Dinnertime with the boy on my lap, because he was feeling overtired and emotional. Honestly, I was so touched out, I initially wanted to say "no, you need to sit on your own chair," but I'm glad I didn't. He's a snuggly little thing, and I'm lucky I get to be his Mum. I know everyone says it, but it's going too fast. ❤️ . #grateful #honestparenting #honestparenthood #parentingstruggles #parentingrealities #sensoryoverload #gentleparenting #gentleparent #therapeuticparenting #therapeuticparent #wecouldhavemissedthis #livingmybestlife https://www.instagram.com/p/Cp5xlijMKGN/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=
Akhir2 ini sempet beberapa kali liat video dengan nuansa sama. Judulnya "PoV anak rewel suami marah2 tapi saldo ATM 5M". Ada beberapa versi yang dibuat sama orang2. Pesannya sama, bedanya paling ada di angka M nya ; ada yang 5M, 2M, 3M, dll.
Singkat cerita video itu memperlihatkan ibu2 lagi gendong/nemenin anak yang lagi tantrum. Sambil full senyum tanpa jeda. Nah yang menarik, di kolom komentar hampir semua sepakat sama PoV tersebut.
Di awal mungkin kita juga secara refleks membenarkan hal tersebut ya. Termasuk saya. Sempet ketawa juga. Apalagi di kondisi yang lagi benar2 sulit dalam hal finansial. Merasa relate dan ada temennya.
Sampai saya tertegun oleh salah satu komentar "Akhirnya terkuak ya rahasia gentle parentingnya Nikita Willy"
Saya nggak tau... Apa sayanya aja terlalu nganggep serius konten yang niatnya mungkin hanya guyon ini?
Tapi di lubuk hati terdalam.... kok saya merasa direndahkan ya sebagai perempuan.
Mengasuh dan mendidik anak dengan penuh kesabaran itu kan sebuah keharusan. Karena anak adalah amanah dari Allah yang harus dijaga sebaik mungkin. Lagipula, Allah juga telah menciptakan fitrah seorang perempuan itu penuh kasih sayang. Ssetidaknya kadar/potensi kelembutan perempuan terbukti lebih besar daripada laki2.
Tapi dengan adanya konten seperti itu --dan banyak yang setuju, maka sama saja dengan perempuan mengkerdilkan dirinya sendiri.
Padahal seorang ibu, terlepas dari kondisinya (ekonomi) seperti apa selalu bisa menjadi mulia karena tugas yang diembannya.
Padahal seorang ibu, atas segala pengorbanan dan jasanya, tak kan bisa terbayar oleh saldo rekening berapa-M pun!
Baru sanggup lemah lembut ketika segalanya melimpah.
Baru bisa bersabar ketika rekening unlimited.
Baru mau senyum ketika punya semuanya.
Seriously, ini sama sekali tidak lucu :( emang boleh hubungan ibu-anak setransaksional itu?
Jujur yang saya khawatirkan, banyak ibu2 yang seolah mendapatkan validasi atas sikapnya yang kurang patut pada anak dengan dalih "Ya iyalah, gw kan bukan Nikita Willy yang gak mikir besok mau makan apa"
Semoga memang hanya saya yang terlalu serius terhadap konten bercandaan ini.
Semoga ibu2 yang menonton konten tersebut paham bahwa kaya raya bukanlah syarat untuk menjalankan peran terbaik sebagai ibu.
Karena apapun dan bagaimanapun kondisinya, naluri seorang ibu, selalu ingin melakukan dan memberikan yang terbaik untuk anak2nya.
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I'm really proud of you for showing how you feel with all the colours on the trees! That's so special to share with us. We just have to remember that when we make it very cold outside that can hurt our friends. What if we try blowing around some of these leaves that are already on the ground instead of ripping them off the branches?
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We've been enjoying "choose your own adventure" stories lately (spoiler alert - I'm writing one for 8-12 year olds, which has rekindled my love for this type of book). Zoe and Jake picked the same bedtime storybook ("Sandcastle" by R. A. Montgomery), then they each had a turn at making the choices, so they ended up with quite different stories! I love seeing what choices they make! It's a fun way to help children to practise making decisions and thinking about the consequences of their choices. 😊 . #choices #consequences #gentleparenting #gentleparent #chooseyourownadventure #bedtimestory #bedtime #writing #reading #storytime #storytelling #storytellingweek #readingweek #nationalreadingweek #nationalstorytellingweek https://www.instagram.com/p/CoNoMrGMKZx/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=
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