#But lower standards for others

[pudgybun]

I just block all the weirdo anons I get but... look how delusional these ppl are

My bio is "nasty and rude"?? All it says is to not degrade me and to be gentle and kind 😭 that's nasty to u??

#babbles #sooo funny but not funny haha... #lighten up is their way of saying lower ur expectations and standards and let others dehumanize u ig?

[obstinatecondolement]

It feels like every day I read attempts to debunk the social model of disability that fundamentally misunderstand what the social model of disability is and who the people who developed that model were, including what the nature of their disabilities was, and I want to scream.

But I don't, because yelling at people on the internet is basically pointless. Instead I check to see that I'm not mutuals with whoever reblogged said misunderstanding and vague about it.

#'but [x impairment] would still exist and have [y implications] even if the world were completely accessible!' #okay well yeah but equating impairment and disability is explicitly the opposite of the social model of disability #the union of the *physically impaired* against segregation who developed this model #*were* by and large privileged in ways many other disabled people are not‚ yes #mike oliver who wrote the fucking book on the social model of disability #(social work with disabled people‚ published in 1983) #was a white man with a phd who pioneered an academic field‚ for one #and there *are* criticisms about the limitations to a purely social model of disability to be made #but like... our pal mike oliver was also a wheelchair user who broke his neck in a swimming accident as a teenager #which caused paralysis that affected his upper and lower body #not a clueless 'physically abled' autistic who didn't understand how physical limitations work #he lived the first 17 years of his life as a physically abled person #so I think he was aware of the difference between what his body could do before and after his accident #and like 'disability is socially constructed' #is not saying that differences between people and what they are able to do or do easily do not exist?? #my eyesight is so bad that if I could not access corrective lenses I would be functionally blind #and even with glasses my myopia and astigmatism cause a lot of tangible effects on my body #e.g. migraines‚ eyestrain‚ so many floaters that even looking through pristine glasses is like the lenses are scratched to hell #but my eyesight is not considered a disability #because the accommodations that enable me to participate in society fully in this area are so standard as to be invisible #can I magically see without corrective lenses? no #does wearing glasses not being considered a disability mean that I do not get migraines and eyestrain? no #so the arguments the thing I am vaguing are trying to debunk are not what is being argued! #well seems like I screamed about it after all #oh well

[sangfielle]

I don't care about saying that I live in the Houston area online, that is a space that broadly includes over 7 million people in it. You are not finding me just because I say that I'm here. However. Recommending one of my favorite restaurants would give a much smaller area that I could feasibly reside in. So I can't do that. But it's so fucking good. My father, for all of his many faults, is one of the best chefs I have ever encountered, and this place is basically the only eatery besides his own restaurants and one restaurant back in Kentucky that closed a couple of years ago that I've found to be remotely similar in quality to his food, and myself and my partners are usually the only people in there besides the staff when we go.

#I am extremely picky with Mediterranean food because I grew up eating his cooking all the time. #Which has given me unreasonable standards #that I am willing to lower for other members of my family. But basically no one else. So it makes it hard. #personal

[weedle-testaburger]

tbh there's a little part of me that's tempted to try prime but i refuse to do anything ever that benefits logan paul

#personal crap #if it was just ksi's sports drink I'd try it he's alright by big youtuber standards on his own #but he sucks logan paul's dick and i have no idea why it just lowers my (and I'm sure lots of other people's) opinion of him

[wonwoonlight]

The internalized racism ppl proudly show off everytime they say bts is bigger than kpop is astounding

#im just #i like them #i really do #and yes theyve achieved so much more than any other group that has ever existed #but saying theyre bigger than kpop #when the members have constantly mentioned #over #and over #and over again #that theyre a part of it and theyre trying to be a good representative of it #and ppl are out there saying things like that #like kpop as a genre is just a joke lmao #literally #theyre under a korean management #active in the korean industry #sings in korean #plus theyre literally korean 😭😭😭😭😭 #thank u for showing ppl you think korean pop is just lower in standard when it comes to music i guess #bc pop is 😳it😳 #am just so sick of ppl saying shit like that #i know fans of other groups who do shit like that btw #so yall racist ppl can go to hell

[thevioletcaptain]

the next customer to ask me "what's wrong with your eye?" is getting thrown into the sea :)

#i have a chalazion on my lower eyelid #which is basically a lump that forms when you have a blocked oil gland #oil builds up behind the blocked gland and solidfies into a hard lump #i've had one before and it went away with warm compresses and eye wash (the standard treatment) #but this one has not gone away after a few months #and is huge and uncomfortable and extremely visible #and will need to be surgically excised given that standard treatment hasn't worked #but i haven't been able to get to a doctor for it because my health insurance is all tangled up with bureaucratical nonsense #(basically i'm in coverage limbo right now) #(waiting for multiple government departments and private companies to communicate with each other) #anyway i'm super self conscious about how it looks #and i have had FIVE DIFFERENT STRANGERS at work #all but one of whom were adults who should know better #just be like ''HEY WHATS THAT THING ON YOUR EYE?'' #as if it's remotely polite or appropriate to ask someone you don't know about some clearly medical issue they have #feels great feels great #cass says things

[peppermintbutch]

me doing hrt is so funny because it does almost nothing to me emotionally I don't feel better or worse about myself it's just a pasttime like playing video games

#literally i am doing this for fun. i am a scientist and her lab rat #(this is not true always but rn i feel like this) #realized just how much my voice has already dropped today when me and my friend were singing and i was a full octave lower than her ? #anyway. I've never been good at keeping track of or noticing what's going on with my body but im kind of like fine with whatever changes #are happening. sometimes I'm thrilled about it sometimes I'm like Oh Wait Help and most of the time it's not important #most of the Oh Wait Help moments are when I realize me being on t has Implications on how other ppl think of/ interact with me #it does feel Right in some way though like I'm not thinking of stopping. It's just not as relieving and cathartic as I hoped #(same when i started adhd meds kind of. it does something to me but not as much as i thought) #i do love my body becoming more and more ungenderable and unintelligible by cis standards

[yo9urt]

mutuals i may be on the verge of becoming a gamer...

#not really LOL not like a serious one at least but umm this could be huge #mine #ok i realize i havent made a personal post in a while so let me explain... #for a while now ive been wanting to get a proper pc so i can play games and also do other stuff (<- macbook air owner) #but i was like ill just wait til i move out cause money and moving etc etc and then i was like well maybe ill get one for black friday #and then i was like no i don't have space and i need to be frugal and it'll be easier to move out if i don't have a pc to worry about #but i still want to play games...COUGH bg3. i really wanna play bg3...and minecraft and stardew valley and the yakuza games also #possibly other games too but anyway i was beginning to lose hope and then i saw someone on some thread somewhere mention the steam deck #and i was like oh yeah waht is that thing (i had never considered it before bc i thought it was more of a serious gamer thing but i also #didnt really know what it was at all anyway back on topic) so i goog'd it and it's like exactly what i need? #it's in my budget + small and portable + can run all the games on my list #(it doesn't run bg3 WELL...you have to be a bit careful with the settings and the framerate is a little messy #but i'm willing to accept that honestly it doesn't bother me i just want to play the game i'll lower my standards) #and with winter break coming up i'm like umm. i need something to do.... #plus they just came out with the oled version and after doing research #even though i want to be frugal i honestly think the 512gb oled seems like the right choice #so. i might order it tomorrow LMAO

[mothslimes]

said it before i say it again. maybe it's less internalized misogyny and more "girls who look and act like this literally bullied me from kindergarten to 12th grade and beyond" so no i would rather not talk to girls who treat female beauty standards as the holy law

#mik talks #if you think criticizing female beauty standards and those who impose them on others = criticizing all women then you might be the sexist #like im so fucking tired of feminism being all about the poor stereotypically beautiful women wearing pink skirts who are soo forced into i #hey what about the girls on the playground who were their perpetual fucking victims in their pursuit of gaining mild power #those who coulkd never even dream of fitting the mold because they werent white or straight or skinny or cis or whatever the fuck #like even the fucking barbie movie is about some beauty standard white blond skinny feminine woman being sad about sexism #this is what many terfs dont understand lul. for some feminity is a cage they dont even fit into #they have no fucking safe area of just performing their societal role #if i see one more 'fixed' 'pick me' comic where they make the author kiss the girl thats based on their bullies i will kill something #yeah blablabla the plastics in mean girls are actually victims yaaalll.... its so sad theyre the real victims...... #when will yall accept that stereotypically beautiful (especially white) women still hold power. and are often bullies. #my mom is being harassed at her workspace by her exclusively female colleagues but u tell me again how female spaces are so wholesome #and oh tell me more about the perfect female commune and the matriarchy. god you guys make me sick #oh you felt forced into performing feminity and your friendships seemed a little fake? i was called slurs in 6th grade #they stole my stuff. destroyed my things. hit me. cyberbullied me. but oh you had it so bad #to be clear this is not to say these women hold the same power as men but yeah lets not infantilize girls who CHOSE to put others down #nerdy girls who make fun of popular girls being shallow were never the problem :skull: but you all called them misogynists for being pissed #for being bullied....and wanting to feel some mild sense of superiority in their lower social role

[thedevotionaltour]

how it feels to be someone who thinks silver age writing can be fun

#NOT NECESSARILY GOOD. NOT SAYING IT'S GREAT. BUT IT'S FUN. #that or i've become highly desensitized to it after getting a chunk of issues under my belt and have lowered my standards. #but as someone who also enjoys very good comic writing. acclaimed and admired comic writing. i still think there's delight to be found #among the many bad and poorly written bits (not just talking poorly hanlded of the time writing about topics but the style of writing) #i think some writing from that area is funnier than others will admit. again. not good. but it can be funny. an amused smile worthy #also this is specifically about superhero i cannot attest to other comics. #also the funny isnt even clever half the time. it's just highly amusing of the time writing. so it's just funny bc it's dumb. #but every now and then a clever line wiggles its way in there.

[cyhaitham]

and maybe its not fair to yori or kohaku for the emotion to be love.. like idk. kohaku's view of her actions VS what those actions truly are are completely opposite

#Also i really hope im being nonstereotypical when it comes to BPD. Kohaku's is just a very extreme case+combined with other mental disorders #It might make more sense for Kohaku to have come from a home where love is distorted that way but I like her backstory? #I mean being in the spotlight and watched all the time since theyre like nobles #Being held to an extremely high standard since childhood #and nothing below those standards being accepted in any form #would have a negative mental effect on someone with BPD already right? #Hmm #im trying to think of the core reason kohakus view of love is so deluded #Like Kohaku was held up to those standards had a very uptight household no mistakes aloud #her obvious disorder was completely ignored; her mother refusing to believe her daughter was “crazy” #and this would destroy their social standing in her mind #and the whole no daughter of mine is some “psycho” type mindset #Kohaku was told to push it all down . pretend she's fine . mantain her perfect grades etc #So yknow there was obvious neglect there. rich parents. I wouldnt say kohaku was spoiled but shed always get what she wanted #So maybe that could be part of her obsession with yori? i guess? and how #a person of such lower social standing would be utterly unacceptable for kohaku to be associated with #and Yori is so unique in Kohaku's eyes- she's an angry righteous person that takes risks and doesn't care #what people think of her when public image was #taught to kohaku to be everything to their family. #so like being with someone like yori could be a sort of freedom from this life Kohaku's forced to live #like Kohaku has always been able to be herself around Yori #even when she started to get really clingy all the time yori didn't mind #and shed try to help her with her manic episodes and everything- her anxiety/paranoia etc #and when Kohaku felt like shed lose Yori (when she met Tatsuko) #she did everything she could Not to lose her. (lying&sabotaging Yori's relationship with Tatsuko) #cus she didnt want to lose the only tether she had outside of her nobility. or whatever. #... What was i talking about originally

[cainite-bite]

Im sorry but this trend of "stay at home girlfriend" that's being glorified is the saddest fucking thing.

First of all never let anyone control your finances and solely rely on another for that because if they leave you're stuck with nothing. If they die you are stuck with nothing. If they are abusive and you need to get outta dodge you got nothing. Never let anyone have that power over you whether man or woman or literally anyone else.

2ndly it's also sad to say you cook, you clean, you wash the literal smudged underwear of some schmup, you're doing the full time work in their place and all for nothing but to get to call yourself "girlfriend". You don't get paid, you don't have the same tax benefits that you might have from marriage, you can't hop onto their insurance, you don't get anything because you're stuck with a person who doesn't view you as anything more than a live-in bangmaid with little value outside of that because they know you got so little self worth that you allow yourself to get used as a doormat.

#i do wanna say before anyone twists my words this aint about the crowd who just doesnt want to get married #and are fine living together and just doing normal couple things #this doesnt apply to them normally because most of them have a lot of other agreements and split household things #this aint about them nor is it about most standard housewives/househusbands either #because theres a big difference and a lot of nuance and even they tend to split more responsibility #and what we got here isn't a split of responsibility its just all going on one party with no payoff other than being financially controlled #this is for the trad girlies who can't even aspire to be a tradwife and just settled for... well a whole heck of a low lower #and are often not understanding the bad and horrendous deal they are putting themselves into #because they have so much self loathing from the internalized misogyny they have #married or no again never let anyone control your money #but its just an extra layer of whack to give everything up and all possible safety nets for the title of just merely... girlfriend???

[severalowls]

So in Ireland (possibly the entire EU) there is a regulation stipulating that in order to sell potato crisps as "hand cooked", which often carries a luxury price point, a very specific part of the process has to be done manually (iirc, dipping the potato slices into boiling oil), while the rest can be largely handled by machines and mostly automated.

According to somebody involved in production line design many years ago, one of the major crispmongers of Ireland was interested in how they could save having a guy whose sole job it was to hand-operate the conveyor that conveys the sliced potatos into boiling oil and then back out of the boiling oil and back onto the automated bit that does the seasoning and packaging and so on, which would be an all-day mind-numbing job, but more importantly they'd have to pay the guy and companies hate that.

So these regulations are enforced by regular factory audits, where somebody from the regulatory body shows up with a clipboard (or these days, an ipad) and checks that everything is operating at acceptable standards and required processes are being adhered to. Which works, but factories can often... Plan for audit days.

So the compromise the designer came up with was that the oil conveyor would have a hand-crank. But that it didn't do anything. The entire machine was automated. Except for audit days, where they could have one of the engineers stand there and look really busy turning the crank.

#he didnt name the brand but in other words hand cooked is a nonsense marketing phrase manufacturers skirt around #his other stories include a lot about how standards are... lower than you'd expect almost everywhere #in terms of hygiene and safety shit #and that theres a specific brand of 'hand cooked' crisps in the UK that he avoids at all costs #because his experience at their factory was so offputting grody... their name starts with K #the more i think about this the more it sounds like an urban legend from his old industry but i at least believe he believed it #and i dont remember if it was something he claimed to have been involved with (i think so) #or just an old tale he heard #because it sounds totally daft but also totally believable from everything ive seen about manufacturers audits at work

[secondwhisper]

I'm currently attending a training on accommodating pedestrians in road work zones. It's really interesting to see how (ADA-compliant) accessible pedestrian infrastructure implementation is discussed in professional engineering spaces (as opposed to general disability spaces).

We have three groups of disabled road (+sidewalk) users that we must focus on design for: visually impaired & blind pedestrians, mobility impaired pedestrians, and cognitively impaired pedestrians. In this context, mobility impairments also include walking unsteadily, slowly, or with low endurance/stamina.

Generally, we must aim to provide the following accommodations for disabled pedestrians. For the visually impaired: high-contrast signage & markings, ground-level channelization as a "shoreline", a smooth and level walking surface, no protruding objects, smooth and stable hand guides / railings, and auditory and tactile guides at crossings or other complex maneuvers. For the mobility impaired: no protruding objects, no side barriers that could interfere with manual wheelchair or crutch use, a smooth level and grippy walking surface, smooth and stable hand guides / railings, and "refuges" on particularly long routes. For the cognitively impaired: high-contrast signage & markings that are clean and concise, arrows that point in exactly the correct direction, and channelization that reduces opportunities for someone to accidentally end up in a traffic lane.

We see some similarities across access needs: clear signage / guidance, barriers or other channelization to make wayfinding easier, no protruding objects, smooth and stable surfaces.

There's also one very glaring conflict in access needs: channelization. Barriers that reach the ground, and barriers with railings, help blind & visually impaired pedestrians move in the correct direction with confidence. Barriers to channelize the pedestrian detour path help cognitively impaired pedestrians keep within pedestrian zones and move confidently to the end of the detour. Barriers with railings can provide support for unsteady and fatigued pedestrians. But barriers at the edge of the pedestrian route give cane, crutch, and wheelchair users just one more thing to whack their knuckles, elbows, and devices on, and can reduce their ability to turn or recenter themselves, along with removing the ability of able-bodied pedestrians to get out of their way in narrow places.

I don't have some kind of big conclusion here, I just thought it was interesting to see that cognitively disabled pedestrians are included among those whom sidewalk closures can affect uniquely negatively, and to see a frank discussion of how not everyone with vision & mobility disabilities are helped by each other's accommodations. Within the broader context of "work zones are super inaccessible we have to start doing it right."

#civil engineering #civil stuff #my own post wow #accessible design #just to be clear im not blaming conflicting access needs for inaccessible ped infrastructure #the vast majority of inaccessibility is the design being done without any regard for disabled pedestrians at all #curb ramps and ped channelization: have pros and cons for accessibility #replacing damaged/graffitied signs and repainting faded crosswalks: not complicated! #making sidewalks seven feet wide so two wheelchair users can travel past each other: also not complicated! #also: none of this talk included *visibility over barriers* for children/Little People/wheelchair users/others with lower-than-average eyes #which imo is a rather significant oversight #or. multilingual/symbolic signage? #ill stop going on tangents now. #anyway just imagine the higher standards wed have if we had not just the ada but also prowag! #prowag is currently opt-in which is fucking meaningless. embarrassing.

[lastoneout]

ngl I understand a lot of the critique around Love, Simon but I really have never felt like it was an inauthentic representation of the queer experience? like the scene where Simon breaks down after being outed to his entire school against his will legit brought me to tears, that was such a brutal and honest portrayal of how horrible it is to have the choice of when and how to come out taken away from you, idk how anyone could watch that and be like "yeah obviously no one working on this had any idea what it's like to be queer"

#love simon isn't perfect #but idk it kinda reminds me of a lot of the critique I've seen from non-asian people of crazy rich asians #who seem to take issue with the whole rich part or say the movie has no plot or whatever #it's a cinderella style story it doesn't have to be realistic #and we don't have to hold stories about marginalized people up to this impossible standard #marginalized people should be allowed to have fluffy rom-coms and cinderella style stories just like cishet white people do #like idk not to go off about crazy rich asians but I can't stand when I see other white people say it was boring or whatever #like have you considered this film is perhaps not for us? #also I would question their media literacy the movie HAS a plot and themes and shit like??? #tf are you talking about #we got ever after and disney's cinderella and a bazillion other movies where cute lower class women get to marry rich men #critique one of those #you only bringing it up NOW makes me think it's not the rags to riches story you actually have a problem with

[cruelsister-moved2]

ACTUALLY ENJOYING a recent debut fantasy novel ive been waiting for this moment and its finally happened to meeee 🥳 😌 peace on earth

#the prose is... actually good. its a miracleeee #also such a compelling concept and like #historical fantasy that actually feels well-researched and believable #w/o getting like overly bogged down in historical realities for the sake of it #and its only like 80k words which is the ideal fantasy novel length imo #inflated fantasy word counts really need to die out as a trend #the bear and the nightingale btw #and the scrappy wild-child not like the other girls protag is ACTUALLY LIKEABLE #im too shy to actually post reviews on goodreads but i want to be like dont worry guys historical fantasy can still be well written<3 #i cant even tell if its THAT good or its just other stuff ive read recently has reaally lowered my standards but like #i literally feel overjoyed just to have readable prose and folklore elements that arent. idiotic and twee