#the will to change men masculinity and love

[azure-cherie]

Some astro observations pt:4🧡

It's been a year I have done an observations post ☠️ I hope you guys enjoy this one 💟

In case you want a reading :

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🍊 Combust or retrograde Venus can be cured through worship of Devi , respecting women and general and treating yourself well . Whereas combust mercury can be cured through practicing mathematics. Combust Saturn through practicing more routines.

🍊 Rahu synastry makes you delusional true but ketu synastry is even more delusional you will feel a sense of familiarity with the person you have the synastry with but soon you will realise oh it was all play and eventually the ketu person will actually start hating the moon person .

🍊 I think purva bhadrapada is he sign of sati as when sati was born on earth to be wife of Shiva only the expansiveness of purva bhadrapada could make her realise her true potential as mahadevi herself how she's nature and everything that truly exists in the cosmos . Likewise purva bhadrapada expands their horizons to realise their true purpose . I found some purva bhadrapada prominence in her media depiction of sati as well .

🍊 Purva bhadrapada are also truly sweet and kind people who have so much intelligence but it stays hidden for the early part of their life .

🍊 Purva Ashadha as a young girl or a maiden is often envied by her peers for being pretty , use protective things as a means to protect from evil eye , PA is associated with liver and evil eye can cause bumps in the face or skin disease .

🍊 Shravana girls have the quite confidence, they're genuinely bubbly but it's hidden in the quite girl interior, they know who they are and are constantly working on themselves.

🍊 With pisces placements in a man's chart one can have a good balance between the masculine and the feminine energy, I have generally seen pisces creating a nice atmosphere for their wives or the girls they love . They enjoy cooking and also get a lot of girl friends around them who trust them .

🍊 Gemini guys in general are the most confused people though girls can be assertive or be quickly change the men are just diplomatic about everything.

🍊 Vishakha women have the tridosha of kapha , which makes them effective in transforming their body fast .

🍊 I've seen that you might attract the sign of your 7th house but mostly it doesn't work out 💀 rather the sign in your 12th house works better , the chemistry is unbeatable and they treat you so well . Even in my case Taurus is my 12th house 💀 Taurus men be spoiling me 👑

🍊 Sun moon synastry is so passive agressive

🍊 Your atmakaraka can provide you insights on which Devi you should worship , for example if mars go for some ugra Devi like Kali , Durga etc . They can prove to be your ishtha or kuldevi please note that to find one's ishtha /kuldevi more things are to be considered.

🍊 Sun in the 10th house gives one fame but makes one work hard asf , when you're at the verge of giving up that's when true fame comes in to save you being the house of Saturn .

🍊 Jupiter in 3rd makes one materialistic they were the kids that were obsessed with new toys and gadgets as it generally makes one fidgety, also they were fulfilled in their wants for toys .

🍊 Combust mars in a girls chart overworks themselves because they feel a lack of vitality, they don't know where to exactly put efforts or what to do to make themselves feel better. Combust mars in a man's chart has the delusion of being masculine when in turn they do nothing to nourish their essence , true help in this case can be attained through puja in Tuesdays of Mangal Dev or Hanuman .

🍊 Ketu and mars can give hidden anger issues and can cause anger outbursts like Taurus mars . One way to combat that is to donate blood .

🍊 Saturn in 1H should do atleast one thing they don't like to do but is Essential for them everyday as this position might show feeling inferior or uninterested in themselves the act of doing something for themselves makes them more confident.

🍊 Mercury in combust , 6th house gives skin problems .

🍊 Rohini isn't materialistic for money but for comfort .

Thank you so much for reading, have a great day/night 🧡

#vedic astrology #sidereal astrology #astrology #astro community #astrology notes #astro notes #astro observations #astrology community #astrology observations #astrology placements

[purgatorytf]

I wanted to say how flattered I was to hear I inspired your first story, but it seems to me like you’ve had this TF magic in you all along 😉 You’re off to an incredible start, each of your stories has been so hot to read - I’m curious to see how you’d change me? You know how much I love writing about big, pussy obsessed straight men: I wonder if you’ll make me one or an item that a man like that uses and abuses. Have fun with it, bro!

First of all i really want to thank you and all the other people who've sent me nice messages. I've loved transformation for a while now, and i've been feeling like i wanted to give back so it's nice to hear that i've been able to do that so far.

Hearing that from you is especially gratifying because i really love your stories bro. They've really been an inspiration for me when writing my first ones. I guess that if this thing keeps working out for me and we keep writing about the same stuff… well we might have a bit of a rivalry on our hands haha…

"I wish i was joking … but honestly, i've really been thinking that. And honestly, you kinda offered yourself on a silver platter for me there. I'm sure you expected something fun with this but this is the perfect opportunity for me to take you out.

What's that look on your face ? This isn't what you wanted ? Well it's too late to turn back now bud. Besides, i already know exactly how you can be of use to me from now on"

With that, i snapped my fingers. You felt the effects instantly as your body wracked with immense pain. Twisting and distorting, your body adopted a new and improved form. You saw your skin become a pristine white as your flesh and bones restructured into a tightening weave of elastic fabric. You tried to scream at me to stop but you had already been silenced. Instead, your face reshaped itself into the front pouch of a pair of Calvin Klein underwear. As you fell on the floor, you struggled to take in your newly transformed world. Your mind was intact but all physical markers of who you once was were gone. Just a nice, brand new piece of clothing for me to ruin.

"Alright dude, just out of gratitude for the good times i had reading your stories, i'm willing you make you a deal. If you manage to keep your mind from breaking for one month then i will turn you back into a human. deal ? Well, i guess it's not like you have much of a choice anyway"

I took off my current underwear : a rank, soaked and yellowed thong. I threw it to the side on a pile of sportwear, all in a similarly perverted state.

"Don't look at the pile of used clothes over there bro. I promise you that it won't make you feel any better about what's coming for you" I stroked and jiggled my fat dick "And neither will looking at this huhu"

The literal gravity of your imminent fate set in. With a cocky smirk, i picked you up and slid you up my thick legs. Your wails of horror fell on deaf ears as your face pressed against my thick package, stretching and conforming to its every contour.

"Hehe, you hug my nuts so tightly bro. It's almost like you were always meant to be down there, servicing my musky balls."

And musky they were. An immediate sensory overload took over your brain. The instant warmth made you gasp for air but all you could inhale were fumes of sweat and dried cum. This masculine stench quickly permeated the entirety of your being, making you struggle to form coherent thoughts. To top it all, the moistness made your body stick tightly against my manhood, unable to get away from this reeking nightmare.

"Sorry about that dude. I should warn you; once i start wearing a pair of undies, i never change out until they're ruined. That means that 24/7 for the next month i'm going to wear you, work out in you, sweat in you, i'm even gonna cum in you. Oh bro, i'm gonna completely wreck you."

"I promise you that it shouldn't even take a month to completely break you. But try not to panic, there's a moment when you'll embrace your new purpose as my nice, sweaty underwear and it'll all become very pleasant. If or when that happens is completely up to you bro. You get to choose if this experience will be a disgusting or a pleasurable one. But remember, your humanity is on the line huhu."

The reality of your new life for the coming month fully dawned on you. Sweat. Piss. Cum. Constantly. What you had been writing and reading about on your blog for fun finally became your intoxicating reality. You were worried your brains were already melting. How the hell were you supposed to last an entire month ??? You were struggling and begging for mercy against my big … snug …. balls …

Your suffering psyche desperately tried to rationalize what was happening to you. Maybe this was possible … You could just … take care of my goods for a month and then … everything would be fine. You just had to …. not break…

I laughed in satisfaction as i pressed you further against my cock. Inspiration for a hot new story already struck me but i needed to go work out first. I wanted to get you all nice and soaked so that i could get you to enjoy this.

"No hard feelings bro."

#inanimate tf #musk #inanimate transformation #jock #male tf #male transformation #reality change #wish gone wrong #ask #underwear tf #clothing tf #jock bulge #mental change

[twoclaws]

bell hooks, “the will to change: men, masculinity, and love”

#bell hooks #the will to change #the will to change men masculinity and love #on masculinity #on love #theory #feminism #also shut up!!! i can’t deal w this!!! #i’ve had to stop every few pages or so to cry

[telumendils]

"It is a fiction of false feminism that we women can find our power in a world without men, in a world where we deny our connections to men. We claim our power fully only when we can speak the truth that we need men in our lives, that men are in our lives whether we want them to be or not, that we need men to challenge patriarchy, that we need men to change."

— Bell Hooks, The Will To Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love

#there is just already so much compassion in just this opening bit #the preface already has me crying btw #the will to change #bell hooks #men #women #masculinity #love #feminism #bee.qt

[niishi]

I only ever comment on tiktok in order to change ppls perceptions of Sanji smh it's all so surface level one way or the other and then I hit them w the deep analysis and they're like "oh wait I never thought of it like that.. ur right".... What am I doing spending my time white knighting for Sanji smfh

#not all men #they all hate him in different ways #either they wanna “fix him” #or they hate him for being a perv #and its like cool u dont like perv characters #but ur personal perception is just ur perception #have u ever thought about what his character means and its trying to portray? #do any of you have character defaults that ur afraid ppl wont accept? #does that limit your freedom? #freedom of expression and sense of self and confidence? #sanji portrays emotional and mental growth and healing #his womanizing is a bad coping mechanism #hes obviously harmless but it stems from finding comfort in women #while not knowing how to navigate that without his toxically masculine bravado that hes had to have to survive #nonetheless #no matter where Sanji is in life #the crew loves and accepts him #he has freedom to be imperfect and grow and change #on his own accord #and into the person he wants to be #something sanji never had access to #i mean usopp is a liar nami is a thief zoros killed ppl etc etc #the only one they focused on as a serious plot point was sanji #this is something specific and important for him in his growth #i have so much more to say i could write a novel #hes such a well written character #his message and purpose in the story is so important

[feline-evil]

Dick or no dick confirmation Pickles was always going to be trans to me anyways; if he's swingin' somethin that's phallo babes, if he's not then his t-dick fat. What's not to get.

#metalocalypse #jay talkin #I'm sorry they wrote that awful gross little man far too likeable and relatable to on a trans level #for me not to hoot and holler and cheer for the trans pickles agenda #changes nothing about his character arc or any of the show anyone is capable of being the kind of person he is #don't make the mistake of thinking thats exclusive to cis men #his transness wouldnt change that #only adds on an extra layer to him that i think works fantastically. #Listen that dude was rejected by his family driven to drink and drugs young to escape that ran away to be in a band #is called fucking Pickles of all things and refuses to tell anyone his real last name; #over the span of four seasons and two movies he slowly starts to learn to be for others what he never had #he becomes more caring more supportive #it's not a stretch to say he undoes some of the toxic masculinity he's been keeping himself shielded behind #and learns how to be a kinder man. #all of which have no contradictions with him being trans! #In fact it doesn't take much extra thought to find ways a lot of this can line up with some trans masculine experiences #i mean. Did no one else have a younger phase where they swung as far as they could into crass rude and uncaring ways #to try and assert their masculinity only to grow and realise that you can be a man and be more caring. #Did no one else have father issues. 1 800 come on now i know those are both shared experiences a lot of us have had LOL. #at the end of the day this show aired nearly 20 years ago and is finished. we're not getting more of it #so nothing is altered nor changed if pickles is canonically trans or not ok. its fine #i mean hell i dont even need canon confirmation hes trans to me and thats all i care abt #but i think if yr getting suuuuuper weird abt needing him not to be canonically trans you have some issues #and bio essentialist ideals of gender if you think only a cis man can act like he does #again. anyone can be like that. its not exclusive. him being trans would not change him in any way shape or form lol #AND ALSO GODDDUUUGH for once i love getting to see a guy pushing 50 whos depicted as trans #do you have any idea how dire and barren it is out here. we never get to see a trans guy older than 30 and whos not a pristine model #I WANT MORE OLD SHLUBBY SHITHEAD TRANS GUYS IN MEDIA

[bmpmp3]

and it goes without saying that revue starlight has enlightened me to the fact that every female character in every story ever should be given a suit to wear at some point

#obvs futaba in the movie but ESPECIALLY claudine holy shit #sorry claudines devil getup changed my life. genuinely and unironically got me thinking about my own clothing presentation #how i want to see myself and how i want to be seen and how that changes whenever and how i can mix traditionally masculine and feminine #presentation markers in ways that dont have to be clear or defined. yeah i dunno i got all that from an anime girl in a suit leave me alone #love live nijigasaki also played around with giving everyone those men-in-black outfits that was so fun #and dont even talk to me about sif wonderland riko. she and dapper devil claudine.................. they changed me #you have GOT to put ur girls in dandy ass dapper ass suits. or sloppy bar suits. or mib suits #SOME kind of suit you MUST you have to #you could go more traditionally masc or u could make it more girlboss with different silhouettes #and dont forget making ur female character look like some kind of frilly boyprince. classic. theres a whole fashion subculture for that

[mejomonster]

Im gonna be real. I cant do cant engage im tired of etc the femme blah the masc blah i hate gendered boxes fuck boxes thanks thats all

#rant #saw yet another the fem X the masc X fuck off #im just tired of ppl puttibg ppl in boxes #any dang person can be varying degrees of masculine and feminine all the time in various things vonstantly changing!!! #humans arent static!!! #its like girl dinner: starve glamorize eating disorders but call it cute #girl math: glamorize sexism yhat girls are dumb and bad at math (not true) #transmasc is dragonball transfem is sailor moon fuck off its the same as boys like blue girls like pink #the spectrum of human experience doesny fit in fucking boxes #theres trans women who HATE MAKEUP AND DONT SHAVE #theres cis women who love blue hate pink love dresses only work in STEM love warhammer #theres cis men who love to cook and love wearing hair long and love sailor moon and also love cars #like goddamn STOP GENDERING THE WPRLD IM SO TIRED HERE #also u know. plenty of men women and nonbinary peopld fucking exist #which are NOT neatly fit into some Mostly fem or mostly masc tally! #also like. jesus fuck. how stupid is is fem is being equated to woman #theres MASCULINE women. thetes women who love the masculine #and vice versa #and again its all a stupid pointless tally cause our range of masc to fem is just vague hobbies outfits #and does NOT have to correlate At All to our gender Identity

[terrainofheartfelt]

FOR THE BIG MUSIC ASK GAME LET'S GOOOOOOOOOOOOO 🎸🎸🎸🎸🎸🎸🎸

Artists: Joni Mitchell, Taylor Swift, Queen, Frank Turner

Albums: Pretty. Odd, evermore, Nebraska, Blonde on Blonde

this ask feels like a homework essay question but like, in a subject I'm passionate about. so it's okay. daunting, but.

Joni:

Do I know them already?: yes | no

Favourite Song: A Case of You, it has to be!!!!

(okay but also there's a recording of her playing Chelsea Morning live at Carnegie Hall and it is ~magical~)

Least Favourite Song: I mean there isn't a song by her that I dislike, but maybe one I know that I listen to the least....Big Yellow Taxi. because it makes me sad. she warned us about paving paradise and we didn't listen!!!!!!

Favourite Album: Blue 💙💙💙💙💙

Least Favourite Album: idk a lot of her discography (Blue the album of my heart) but uhhhhh the orchestral funky Both Sides Now (I just like her better when it's just her and her dulcimer <3)

Song that got me into them: oh geez my mother's always loved her. so maybe...my mom singing Both Sides Now in the car?

Seen Live?: i WISH (gimme a time machine and I will just take it to the '70s to see bands & artists play in their prime)

Rate: 1 | 2 | 3 | 4 | 5 | 6 | 7 | 8 | 9 | 10

Taylor:

Do I know them already?: yes | no 

Favourite Song: legally I am required to say "ivy"

Least Favourite Song: Dancing with Our Hands Tied (because it was popular when I worked retail so I heard it wayyyyyyyyy too much and now I can't stand it. is it a good song? idk. because I have too much retail trauma to determine that.)

Favourite Album: right now, it's Reputation

Least Favourite Album: Speak Now, probably? It missed me, and I haven't sought it out on streaming bc Girl's pre-1989 singing voice just...doesn't do it for me.

Song that got me into them: pfffft probably "Our Song" in the year of our lord 2006. I remember logging onto the Yahoo music website in Internet Explorer to look up her music videos, because that's the only way I could listen to her music (without buying the cds, my allowance was designated to higher musical priorities back then.) but I didn't really consider myself a Fan until the Bad Blood music video.

Seen Live?: nope. I don't really want to either. I like her best in studio. or, ideal scenario, hearing her live in Long Pond Studio, but that seems a bit of a long shot

Rate: 1 | 2 | 3 | 4 | 5 | 6 | 7 | 8 | 9 | 10 her songwriting is a ten her vocals are a 5

Queen:

Do I know them already?: yes | no 

Favourite Song: Somebody to Love!

Least Favourite Song: thee ummm. the bicycle one. ah damn, now it's in my head.

Favourite Album: okay so the thing about many of these bands that I grew up listening to is that I have like, a very limited concept of which albums are which, because I just absorbed them riding in the car with my dad or my mom. I'll say A Night at the Opera bc it's a great title :)

Least Favourite Album: uhhhhh anything they released after Freddie?

Song that got me into them: probably The Muppets music video of Bohemian Rhapsody?

Seen Live?: no, alas, but I have seen P!ATD cover Bohemian Rhapsody live

Rate: 1 | 2 | 3 | 4 | 5 | 6 | 7 | 8 | 9 | 10 

Frank Turner:

Do I know them already?: yes | no 

Favourite Song: not a fair question. uhm mmmmmm...The Way I Tend to Be, Broken Piano, Isabel, Poetry of the Deed, To Take You Home, Josephine....I could go on

Least Favourite Song: motherfucker truly has soooo many songs and I know a lot of them but there are many I've haven't heard. maybe Common Ground. or Little Changes.

Favourite Album: England Keep My Bones

Least Favourite Album: Be More Kind

Song that got me into them: my big brother put Nashville Tennessee on a mix cd he made for my birthday when I was...13? and I've only become more and more obsessed.

Seen Live?: HELL YES. in college my brother and my x-tian sorority big (we're both atheists now lmao) and me roadtripped 3 hours to Dallas to see him on his tour for Tape Deck Heart. One of the best live shows I've seen. He just...comes ALIVE onstage. and we met him at stage door and I took a picture with him <3 I think (hope) I still have it somewhere. I was a music major and wanted to tell him how much his music meant to me but I think I was too starstruck to say anything other than "hiiiii" and "thank you!" also thee zaniest opening act I have ever seen I'll never forget it

Rate: 1 | 2 | 3 | 4 | 5 | 6 | 7 | 8 | 9 | 10 

Pretty. Odd. it isn't my favorite album of theirs, but it is a masterpiece.

Opinion on cover design: LOVE. I really enjoy the old-timey circus van vibe, evocative of Magical Mystery Tour, which seems a heavy inspiration.

Favourite song: That Green Gentleman

Least favourite song: narrowwww question because I have a pretty equal fondness for all the songs. maybe, The Piano Knows Something I Don't

Underrated track: When the Day Met the Night & Folkin' Around

Overrated track: Nine in the Afternoon (even though I adore it but it gets much more hype than any other track)

Rate: 1 | 2 | 3 | 4 | 5 | 6 | 7 | 8 | 9 | 10 

evermore undoubtedly her magnum opus. the best music she's ever written

Opinion on cover design: simple, effective, lovely, sets the mood and the tone of the album. and she has such a habit of...overdoing visuals? her last half dozen music videos or so have been like, baroque in how over the top their visual design. like, willow the video does not match how the song or the rest of the album feels. idk. the simplicity here works for me, but I think sometimes she can't let something Be.

Favourite song: I already said ivy above so....no body no crime

Least favourite song: cowboy like me (it's otherwise a great song, but i so dislike the opening stanza 'dancing is a dangerous game' mam. you can do better than that. you've a whole album of evidence.)

Underrated track: closure (a Banger)

Overrated track: champagne problems (not that it's not a good song but the way it's gotten so much love as the best song on the album when happiness is like literally right there) (happiness.mp3 & peace.mp3 supremacy)

Rate: 1 | 2 | 3 | 4 | 5 | 6 | 7 | 8 | 9 | 10 | 11

Nebraska

Opinion on cover design: as someone who's driven through nebraska, it's very accurate. it looks how nebraska feels. like, you're only there when you're on your way to someplace else. if liminal space was a US state it'd be Nebraska

Favourite song: oh fuck Reason to Believe

Least favourite song: Highway Patrolman

Underrated track: I mean the whole thing is underrated tbh.

Overrated track: see above. <3

Rate: 1 | 2 | 3 | 4 | 5 | 6 | 7 | 8 | 9 | 10 

Blonde on Blonde

Opinion on cover design: those pursed lips....so Serious. I love a scarf moment. that look really is my aesthetic

Favourite song: RAINY DAY WOMEN but I also have a soft spot for OH. MAMA. can this really be the end? to be Stuck? inside? a Mobile? with the MEMPHIS BLUES again??? and Leopard Skin Pill Box Hat <3

Least favourite song: Visions of johanna. he can go ON about a bitch. I love him tho

Underrated track: I Want You, & You Go Your Way I Go Mine

Overrated track: is it possible to overrated a track on this album???

Rate: 1 | 2 | 3 | 4 | 5 | 6 | 7 | 8 | 9 | 10 

#I do love tswift but i am also v picky about how I like her. *shrugs* #my brother's gf is a swiftie (remind me to share a pic of her gift to me <3) and she asked me at xmas #so did you try to get tickets? and I was like lol nope and I think I hurt her feelings #but. listen. the thing about taylor is: i like her songs better when they're sung by other people. #which is also how I feel about Bob #kesha's cover of Don't think twice it's alright changed my life #as did sara bareilles cover of Clean #but she said early on 'i'm gonna sing my songs that I write' and I do respect that game #my big has a tattoo of the lyrics to 'i am disappeared' #'we are electric pulses in the pathways of the sleeping souls of the country' #you know I do wonder....how my dad might think.....of all of us...talking about how fucking queer bruce's music is #because. it IS. the more I think about it the more obvious it is. but like. growing up it wasn't? #but is that just because I didn't know how to look for it bc I didn't know what I was looking for? #in the aughts when gay and queer had such narrow definitions #but bruce does have a different take on masculinity that is inherent to his writing and performance #and whether or not my father is cognizant of that #I think it's shaped him. and his own masculinity. and that of my brother. the heterosexualest punk I know. #maybe that's why when someone's like 'not all men' I go. 'you're right. my father and brother would NEVER' #it all comes back to bruce #and bob #and clarence #and miami steve #asks #clarasamelia #okay but. blonde on blonde is soooooooooo dan-coded #just like a woman is about serena :) #pretty odd is full of bops tho don't get me wrong #i just have a more sentimental fondness for too young to live too rare to die #but hanif abdurraqib had said 'pretty odd is the only p!atd album' #which. i disagree but...

[transwrongs]

reading bell hooks ‘the will to change’ and she said that patriarchy has convinced everyone that sex was power and men needed sex in order to keep power. not only this but, what people call rape culture is just this pervasive myth that men are natural sex addicts and any sexual violence they commit is on some level acceptable bc of the male’s “nature” to “need” sex. she does not mince words here. objective physically violent forms of sexual violence (pedophilia, date rape, “stranger” rape, prison rape, incest, beastiality, etc), under patriarchal capitalist white supremacy, are deemed on some level acceptable because we’ve collectively agreed that men are dominators and perpetually sex hungry. “if left alone long enough, men will fuck anything”.

anyways, her overall thoughts about sex are quite profound to me. and now i can’t stop thinking about subversive ways to express love and sexuality outside of this dominator culture we’ve created. thinking about someone being patient and kind and gentle and collaborative. someone saying “i thoroughly enjoy having sex with you. but i can wait. for you i could wait a million lifetimes.”

everybody read some fuckin bell hooks

#the will to change #the will to change: men masculinity and love #bell hooks #my love #you’ve changed my life forever #not kidding #leo.txt

[telumendils]

Anger feels better than numbness because it often leads to more instrumental action. Anger can be, and usually is, the hiding place for fear and pain.

— Bell Hooks, The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love

#bell hooks #the will to change #men #masculinity #love #anger #bee.qt

[wwwyzzerdd420]

I want to be heard but I don't want to be screamed at

#the q-r community is one of the least welcoming ive ever tried to join #the simple act of BEING alphabet mafia isnt enough #you have to accept THEIR words for you and you have to accept THEIR thoughts #and if you have any opposing ideas about it or arent comfortable with the things they call you thats YOUR fault #and they then say if youre not comfortable with it youre not welcome #then im not welcome ANYWHERE because the cishet community won't take me #so basically youre forcing me to detransition in order to fit in anywhere #they all hate men and masculinity anyways #so theyd probably love me as a cishet woman ally more than the bisexual faggot transsexual man that i am currently #and they love calling people transphobic who dont like to take part in their little words #fuck off entirely a person isnt a transphobe just because they dont want to use your stupid word for themselves #GET OVER YOURSELF NOT EVERYBODY WANTS TO IDENTIFY AS Q-R!!!!!! AND YOU'RE FORCING IT ON PEOPLE!!!!!!!!!!!! #YOUR WORD DOES NOT INHERENTLY HAVE THE MOST VALUE JUST BECAUSE IT WAS USED HISTORICALLY #TRANSSEXUAL WAS USED HISTORICALLY BUT YALL SWAPPED IT IN FAVOR OF TRANSGENDER #WORDS CHANGE GET OVER YOURSELVES #IM NOT OUT HERE FORCING YALL TO IDENTIFY AS TRANSEXUAL OR FAGGOTS OR DYKES OR ANYTHING LIKE THAT #BUT HERE YOU ARE FORCING Q-R ON US LIKE FASCISTS #basically what yall are saying is assimilate or die and im SICK of hearing that from both cishets and yall

[farmerlesbian]

do you really think that "transmasculine guys" and "men" are separable, mutually exclusive groups

hmm no. i don’t think most things in lgbtqueer land are easily separable or mutually exclusive. there’s lots of overlap. *insert video of kamala harris talking about venn diagrams* it’s more like wibbly wobbly fuzzy shapes and overlapping …uuuugh yeah a lot of venn diagrams, i guess. anyways! but words exist and we can try to understand each other by using them in creative ways. i hope you can read my posts and figure out what i’m trying to express!

#anonymous #ask farmer lesbian #mod alfalfa #identity #trans #i’m a trans masculine guy and i’m certainly not a trans man #and i know a loooooot of other people like me #i also know a lot of trans guys that ARE men too! #there’s just a lot of people and #the thing is also people change and grow and our understanding of ourselves changes over our lives too #anyways my anonymous dude you gotta chill and try taking a more good faith reading of people on the internet #i also believe we as a community won’t always agree on everything but that’s fine #it’s like family we still love each other even though we don’t always quite agree #you gotta know what matters like pick your battles #where’s the line where it goes from ‘acceptable disagreement’ to ‘unacceptable difference’ #for me that was someone who i’m no longer friends with #telling me she was both bi and lesbian and that lesbians are all exclusionary and transphobic and that basically it’s an outdated term #and then proceeded to start pursuing and dating and fucking several cisgender binary men #the multiple isn’t the problem we’re all polyam here im just saying that bc it isn’t a fluke #and i believe it’s fucked up to say a lesbian can’t date cis men but can trans men like #that just feels so fucked up and transphobic #gender

[llycaons]

I saw crazy rich asians and I liked some of it but it also felt kind of colorist and the magnitude of ostentatious wealth was borderline nauseating. awkwafina was incredibly annoying even if I didn't know about her antiblackness. loved the twist at the end tho and I was definitely like 👀 about the 'family doesn't say thank you' line

#staring at the changes cql made to the script going what does it mean what does it all MEAN #was wq saying thank you and im sorry at the end formalizing and distancing herself from wwx?? #then why did wwx tell jl to always remember to say it - wasn't he encouraging jl to make sure people important to him #know that they're cherished??? man the novel is beyond me ig. but I feel like I understand cql #anyway now I know why ppl were glad that akwafina wasn't cast in eeaao besides the racism. she would have sucked #constance wu is gorgeous I loved her #gemma chan's marriage falling apart because her husband was insecure could of been interesting but it kind of fell flat #usually I love it when women stop feeling like they have to affirm their husbands masculinity but with this I felt like #s girlboss to be rich and not feel bad about it ig. also insecure men aren't 'real' men and I've always abhorred that as an insult #but my mom liked it so we had a fun time regardless #cor.txt

[mejomonster]

As I get older and older I more tangibly realize why queer individuals in older generations than mine might prefer words I wouldn't use for myself, and likewise why younger generations preferences would be different too. Like it was always clear you know, a person knows their identity best and what labels they prefer best and even if you don't get it you should respect it. But I guess the older I get the more I realize I really don't know and never can know the background another person has for their perceptions and meaning for labels and why something in particular helps them to use or not

#rant #lgbt #........................................................................................................................................... #i just. so im alive in the time i guess when i saw trans identities barely discussed like even in educational material i didnt #hear about gender identity until i dug deep. to people now using transmasc and transfemme as labels. labels i dont understand and know #i dont. i presume they mean trans people who identify with masculinity or femininity? but i think im probably wrong #because ive seen transmen call themselves transmasc and it confuses me. because a transman can be a very feminine person who loves makeup #so. one cannot say transmasc and actually Mean all trans men. a transfemme does Not include all transwomen because transwomen can be butch #and reject femininity. so like... from my outdated perception i see it as the cis straight societal gender expectations of men MUST be masc #women MUST be femme which. i hate. becayse i specifically feel all people should and can be whatever they want. #any man can be feminine any woman can be masculine any person can be any range on that and change daily and do what they want #and their gender is still valid. and then like. theres ppl like me. im nonbinary. im a pretty feminine guy #im a fairly masculine woman. i dont think i could even fit into transmasc or transfemme labels. #i do think those labels help and suit people who like them. if i met a nonbinary lipstick lesbian perhapa #transfemme would help her xommunicate how she feels. but those words dont help me they are boxes i cant fit inside #and i get why they exist but its like. cool. now i get why transman needs to be preserved Outside of transmasc. because feminine trans men #still need space. i get why masculinjty and femininity need to mean something clearly Separate from gender itself or we loose the ability #to express the range of gender expression in qll areas. i dont know what transexual means but now i realize why a person older than me #may LIKE that label and cling to it. because it may communicqte something For Them that helps them in a #way that was lost to understanding by my generation. in a way that the terms no longer useful for my self identity but is for them. #in the way that trans man and nonbinary fit me but i could never be fit within the labels of transmasc or transfem etc #and in the way that for some people transmasc etc labels will fit Them and Help in a way a label like transman never can. and so on

[britneyshakespeare]

i’m actually not aroace. my thing is i’m only attracted to men who are smarter than me. i mean, that’s at least the theory, because there aren’t any. it’s why i’m aroace

#tales from diana #this is a tease. i love men who are smart #you know who i've been watching a lot on youtube lately? forrest valkai #smart and HANDSOME #dangerous combination #forrest valkai was who i was thinking of when i said if i werent aroace id either marry a scientist or an artist #as a dilettante in the visual arts and the sciences. i find those things very fascinating and anyone who can explain them to me draws my #attention. #that and i kinda envy alloros for having the option of acceptable life partnership #i don't envy the institution of marriage at all (okay well maybe the legal benefits and privileges of it) #(but i don't think i'd ever EVER want to get married for love... no no no no) #(that and amatanormativity has a toxic grip on a lot of non-aromantic ppl setting up unrealistic/dangerous expectations) #(kind of like how men can benefit from male privilege while still being harmed by patriarchy and toxic masculinity at the same time) #i just wish i could have like. a stable unit of loving relationship(s) to rely on. committed to me for the rest of my life. #that sounds nice y'know? #i don't have to have butterflies in my stomach when i look in someone's eyes to want that general protection #that and i also want people to take care of. #i've been thinking lately. i've never thought of myself as someone who wants kids someday. #but ever since working w kids all the time i've kind of had a change of heart. not like maternal instincts but like. yeah #i wouldn't mind raising one of these. one which is my own little person to care for #(i do feel the urge to be a caretaker for other ppl as well which is also an important aspect of the construct of marriage) #and it's like. oh maybe it's not that i don't want kids i might JUST not want to get married. and i cant picture having kids wo marriage. #if i wanna have my baby. well there's the physical labor of doing that if i want it to be biologically mine but... skipping that #whether i adopt or not (AND YEAH RIGHT i dont think i could adopt easily as a single parent) #i could NEVER picture myself raising a kid alone. like. unthinkable. some ppl can do it but im not one of those ppl #im going on too long a rant now wasnt i talking about how smart and cool i am................ originally #that was a long time ago. when i was writing the rebloggable text and not the tags.