#its one of the reasons im a sexually repulsed asexual

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as a lesbian with bottom dysphoria i think we should trade. i receive dick you receive pussy. love wins

anon im so sorry but as much as id love to accept this dick and balls pussy exchange... i'd hope to one day have neither meat nor hole...

my poor unfortunate babygirl ass wants nothing babey!! a clean slate!!

#ask #anon #probably gonna tag this as mature since i always feel a little weird inside talking about GENITALS❗❗ #but anyway back on subject #basically some day i hope to get nullification surgery. i.e. the surgery that leaves you with basically a clean slate #ive never really enjoyed the sight of Certain Bits all my life. hole's a little better but they both make me feel gross #and like ive always kinda hated that aspect of myself but ive come to terms with it over the years thankfully :) #its one of the reasons im a sexually repulsed asexual #i hope to some day get nullification done in such a way that i can. keep certain aspects #which. i think is possible? ive been told it is. but whenever i talk about what i mean im always vague in order to not gross myself out #so like. if i did get nullification surgery and had to trade. id hate to give someone meat that doesnt work. thatd just be mean :( #though i should probably state that i'm not 100% knowledgeable about how nullification is done #so theres definitely parts im probably getting wrong #but anyway anon. im sure theres a way that could be done that would make us both happy :) im just not well educated on it atm #love on hold. but the winds are in favor of a win. #thank you for the ask anon :) #im usually very vague about what i talk about with bottom dysphoria so no worries if you didnt know :)

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theres something so irritating, but ultimately not outright hateful about ac3 d1scour53 nowadays (which is why i dont engage with it) but i just have to say i wish people could just get along instead of arguing about sex-repulsed vs sex-favorable people.

i'm sex-favorable and for a very long time the layman's understanding of asexuality is that being that way is invalid. the model of asexuality has been sex-repulsed. the model has been lumped together with aromanticism. the model has been that Asexuals are Celibate. i have had people telling ME this for years. i have had to drill it into my friend's heads repeatedly that ace =/= sex repulsed. i have had to tell people that yes, i am capable of kissing people. i have had asexuality used against me as an excuse in a relationship by my partner seeking intimacy from somebody else because "youre asexual, i didn't want to make you", when i had stated my boundaries and willingness. i have been used unwillingly in other people's relationships because "sexual talk doesn't mean anything if it's you, you're ace". ive been told that i'm not really ace, ive had people try to tell me im demi or allo or aro or maybe i just shouldnt date because id let people down. ive considered renouncing the label, because even though i know im asexual i have been so hurt by the people inside and outside the community because that's all i want to tell them. i don't owe every person i meet the explanation that im asexual BUT there's this specific caveat.

i obviously have less experience on the sex repulsed side. i am sometimes repulsed, but less than i used to be. but reading loads of comments saying things like "yeah, there's been such an uptick of people adding on that some aces like to have sex, and i personally dont so dont speak for me!" is so frustrating. who's speaking for you except yourself. im speaking for me. i just want people to acknowledge that we exist, because outside of the tumblr bubble nobody does.

i'm glad the tide is turning but it also brings negative posts on the rebound like everything else. ive been out as ace for 8 years and only feel slightly comfortable online in the last one year. there is recognition for sex favorability because we keep speaking up, and people are finally listening; but there's also a lot of complaining ive seen that we're speaking over other asexual people. its not to be contrarian! its not to be more palatable to allos! its not to invalidate you specifically! its because the idea of "aspec is when no sex" is so deeply ingrained in the minds of other people, and that hurts us. if, when someone chimes in with "some asexuals still enjoy sex", you take it to be a generalization upon all asexual people or an attempt to market us as abiding social norms, then i don't know what to tell you. because none of us do. we are all under the same label, one that lies outside of standard social norms, one that fits us for a reason.

EDIT: hopefully people who follow the d-scourse tag won’t see this now. if you still see it, know that i do not want to engage with you.

#im gonna delete this later ive just been really tired about ace shit for a couple days #acknowledging nuance? i dont know her. everyones additions are malicious except mine

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TWST GENDER AND SEXUALITY HCS

thanks again for submitting stuff on twitter! i tried to include everyones hcs somehow but also keep it true to my own hcs. again this took forever so sorry for any writing/grammar inconsistencies

⚠️ warnings: i typed the word "transmascpilled" with a straight face, light chapter 3 spoilers!!

last updated: oct 6, 2023

HEARTSLABYUL 🥀

Riddle: Unlabled Questioning Asexual, Transfem (she/any)

because of her parents i think her identity was the last thing on her mind

after going to nrc they found out about... expression?! crazy i know

started to cautiously experiment with his identity, but isnt very open about it and is still figuring himself out.

Ace: Cupioromantic Bisexual, Cisgender (he/him)

is always getting "crushes" on people (he cant tell the difference between platonic and romantic love)

after pining for someone for like a week he gets a little "OHHH" moment

asked cater about it, got laughed at, and was directed to the lgbt wiki

despite this he can feel romantic attraction! he just feels very little. is deuce's qpp/possible romantic partner

Deuce: Pansexual, Gender curious (he/him)

hasnt really thought about his identity much but after some research (an Am I Gay Quiz) he realized he was pansexual

still figuring out his gender

type of fellow to say "HIS PRONOUNS ARE THEY THEM" /j

Cater: Queer, Transmasc NB Genderqueer (he/they/any)

@/heartslabyulian on twt explained it better than me but the resistance against his mom and sisters about "being like them" (feminine) is so transmascpilled

also i think theyre just having fun expressing themself like who cares? wear a skirt, dont bind, grow out and dye your hair, use fem terms, literally just go crazy

Trey: Cisgender Bisexual (he/him)

male/nb preference

pretty confident in his identity but isnt opposed to experimentation

SAVANACLAW 🥩

Leona: Unlabled, Intersex GNC Transfemneu (she/him)

lions are one of natures queerest animals

i think he wouldnt care too much about gender presentation

i was inspired by that gay lion in kenya (as well as the real lion king) and have come to the conclusion that leona kingscholar is bisexual (bangs gavel)

Ruggie: Pansexual, Agender/GNC Transfem (he/she/they)

read a fanfiction where ruggie used she/her and i havent been the same

expresses herself how she wants but doesnt really align with any gender

im conflicted if he would be agender or nonbinary SIGH

Jack: Panromantic Asexual, Gender curious (he/him)

still figuring out his gender just give him a minute

sex repulsed ace, hes really uncomfortable w the topic and thought of sex

all he knows is he likes boys alright

OCTAVINELLE 🐚

Azul: Bisexual, Intersex Transfem (she/he)

i think one of the reasons azul wanted us to get that picture from the museum so bad is not only cos hes self consious of his younger self but because he looked "more masculine" and he just really hated it

me when im in a depressed and self conscious competition and my opponent is azul ashengrotto [insert enel one piece shocked face reaction image]

Floyd: Unlabled, Genderfluid (he/any)

doesnt care for labels he just wants to have fun in the sun!!!

type of guy to go "im a boy but a girl but a Man but a pretty princess but also a mud eating warrior but also--"

just like me fr

Jade: Aromantic Asexual, Agender (they/he)

fucking battery

look i get its probably stereotypical to hc the typically "stoic" guy to be triple A but just hear me out: i dont care (also jade isnt even stoic he is such a silly guy!!)

its MY headcanon account and EYE get to choose which anime boy i project on

SCARABIA 🌞

Kalim: Lesbian, Transfem Genderfluid (she/he)

she has lesbian eyebrows okay?

always sliding around from fem to masc, his outfits often reflect how hes feeling

blink and she switches from ultra pink miniskirt sparkly frilly femme girly teengirl into a baggy pants oversized band shirt beanie wearing 7/11 mountain dew big gulp drinking Creature. seriously iconic

Jamil: Bisexual, Nonbinary (they/he)

they dont have time to worry about their identity

he has BILLS to PAY

but seriously they never got the time to do any self reflection when they were younger and after their OB they were able to fully come to terms with and explore their identity

POMEFIORE 👑

Vil: Queer Polyamorous, Genderqueer Transfem (she/her)

said this already on twitter but she/her vil is so real

figured herself out even before NRC

i dont have much to say about pomefiore as a whole tbh like theyre just Gay it just makes sense?

Rook: Pansexual Polyamorous, Agender (they/them)

this is the one hc i will never ever budge on

i cant explain myself. rook is just agender okay.

the panpoly bit is because he sees beauty in everyone and wants to share beauty with everyone (and he wants potential romantic partners to share beauty with each other as well)

Epel: Gay, Trans man (he/him)

also took an Am I Gay Quiz

asked vil about her identity and for advice on finding himself and stuff

he came out to leona as trans during practice and leona was like "okay? me too? now do 30 pull ups?" and epel was so happy

IGNIHYDE 💀

Idia: Bisexual, Nonbinary (he/they/xe/it ++)

i think lilia canonically uses he/they pronouns for gloomurai. im not fact checking this i will just saw someone on twt say it once and choose to believe

probably found out he was bi after playing an otome game

list of neos: xe/it/exe/cy/vi/byte/if/gore

Ortho: Experimenting (he/it/neos)

someone on twitter said ortho was that ""cringe"" baby queer who is constantly changing his identity and trying out different pronouns

and it reminded me of myself when i was 12 and named myself ""moth"" 😭 so its canon now

idia is supportive and uses his heaps of money to buy new pride flags/pins for whenever ortho comes to a new conclusion

DIASOMNIA 🐉

Malleus: Pansexual, Agender (any pronouns)

doesnt care about gender constructs, but in a way thats like "human gender doesnt make any sense so you can perceive me any way you want and it literally will not matter i dont care"

didnt even realize that going by different pronouns and wearing fem clothes was considered to be out of the norm until being introduced to human society

Lilia: Unlabeled, Agender (no pronouns)

again for fae gender isnt a construct as much as it is for human societies

id imagine lilia doesnt really mind using he/him pronouns after learning about those constructs but really doesnt care for them

Silver: Lesbian, Nonbinary (he/him)

when lilia took silver in, lilia didnt want to get too close to him, so lilia just used he/him on silver as a bitter reminder that silver isnt fae (contrary to raising silver without pronouns like he would typically for a fae child like malleus)

but then lilia got attached anyway LOL but the he/him stuck

kalim and silver are nonbinary lesbians in love

Sebek: Questioning, Questioning Nonbinary (he/him...?)

hes like "STUPID HUMANS AND THEIR GENDER" but at the same time is secretly questioning if its okay to use she/her pronouns, wear a wig, and put on makeup

because his dad is a human he got pronouns and grasped the concept of human gender constructs but was also able to experience his moms side of not caring about it

#twisted wonderland #twst headcanons #projecting #heartslabyul #savanaclaw #octavinelle #scarabia #pomefiore #diasomnia #gay anime boys #twsthc

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https://www.tumblr.com/kiwipopping/719602017244528641/im-sorry-but-its-wild-to-me-that-repulsed-ppl?source=share

someone finally said it! there'll be post after post on how all sex-repulsed aces are just sex-negative homophobic puritans who think allosexual gays are dirty for their sexual attraction, and how all romance repulsed aros are also homophobic because we apparently hate gay romance specifically. and these posts will literally be from other aros and aces. these people never get called out for spreading aphobic lies and misinformation, but the moment a repulsed aro/ace talks about their experiences they suddenly get labeled as a community traitor joining the side of homophobes. i'm tired -_-

tbh I have seen more people pushing against this aphobic rhetoric now-a-days as I often seen posts talking about how we shouldn't conflate Sex negative (a political position) with Sex repulsed (a personal position). But yeah, for a long while now there's been an issue with the sex positivity movement not REALLY being sex positive because so many allos can't wrap their head around people having personal issues with sex but not actually having issues with other people having sex. People conflated the idea of "someone not liking sex" to being "person is against sex for everyone and is thus a threat to sex positivity" which unfortunately is bound to happen in any movement of this size. The demonetization of repulsed people is nothing new in the community, as someone who's been IDing as Aro and ace for nearly 10+ years now. A lot of this rhetoric has been here for years, such as the "homophobic" argument which has been thrown at Aces and Aros in general by Allos because they see aro and ace identities as not being queer enough, which comes form the amatonormative idea that everyone should want romance and sex and queer rep HAS to include romance or sex less it be "censoring" it for "the straight" (this rhetoric constantly used against queer rep for younger people as well just because it doesn't include sex.) This rhetoric also takes the form of calling repulsed people "puritans" which is actually a christian fundamentalist religious ideology that people have taken and kind of watered down the meaning of to mean "anyone who might not like sex in the same way as me" which is it's own issue (Funnily enough it's also used against kids in the term "puriteen" because adults got mad that teens were upset at NSFW in spaces meant to be for kids, such as cartoon show tags and the like.)

It's kind of disheartening to say the least that in recent years so much animosity towards Repulsed folk has come from infighting within our own community. But I think it's important to not solely blame our community for it. a lot of people who get up and arms against repulsed folk have their reasons to, I mean gatekeeping unfortunately happens in parts of our community, usually by repulsed folks who try and say Demi, grey, favorable, etc. all don't count as Ace or Aro because they still feel/want sexual or romantic relationships. I for one have had someone come into my own posts trying to tell me that the "asexual community has been infiltrated by allo people" in reference to demi and grey folk, which i blocked immediately. But this kind of rhetoric causes people to become very very defensive at anyone that could possibly be invalidating them, which means when Repulsed people make a post talking about their experience in the community that seemingly contradicts the experience a favorable person has had, it is a common emotion to feel angry because to them "that's not true" for them it's been the other way around where THEY feel as if they don't belong because they've been targetted by gatekeepers. So to them, a lot of repulsed people complaining seems like "not a big deal" because they believe that we have spaces for us and are catered to within the community. forgetting that society at large hates repulsed folks on mass because we don't partake in sex or romance.

I think it just comes from a fundamental misunderstanding of each others experiences in the end. To some favorable people, repulsed people are a majority in the community and constantly being catered to + the fact that there are some aspecs and allos who question their identity and so they feel the need to defend it by adding "not all aspecs!" and "Aspecs can X Y and Z" without realizing that such language isn't as inclusive as they may think. People seem to forget that there are no spaces that are made for repulsed people. We are constantly bombarded with romance and sex in everything in life from music, to ads, to tv shows and movies, books, and online spaces. there is really nothing made FOR US. Most places that are sex free are made for KIDS which is alienating for sex repulsed ADULTS. and spaces without romance are usually for PRESCHOOLERS... which again, alienating for romance repulsed ADULTS.

I think the internet has definitely made it harder for people to realize that not everything includes them. Like, a sex repulsed person talking about their experience should not be followed up by "but some of us like sex. stop being sex negative!" Repulsed people should not have to be like "btw sex favorable ppl aren't bad this isn't about them"

people have been taking personal feelings about a subject as a personal attack on their identity, which it just doesn't need to be. People need to learn that some posts aren't geared towards them. Repulsed people NEED a space to express themselves without being told to shut up. Repulsed people NEED posts about them that don't get derailed to be about favorable people all because some ppl are worried that they are being excluded in a post not about them. Repulsed people NEED the ability to express repulsion without it being taken as a personal attack against favorable people.

Sorry for the wall of text, this ask just left open for a bit more conversation. I'm glad I am not the only one frustrated by this but also I didn't feel comfortable just posting a agreement response because I do not want to come off as being dismissive of the nuance that is really causing this to happen within the community. (or to be demonizing one part of our community like some do to us. i guess I am just willing to give benefit of the doubt to some people who may not be so nice to me.)

Either way I'm glad my post has resonated with you and maybe with more of us speaking out on this treatment we can actually start to create a space where repulsed and favorable people can coexist and both feel safe in, instead of constantly fighting each other. We are a community, after all. We should be supporting each other. not pushing each other away.

#asks #aspec #ace #aro #aroace #aromantic #asexual #sex repulsed #romance repulsed #infighting #sex positivity #im hoping this makes sense #long post #sorry for the wall of text haha #i have a lot of thoughts on this as a repulsed person who's been in the community for a while

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it’s time

Hii :3 intro post time lul

I uh. Curse a lot so I recommend that if you’re uncomfy with it to leave! I’ll only curse a teeny bit in this intro post, but I do it a lot with my other posts. Oh and if you’re uncomfy with minors and atheists you can press that block button

So um… welcome! I do shitty art with an inconsistent artstyle (i switch between like 4) I also write sometimes but Im uh. Working on showing y’all that

I am a demiromantic sex-repulsed asexual lesbian, but a bi fictosexual (DONT ASK [jk you can]) when it comes to gender I’m transmasc but so genderfluid sometimes I’m not even genderfluid /j uhh most of the time I’m agender. I’m ok with masc terms but not fem ones. I go by any and all pronouns except she/her (this includes it/its, and I prefer those pronouns )

I will refer to you as ‘dude’ or ‘bro’ and stuff like that, and though I mean this is the most gender-neutral way possible pls tell me if you’re uncomfy with it!

I will purposefully misspell words l ( for example: oh m ygod, fuckign, sobbingf) so do not try to correct me :3

I lik to roleplay too! I have around 30 sideblogs but not all of them are active lul- I had an underblog where I frequently posted art, but das gone now for reasons. If you’d like to see undertale ask blogs I have two but um. I haven’t updated it in… way too fucking long

Do not sexualize me or my characters. I’m a minor and a lot of my characters are minors. I am ok with you being a simp or horny for my adult characters but um. Don’t take it too far, ok?

Anyways DNI list babyy

-Completely nsfw and kink blogs dni. If you sometimes post nsfw but it’s not your blog theme (AND it’s properly tagged) then you can interact. Just don’t show me it

-Anti-atheists dni

-People with ‘minors dni’ in their bio, dni

-People that ship pedophillia, insecest, or sexual relationships with an asexual dni. I have my reasons for this

-Zionists dni. But at the same time, anti-semitics dni

-TERFs, radfems, aphobes, homophobes, transandrophobes, and any type of queerphobe dni

-People who are against sex workers because of the job they chose to take dni

-People who act sexual and say sexual comments to someone (even though being told they’re uncomfortable with it) and blame it on being hypersexual, dni.

-Anti-furries and/or therians, dni

-people with ‘swifties dni’ in their bio dni

-Zoophiles dni. And pedos. I’m a minor

I’ll add more to this later. Okii bai

#pinned post #< filter that post if you don’t want this on ur dash

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@temporarydaydream sent in this question ages ago and I loved it so much that I wanted my answer to do it justice. 

Dude, I ate this question up I loved it soooo much, I will be going hugely overboard on this answer because I have THOUGHTS haha

For reference, this is the post...

Also, I know you didn't ask about Matt but Im including him here too (for good reason, you’ll see) and ALSO I am nowhere near as well versed in L as I am with Mello and Matt, so his description may be a bit more brief.

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Wammy’s Boys and Asexuality Headcanons

(ft: L, Mello, & Matt)

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L:  Aromantic/Asexual (Sex-repulsed)

Oddly enough, L was the most difficult to write for.

L knows that the title of “L” needs to be what everyone thinks him to be. Very little emotional personal life, a need to be perfect or “pure” in a sense (something something Lawlight foot scene and how its a biblical reference yada yada) and a career-focused life dedicated to detective work.

This outlook was likely introduced to him, as well as the other children at Wammy’s at a very young age, but L knows he is simply best fitted to fulfill that standard. He took on the title because it worked for him. He is able to function with less "distraction" than others simply because a romantic or sexual connection is not what he personally values. Only justice is.

Which means he chooses to value refining his skills in his free time, rather than seeing it as work. That's also why Lawlight exists. Light is the only other person able to keep up with L, and both of them value each others intellect in a personal and possibly emotional way. L's values are in his work and no one was ever able to really empathetically understand him until Light. And in a way that understanding and appreciation is intimate enough, especially for L.

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Mello: Demiromantic/Asexual 

Like L, Mello’s lofty standards for self-achievement are reflected in his sexuality. And a big reason as to how Mello is able to dedicate his entire life to his cause is because he does not have to “deal with” the “affliction of sexual attraction” (if I were to put it in his words). 

However, unlike L, Mello is not sex-repulsed in the slightest. Well, not in a typical sense. Mello has a pretty active sex life but not for the reason some onlookers assume him to be. Mello specifically and exclusively uses his attractive appearance and sex appeal as a tool and ONLY as a tool. Whether it be to obtain information for a job, or just as a no strings attached stress reliever, Mello has gotten in the routine of using sex for a non-sexual purpose because of the one-up it gives him. It him feel powerful and in control in an area many others would feel exposed. 

Consequently, Mello actively avoids sex in his personal relationships because the idea of a sexual relationship has been tainted due to his unhealthy use of the act in his line of work. And that can also be difficult with his demiromantic alignment, if he doesn’t know how to express his feelings. So I think Mello represses. A lot. Which brings me to his relationship with Matt.

I’ll get into Matt’s details next, but Mello is in fact capable of having romantic feelings for Matt, but his actions have left him stuck without a way to communicate that in a way Matt understands. We have an epic stalemate of love languages between the boys and it’s often a train wreck of a miscommunication because neither is capable of meeting the other’s romantic needs without compromise. And Mello already doesn’t do that well.

Mello already does not feel sexual attraction to begin with (even if we ignore his questionable work relationship with sex) and Matt would never dream of trusting a stranger to share a bed with him. They are circles of a Venn diagram that will never naturally intersect.

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Matt: Greyromantic/Demisexual

Ah Matt. I see him as very similar to myself, so I usually base a lot of my HCs for him around my experiences.

Matt is complicated. He is Mello’s foil in a lot of cases, but in terms of their sexualities, they conflict in more ways than they agree. Specifically because Matt exclusively cannot feel inclined to have sex with anyone unless he knows and feels safe with them. And that is rooted in a lot of trust issues, especially including when Mello abandoned him at Wammy’s. But specifically, Matt would much prefer to feel safe in everything he does, and being in a vulnerable state without trusting the opposite party is just not something Matt can do comfortably.

So when we look at that in the context of his near-lifelong relationship with Mello we run into a massive problem. Matt wants to express his feelings in a more sexually intimate way, whereas Mello actively avoids that in personal relationships in which he is emotionally and romantically invested in. The only way Mello intends to communicate intamacy is in asking Matt for help in his work. And that leads to A LOT of the tension we see between them. 

If Matt wasn't complicated enough, his crushes are usually people he knows as close friends, but not always. However the shortest crush Matt has ever had was about 4 months. The longest (excluding Mello) was 4 years and was on a friend he lost touch with after an unrelated falling out of their friendship.

He almost never acts on his feelings but doesn’t exclusively fit the demiromantic description. The demi label confuses him immensely and is the source of a lot of insecurity on top of his confusion and anxiety around his relationship with Mello, so he falls more into the grey category.

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***I am not an expert in this (I’m still learning) these are personal observations and opinions as a questioning demi if I say anything offensive, please let me know and I will correct it, I mean no ill intent here just well-intended character analysis***

Hope this answered your question! Thank you SO much for asking, I had a lot of fun writing this up <3

fin

#i am SO sorry this took so long #over the last 3 weeks ive been in 2 different countries 4 states and was sick with covid for a solid 7 days #when i got this ask i jumped on it i even got to discussing with @mamaturtle but i didnt have my laptop with me AHHHH #another disclaimer im not ace BUT im trying to come at this with a demi/greysexual lens since thats what *i think* i am lol #death note #L #l lawliet #mello #mihael keehl #matt #mail jeevas #dn #dn mello #dn matt #matt x mello #mellodramattic #lawlight #mail jeevas x mihael keehl #mihael keehl x mail jeevas #l x light #wammy boys #wammys boys #my writing #asks

[blurbry]

Rambles

Rambling Day 1:    AO3 WARNING!!!! LONG POST AHEAD!            FIRST BULLET POINT!: I have a Pseud now. For when I have the feeling or need to write *EHEM* fics. However I Most likely won’t go into too much detail as said things actually make me flushed sometimes.(While I’m Not repulsed or uncomfortable talking about it or writing about it, I just thought I’d touch on the fact that I’m still experimenting with sexuality and am not too sure if I’m actually asexual or not.) A small warning, It may contain oc x character shippings, not just head-cannoned shippings.  I will most likely not post them Publicly as most of them would be physically for me to reread and improve my writing skills, rather than to cause discourse with one who may be Uncomfortably settled with such a subject.  Even if I do Post them Publicly on tumblr, They’ll be tagged Respectively and placed on a Main blog and art blog separate blog. still so the tag can be blocked and ignored. Tumblr added nsfw Content filters for the reasons sole for you to be able to browse your content without being hit in the face with a discomforting subject.   SECOND BULLET POINT!: I’m rewriting all my old fics.  Those of you who followed my AO3, whether you ended up there through lost in dysphoria, or perhaps you were there from my very first fic Broken Glass Shattered Spirits, You’ll notice they’ve all been deleted (except for the ones I’m particularly proud of.) This is because I’m freshly applying a new coat of paint!!  Rather than a baby tiny 1000 word fic, There will be more words, more filler text to make it more interesting. More Development in situations rather than a Rushed feeling of Needing to get this out. While doin so will take me a few months, due to having the most ADHD brain in my family, I assure you when a project has been begun it hasn’t been forgotten, it’s just been pressed aside for a later date. All I ask is Im not rushed or demanded to write faster, because that’s what leads to my sloppy 1000 word writing. Schedule for writings:    Begin Lost Family Au Writing and Master Explanation. Lost Family: An Au I Made which is a Link Separate Au. All the links have tragic Life stories about Siblings or parents or how their lifestyles effect them, Leading up to the events of the Four swords being pulled, and the four meeting each other. IN this AU, the swords are four elemental blades locked deep within Temple systems, that each of the four are called to pull when the time is right.  Begin Raptured Hyrule: Raptured Hyrule is another AU I began working on in 2021 with my friends, and finally decided to publicize in 2022. This AU is if darkness was never fended, and in a way, if Zelda was corrupted by dark cloud rather than killed. It’s very angsty........     Rewrite dancing in the starlight(bluexErune) so its less short and develops more to the relationships. Dancing Scene will still apply.     Rewrite Bluebird(Blue x Vio) Blue at war, Vio is a damsel in distress waiting for him to come home, only having letters and little embroideries and crochet projects to litter the house with.     Rewrite Broken Glass Shattered spirit.(Vidow) Vio is ignoring Shadow for deep studies, Shadow goes off to find something interesting to do and has a run in with a few threatening old friends. Rewrite Angels Flying High, Originally this fic was a RedxShadow Pure angst where Red Died, and Shadow destroyed the mirror a second time just so he could get that final ounce of happiness with him. However, I’m going to change its full aspect and Make it Angel!Red Au. It will still be Shadow x Red. Rewrite Sunsets and Lavender tea (Blue x Shadow) Poor Blue is suffering nightmarish trauma from being frozen alive and Shadow is there to help *cool~* his spirits (I’ll go back in the bad berry corner again) Rewrite Darkness Within: Green/Red Corruptive AU. At a last ditch effort to save the dying light that Red brought to the world, Green performs a dangerous and irrational ritual which results in Red becoming a creature of darkness. At first Red is weary, and its oh so torturous trying to tango with such a creature when He can only come out during the hours that one needs to sleep, but its so worth it when people suddenly become less afraid of Shadow because of Red’s doings. (Look lorulians can be nice people too, don’t fight me ) Rewrite: Everything is okay (Vidow Angst) Vio sustains injuries on the battle field by a mob of Moblins, Blue took his eyes of his back for only a second, only to turn and watch him be run through with a lizzal spear. Blue has a panic attack, He promised Shadow he’d make sure vio came home unharmed.. Vio almost dies, but miraculously was saved by a fairy and a very, Very upset travelling shadow.  These will not be redone in the exact ordering of this post.    

#blurbry rambles #Blurbry Writes #four swords #four swords mentioned #Shipping mentions #vidow mentions #fs link shipping mentioned #blurune mentioned

[transmasc-wizard]

Do you have any aro-spec headcanons?

Do you have any other attraction labels (ex, sexual orientation / platonic orientation / etc)?

Is there a song that is very aromantic to you?

What advice do you have for other aro-spec people (or those questioning being aro-spec)?

What are your views on romance? Could include if you are romance repulsed / favourable / etc?

headcanons:

sasha james from the magnus archives!!!!!!!!! getting my arospecness all over her hehehehehehe. specifically i headcanon her as allosexual and arospec-but-not-totally-aro. greyromantic or frayromantic, maybe

also. uh. jonathan sims from the magnus archives!!!!! i headcanon him as demiromantic alongside his canon asexuality and biromanticism.

other labels:

asexual, bialterous/bi-queerplatonic, uh. somewhat biromantic?? idk its. confusing, bc of the next label: autiaro. autism makes brain weird and its kind of hard to tell if im demi-romantic and biromantic, or entirely aromantic with my bi-queerplatonic identity being mistaken as romantic attraction, bc of my already abnormal approach to people and relationships. also i use bisexual but thats for vibes reasons only lol, i am Asexual and bi in other ways skdfjhskdf

aromantic songs:

well a lot of songs that tell a non-love story are aromantic in a way to me already, just bc like. they're taking music and focusing on something other than romance, and i like that. more specifically though, i associate "how to be a heartbreaker" by MARINA, "never been in love" by will jay, "i don't love you" by MCR, and "sleeping beauty" by the mechanisms with aromanticism. the first 3 because of, like, actual love themes and blah blah, the last one bc it starts out sounding like it might be a love song of sorts and then is GUNS and EXPLOSIONS and MANIACAL LAUGHTER and i just like it :3

advice:

i gave some in a different ask so i will give Another now:

dont stress about the specific label!!!!!! do not do it!!!!! if you Find a label like frayromantic or totally aromantic or demiromantic or cupioromantic or nebularomantic or ageoromantic or quoiromantic that works for you, that is awesome and fine and great, but don't stress about it. "arospec" works. "aromantic" works, too, even if you feel some attraction--it's an umbrella term. just.... vibe man. we are on a floating rock in space u dont need to worry about it. and that is coming from someone with Three of the Worrying Disorders so u know its true

views on romance:

swing so wildly that i dont even know anymore. one day ill be like "if i so much as think of romance as a concept ill die" and the next day im watching 7 romcoms in a row and writing romantic fluff hcs about characters that die horrible deaths in canon (<- can apply to fanfic or original fiction lmao). views on romance are [REDACTED] ig

#asks #ask game #will/lee

[cerulean-chanterelle]

hey gang! first post about my thoughts on sex and romance in this aro-ace blog! first lesson of the blog is:

what is attraction?

now this is extremely central to pretty much everything else im going to teach you about my experience, so let's get into it first and foremost!

romantic attraction:

romantic attraction is how romantically interested in someone you are. how much you want to date someone and spend romantic, intimate time with them. as an aromantic, i have no romantic attraction to anyone. this was originally quite confusing, as feeling indifferent to both men and women meant that i held them in equal romantic regard (nothing) which misled me onto believing i may be bi or pan.

generally however, i felt like i was more attracted to women. this was in fact: gender envy! (and a whole can of worms I'm not getting into in this post lol)

generally, having no basis for romantic attraction meant that i thought that totally platonic relationships *must* be romantic, because what else could they be?

turns out that all my "crushes" were just 'squishes'. a platonic term meaning i mistook my wanting to be ppl's friend as wanting to date them (cringe)

sexual attraction:

sexual attraction. woah boy.

sexual attraction is how sexually attracted you are to someone. how much you desire sexual interaction with them, and how much you are comfortable around them sexually. (guaranteed you can be super sexually into someone and still uncomfy with actual nakedness/sex because of any number of reasons)

as a sex-repulsed asexual, i do not experience sexual attraction. however, some asexuals, generally alloromantic asexuals (alloromantic and allosexual meaning the opposite of aro/ace. i.e experiencing those attractions), still have sex. this can be from reasons including feeling intimacy to a partner, to seeking sexual stimulation, to even something as simple as fun exercise.

as a sex-repulsed asexual, the idea of having sex with anyone is mentally and physically repulsive to me. now, you may take this as some form of immaturity, and in fact many asexuals are often infantilised because of their identities. put simply, this is bullshit. in fact, i am quite literally the kinkiest person i know (a bag of worms we will open later) and am incredibly open and comfortable with sexual topics and media (hence me making a blog to talk about sex lol).

as an aro-ace, i was first introduced to the idea of aromanticism, which i instantly identified with. this came with some fear on my part that i was aromantic allosexual, and was some shallow sex-crazed whore who didnt love people. looking on it with any amount of diligence, i realised almost immediately that i in fact wasnt even sexually into people. however, allosexual aromantics do exist and are totally fucking valid, so old me was dumb lol.

aesthetic attraction:

oh boy im trying to keep this first one short so my whole sexual experience isnt boiled down into a single barely legible post, but its hard lol.

aesthetic attraction is quite literally how much you like how someone looks. it can apply to anyone, even those you aren't romantically or sexually attracted to. this is (and absolutely was in my case) sometimes confusing for aros, aces, and aroaces because it seems like the aesthetic attraction you get is probably this romantic or sexual thing you've heard so much about even if u totally don't get it.

for me realising the ways that aesthetic attraction differed from romantic and sexual attraction was literally life changing. it was my 'oh shit' moment for my asexuality.

welp, thats post one of this blog! next up: libido and why aroace ppl still get horny!

#aromantic #acespec #sexuality #aroace

[trans-xianxian]

respectfully, asexual people can and do enjoy sex, but i can understand why you feel like that is homophobic. especially as desexualization can be a sensitive topic, and for good reason... but gay sex is something asexual people can and do enjoy and take part in willingly. im not trying to be argumentative here! or even really disagree with you, honestly, if you saw an ace hc and sensed homophobia you probably have a good eye for it! i definitely agree if someone doesn't know that ace people aren't all repulsed by the act there's a greater level of suspicion there. its not something i expect everyone to know or think too hard about

respectfully, and first of all, my post is not about asexuality or how it functions as a sexual orientation or what asexual people feel and do. I assumed I had made that clear when I said that my post is not an invitation for ace discourse. while I wouldn't categorize this ask as "ace discourse" per say, what you're talking about here is not what my post is about regardless and it is ignoring what I'm saying about the way sex between gay characters is treated in favor of discussing the intricacies of asexuality

second of all, I state clearly that I am talking about Sexual Attraction. I know that asexual people can and do have sex, and that they can and do enjoy it, but regardless of that fact, they do not feel sexual attraction. wei wuxian and lan wangji are depicted as feeling sexual attraction for each other, there is not only a sexual relationship between them and the enjoyment of sexual activities, but attraction to each other in a sexual way. that's just a true fact about them as characters. headcanoning one or both of them as asexual, thus stripping them of feelings of sexual attraction, regardless of whether or not you think they would maintain a sexual relationship despite a lack of sexual attraction, is homophobic. as I said, I don't have a problem with asexual headcanons for canonically mlm characters in general, someone can be gay/bi and asexual and I am aware of this, but taking sexual attraction out of a relationship between two men who are explicitly shown to feel sexual attraction for each other, is an issue. the problem does not only lie in the way the act of gay sex is treated and talked about, but the feeling of gay sexual Attraction as well. I apologize if this was not clear in the original post. I suggest you also read the ask I answered before this as well for some important additional perspective on headcanons and why context and critical analysis of your own views as well as the content you are consuming is important

lastly, this ask comes off as patronizing and overly personal. beginning by referring to me, a gay man, calling out homophobia as me """feeling like""" something is homophobic is invalidating, and the way this ask is worded like it's trying to "educate" me comes off condescending and presumptuous rather than informative or helpful, regardless of my prior knowledge on the subject

it may seem silly or overdramatic to get so serious about sexuality headcanons for fictional characters - wei wuxian and lan wangji aren't real people and they can't actually Feel or Think anything - but, as we know, fiction affects reality, and it's important that we talk about the ways that gay sex and gay sexual attraction are treated in media and in fan spaces

I don't think you had ill intentions sending this or that it's coming from a bad place, but I have a right to disagree with you and call out your behavior, even if you aren't being malicious or hateful. I hope that you and other people that might read this can understand that and that you will genuinely take my words into consideration

#I hope this all makes sense and I rlly do suggest you read the prev ask #ask #anon #not tagging charas for this one #homophobia

[butchfeygela]

"if you want to have sex than you have sexual attraction!" I found your post claiming that asexual people are all pro-rape (based off one tumblr post from one person) and I couldn't help looking thru your blog. I'm here to tell you that you are 100% wrong. Wanting to fuck someone's body because you see the sexual appeal/you're aroused by their body is sexual attraction. I've literally never seen the sexual appeal of anyone's body and the idea of letting anyone fuck me/touch me is repulsive. The idea of me fucking is so unnatural I think I would rather kill myself, but there are asexual people out there who feel otherwise and are sex-neutral or even sex-positive. I've known I was asexual since I was 14 and I'm 18 now. I see bodies the same way I see tables and chairs, they just exist. No amount of pretending or wanting to be straight or gay or bi is going to make me that way. Even if I fuck someone, I'll still be asexual. There's nothing wrong with my libido either, I get aroused by sexy stuff in books and movies as a simple observer. I masturbate every now and then because it's natural. An asexual person wanting to please their romantic partner isn't rape when they fully consent of their own free will without pressure or coercion. Asexuals can enjoy physical sexual pleasure, their parts don't magically stop working. And according to your logic, every sex worker (idc if it's transactional, it's the same concept, fuck you) is attracted to their clients, every comphet lesbian who's fucked a man must be bi, and asexuals who fuck with the goal of starting a family are lying. Have you ever ate without actually being hungry? Have you every drank coke without actually being thirsty? You're such a dumb cunt it's unbelievable. Don't speak on shit you don't understand. Don't go around invalidating people's identities with no valid reason and then make yourself out to be this socially conscious, progressive, compassionate person. I'm not white or a Christian either. Like instead of making your brain dead, irrational hatred of asexuals a Woke thing you can just admit you don't understand us and think we're annoying. That's literally it. And basing your perception of an entire group/community that exist in the actual world off of a few people online is brain dead.

Hi im not saying asexuality isnt real??? ik people who are asexual. I think the fact that the online ace community is so preoccupied with convincing people who have no sexual attraction that they should have sex with their partners to make them happy. that is absolutely rape culture and not really different the pressure on married women to have sex whenever their partner wants it.

i also agree past sexual history does not dictate current identity. Ive hooked up w guys in the past and your right tht doesnt make me less of a lesbian. A person who has had sex in the past can absolutely realize theyre asexual in the future.

The sex worker point was addressed in the post i reblogged i believe. Sex work is a transaction, it is labor. In a health interpersonal relationship, sex should not be a transaction and if your partner is pressuring you into thinking it has to be than thats a bad partner.

your procreative point is your most valid one for sure, but it doesnt change that the ace community spends way tooo much time talking about how its ok to want to have sex or to have sex only for your partners enjoyment instead of actually focusing on combatting the pressures ace people feel to have sex for other people

also like if someone activelt wants to have sex, theyre not asexual. sorry but thts not what ace means. they probably just have a different relationship to sex than the incredibly falsified 'norm' of media

I identified as a bi ace from about 14-17, so im v familiar with the community online and it turned out tht i was actually a traumatized lesbian child who was being given immense information from asexual adults about how i was asexual which led me to not investigate the actual reasons i wasnt sexually attracted to men and was scared of being sexually attracted to women

#nikanie #anon #rape /

[aspecpplarebeautiful]

hello! im not sure if im asexual because sometimes im okay with and even enthusiastic about sexual attraction but also? sometimes I’ll think about sex and immediately cringe or feel completely indifferent?? im not sure what’s happening and im hesitant to choose a label. is there a word for this?

So there isn't really a clear distinct line where one side is asexuality and the other allosexuality. There are gray areas but also some subjectivity to it too. So whether you're asexual or not depends a lot on you and if you feel that label would be useful, or if you feel like allosexuality is not fitting you right as a label.

So the definition I like to give for people who are questioning if they're ace is someone who doesn't experience the full range of sexual orientation the way an allosexual person is expected to experience it. Or someone who relates to other asexuals/the asexual community or finds the asexual label useful. So all that is to say asexuality is actually a very broad umbrella term for a lot of different experiences, and not experiencing sexual attraction is only one reason to identify as asexual, but definitely not the only reason.

So it's hard to say exactly what may be going on just from this ask, but I can definitely give you some things to look into.

Sex repulsion may be why you sometimes feel cringe, and sex repulsion is basically negative feelings that will pop up during certain sexual situations (common ones are things like revulsion, nausea, irritability, anxiety, discomfort, etc.). It's an extremely variable thing, so it's entirely possible it will show up in relation to some sexual situations but not others. (For example some people find that how close or distant they are may affect if they experience sex repulsion, and it can be better or worse for either.) It can also be very inconsistent, so for some people it may be there sometimes, but other times during the same type of situations it may be gone. Basically repulsion follows it's own rules, and for some people those rules are consistent and for some they aren't.

Being sometimes indifferent and sometimes not could point to some type of fluidity or fluctuating orientation. Aceflux could be a label that may be worth looking into. And basically just means someone who's orientation can fluctuate but is generally on the ace spectrum (though some aceflux people are allosexual sometimes). If you feel like you're not on the ace spectrum enough for aceflux to feel right for you, abrosexual is another similar label that means a fluctuating orientation.

Another possibility could be both sex drive and sexual desire can fluctuate for some people or be inconsistent. Sex drive is how much or how often you want a sexual release. Sexual desire is similar to sexual attraction, except it's not directed at any particular person. It's just a general craving to have sex. So either of those being really low can also lead to someone feeling indifferent to sex.

So maybe hopefully that gives you some things to look into. I really recommend the LGBTA Wiki as a good starting point for looking up terms or labels, and it's pretty comprehensive.

Looking into ace spaces can be really useful too for trying to determine if asexual is a good label for you or not. And sometimes reading about other people's experiences, especially if they have similar experiences to you can be really useful. And you can do that anywhere, but if you're not sure where to look Carnival of Aces can be interesting. Tumblr tags can be good too, especially if you look at the more specific ones like aceflux, you can find interesting posts.

And yeah it just comes down to what feels right for you and if you feel like asexual would be useful for you. And don't be afraid of a wrong answer, or to try on a label to see if it fits if that's what feels right for you. It could be something like gray-ace or ace-spectrum may be useful too if asexual if feels like it's a bit too strong. And gray-ace is an asexual community identity that just means that gray area between asexual and allosexual, and ace-spec is an umbrella term for the entire asexual community and all its identities.

And don't feel like you have to have this figured out right away, some people get lightbulb moments, but often people need time to think and reflect when it comes to figuring out labels and identity. And there's definitely no timeline.

All the best, Anon!

[izzyliker]

hey - this is one of the mods of the bi jon project. we don't actually dislike or disagree with pan jon at all, we just want to make a project focused on and celebrating bisexuality. our carrd is a bit rambling, but frankly we were trying our best/overcompensating to try and make sure people didn't misunderstand us and do - well, this. our intentions are good, and it's really kind of disenheartening to see all the hate we've gotten for what was meant to be a positive project. (1)

you're under no obligation to answer these, but i saw some of your posts in the tag and felt like reaching out because you did give us even the tiniest bit of slack in good faith. honestly, if you have any advice about what in our carrd is so overwhelmingly bad, we'd be happy to hear it. we've been trying to respond to the overwhelming amount of criticism we've got in a positive way, and take peoples' suggestions. (2)

as for why 'no anti-antis' was at the bottom of our rules list, it's legitimately bc we were trying so hard to be preventative about this negativity that we forgot to add it when we first posted the blog, and just remembered later. again, you're under no obligation to answer these, i just feel like no one's really actually letting us defend ourselves/are taking things in as bad faith a way as possible. (3)

im not exactly sure how the posts showed up in the tag bc ive been very purposefully not tagging them, also ive blocked all of you back (not sure why you blocked me if you actually want feedback, so it seems more like you just want free positive pr and not actual feedback) so its unlikely youll see whatever it is that i reply to this but whatever. 

the issues have all been repeatedly brought up to you so i dont really see how me repeating all of them once again could help. when i last looked at the cardd the things that stood out immediately included. 

pitting ace & bi identities and people against each other REPEATEDLY,  

starting off with a guilt trippy tone and maintaining it throughout (in my experience this is the #1 best way to receive backlash because people do not want to participate in events where you feel like youre being guilted into it, which going into scrutinizing detail over there not being enough content and passing judgement onto authors or artists over it is something that comes across as guilt trippy.),

repeatedly equating asexuality with sex repulsion (not to get into the misleading information about modteam aspec identity breakdowns, since you claimed that 3/4 of the team are aspec, which is technically correct, but what you didnt say was that only one is acespec. surely you know that [allosexual] aro and [alloromantic] ace are not interchangeable) and calling using biromantic over bisexual a “misunderstanding” of the identity as if how to define romantic vs sexual attraction (how to divide, if or if not to divide, use interchangeably different labels) isnt a deeply personal choice ace people who experience romantic attraction make, 

claiming that bisexual jon is canon (he isn’t. this is why people are suspicious of anti-other mspec identities sentiments. which theyre right, if youll be so kind as to stick around til the last paragraph) and repeatedly implying that the reason there isnt “enough” content centering bi jon because the aces are simply unable to not fixate on his asexuality (again, pitting identities against each other),

making the banned ship list way needlessly confusing and including ships that dont even include jon to it, which simply comes across as some kind of a list of bad ships, idk. a way to bypass this would simply be to say “we are looking for portrayals of healthy relationships!” and that couldve just been it. if you felt that that wouldnt exclude specific ships (eg. jondaisy that a lot of people write as a relationship between trauma survivors who have done very bad things trying to get better and learning to trust each other) it is possible to simply say “the modteam is squicked[/triggered] by ships with daisy/elias/peter and we’d like to read all of the works submitted so we’re asking not to receive submissions with those ships.” hating ships is literally completely normal but making rules hard to parse is going to attract questions, especially when the implication is that ships are excluded on the grounds of morality, and a blatant power difference ship (jonelias) is equated with jondaisy, which is from what ive seen almost exclusively shown to be a relationship between equals. that makes people EXTREMELY confused about where the line is. thats why youre getting so many questions about this.  

in general the carrd was spotty, guilt trippy, and needlessly moralizing where it definitely did not need to be. the key to getting people to engage without getting backlash is to make the event seem fun. when your carrd is filled with stuff about unrelated negative stuff people are not going to think it’s a fun event at all. 

and none of this even gets into the fact that at least one of the mods has a history of open hostility against pan people. i heard through the grapevine that he has since made a fauxpology about it, but frankly it already shone through in the language used in the event descriptions. its extremely hard to take any of this is good faith when it is easy to see that one of the organizers is quite fucking clear about thinking pansexuality is biphobic and the carrd is or at least used to be full of anti-pan (and other mspec identity) dogwhistles, and is notorious in some of the tma fic author circles for being extremely fucking nasty about trans men writing fic he doesn’t like to the point of pretending that we’re all cis people (in case youre not keeping track that is misgendering us by implication) because he doesn’t like it. i think some of you (or maybe all of you? idk) in general could stand to examine whether your engagements and participations in the fandom have been at all about having fun or adding positivity to anything, or simply making posts about what other people are doing wrong. it seems that every post i see from anyone in this group is guilt trippy and authoritative, and sadly this translated directly into the event. 

when youre, say, a trans man whose first touch to one of the mods was a post about how fic where trans men have piv sex with cis men is hurting him personally and making it a moral issue and not a matter of a simple preference to the point where he feels comfortable making claims about the trans men (and transmasc nonbinary people) writing fic about trans characters re: their gender or whether theyre fetishizing trans men, your willingness to engage in good faith with an event hosted by him that features numerous red flags is not going to be unconditional. 

im sorry to hear that it has been bad for your mental health, and idk whats fucking going on with this event anymore, but my good faith interpretations have diminished significantly since i saw the shit tmc specifically has been saying about pansexual people and pansexuality as an identity label. i have no clue where the rest of you stand but tmc has repeatedly, consistently shown himself to be unable to act in good faith towards anyone other than people who agree with him.  

#disk horse #long post #Anonymous

[anchoviesinthenightsky]

Fair enough, lesbian meme is goodest meme. Curious though, if you're the ace that wraps in aro with it? Usually I see ace people put that and its kinda referred as no romance/no sexual attraction, while others make it clear they are romantic. Im sorry if its personal, I just like to understand the different types yaknow?

Yeah it's the best!

And it is a bit personal, but I don't mind answering it (especially since you acknowledged that it can be a personal question 🥰)

Um, hm. how to answer this. the truth is that it's kind of complicated, so i might end up over explaining things.

Essentially what you're referring to is the Split Attraction Model where sexual attraction and romantic attraction are separately identified and labeled. A lot of asexual people use SAM, because they find it useful to label both aspects of their identity

There's also Tertiary Attraction which is a different way of describing how a person experiences attraction without using SAM, though I don't understand this model as much. (and that's also not even getting into repulsion descriptors which is a whole other way that some a/arospec people use to describe themselves)

And then there are people who just like to use Ace as an umbrella, in a similar way that people use Nonbinary, Trans, or Queer as umbrellas. Where they can refer to the gist of their experience, without having to be specific about it, explain their identity, and/or because they have some uncertainty to it.

And that last one is what I do. The short reason why is because I'm old, and I'm tired of trying to find the the exact descriptor for myself.

The longer reason is that, while I think that SAM is a really useful model, I personally find it difficult to pin down my romantic orientation. I used biromantic for a long time, but I'm not sure that's exactly it. I'm also not sure if aromantic, demiromantic, grayromantic, homoromantic, or sticking with biromantic feel right either (and if you're thinking "that's a very big range. how can you not tell the difference between not feeling romantic attraction at all to being romantically attracted to everyone" ... yeah lol. that's why it's so confusing!).

which is all to say, referring to myself using SAM just doesn't feel comfy /shrug

I like to use Ace, because it's a big enough blanket that it allows me the room to be uncertain about some things, while still accurately describing how I experience attraction and how that impacts the way I interact with the world around me.

I can't speak for other people who use just Ace to describe themselves, but that's how it is for me/ why I do it that way!

#ask box #personal #totally happy to keep talking about this if you have more questions! #and like... if we /had/ to pin down my identities #it's probably be something like #greydemibiromantic osc asexual & greygender-fluidflux with a nonbinary to agender alignment #which like. is a big ol mouthful #and still not fully accurate to my experience of attraction and gender #which is why i use nonbinary ace #:)

[chickennuggetdreamland]

I wanna know how u think skeleton monster biology works.

oh i would absolutely love to explain how i think it works

okay so personally to me, skeletons are a very. basic kind of monster. without any magic. i mean theyre just... skeletons, right? there isnt really anything that determines much beyond their own conscience and SOUL (which are not exactly linked things, while a SOUL provides emotion that influences the strength of a monster's conscious decision they do not need to coexist to thrive)

skeletons are capable of forming parts with their magic. usually in sexual situations or reproductive situations there's energy that builds up within a skeleton monster's system that gives them the stamina to keep their reproductive parts formed and whatever other parts they choose to form. depending on the health of the monster the stamina can fluctuate, so in horror's sense, because he is not exactly the healthiest of the bunch his magic doesn't last long, and it also doesn't come out a whole lot anyway

but for skeletons like ink, because ink is essentially a very... creative person, to me, i think he has an infinite sort of energy/stamina. so he keeps his body formed at all times. it's not a sexual thing inherently, he just chooses to do so because he thinks it gives him more of a shape and it makes him feel good about himself!

basically because skeletons do not naturally come with any one part or anything, i don't think chromosomes really exist for them either. it all really depends on their SOUL which obviously grows alongside them throughout their lives. so as a result skeleton monsters are basically sexless and genderless by default. (and this makes every single one of them trans. because i'm trans and i can do what i want)

sometimes skeleton monsters will form magic that isn't exactly what they want, and that can lead to a bit of dysphoria if they're that type of person. it can be a little frustrating because magic and the SOUL, despite being connected, are still very separate things and are equally complex! so to always be in tune with each other is kind of impossible.

as for reproduction it's really all about how the skeleton monsters feel. some of them may not want to reproduce sexually (for a plethora of reasons, like asexuality - though not every asexual doesn't have sex!, sex repulsion, or just generally not wanting to), so they go for something related to the SOUL. im not exactly sure how reproduction via SOULs works to me, but going off on a whim here, if two skeleton monsters have their own SOULs then they can sort of merge them temporarily to create a new one that carries traits from either parent. the process of this doesnt typically last long but they both share the SOULling and take care of it together. it can rest inside one of them or both of them at different times until it's ready to form its own body, which is just as skeleton as you'd expect

for skeletons who don't have SOULs, like ink, well... just consider how paperjam was made. you could go with that, or actual sexual reproduction. those are his options pretty much

anyways TLDR all skeletons are by default sexless + agender thereby making them all trans AND they can reproduce via sexual reproduction, SOUL merging, or remnants of magic mixing if one or more of the parents lack a SOUL

#asks #utmv #ask to tag #<- just bc this discusses sex reproduction and stuff lol #also this is polyamory inclusive. like. multiple skeleton monsters can be biological parents if they so choose #i was just mostly using monogamous couples as examples if it comes off that way