#for my memoir one day

[johndonneswife]

not a sad ‘woe is me’ post so don’t send me weird messages but: the thing abt cycling through every ED possible and being bulimic for like 10 yrs & making yourself vomit up to 10x times per day on ur worst days is that your teeth and gums will eventually give out on you (bc it doesn’t make a difference if you’ve been good & it doesn’t matter how well you’ve taken care of your teeth for the last x years) and u will be 30 years old crying to your very sweet and kind dentist when she tells you about the 1 million things that are wrong with ur teeth

#anyway i feel strongly compelled to quit my job and dedicate my entire life to speaking out abt eating disorders #& doing research & writing & advocating for people who are suffering #women who are suffering #i think this is honestly my life’s calling!!!! i just don’t know where to start #you know movies glamorize having anorexia & it’s always like: she is the most beautiful girl in the world…but so sad…she doesn’t eat :( #i need to make movies that have scenes like that one chapter of i’m glad my mom died: #where jennette has been throwing up like 15 times a day and her tooth falls out #and she’s literally just like: yeah i’ll deal with that later #& instead of writing about a beautiful skinny white girl who is upset about eating carrots at inpatient #i would just force people to read/watch the things in this thread: #https://www.reddit.com/r/EDAnonymous/s/H1C3JZyvFK #because that’s the reality #the one comment in that thread ‘i ate something poisonous because i hoped it would make me puke’ #like yeah same. LOL. & i always thought i was the only one so fucked in the head #anyway society is very cruel to women and i need to do something about it. genuinely whereeee do i even begin #i guess i have been writing a lot abt my personal experience and all the disgusting things ppl like to avoid talking abt #and how my mother made me this way etc #i could def make a memoir out of it. maybe i’ll do that. #i would love to have more options than just. trauma porn. #ah anyway maybe i’ll open a nonprofit. IDK. i just need to make a lot of noise somehow

[cressida-jayoungr]

Coeli's picks: Green, part 2

Multiple movies listed left to right.

One Dress a Day Challenge

July: Green Redux (+ Blue Redux)

My Fair Lady (1964) / Audrey Hepburn as Eliza Doolittle

Oklahoma! (1955) / Gloria Grahame as Ado Annie

The Muppet Show / Gladys Knight as Herself

Riverdale / Madelaine Petsch as Cheryl Blossom

"On Riverdale, the character Cheryl Blossom wears a lot of green (goes well with her vivid red hair). This is my favorite."

Heathers (1988) / Shannon Doherty as Heather Duke

"In Heathers, the Heathers are color-coded. Heather Duke wears green. This is perhaps her most iconic outfit."

Anne Boleyn / as Anne Boleyn

"A recent miniseries about Anne Boleyn had a really striking green dress (and race-blind casting)."

Allied (2016) / Marion Cotillard as Marianne Beauséjour

Frida (2002) / Salma Hayek as Frida Kahlo

Vanity Fair (20014) / Reese Witherspoon as Becky Sharp

(I featured a different costume from this movie, here. Note the "red ribbon of hope" on the coat!)

Memoirs of a Geisha (2005) / Michelle Yeoh as Mameha

Tut (2015) / Sibylla Deen as Ankhesenamun

Cobra Woman (1944) / Maria Montez as Naja

"This might only appear in the poster. It's worth looking at some of the other costumes though - quite dramatic!"

#coeli's picks #green dresses #movie costumes #one dress a day challenge #one dress a week challenge #television costumes #tv costumes #my fair lady #cobra woman #vanity fair 2004 #tut #frida #memoirs of a geisha #riverdale #heathers #oklahoma #the muppet show #anne boleyn #allied #allied movie #green dress #green redux

[nancywheeeler]

girl alone in her room going insane as she tries to fix a silly little tv show in her head

#'no you don't understand' she says to no one 'if the djats creators had only taken a cue from scorsese's last waltz and began at the end' #later that same day: 'but if ted lasso season three had only taken more inspiration from miracle and less from when harry met sally...' #deep into the night: 'eddie munson should have died at the hands of the government and not the upside down. in this essay...' #a shout into the void #i have been watching a lot of sports movies recently and it has given me the unearned confidence i could fix ted lasso season three #and my 2020 obsession with concert films and musician memoirs definitely made my djats watch more painful than it needed to be

[gingerwerk]

Personally I’m glad that Mota is finally gonna start letting Lemay get the shit talking he deserves. He’s gotten off too good for far too long and we need to start giving him as much shit as MacArthur and Patton

#if there’s one thing about me is I am gonna Hate all the big name generals with a Passion #I was talking to my coworkers at the museum the other day how like yeah I technically #can be seen as boring or generic when I say I prefer to study wwii/20th century mil history #but I am Exclusively reading low level soldier memoirs and getting all the tea how they Hate x colonel and y general #I hate all authority types from CEOs to big name generals like all y’all are nasty ass bitches #Kelly watches Mota

[skypiea]

#blacephalon #romhacking memoirs #im in my cgear skin making phase #sorry i only used the elesa one for like half a day #i had to make one specifically for me

[waugh-bao]

"Charlie Watts is keen on clothes and considered by his manager to have the bone structure of Steve McQueen and therefore a great future in films."

Maureen Cleave in the Evening Standard (21st of March, 1964)

#oh my god #Andrew is only capable of saying the absolutely most ridiculous stuff about Charlie #I think he mentioned in his memoir too #that he always expected one day he’d get a call that Charles Bronson had dropped out of a film and Hollywood would want Charlie to fill in #in some alternate universe did Charlie ditch the Stones in ‘89 to become an acclaimed art film actor? #the rolling stones #charlie watts #young married band #andrew loog oldham #quote

[thepoisonroom]

Trans Book of the Day #1

Welcome to St. Hell: My Trans Teen Misadventure by Lewis Hancox

Lewis has a few things to say to his younger teen self. He knows she hates her body. He knows she's confused about who to snog. He knows she's really a he and will ultimately realize this... but she's going to go through a whole lot of mess (some of it funny, some of it not funny at all) to get to that point. Lewis is trying to tell her this... but she's refusing to listen.

In WELCOME TO ST. HELL, author-illustrator Lewis Hancox takes readers on the hilarious, heartbreaking, and healing path he took to make it past trauma, confusion, hurt, and dubious fashion choices in order to become the man he was meant to be. It's a remarkable, groundbreaking graphic memoir from an unmistakably bold new voice in comics.

Really dug this one, especially for its frank discussion of trying to find an identity that fits when you have limited language and resources to do so! I thought the strongest and most distinctive parts of the graphic novel were:

The asides where Hancox invites commentary from his friends and family about their actions and reactions during his childhood, teenage years, and early transition. He has huge empathy for the ways that misinformation create obstacles to social and medical transition, even within a well-intentioned support network. The segments where he and his mother talk about lack of information on youth transition and HRT making them both anxious about actively addressing his early childhood dysphoria are particularly strong.

Discussion of eating disorders as a response to dysphoria during puberty. This is something that I've rarely seen addressed in literature even though it's such a common experience for a lot of trans people.

Depiction of coming into new identities and how that both does and does not change your relationships. I can see this being a great read for teens who are anxious about theirs or their friends' evolving identities altering the dynamic between them.

This is a super charming, very frank and funny memoir that I think will resonate with both teenagers and adults. Hancox doesn't shy away from critiquing barriers to transition in the UK, but the main focus of the book is his warm, empathetic depiction of his younger self and his loved ones.

#i think it's super cool to see a trans author write so warmly about his child self #i understand that not everyone feels that way or feels comfortable depicting that #but i think especially in the context he's writing in as a trans guy from the UK who grew up pretty online #it feels like a very deliberate choice to be like 'my struggles growing up weren't because i hated myself they were because #i didn't have the information or resources to grow up in a way that didn't involve some level of struggle and self-loathing' #like when looking at how he frames the memoir he's pretty mindful about responding to that kind of transphobic narrative #without agreeing to approach it as a debate where he has to humor that line of thought #also there's a scene where he gets very femmed up for a school dance and talks about the feeling of being in gender costume #and being received as a spectacle by his peers for attempting to perform girlhood but not quite getting the details right #and i read that and was like oh no........ #it just brought back SUCH vivid memories of the times i tried hard to perform Girl growing up #and my classmates would always act like i was a dog that had started walking everywhere on just its hind legs #like okay kin i guess....... :( #personal nonsense #char reads trans lit #i will try to do one of these a day for pride month bc i keep getting questions about trans books!

[headaching]

jennette mccurdy’s memoir…….

#BRO #i knew it was gonna be good but jesus christ #the use of present tense…the voice…the pacing…the trauma and trauma and trauma #and the fact that she always wanted to be a writer and now she’s a bestselling author. hold on a second #ughxjfbwkdhsj #it makes me hopeful that i could finish my memoir one day <3

[evankinard]

as a fellow avid reader who lost touch with it in high school, i have a couple recs! these are books i couldn't put down which has become increasingly rare tbh. i loved extremely loud and incredibly close by jonathan safran foer cause it's the right amount of heartbreaking and humorous. also very much enjoyed in the dream house by carmen maria machado, which isa memoir and definitely heavier so i'd check the topics and tw before reading. oh also only recently read the six of crows duology (yes i know im late) and it pleasantly surprised me! have a good day love <3

thank uuuuuuuuuuu

#heartbreaking and humorous sounds like a sweet spot #also ive only ever read one other memoir before the glass castle by jeannette walls #and it was also incredibly devastating and heavy but I couldn't put it down either so recommendation back at you if you're interested #six of crows has been on my radar I should definitely check it out cause I've loved all the fantasy series I've read before #thank you again hope you have the best day

[17yearcicada]

i'm ngl i tend to find children's/ya books of writing advice a million times more useful than adult books of writing advice

#books for adult writers tend to just get really bogged down with info on publishing and building your audience etc etc and it's like #one day i'm sure i will need this information. but for now i would just like some advice on how frequently i should use dialogue tags #or perhaps on creating unique characters #also a lot of adult books on writing advice tend to also be memoirs? which makes them more difficult to read #like bird by bird is a good book but not great for practical writing advice yknow #i'm also not a big memoir person but like. #and ik this has a lot to do with just where i am in terms of my writing skills + the amount of finished projects i even have #anyway. spilling ink is still one of my favorite books ever #.txt

[gender-trash]

i got so in my feelings abt my selectric project (@combat-epistemologist got me a selectric at an estate sale for christmas and like the motor runs and stuff but it’s so COMPLETELY and THOROUGHLY gunked with old machine oil that all the keys and other moving parts are Very Reluctant to, um, move) that i fully forgot i had a second, working, electric typewriter. it’s much more boring but it was also free (sourced from a random mit hallway at like 2am probably) so i cant complain too much. anyway what if i used this in my ficbinding projects somehow —

#the trashcan speaks #i HAVE got all this fancy stationery paper for endpapers #i COULD do all my titles on that with the typewriter #for the vibes of it all i guess? #ughhh i wanna get my selectric working thoughhhhh #and then. i want to get the fancy math typesetting symbols typeball ;-; #devil venerable also wants to exploit the memoir class for evil purposes #one day i will join tumblr user andmaybegayer in selectric club TT_TT

[amphiptere]

My mom just wrote a thing summarizing the book genres I read and said “young adult fiction, fantasy, and classics” and uhhh not really sure where she got classics from but ok

#not a criticism and like i do read classics but probably less than most genres #other than like non-fiction and memoirs and speculative fic or short story collections or something idk #this isn't me shitting on classics i love a whole bunch of them #maybe this is because i called the dawn treader one of the greatest books of all time the other day #that's probably it actually #and like fair enough a really good chunk of my childhood favourites are classics #mine #i think i'll ask for a pretty edition of jane eyre for christmas i want to read that #i still haven't read moby dick though #guess i'll hold out for dave's revised version of the show to get me into it again #because the og show kind of killed my interest but i had already gotten a pretty edition of it by then #and then just didn't read it #personal #books

[trisockatops]

Thought y'all might get a laugh out of this email my sister sent to my mom when I was 15 and my sister was 11. Redacted spots are just my name. Oreo was our cat; Dolly was our dog. This email was titled "disturbing news". The funniest part of this is that my mom has another email somewhere around here where I did something similar (told her to "TELL ME I'M PRETTY"), and my sister made it clear she thought I was threatening her to get her to call ME pretty. So when we were younger, I went around terrorizing my sister in order to build her self-esteem (logical, I know), while all those years she thought I was terrorizing her to build my self-esteem lmao.

Image description below the cut because it's too long to actually read all in the alt text.

Screenshot of an email.

"Okay, well, first of all, there some news about [older sibling]. She's still wide awake, so I have to be careful about what I write when. It's sort-of weird, every time she comes close, I swich to a different site. When I think she's gone, I look over and see to make sure. Then, when she's gone, I start to write again. Oh well. Here's the disturbing news. Well, Oreo [cat] was drinking out of Dolly's [dog] water bowl, so I wanted to see why, and I figured it was because her water bowl was dirty. I love her, so I'll do anything to help her along, so don't get mad at me for this. I wanted to find Dolly's old food bowl-you know, that red one? Well, I went to see if [sibling] knew where it was, and then somehow, we switched over to when [sibling] was graduating, then we were talking about what we wanted to be, and I said "I wanna be an actress*looks dreamily into the air*", then she said "I know! I wanna be an author. Remember?". I said "yes...". Then I was thinking about the story I made and accidentally erased, so I said "yeah, I'm not good at keeping stories.". Then [sibling] got mad and said "if you say one more thing about you not being good at something, I'll slap you silly!"!!!!! Then she got off the chair and armed me down on the ground and held me there. She then said "SAY I'M GORGEOUS OR ELSE I'LL MAKE MOM TAKE YOU TO A THERAPIST." Then I said it in a tiny-winy baby voice 'cause I couldn't say it any louder. She kept me there until my whole body went numb. Then, finally, when she let me go she said "FINE. THAT'S GOOD ENOUGH FOR NOW. I'LL CORNER YOU LATER." Now I'm scared and I don't want to run into that mess again. What should I do? Will you talk to her? PLEASE!!! BOO HHHOOOO!!!!! Well, Scared to Death and I Might Die, [name]"

#cry emoji #siblings #throwback #me #mine #funny #reminiscing #family #my poor sister had severe GAD at least by the time she was five #probably body dysmorphia #and definitely disordered eating that developed around this time and continues to this day #although now it's more of a neurodivergent struggle than a body image struggle #and then of course had to deal with me as an older sibling #showing my love through utter violence #she really has always had a way with writing nonfiction #she's genuinely just got a great comedic voice completely accidentally #i hope she writes a memoir one day #i think people would really like it and could gain a lot from it

[samwisethewitch]

Homemaking, gardening, and self-sufficiency resources that won't radicalize you into a hate group

It seems like self-sufficiency and homemaking skills are blowing up right now. With the COVID-19 pandemic and the current economic crisis, a lot of folks, especially young people, are looking to develop skills that will help them be a little bit less dependent on our consumerist economy. And I think that's generally a good thing. I think more of us should know how to cook a meal from scratch, grow our own vegetables, and mend our own clothes. Those are good skills to have.

Unfortunately, these "self-sufficiency" skills are often used as a recruiting tactic by white supremacists, TERFs, and other hate groups. They become a way to reconnect to or relive the "good old days," a romanticized (false) past before modern society and civil rights. And for a lot of people, these skills are inseparably connected to their politics and may even be used as a tool to indoctrinate new people.

In the spirit of building safe communities, here's a complete list of the safe resources I've found for learning homemaking, gardening, and related skills. Safe for me means queer- and trans-friendly, inclusive of different races and cultures, does not contain Christian preaching, and does not contain white supremacist or TERF dog whistles.

Homemaking/Housekeeping/Caring for your home:

Making It by Kelly Coyne and Erik Knutzen [book] (The big crunchy household DIY book; includes every level of self-sufficiency from making your own toothpaste and laundry soap to setting up raised beds to butchering a chicken. Authors are explicitly left-leaning.)

Safe and Sound: A Renter-Friendly Guide to Home Repair by Mercury Stardust [book] (A guide to simple home repair tasks, written with rentals in mind; very compassionate and accessible language.)

How To Keep House While Drowning by KC Davis [book] (The book about cleaning and housework for people who get overwhelmed by cleaning and housework, based on the premise that messiness is not a moral failing; disability and neurodivergence friendly; genuinely changed how I approach cleaning tasks.)

Gardening

Rebel Gardening by Alessandro Vitale [book] (Really great introduction to urban gardening; explicitly discusses renter-friendly garden designs in small spaces; lots of DIY solutions using recycled materials; note that the author lives in England, so check if plants are invasive in your area before putting them in the ground.)

Country/Rural Living:

Woodsqueer by Gretchen Legler [book] (Memoir of a lesbian who lives and works on a rural farm in Maine with her wife; does a good job of showing what it's like to be queer in a rural space; CW for mentions of domestic violence, infidelity/cheating, and internalized homophobia)

"Debunking the Off-Grid Fantasy" by Maggie Mae Fish [video essay] (Deconstructs the off-grid lifestyle and the myth of self-reliance)

Sewing/Mending:

Annika Victoria [YouTube channel] (No longer active, but their videos are still a great resource for anyone learning to sew; check out the beginner project playlist to start. This is where I learned a lot of what I know about sewing.)

Make, Sew, and Mend by Bernadette Banner [book] (A very thorough written introduction to hand-sewing, written by a clothing historian; lots of fun garment history facts; explicitly inclusive of BIPOC, queer, and trans sewists.)

Sustainability/Land Stewardship

Braiding Sweetgrass by Robin Wall Kimmerer [book] (Most of you have probably already read this one or had it recommended to you, but it really is that good; excellent example of how traditional animist beliefs -- in this case, indigenous American beliefs -- can exist in healthy symbiosis with science; more philosophy than how-to, but a great foundational resource.)

Wild Witchcraft by Rebecca Beyer [book] (This one is for my fellow witches; one of my favorite witchcraft books, and an excellent example of a place-based practice deeply rooted in the land.)

Avoiding the "Crunchy to Alt Right Pipeline"

Note: the "crunchy to alt-right pipeline" is a term used to describe how white supremacists and other far right groups use "crunchy" spaces (i.e., spaces dedicated to farming, homemaking, alternative medicine, simple living/slow living, etc.) to recruit and indoctrinate people into their movements. Knowing how this recruitment works can help you recognize it when you do encounter it and avoid being influenced by it.

"The Crunchy-to-Alt-Right Pipeline" by Kathleen Belew [magazine article] (Good, short introduction to this issue and its history.)

Sisters in Hate by Seyward Darby (I feel like I need to give a content warning: this book contains explicit descriptions of racism, white supremacy, and Neo Nazis, and it's a very difficult read, but it really is a great, in-depth breakdown of the role women play in the alt-right; also explicitly addresses the crunchy to alt-right pipeline.)

These are just the resources I've personally found helpful, so if anyone else has any they want to add, please, please do!

#homemaking #homemaking resources #gardening #urban gardening #self sufficiency #self sufficient living #sustainability #sustainable living #homesteading #nontrad homemaker #nontrad housewife #urban homesteading #solarpunk #cottagecore #kitchen witch #kitchen witchcraft #crunchy to alt right pipeline #book rec #book recommendations #resource #long post #mine #racism tw #racism mention #transphobia tw #transphobia mention

[rapha-reads]

I love going to bed right as one of my flatmate's alarm starts ringing. Absolutely adore how chaotic and messy I am right now. It's so great to finally turn off your lights when the rest of the world turns theirs back on. It's a power flex, you can't understand.

#oops it's 7am i stayed up all night reading - a memoire in 10 tomes by me #rapha rambles #okay but seriously flatmate needs to turn off her very annoying ringing alarm now thanks #at least when my alarm ring it's already long past noon and i don't bother anyone #anyway. let's take bets: at what hour am i going to get up today? i need at least 7 hours to feel relatively functional #but with my hypersomnia who knows when i'll realistically emerge. #sleep and i are not friends alas #one day maybe i'll try tp fix my toxic relationship with the whole concept of sleep #but not today. not today...

[fingertipsmp3]

I’m not sure if I’m actually in a reading slump or if it’s just that every single book I’m currently reading is a lot

#like one is a comedic memoir and it’s.. i mean it’s great but it’s a lot #that seems like a bad thing to say about somebody’s actual life but genuinely #there are a lot of very over the top and kind of anxiety inducing anecdotes so i keep having to read it in small doses #and then another of the books i’m reading is the third book in a YA trilogy that i started when i actually like. cared about #these characters and this world. so now.. i mean i still have a certain level of nostalgia but i have no fucking idea what’s going on #and my patience for teen romantic drama is absolutely nil. i just want to whack the leading man upside the head with his own sword #and tell him to stop self-flagellating and actually explain himself to people #i’m going to proceed with it i think because i want to know what happens and there are enough useless gays in this book to keep my interest #but it’s like. my god man. if one more person’s eyelashes get compared to angel wings or petals or something i’m going to piss #and then the THIRD book i’m currently reading is gay historical erotica. regardless of this; it is probably the best book of the three #quality-wise. However. i have come to the realisation that i don’t particularly care about either of these characters #see i love this author but she’s written SO many more interesting characters and these two are just… i don’t care #i’m now only here for the smut. PLUS i got spoiled for the ending because my kindle decided to fucking malfunction while i was trying #to search for something; and it showed me a bunch of shit and i was like ‘thanks?????’ #like do i have to know that the one hero’s sister is going to run away to germany with the other hero’s niece #or that this guy’s best friend is going to (completely unforeshadowed) turn out to be a villain and get told to sod off #was it necessary. #idk. i think part of it is that i took a few days’ break from reading anything (to play stardew valley nonstop) and part of it is that all #three of these books are so very much. it’s not that i’m not enjoying myself it’s just.. the histrionics are absolutely unbearable #i need to read something written by someone who has never experienced a human emotion or depicted one either #personal