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It’s so funny how I have this one friend who I generally get along with but who’s normally in a different friend group than me but a few days before every exam we get in tough again because we both didn’t start studying early and are now stressed out xD

#starrytalking #like most people in my day to day friendgroup study a lot and also early #so it’s really relaxing and making me feel better to also have friends who are also a mess and don’t study early enough and cram everything #a few days prior to the exam #it makes me feel less like a fairlure or alone when I’m going to it with others :))

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Damn, realising you’ve made a mistake and wanting to work on yourself aka not do that again is tougher/more vulnerable that I would’ve … idk. Wanted it to be.

#starrytalking #so glad the respective friend talked to me about it very kindly and I think we both felt better after that talk!

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Running a club with a friend means your calls are gonna be 50% about the stuff you actually needed to talk about and 50% rants about annoying people not doing their work and I think that’s beautiful xD

#starrytalking #like come on you hated so much on that dude who never told people when he didn’t have time and was unreliable #and then you text uns ten minutes into the supposed-to-be group call that you can’t attend when we’ve planned this call days ahead #and also talked about the time we wanted it to be and you never said anything that’s would’ve indicated that you might not have time #like it’s okay but it’s also annoying and I hugs hope that these are just problems because we haven’t been in the leading positions for a #lot of time yet #whatever #debating club life <3

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Heartstopper 2.07

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having a teenager aroace character in media is so important to me, isaac is one year younger than me and people think you have to have your whole life complete to finally be able to label yourself as aroace but it's not like that

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*Me in middle school googling “what does a crush feel like” because I literally could not tell*

Also me when I realized I was aroace a couple years later:

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OH MY GOD I’ve just texted with an allo friend of mine and we agreed to have a talk about allo- and asexuality soon when we meet in person so that we can understand each other better and I’m finally getting answers y’all😭😭✨

#starrytalking #aromantic #asexual #aro #ace #aroace #lgbtq+ #talk to allos xD #attraction #are the allos okay

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Isaac Henderson + Text Posts

#starrytalking #yes yes yes to all of this #i literally related sooo much to him!! #heartstopper #heartstopper season two #isaac henderson #aroace

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can we get some sex repulsed ace positivity on the dash

setting boundaries with your friends is not a moral failing

not wanting to see discussion of certain topics is not a moral failing

curating your dash and muting certain terms or tags is not a moral failing

you are not required to expose yourself to anything that makes you uncomfortable

you are not "puritanical" or "regressive" for wanting your boundaries respected

you deserve a place in the community. you deserve your voice to be heard.

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a little reminder for my aroace/aspec friends:

it's okay to have a crush. it's okay to like someone. it's okay to have a summer fling. it's okay to like romance. it's okay to read and watch romance. it's okay to doubt. it's okay to change. it's okay to undo that change. it's okay to exist.

sexuality is fluid. romantic attraction is fluid. people change. you are still aroace, or whatever you want to be. there is no perfect definition of how to live your life.

Don't let anyone else tell you how to exist. You define yourself.

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Recently I was at a meet-up-thing for a-spec people and one of the older ones who organise these meet-ups said in the course of a conversation “well I’m ace and whatever sort of attraction I might feel every time a full moon aligns with the bloom of a special flower won’t shake my understanding of myself, I’m secure enough in who I am to not let that shatter my picture of myself” (that was a very loose quote but I think u get what she meant). And I just found it so funny cause she said it like it was a ridiculous thought to herself, that something small like that could impact herself so much because she’s obviously very at piece and secure with and in her asexuality and while I’m also quite sure of myself in that regard nowadays, there was a long period of time where a random maybe-attraction could definitely make myself question my whole sexuality all over again so that ridiculous thought was and in parts still is a reality to me. And I think this really beautifully shows how self-discovery is a process that we’re all taking at our own pace but that can “end” at some point where we can still be open to new feelings and realisations but where we can have found a way to self-identify that makes us be secure in who we are and where the path of self-discovery is less a daily shattering of our perception of ourselves and more a stable ground we can be free to make new experiences on.

#starrytalking #just to be clear she obviously spoke about her own experiences and I’m pretty sure she didn’t mean to invalidate anyone who would be really #unsettled after experiencing something that makes them going into questioning all over again #also that wasn’t the main topic of that conversation it just briefly came up #and I found it funny in what different stages of questioning and self-identification we are #so it was funny but also cool to see how open she is about her asexuality and how safe she feels in it #like the older people at this meet up honestly make me so emotional because I’m not even out to most people I know and these people are out #there living their lives and being openly ace and organising meet-ups and holding speeches and being in YouTube videos #it’s honestly so so cool to see that!!! and that’s exactly why representation matters! because it makes me believe that asexuality is real #and that my feelings are normal and valid which is super helpful at times where my head tries to tell me that it’s all just on the internet #which isn’t true but it kinda feels like it but with these meet-ups and friends of mine also being aspec and storylines like Isaacs in #Heartstopper I can feel more secure of that :))) #asexual #ace #aroace #aspec #lgbtq+ #queer #thoughts #representation matters #self discovery

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Me before realizing I'm aroace: why is everyone so obsessed with romance? Sex sounds so gross. I don't want to have kids or marry anyone. Why do people my age care so much about crushes? I don't want to date anyone.

Me after realizing I'm aroace: It all makes sense now.

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Quote of the Day- June 3, 2022

Quote of the Day- June 3, 2022

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#that’s literally so important and i’m really happy they put that on the show!! #heartstopper season two #so much love for alice oseman😭😭❤️

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Uni life is great! I can meet up with my friends, get hugs and cuddles and then go home and just be on my own and free and content.

#aromantic #starrytalking #lgbtq+ #friendssss #I love themmmmm #they are all so great!!

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JUST WENT TO A PRIDE PARADE AND SAW THIS SIGN

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Just cause you don't understand aromanticism that doesn't mean it's not real I sure as hell don't understand photosynthesis but I'm pretty damn sure it's real

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"Loveless marriage" except in a joyous, loveless aromantic way instead of a miserable amatonormative way.