#this. is why i have trust issues.

[morayofsunshine]

LSNFJFJFJFHFIFIGHTJDHSHABAVD

#i ran across the crosswalk and down the street on a strained leg to catch the bus which was sitting there the whole time the lights had #been changing (and it was past the intersection) #for it to take off AS I WAS RUNNING TOWARDS IT #it was also late but it would have taken them. 3 seconds. to pick me up i was literally right at the bus when it left #AND I WOULDN'T HAVE BEEN LATE IF MY BUS BEFORE THAT HADN'T BEEN 10 MINUTES LATE #AAAAAAAAAAAAAA #this. is why i have trust issues. #i'm not actually blaming the bus drivers btw they're probably overworked and underpaid #and this wouldn't be a problem if we had more frequent buses and accurate times accounting for delays #i'm just SUPER FRUSTRATED RN #also i pretend cried at the intersection when i saw the bus already there and then i was like 'don't be so dramatic christina' #and i'm sure the cyclist passing me thought i was either losing it or being rude

[stsghrs]

"Don't worry, I'm the strongest" "Nah, I'll win"

LIES LIES LIES

ALL MEN DO IS LIE

#this is why i have trust issues #you believe one (1) man and see what happens #he fucking dies and is dreaming about his man (!) #like are you kidding me rn #i hate him (affectionate) #jjk 236 #jjk spoilers #jujutsu kaisen #jjk #gojo satoru #geto suguru #satosugu #sugusato #stsg #sgst #gege when i catch you gege #gege why #jjk manga spoilers

[horrorlesbians]

if i had a girlfriend i would chew on their thighs instead of using a stress ball. who said that

#🦌 #IM PISSED. LIVID EVEN. < work thing. #this is why i have trust issues bc people fuck up my shit #and now i have to clean it up

[atomicradiogirl]

marvel had the perfect opportunity to make sylvie have a lesbian 80s romance so we can have wlw mlm solidarity w lokius. i love sylvie’s character so much you could do so! much! with her in terms of growth and learning to trust and love someone but noooooo she‘s just being used for selfcest. thanks, marvel.

also like that would be a sick departure from expectations that she’s just going to flat out be endgame with loki but alas we do not live in a perfect world and chances are marvel would do this type of representation horribly if that was even on the table.

#my thoughts #loki #loki series #sylvie #lokius #lesbianmodeactivated #this is why i have trust issues

[tripthelightfandomtastic]

GIVE US THE REST OF RUNWAY BLUES YOU COWARD!

#this is why i have trust issues joshua #starcatcher #gvf #greta van fleet #josh kiszka #jake kiszka #danny wagner #sam kiszka #jake gvf #josh gvf #danny gvf #sam gvf

[uncanny-tranny]

The most infuriating form of sanism is this idea that mentally ill people/people with mental disorders are just too stupid or too unenlightened to know how to be a proper, well-adjusted person

So many therapists have ignored signs of my unwellness simply because they assumed I was just... being stupid, and I just needed educating about why I'm acting disordered (apparently, mental disorders stop disordering you once you are condescendingly told why you're just disordered and dumb, who knew (sarcasm)).

Like, I could tell them that I knew my behaviour wasn't "rational," wasn't "reasonable" to do or believe and I'd still be treated like I was so dumb I needed hand-holding and scolding about why I'm acting disordered.

I truly wish that people would be able to take the idea of guidance and stop twisting it into "I am superior and enlightened and the people I am trying to help are stupid and wrong and beneath me!"

#mental health #mental health advocacy #ableism #ableism tw #sanism #sanism tw #yes therapist i was aware that using 1/3 of a bottle of detergent for a medium-sized load of laundry isn't rational... #...and that it could wreck my clothes and my washer (which is why i brought it up in the first place. because i knew it wasn't right)... #...like that's an example and it's SO infuriating just how high of a horse some professionals (and even laypeople) put themselves on... #...like when you stop viewing patients as PEOPLE who need guidance and start viewing them as essentially helpless idiots you have a problem #and that problem should either be addressed or you should leave the practice utterly if you're a licensed professional #call me crazy but i don't think this attitude is conducive to the PATIENT'S well-being #the PATIENT is the person who matters. the PATIENT is the most important part of this ENTIRE interaction #the instance i was thinking about in this tag rant fucking *destroyed* my trust in that therapist #because it just told me that i wasn't being seen as a *person* but as an *issue* #and regardless of if that was their intention i still don't think it was appropriate #you can have the *best* intentions and still be ignorant and say/do ignorant things. even with the best intentions #having 'good intentions' does not absolve you of harm or absolve you of the capability TO harm #another reason i Do Not Like CBTherapy

[mikakuna]

the absolute horror and offence in his face at alfred taking away his dinner is perfectly captured

#ok now let's get sad: jason has food issues from his time on the streets so he doesn't deal well with food being taken from him #he initially thinks he did something wrong and that's why alfred is taking away his food #anyways #i just know as a kid jason couldn't control his facial expressions #he doesn't have to say a single word for everyone to know what he's thinking #if he's pissed at you trust you will know #he gives the best stink eye #the first time jason made an exaggerated facial expression bruce has the laugh of his life #who is this sassy child #for context: the bat logo lit up in the sky when they were just about to eat dinner #jason todd #red hood #batman #alfred pennyworth #second robin #robin ii #robin jason todd #dc #dc comics

[juno-infernal]

they should invent a device that lets you immediately revoke all the information about yourself you’ve ever shared with anyone

#m #ideally it should be a big red button. and make a loud buzzer sound when you press it. #no i’m not ‘avoidant’ i don’t have ‘trust issues’ why are you saying that. i’m pressing the button again

[winepresswrath]

hi! i always love your MDZS/CQL takes; can i ask what are the questions you think CQL is asking, as compared to MDZS?

I haven't actually revisited either canon in ages, which is making me nervous. what questions the novel is interested in can be pretty contentious all on its own! @mikkeneko has an excellent answer in the notes here which I reccomend to everyone. My own thoughts are honestly pretty scattered- I keep on deleting things and going hm, that's not quite right.

So, for the obvious-to-me example, people reasonably zero in on the creation of innocent doctors/radish farmers who Wen Ruohan is holding hostage. In CQL it's easy to infer that Wen Qing and Wen Ning are maybe the only cultivators and almost certainly the only combatants among the Wen remnants, and their status is much more ambiguous in the novel, which I personally think is asking, essentially, "and so what? were they wrong to run, when they had a chance? Do they deserve what Jin Guangshan will do to them if they go back? Aren't they just people, actually?" Whereas the question that CQL is asking is more to the effect of "What does Wen Qing owe these people, when she is their only defence? What is she entitled to do to save them, at other people's expense? If she fucks up that moral calculus, what then? Does it matter if she's personally fond of some of the outsiders who are going to get hurt? If one of them saved her brother? Later, this question will flip to what Wei Wuxian and Jiang Cheng, and the parallel to Jiang Cheng's situation in particular is, I think, genuinely pretty fun. You're giving up the Wen as soldiers who've laid down their arms in exchange for Wen Qing also grappling with leadership and the question of how many horrors she can stand to look the other way on to protect her own people. one reason I keep deleting so much is that a lot cql's changes were motivated at least in part by censorship, which I think we mostly share a general and justified distaste for! but I also think that within the bounds of that censorship the creative team put a lot of work into actually doing something interesting with those changes. Or, for another example- nieyao! There's a much greater emphasis on the nmj-jgy relationship, it's unambiguously very close and they are clearly extremely important to one another, and I think that's because the cql team has a lot to say about love, trust, power, and the ways those things interact, and that reflects back on all of the other relationships in play, including Wangxian. Almost every time, when CQL chooses change a relationship they make the characters in question closer- that's true for Jiang Cheng and Lan Wangji, for Wen Qing and the Yunmeng contingent, for Zixuan and Mianmian, and Huaisang and Meng Yao. It's even true for Lan Wangji and Wei Wuxian, who have a close and trusting relationship in first life! CQL puts a much greater emphasis on "all right, so you care, what next?" How do you choose someone and then choose to be good to them? What if there's a massive power disparity between you? What if you seriously disagree about your priorities and morals? How do you trust someone who's betrayed you? When is it a stupid choice to trust at all? How do you have faith that you know someone well enough for that trust to be meaningful?

for legal reasons i would like to specify that it's not that mdzs isn't interested in these problems. i do remember wangxian's literal trust fall. cql is asking these questions all the time about everyone. also for legal purposes i'm not suggesting that cql lwj and jc love each other. but! they establish a three month wartime partnership looking for wwx and then jc immediately drops him on wwx's say-so despite apparently having a positive enough opinion of him to tell wwx he thinks they should make up twice. lan wangji will later tell wwx he thinks he should loop jc in on the second flautist! these are people trying to navigate some kind of relationship/shared interest/community, as opposed to a hateful void. cql wants to say hey, how do you go about this? while I'm here and rambling cql also puts a lot of emphasis on wwx's connection to yunmeng and changes things up so instead of feeling alienated right before he leaves our last glimpse of him there is happily picking lotuses and playing with a kid! in both stories the narrative is asking who do you protect? who do you leave behind? can you ever get it back? but the angles are very different.

#why are there so many people who simultaneously argue that cql dumbs down mdzs and also that mdzs is the slow reveal of how wwx is a #perfect angel who has never done anything wrong in his life #being let down by everyone around him #surely you have to pick an option #but lan wangji and wei wuxian being close friends in the first life really does change everything #i have seen people (reasonably) be annoyed with this as an adaptation choice #but! i like this change a lot and i think they do interesting things with it #There's still a lot of emphasis on what makes them so particularly perfect for each other but imo moving Lan Wangji into the category of #people wwx loved in the first life #shifts the focus from #when will they get together #to #What it would take and what would they have to do for these people to have to do to have a successful partnership? #If loving someone is the first step what comes next? Who do I want to be to the people around me? #i love the focus on wwx's trust issues as trust issues! problems that he's had with lwj specifically before! #and the solution isn't just oh well lwj is perfectly trustworthy #though that's obviously part of it #wwx has to like. decide for himself to do some things differently this time around in order to reap the rewards of being really in it with #someone. and lwj does too! it's a journey they're on together #i have simply rambled in all directions i'm sorry anon

[musclesandhammering]

Once again thinking about how every single one of Loki’s emotional problems stems from his abandonment and rejection issues, which originated from him being rejected and abandoned as an infant.

#like literally. all of them. #his trust issues. his insecurity issues. his desperation to prove himself. his feeling of having no place and no purpose. his jealousy. #every single emotional problem he has ultimately can be traced back to deep seated feelings of rejection and abandonment #and the first and most scarring abandonment he ever had was when his bio father left him to die #like even though he doesn’t consciously remember it #it definitely screwed him up for life #i just love that all of his angst over all of the projects he’s been in can be traced back to the 1 thing marvel doesn’t wanna talk about #his adoption/heritage #it’s so tragically poetic #and this exactly why it needs to be brought up way more than it is #jotun loki #loki Laufeyson #loki meta #thor 2011 #Loki series #Laufey #odin

[spacedlexi]

people dont talk enough about how heartbreaking the marlon betrayal mustve been for clem too,,

this dude saves the life of her and her kid. takes them in has them patched up gives them their first hot meal in who knows how long. gives them a safe place to stay. possibly permanently. confides in her that hes trying to be a good leader but feels like and fears that hes failing. asks her to help him take care of the rest of the group. helps her get over her fear of dogs by asking her to trust him. and things go well. she feels safe. like this place could really finally be the home shes been looking for

but as soon as she finds out what happened to the twins. that marlon planned on giving up her and aj too. she immediately becomes a liability to him and he attempts to kill her for it. locks her in the basement to die by walker. then tries to turn the group against her so he can shoot her instead when the first method fails. and he nearly succeeds

then a majority of the group turn against clem the minute aj kills marlon. ignoring marlons mistakes but condemning aj for his. like clem wasnt betrayed by marlon in the exact same way he betrayed the twins. like she literally wasnt almost killed twice? and how long had he been considering giving her up? was it always some contingency he planned? did he truly want to keep them around and things only changed when he feared the raiders had returned? she'll never know

#i think about this a lot... the betrayal... clems deep trust issues... then they all want to kick her out (except vi aasim and tenn 💕) #when she was just as impacted if not more so than the rest of them. since she was the only one with her Life on the line #thats why violet fighting so hard for them to stay is so important imo and would MEAN SO MUCH to clem too #vi and aasim are the only ones who can see past the bullshit and realize that theyre safer with clem around #while the rest would rather kick her out so they dont have to acknowledge their confused feelings about marlon #like first marlon betrays her then the rest of the group tell her to get fucked and die. dont come back. we never want to see you again #but she does. and she saves them #personally i do think marlon had 'good' intentions but he was a scared and fucked up kid who made bad decisions #and continued to make bad decisions to cover for his previous fuck ups #but that just makes him interesting :) #and i like teaching aj the difference between people like marlon and people like lilly #all of clems 'wow i feel so safe here :) and these guys seem smart :)' personal dialogue around ericsons makes me 😭 #she was so happy to be at ericsons. and they turn against her so fast when she was more of a victim than any of them #aj is a literal baby. do not treat him like an adult who can make fully rationalized decisions. hes a baby and he only knows survival #at least they slowly get over it after clem comes back (some take longer than others...) #but the lack of compassion in voting to kick them out is heartbreaking. she was heartbroken #and thats not acknowledged as much as it should be #posting this old drafted post now cuz it expands my feelings on clems broken heartedness about the marlon situation #it speaks #twdg

[mezz000]

When I first saw these images on Tommy’s insta my whole body took a screenshot & I had a full blown heart attack, before I learned that that was just his nephew and he was trolling lol

#this is why I have trust issues #tommy bowe #smosh #smoshpit #smoshcast #smosh games #smosh cast #smosh pit #spencer agnew #gay

[theoakleafpancake]

Crowley Meratyn was the first person Halt traveled with since his departure from Dun Kilty. And sure, while the Ranger was a welcome relief and perhaps annoyingly cheerful distraction from the memories, it took him a while to feel at peace.

The first night, Crowley had suggested they sleep in shifts. And of course the Ranger had taken the first shift. Halt, of course, had demurred, not wanting to cause unrest, and he had indeed turned his back to his new companion, but he didn’t sleep.

He didn’t trust this Crowley, plain and simple. There was almost a glimmer of Ferris from their younger years. Back when the responsibilities of the throne had been a fleeting whisper, back when their parents had left them to the care of their nurses and tutors. Back when he could laugh and smile and not worry about the future. Ferris had been happy, then. And so had Halt.

And then over time, things had changed. His brother had kept the front everywhere else, but when they were alone, he was distant and cold. Halt knew himself to be a fool for not seeing it sooner, or perhaps he had simply been willing to turn a blind eye. After all, Ferris was his brother. His friend, his confidant. He would never betray his kingdom, let alone his own blood.

Halt had learned that lesson the hard way. And he was determined to catch Crowley’s facade the moment he saw one slip up. He would not be taken in this time.

He would not be betrayed a second time.

#rangers apprentice #john flanagan #halt o’carrick #ferris o'carrick #crowley meratyn #1) he had a severe fear of water after the entire incident that didn’t go away for years (yeah doesn’t fit with the storyline but its an hc) #2) after being betrayed by your brother I feel like you’d have major trust issues after that #and yeah Crowley’s likeable but there’s no way halt was immediately taken in by this strange sense of peace #because he’s not used to that #he’s used to constant fights and having to tip toe over his parents and his brother #he’s used to bottling most things up because how can he burden his younger sister with everything he’s deal with #hes not used to this welcoming and friendly personality #because the last person he fully trusted tried to drown him #his parents couldn’t love him and nor could his twin #so why would anyone else willingly invite him along

[painalotwww]

#eminem #slim shady #fanart #eminem fanart #Detroit: become android #智械危机 #这个年代还在炒底特律大变活人的冷饭这样真的好吗 #My housekeeping Android is a dumb bitch whos only capable of use the microwave #Then I found out he was just a piece of junk been made from sex doll that had gone off the market #So I decided to treat him the proper way like fuck him everynight，you got a hole down there why should I waste it #I think things are going well，I maybe in love with him already…… #oh yeah，he's my wife now #however since he really doesn't know how to do housework，I ordered a new model of Domestic Android，you know，cause I really can use it #I didn't know this decision would become a serious problem #Damn he thinks I'm replacing him #he's really having some trust issues，given his past work experience I got him #But that's not the excuse for him stabbing me like ten times

[uncanny-tranny]

Man, as a trans guy and abuse survivor, whenever I see people saying the likes of, "lmao, men shouldn't be allowed in anything deemed 'women's healthcare'!" It just reminds me that - especially in healthcare - my safety and comfort will never matter so long as it continues to condradict people's preconceived notions of what constitutes people worthy of healthcare. It's just something I wish the well-meaning people who are rightfully frustrated with the state of healthcare would take a second to remember.

Yes, the healthcare system sucks and we must fix it. No, that doesn't mean we ought to leave behind people just because they challenge us on our own biases.

#healthcare #trans #transgender #lgbt #lgbtq #ftm #nonbinary #abuse tw #abuse mention tw #i brought up being an abuse survivor because of a conversation i had irl that amounted to 'male gynecologists are suspicious'... #...like maybe i'm a bad victim but i just think it's thoughtless to just erase us you know? #i just don't trust that 'lmao men need to stay 500000ft away from gynecology' is a good response to genuine harm #and it doesn't just apply to gynecological care by the way it applies to all care #that conversation just reminded me of this tendency people have to immediately become suspicious of ANYthing deemed out-of-the-norm #maybe this is poorly-worded and doesn't cover everything but it's just a really annoying issue to have #and honestly it's why i avoid doctors and almost every healthcare provider unless im like... actively dying

[snowluthor]

It makes sense why Sam would hate humans but I just. Can't understand how he went from essentially worshipping Emma to turning on her and telling her she's not a hero after spending one (1) afternoon apart??

#he flipped SO FAST #this is why I have trust issues #gen v #1x08 #emma meyer #sam riordan #you play on one ice slide and suddenly Waterworld means nothing??