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I feel so... down whenever I want to watch queer or trans videos because I know in the back of my mind that none of the current large queer content creators' content or community is safe for people like me, intersex people.

I love their work otherwise, but it hurts badly to hear them toss around casual intersexism in their videos constantly when discussing queer and trans issues and nobody ever mentions it.

And because these are large, popular creators, nobody has ever listened when I've tried to ask they adjust their language. My dms go ignored or unseen and my public comments get drowned out by fans defending their intersexist comments. It's emotionally draining and exhausting, I just want to be included in my own community.

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I'm still having a hard time wrapping my head around the concept that some people genuinely like being around their family. Like you wish they were there, the same way you want your friends to be around? And look forward to spending time with them? It's a reward, and not something you'll have to reward yourself for tolerating?

I always figured that family works like international politics, contracts between countries, you don't like or trust each other but you can't survive on your own so you pretend that you do, and if someone breaks a contract then everyone else turns on them to decimate them - not because they're moral or care about loyalty, but to make sure that nobody else breaks contracts again out of fear of being torn apart the same way.

It's a system of vague, ambiguous debts. Your family put up with you and tolerated you when you were a child, so now you owe it to them to put up with them and tolerate them as an adult. Family aren't people who like you, they are people who'll help you despite of not liking you. It's an in-built feature, you don't abuse the help network for frivolous things because enduring your family is so unpleasant that it's better to do all that you can to survive on your own rather than turn to them for help.

I stopped talking to family because I benefit nothing from this system and honestly forgot why I'm supposed to contribute to it. I have a partner, friends, neighbours and complete strangers to turn to, if I'm really in such dire need of help that I fear that I would die. I'd rather go knocking on the doors of complete strangers than try to ask help from family, so why pay the tax for the worst-choice service when I have better options available literally for free?

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you do not need to tolerate disrespect from anyone

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#lgbt+ #queer #lgbtqia #lables #language #writer #mental health #culture #lgbt community #queer community #community

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I want to see how much of tumblr is aro

Pls reblog if u vote :)

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the colors of winter

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december is here and this cutie loves it (inkstaboy instagram)

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favorite season ❄️

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I’d like to live in this picture today🤍

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— Natalie Diaz, Manhattan Is a Lenape Word

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Magnifique winter 💙

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Here’s your daily reminder that you are freaking AMAZING and you CAN do that thing that you have been thinking about and that has been bothering you!

Small steps =progress !!!