbox.

But the people who deserve representation do the work anyways, because it’s a responsibility to themselves, their ancestors, and their future generations.

#dailydivergent #representation #representation matters #media representation #nuance #stereotypes #neurodivergencies #neurodivergence #neurodivergent #neurodiversity

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dailydivergent · 2 months

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A neurodivergent approach for how to show up for your friends:

Setting weekly dates with my closest friends (like right now. ask them for weekly calls, gaming, etc.)

Setting a weekly calendar task to call all my friends—attached to a timer.

Putting my friends’ appointments in my calendar as soon as they tell me about it so I remember to follow-up with them—attached to a timer

Adding important holidays a week before the actual event, so I get them something—attached to a timer

Rather than blame myself for being a forgetful little fuck, I work with it and get the rewards of friendship: connection, emotional security, and pride in myself.

#neurodivergency #neurodiversity #neurodivergence #neurodivergencies #neurospicy #actually neurodivergent #neurodiverse stuff #neurodivergent #neurodiverse #actually neurodiverse #neurodivergent tips #neurodivergent culture #neurodivergent help #dailydivergent

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dailydivergent · 2 months

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To get to where you want to be, you have start changing your beliefs.

For example, I used to believe that:

Money is hard to make.

Only neurotypical people make good money.

Money is the reason I’m miserable.

But I've lived experiences where this isn't true.

I've made good money as a self-employed neurodivergent person, and I can do it again.

(And before I had this evidence, I knew that if another neurodivergent person like me could do it, then I could, too.)

I'm not miserable because of money, I'm miserable because I'm not grateful for what I have.

I am not at risk of becoming homeless, becoming hungry, or dying alone—even without parents to support me and $0 to my name.

These days, I'm working on telling myself the opposite of those negative beliefs:

Money is easy to make.

Not only neurotypical people make good money.

Money is not the reason I’m miserable.

Do I fully believe these?

Not yet.

But do I have evidence to back them up?

Yes.

This is the start of getting to where I want to be.

#neurodivergencies #actually adhd #neurodivergence #actually audhd #actually autistic #audhd #neurodivergent #dailydivergent #neurodiverse stuff #neurodivergency #thedailydivergent #neurodiversity

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dailydivergent · 2 months

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I struggle to celebrate my achievements, but the Tumblr milestone method inspired me.

So here goes:

I reached 50 Published Editions of The Daily Divergent!

This is just the beginning, and yet so many wonderful things have happened already.

Thank you for the warm welcome, Tumblr.

I'm excited to be home.

#thedailydivergent #dailydivergent #neurodivergent #newsletter #my newsletter #actually neurodivergent #neurodivergencies #neurodivergence #neurodiversity #neurospicy #neurodiverse stuff

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dailydivergent · 3 months

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Note: Pointing out my neurodivergence isn’t excusing the behaviors.

It explains why I don’t need to feel ashamed of being this way.

I have a lot of work to do, but that doesn’t mean I’m broken.

I’m choosing to do this work to be a better leader, friend, and community member.

I want a better life for myself, so I need to be a better person.

Simple as that.

— The Daily Divergent

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dailydivergent · 2 months

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This happened on Valentine's Day of all days!!

This is for me to learn how to celebrate the small things,

and for you to know I'm so dang appreciative of the warm welcome (back) to Tumblr.

#50 likes #tumblr milestone #thank you #grateful #small blog #growing blog #small business #actually adhd #neurodivergence #neurodivergencies #actually audhd #dailydivergent

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