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I hate the “open floor plan” that everyone is obsessed with in houses now. I want nooks and crannies and bizarre floor plans. I don’t need to be able to see what someone is doing on the other side of the house. I want places to hide and lurk and dwell in the shadows. I am the beast who awaits in the labyrinth

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to you it’s perverted gross sex. to me it’s being creative, working through traumas and baggage, healing my inner child, playing, practicing intense vulnerability, finding even more ways to fall in love with my partner, finding more ways to fall in love with myself, learning confidence & how to ask for what i want, care work, emotional release, relaxing, community building, theater, dance, writing, problem solving, therapy, radical honestly, and so much more. and also it’s gross perverted sex.

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Something in me wants more. I can't rest.

— Sylvia Plath, from “The Unabridged Journals of Sylvia Plath.”

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When your partner has a praise kink but you're Montessori trained so you know that praise is an ineffective way to encourage development and it's much more productive to acknowledge their effort so that they learn to effectively give themselves feedback so they can develop a healthy intrinsic motivation instead of deriving their self worth from labels put on them by other people .... "baby it's amazing how much you could last today compared to last week"

#lol

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When little miss "I can do it by myself. Watch me." meets Mr "Sit down and let Daddy handle it, precious."

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please don’t let tumblr convince you that sex is bad if it’s vanilla sex. passionate, loving, slow sex is awesome

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Please someone make me this red 🤤

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““i hope you find someone who knows when to give you space and when to hold you close.” - r.h. sin”

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This is part rant, part sex advice so read at your own discretion. Also one of those posts I'll get a lot of flak for.

In lesbian nsfw content on tumblr dot com one of the most prevalent sentiments is 'I want to pleasure my partner' (insert any variation on it) which is fair and all, and there are a lot of service tops around so it makes sense really. But. For some of us who have difficulty experiencing orgasm or even enjoying sex at all, making our pleasure the focal point of the experience is the absolute worst thing you could do.

It's a nice sentiment, I guess, but if it doesn't actually produce pleasure, is it really that nice? And before you come at me with 'some people really are just service tops and they get their pleasure from pleasuring their partner' - I get it, I do. As a top (or dom/me) you have the right to your preferences and you may absolutely refuse to tell your partner 'Your orgasm is inconsequential, I'm gonna fuck you anyway'. Not to mention that approach is verging on kinky and getting near mindfuck territory, which not every top (as in the person doing the penetration in this case) is comfortable with. Heck, not every dom/me is comfortable with that either - pretending to disregard your partner's pleasure can be a particular flavor of kink not everyone is into.

Buuut.. a lot of what I'm seeing here comes across more as a lack of real-world experience rather than a self-aware preference to focus on your partner's pleasure. Like for example, the amount of 'overstimulation' posts I'm seeing is just wildly disproportionate compared to the amount of women who can be forced to orgasm again and again, and again. This has never been my experience on either side of the dynamic, nor the experience of any of my friends or acquaintances. More often than not, women have trouble reaching a climax and can't really be "forced" into it.

Orgasms are not just a bodily sensation triggered by a certain type of mechanical stimulation. They require you to be in the right headspace as well. So if you actually want to bring about an orgasm, dropping the pressure may be (I want to say usually is) your best bet.

Look, I get it. I've been with women who come from a 2-minute clit rub. I didn't feel particularly accomplished with them... but they do exist! How wonderful for them and the people who just love pleasuring them. The rest of us however? 'Your pleasure is my pleasure' is the worst approach with us. Like, thanks, now if I don't come not only am I bruising your ego but also diminishing your pleasure? That's A LOT of pressure put on my fickle mental focus and unreliable vagina.

All of this is to say: it's fine to have your fantasies of overstimulating a partner to the point of incoherence. But be prepared that the reality of sex may be very, very different depending on how your partner's body and mind work. And sometimes, if your partner's pleasure really is that important to you, pretending it's the complete opposite might be the key to the castle - if you can get with that of course. Nothing's done a better job at helping me let go and experience actual pleasure than a partner's response to my 'I'm not sure if I can come though...':

"That's okay, baby. I don't need you to come for me to enjoy your body."

Um. Yes, Sir.

*I use the word 'woman' here purely based on my actual real-life experience so far but I'm sure this is applicable to a number of different identities. Even for some cis men orgasms are not as easy and effortless as porn makes it seem, I've been told.

#claudia says #wlw ns/ft #wlw bd/sm #wlw nsft #wlw ns/fw #sapphic ns/ft #sapphic nsft #sapphic bd/sm #sapphic ns/fw #lesbian #sapphic #wlw #stone butch #butch lesbian #butchfemme #butch dyke #butch #butch4femme #femme lesbian #high femme #butchfemme nsft

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Me, about my upcoming birthday: Seriously, I have enough stuff. If you're going to get me anything-- I was going to say 'Get me an experience' but that could be misconstrued in so many ways. My new friend: Yeah, I would start thinking along the lines of rafting... Me: Definitely not. I'm into more refined adrenaline experiences. Like getting spanked. Not... hanging head-down from a bridge praying the rope won't break. My new friend: O.o

#claudia says #refined experiences #wlw nsft #wlw ns/fw #sapphic ns/fw #sapphic ns/ft #wlw bd/sm #sapphic bd/sm

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Reblogging my own post to announce that I've made a new friend purely by embracing cringe and vulnerability.

It's like we all collectively forgot as a society that friendship and just connection in general takes effort. Even if you meet someone you immediately click with, it takes hanging out about 20 times (!) to become friends. And guess what, some of those 20 meetings might be awkward or unimpressive.

We all want to reap the benefits (having a friend circle, having a partner, getting married) without doing the work (going to events, interacting with people, learning to handle conflict maturely, dating). Myself included. If I could, I'd never leave the house or go on another mediocre date again... except, that's part of the process.

I guess what I'm trying to say is, the cure to the loneliness epidemic is touching some grass and building tolerance for tedious in-person interactions.

#yeah luck also played a part #but luck can be self-created #by putting ourselves out there #directly in the line of potential social interactions #and that can be a book club you don't have to go to parties #I hate parties

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daddy in the sense that you’re mommy. let daddy take care of mommy, let her let go of all of her worries and responsibilities and just get fucked mindless. fucked until she forgets her to-do list and is just crying for more dick, more fucking.

this is about lesbian sex. men and minors dni.

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there's something about butches reclaiming protectiveness and chivalry from an imposed "caring, nurturing" character associated and often forced upon women. something about how while straight men often try to present as careless as possible, masculinity and care are not only not conflicting in the butch identity, but inherent to it. there's something there.

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Sorry but it's age xD I reached that age too. Especially if you wake up early for work during the week your body gets used to it and then on the weekend it's like 'Time to wakey-wakey. No, your alarm hasn't gone off yet. It's 8 am.'

How do y’all sleep in? I couldn’t if my life depended on it.

#getting old sucks for so many reasons #I'm more mentally stable and physically brittle than ever #and I'm no longer at the age that would give an older butch pause and make her lust slightly ethically questionable #like.. slightly #just enough to make it hotter

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i need .n i can not stress this enough. to be fucked by a top who turns into a whimpering animal as soon as they bottom out in u like pushing all their weight down onto ur shoulders, clawing at u n borderline crying from how good u feel, scrambling to grab something or plant their feet so they can push further into u even tho theyre already hip deep, just rutting at u with tht glassy blissed out look in their eyes . yeha

#oh my

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ugh I just miss physical intimacy. hold my hand?? put your hands on my waist?? tuck my hair behind my ear?? kiss my neck??

not a want but a need, applications are open

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Good boy, handsome, boyfriend... the holy trinity of words reserved for lesbians only.