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Here’s to the aros:

Here’s to the aros who love. Here’s to the aros who don’t.

To the aros who desire relationships, those who don’t care for them, and anyone who is undecided.

Younger aros, older aros. Aros of every race and gender.

Here’s to the aros who like labels, and to the ones who choose not to label or label further.

To the aros who like romantic things, in concept or practice, to the aros who are just really not into that, and everyone in between.

Here’s to the aros that have conflicting feelings about aromanticism, and to those that fluctuate between feeling great and not-so-great about it.

To the aros who love their identity and wouldn’t want it any other way. To those that feel grief. To all those who celebrate aro joy, in any form.

To the aros who are out and proud, and those who potentially aren’t quite in a space for that yet.

Here’s to every aromantic person, each who contributes to our wonderful and diverse community, and all of whom are valid and valued.

Here’s to the aros.

#aromantic #aro #aromantic community #arospec #aromantic awareness #aromantic positivity #positivity post #arospec awareness week #asaw #asaw 2023 #just some late night thoughts #aro positivity #I hope you are all having a fabulous aro week!!! #I can’t believe I have to say this #but PLEASE do not reblog this post with ace tags

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Hello aros. I hope you’re doing okay today, on this random Tuesday that the world decided should be “love day.”

If platonic love is your thing, I hope today was filled with friends and pals. For all of the loveless and non-partnering, I hope you felt sunshine on your face or had a really good nap or ate some delicious food. And for everyone who just wanted to embrace the aro joy today? That’s amazing too.

Valentine’s Day can be really difficult and alienating for anyone on the aromantic spectrum. If it is for you, I see you, I hear you, and I’m sending tons of well wishes and good thoughts. Go get your discount candy and chocolate tomorrow. We all deserve it. 😌💚

#aromantic #aro #aromantic community #arospec #aromantic awareness #tw Valentine’s Day #fuck amatonormativity #valentines day sucks

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big shout out to lovequeer, loveless, and heartless aros today. the way you experience love and the lack thereof is beautiful and amazing and important. especially on this day so centered around love. you are important and valued members of this community and you deserve to be celebrated and your voices to be heard

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Tumblr just sent me a notification that I’ve reached 3000 reblogs on this account and I thought that was pretty cool.

Thanks everybody! 💚💚

#tumblr milestone #3000 reblogs #!!! #yay i guess #tag: not aro stuff

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I just went and saw a production of Little Women at my city’s theatre company and it was incredible. So many meaningful moments and scenes that were honestly heartbreaking.

I do have to say though: Jo March is aromantic. I will die fighting on this hill, idc what anyone says.

“I do love you Laurie, just not in the way that you need me to?” The marriage jokes? The uninterested manner? “I don’t want what a ‘lady’ wants?”

Like COME ON. It’s basically canon.

#aromantic #Jo March #aromantic Jo March #aro headcanons #idk tho it’s pretty canon🤷🏻‍♀️ #like tell me i’m wrong #i dare u

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Yes yes yes!!! “Aro” is not one mold everyone must fit into to be considered “valid enough.”

aros do not need to make themselves more palatable to be included in the lgbtq+ community!!!

#stop making feeling love some kind of weird complex pls #what if I told you I don’t give a damn about whether or not I feel anything?? #what then??

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the two main attitudes to aromanticism i have seen on here are "being aro is so cool reject society" and "being aro is alienating and it's okay to dislike it because of that" and from what i can tell neither group is particularly fond of the other so what im thinking is we take a bit of time to listen to each other. let some nuance into your lives! these ideas can coexist!! let's all shake hands and share opinions constructively and be a better community for it

#every single day it changes #some days I wake up and love being aro!! #other days though? #nada #it’s freaking lonely sometimes. alienating too. #confirming that these two ideas can and do coexist #even in just one human

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Have some memes today 🤣💀

#aromantic #aro #aro memes #memes #aromantic community #amatonormativity

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Sometimes being aromantic can be quite comical - especially when it involves allo friends having relationship drama. Don’t get me wrong, I am perfectly capable of giving people good and serious advice when they’re really looking for it. However, sometimes it takes all I have to not let my aro brain slip out and take over, and it’s hilarious when it does.

Allo friend: “ugh I just can’t believe they’re being like this right now. i’m not sure why i started dating them in the first place.”

What I probably should say: “i’m sure it’ll all work out, maybe there’s something else going on with them, you’re an awesome human, you don’t deserve this.” etc.

What I actually say: “maybe just… don’t date? idk.”

#aro brain #aro thoughts #aro #aromantic #aromantic culture #anyone else? #sometimes I feel like a fool #just don’t then? #simple answers #obvi it is not that simple

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Thinking today about how incredible it is that so many young people today have so much knowledge about the aspec community. I remember in high school (long before I came out,) I had one asexual alloromantic friend. They were really the only person I knew that was aspec in any way. Nobody around me really acknowledged that being aspec was something people could have as an option. Could this be why I didn’t realize sooner? Maybe?

Anyways. Fast forward to this summer, where I was having a conversation with a current high schooler about relationships - simply because they asked about my personal life. I responded in the way I usually do: “I’m just really not interested in dating because I don’t feel that way about other people, etc.”

They said to me, “oh, are you aromantic then?”

No questions about what that means, or “how could I be that way,” or “you just haven’t found the right person yet.” They knew right off the top of their head what aromanticism was. It caught me off guard - as this has never happened to me before in person with another human. I know it seems like the bare minimum, understanding what something is… but truth be told it was the best feeling on earth when I didn’t have to explain or defend myself.

It shows simply what the power of acknowledgment and information can do. Younger people seem to be getting a foundation (whether it is taught or googled or talked about in conversations) in which they discover that they have other options outside of feeling attraction to others. I think that’s simply amazing. 💚💜

#aromantic #aro #aromantic community #long post #aromantic awareness #aromantic positivity

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Asexuals and aromantics are actually allowed to do anything they want forever, and it's okay if allo people don't "get it". You don't need to be the perfect aro or ace in order to be aro or ace, I pinky swear

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There's something about being aromantic that's just so freeing. Realising I have the freedom to shape my relationships in unique ways with people rather than having to conform to the cookie cutter of amatonormativity is one of my favourite parts about being aro, about being queer. In the immortal words of Rage Against the Machine, fuck you I won't do what you tell me, nothing is more queer

#love this #aromantic #arospec #aro positivity

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Poly aros who see one set of relationship standards and go nope not for me but then see the other set of relationship standards and go NOPE NOT FOR ME.

Like, way to freaking double up on the expulsion of norms. What a fantastic way to live life. Just saying.

#aromantic #aro #polyamarous #poly aro #poly aromantic #just say nope #bye bye norms #see u never

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I love not feeling love

#that’s it #that’s the post

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A Checklist Of Possible Reasons I Am Upset, To Review When I Can't Seem To Figure It Out:

did not eat

new hyperfixation and no time for it

have not done a creative in 24 hrs

Bad Sounds

clothes are touching my body

cold

people

one (1) comment is stuck in my brain like a popcorn kernel

last time I drank water was ??????

nervous nervous nervous nervous

got a Slightly Worse grade than expected

last hug was ??????

slept a full 45 minutes

lonely ............

guts are shredding (again)

have not seen sunlight in 24 hrs

stuck inside

too much screen time

Yay Overwhelm

room is disaster area

have not talked to Person in a while

bored

imposter phenomenon (again)

no current routine

how long have I been working???

Too Much Socialization

and then. and THEN. I may consider:

something is actually wrong

#tag: not aro stuff

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While I don’t ever see myself being in one, I love the idea of queer-platonic relationships. I love that they give aspec individuals who are interested a way to indulge in relationships that can be molded and shaped into anything. I love that there are no expectations of what it needs to be or what specific things need to happen. I love that every person has the opportunity to make it fit to their own needs and wants. I love how aphobes get so angry about relationships that don’t fit their inherently-romantic standards. QPRs just simply are, and no one can mess with them. I love that. Shoutout to people who are in/want QPRs, especially those whose relationships look very different from the amatonormative standard. Y’all really rock for saying “screw you” to romantic relationship norms and making it work by creating your own instead!

#this isn’t anything #simply a gushy paragraph #legitimately have never wanted a qpr #and that’s okay #but everyone who does? #*chefs kiss* #i love the aro community #aro #aromantic #aspec #qpr #aromantic community #arospec #aspec positivity

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I’m being fussed at for smiling at my phone like i am just trying my hardest not to laugh at this image

#for the aros