#IM BEING CATERED TO SO SPECIFICALLY

[altschmerzes]

getting real tired of people who are shitting on “found family” more generally as a narrative concept and specifically named familial dynamics in fan interpretation of characters in particular because it all seems to be getting painted with a really wide and really homogenous brush. “we need to take found family away from people because they think it all has to be In Nuclear Family Terms and do you know friendship exists and you don’t have to call these characters siblings to legitimize their relationship while making it clear you Don’t Ship Them Ew Gross and THEN you sneer at people who Do ship them” cool cool that is a lot of really intense characterization and assigning of motive to other people en bloc!

like sure there’s some meaningful critique to be found in a broad trend to label every single relationship directly and specifically with terms that have very specific contexts and roles but im waiting to be told when anyone IS by the standards of people making and reblogging these very sweepingly generalized posts allowed to call a relationship parental or whatever. is that Ever allowed. who is handing out the permits. sometimes a specific term for a relationship isn’t actually about wanting an excuse to sneer about your ship (and frankly there’s a lot of projection going on there imo from people who are actively sneering about other people’s interpretation of a relationship!) and it’s because there are very specific contexts and details about a dynamic that makes exploring it from the lens of siblings or whatever very rich and compelling and interesting because words mean things and assuming everyone is just being reductive and demanding conformity to a nuclear family is, ironically, really reductive.

so like. cool it. stop being really fucking mean about people having an interpretation of a dynamic you personally don’t like or makes you feel a little weird or uncomfy because you ship them.

#gav gab #im so tired of seeing people do this lmao #is someone actually being reductive and trying to get your ship labeled ‘basically incest’ #or did they just express on their own blog that they don’t ship something bc they see those characters as siblings #so it feels weird to them #you know #the exact personal preference and interpretation you’re expressing in the opposite #it’s all ‘UGH not every relationship NEEDS A SPECIFIC LABEL’ as soon as the label isn’t romantic lmao #like amazing of you to start caring about how friendship matters as is legitimate without anything else #as soon as it’s not about your fucking ship anymore :) #be real you do not care about friendship lmao you can just dismiss it more easily and comfortably #when people aren’t using terms that are more loaded to your ship #are the big meanie found family enjoyers actually harassing you for shipping fake incest #or are you just uncomfortable when it is not about you #and chronically unwilling to curate your experience the way you demand other people to #because fandom has always catered to shipping and why should it ever Not be expected to do that #bc I sure see a lot of shit talking of familial dynamic labels based on people who use those labels being weird to other people #and not a lot if any of those people actually being weird to shippers #and one or two isolated incidents is not indicative of a widespread problem #do what everyone who doesn’t like a popular ship does and unfollow and block lmfao grow up

[saviourkingslut]

lmao was at a small social event at a colleague's home. conversation turned to video games. i drop the name fire emblem. turns out two guys present know the franchise. one of them has played three houses but only crimson flower, he's firmly on the left but somehow also seems convinced she was the good one for abolishing the nobility (anti-establishment/monarchy/capitalism etc) and fighting 'the monsters' (he has never played another fe game and is unfamiliar with their stories so to him monsters = bad). i disagree with him (in a normal way bc otherwise he's a nice guy). another guy asks for my opinion on her and the writing in general. cue me info dumping abt this game for 15 mins looking generally deranged.

#i was like the game has four routes and he didn't know bc he didn't know abt silver snow. also didn't know abt cf being much shorter #he was like hell yeah edelgard. i was like im a dimitri fan. he was like oh #bro you haven't even played his route 😭 so i told him abt dinitri's reforms etc #anyway i also said sometimes the writing between the routes doesnt seem to add up but it's bc characters have access to #different information. and it's not always the right information. so that's incongruity that makes sense. #but at other times. it's just lazy writing. #and also edelgard could've been a much more interesting character if they hadn't tried to make her moe and cater to #a very specific fire emblem player base demographic #curry rambles #i was dropping way too specific facts abt this game i felt like a wiki page fr.

[natsmagi]

I'm a fandom old, so I'd also say there's a strand of entitlement that's always been around fandom, but it's so much more normal now (for both artists and writers) since fandom's become less of a haven for weirdos and more mainstream. Fan writers and artists create FOR FREE and share with us, so complaining or being an arsehole about it is frankly shit.

YEAH....... ive been in online fandoms for like a decade now myself so 😭

if i were to guess id say its probably because nowadays people grow up online and have their whole identities and social circles online too, and its usually very young people who act this entitled towards creatives. it seems a majority of them believe that what you consume and how you consume it reflects your character because theyve made what they consume such a heavy feature of their identity but thats just. not true? you cannot get an accurate understanding of another person based solely off you stalking their page. it sucks too because young people tend to be more reactionary and react based off emotion so their judgement will be even further clouded. not to mention since theyre so judgmental of anyone who disagrees with this they end up forming an echo chamber which just. oh man.

alot of the arguments i see can basically be reduced to "this makes me uncomfortable so that means its immoral and should be eradicated" and thats just. a Really bad mindset to have..... if you cant handle certain things youre much better off muting/blocking and curating your online experience appropriately. this isnt the real world after all, our creative art and writing does not involve reality, its often an escape from it. it is not us creatives responsibility to ensure your online experience is full of sunshine and rainbows. most you can criticize us for is if we tagged the posts appropriately. and then making sure those tags are muted is YOUR responsibility. please take care of yourselves. we dont want you hurting, but we are our own individuals with our own life stories and we should be allowed to express those

the internet will never be a safe haven for everyone. what you may deem immoral might be another persons way of expressing emotions that are killing them inside, and i think thats the beauty of art. it is a purely subjective medium that can mean something completely different depending on the person viewing it. like fuck man theres so many things i find deeply upsetting so i just do my best in blocking it out of my sight. am i still gonna stumble upon those upsetting things in the wild? of COURSE i am, especially since some of what i find upsetting may not be that big of a deal to a majority of the population, and thats unfortunately the reality we have to live with. all we can really do is ask those close to us to be mindful and choose who we engage with carefully

#its fucking HARD being a kid online man #especially these days #but for the love of god #please do not make your issues the responsibility of complete strangers online #we dont know you so its weird for you to expect us to cater our art or writing specifically TO you #i dont know. having to deal with people forgetting that i am a human being has definitely been the worst part of posting online #but i love sharing what i love with others who love it just as much #and that sense of community heavily outweighs the bad #and i think more people should strive to find a place where they can unabashedly be themselves #rather than fixate on others not changing to benefit you #ask #also im not really looking to start discourse........ i am just a smidge tired is all #this is also very rambly dont come for me ok #i woke up like an hour ago

[konfizry]

ok heres the most vile, depraved, unhinged thing i’m willing to admit to

if d*halim was a woman i would be all over that character like go girl give us nothing

hard to articulate exactly what makes me think this way if not “i just think it’s neat when fictional women are horrible not only as people, but also i want them to be absolute train wrecks from a writing perspective, especially in a way that is refreshing and a bit out of left field for a woman”

like

guy needs girlfriend’s help and guidance to tie his shoelaces, not give himself food poisoning and not say the most insensitive shit to people:

-tired, plays into the “men can’t navigate life by themselves and need their Girlfriend Who Owns The Braincell for everything” cliché

-look at this failure of a straight (derogatory)

-opens a pit of darkness in my heart

girl needs girlfriend’s help and guidance to tie her own shoelaces, not give herself food poisoning and not say the most insensitive shit to people:

-refreshing, hilarious

-look at this failure of a lesbian (affectionate)

-opens a pit of darkness in my heart but it is a safe, welcoming kind of darkness that lulls me to peaceful harmony as it hums

gender is so mysterious u guys

#ruled a slave colony but was real nice about it then had a breakdown over her girlfriend's cries and tried to kill everyone in the room #as a girl? #idk that would have been a Moment #like dont get me wrong its still all very '???????????what even' #but idk i support women's wrongs thats all #kontxt #toarise hate #rereading myself going 'girl what are you even saying' at myself #maybe the offensive female character was me all along #(you know i have things to do today because im here typing this shit on tumbrl dot com #instead of getting my ass out of the house and getting things done) #(yes this is still the kon unemployment arc) #i just want every tales character to be a girl #just so we're clear i don't think making d*halim a girl magically turns him wholesome and pure uwuuuu #it just makes him fun in a way that caters to me specifically #this is not me being woke of feminist here this is me being a sicko

[devotedlystrangewizard]

anyway if, by the time i have figured out how to code a game, we still dont have it (and i expect we wont) i WILL make an rpg with aro "love" interests. ur protagonist can be an aroallo whore now. whats love if not the thing that some people feel sometimes. some of your allies are only down to have sex with you and will reject you outright if you try to romance them. no monogamy limits outside of maybe specific actual romances. these aros would be absolutely destroyed by the potential fandom but its ok i didnt make them for you <2

#ramblings #it wont be a big rpg i mean. solo dev moment #unless i magically get some decent classmates in school willing to back me up #OR i dare to put myself out there. on the internet. and ask for help. #but for now it is a solo thing #i like games with love interests weve all seen how i talk about my 3 da boyfriends. and gale #but man i wish we had something where sex didnt eventually lead to a romantic confession #like as an aroallo person i just think maybe it would be nice. #& like. specifically aro. you can be specifically aro. some companions would be specifically aroallo #not 'im in it for the sex but you can romance me if you do your best' no i want SEX. and SEX ALONE! #as i was writing this post i remembered how aro characters are treated (will never forget 'but shes still ace in my fic') #and yes. these characters despite being explicitly aromantic. would still get romantic fics #and yes. i would hate that happening. #but also as i said. i didnt make them for you. your toys are right there. look. fwb to lovers is overdone. go play baldur #this post WAS triggered by me thinking about baldursg despite me really liking that game #i love that game but it sucks i cant just. idk. experience my specific brand of homosexuality #listen marrying el to gale was delightful but my actual self insert character was so SO alone #and withers going 'thou hast no bosom companion why' actually made me a little mad. sorry #like no ones gonna cater to aroallos except for aroallos. i know this. but it still kinda sucked

[awkward-smirks]

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#i had a long ass post typed out for this but it's a bit much so imma just type it here instead: #i'm very lucky and blessed to have friends who make plans to hang out with me with the intent of catering to MY interests #like im being so serious that my friends will take me to art museums and bookstores and cafes and roller skating and ice skating #just bc they know i'd love it :') #and yes they love it as well or else they wouldn't put up w it but it means a lot that they ask me specifically to come with #like being in this life where i'm not some random second choice or like... where people actually WANT to hang out w me... #that means a lot #and i'm comforted w the fact that i know exactly where i stand w my friends just from that intention #Sandy rambling #honestly idk if that made sense bc im literally so sleepy and this is my third time trying to put this into words #but that's it for now. ill journal about it later #when it's not 4am

[dandyshucks]

I've been so focused on the robot/human romance in this audiobook I've been listening to that I.... forgot about the whole plot where they have to rescue the grandfather... 😭

#they finally kiss and i looked at the time left in the audiobook and was confused why there were three more hours SBHDDKL #im so .... #IN MY DEFENCE (if i may defend myself at all LMAO) . this romance is like... specifically catered to me i swear to god #everything about it .... its making me want to make an OC just so i can have the same thing going on w a robot BDHFKDL #like. spoilers for the unnamed book - the robot was built to kill all humans #and then he fought back against his programming and just barely escaped being scrapped #and then lost all his memories bc that all got corrupted when he was put into a junkyard #and then the MC human found him and patched him up and brought him ''back to life'' so to speak #and now the robot is SOOO devoted to him and super protective and also so strong 😭 #and also SO grumpy fhfjdlsl #and man. i am a sucker for that shit 😭 DONT LOOK AT MEEEE (i say as i write this all out on a public blog post) #this book btw was so badly written at the beginning that i almost gave up on it but i was intrigued enough to suffer through #it was like two hours of ''oh my god this sucks so bad. i hate every second of this but i want to see where it goes'' #AND THANK GOODNESS I SAT THROUGH IT. i am almost irritated by how much i enjoy it now SBDJDL #dandy.cmd

[theautumnriverleaves]

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#ah yes you are correct mother i am absolutely the bitch for saying that if the customer that i am meeting at 4:30 am #as a favor specifically for you #isn't there to pick up their catering order by 5:10 am you need to come switch out with me #how silly of me to forget #or to dare want to get some sleep before work #im so fucking sick of this shit #all the shit work shit family shit #like howd i get here #i was born dealing with this shit and no one seems to know how to teach me to stop dealing with this shit #also two big reasons I'm so pissed are #a) bc of her negligence we were both there until well passed 1am working on said order #b) literally last night I was literally crying to her about how my routine and rituals have been shattered #bc of half the state being out of power #and she goes and fucks up my ability to re regulate thru reestablishing them with this shit #and then says *thats uncalled for* when I tell her i absolutely am not going to do this song and dance tomorrow #and that tomorrow im getting back into my rhythm whether she has to stay at work until 1 am or not #explicitly me

[23meteorstreet]

i have so much life shit i need to complain about right now but everything just comes out as a garbled mess

#gonna make a divider here so ppl dont have to read my stupid tag rant if they dont want to-------------------------------------------------- #(sorry i can never resist rambling in the tags)-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- #anyway my mom is coming up here for my birthday after i specifically told her to wait & let me get her a flight for mother's day weekend #& she's staying for two fucking weeks #& there's nothing i can do bc she already bought plane tickets #i mean. i was excited for her to come up. but this amount of time is going to drive me insane #bc i already feel guilty that im not going out & meeting people enough (or really at all) & that's gonna be impossible when she's here #bc i'll have to cater to her the entire time #and i know she's just doing this bc she assumes i'm gonna be alone on my birthday (& apparently not have plans for 2 weeks after!!!) #but i like being alone & doing stuff by myself!!! #and ive been feeling guilty abt that too bc i know it's just hurting my ability to make friends which i apparently so desperately need #like ive been trying so hard to find events bc i already feel so ashamed of myself but i have no desire to actually go #even tho i know i need to #i wish i was the kind of person who's good with people instead of being overwhelmed by everything #so i wouldnt have to deal with all this shame & people wouldn't feel like they have to take pity on me #gonna try to be positive about i guess. been having a hard time doing that lately.

[arcaneyouth]

on one hand its really cool to see disabled rep where their illness and how people treat them with their illness turns them angry and bitter and perhaps even do a couple war crimes about it because having chronic health problems can seriously affect mental health like that and its a relief to see that in characters like me, on the other hand this shit really doesn't help the idea that my illness makes me worth less as a human being

#negative #this isnt a vent this is just like late night thoufhts on representation #i mean. im gonna queue this so its no longer late night when it posts but at time of writing its uhhhhhhhhh almost 6 am #anyways this post is about mera epithet erased and viktor arcane #*points* they are so much like me. they really have properly respented the frustration and heartbreak of living with a chronic illness #but with characters like mera its like. oh that rage makes us evil huh #its just weird! it feels so validating to me while at the same time feeling kind of off #viktor was pretty good tho hes not evil he just seems like. like a guy. hes done unethical science but also id trust him with my life #it just seems hard to find that balance of letting their health affect them while also not treating all people with chronic illness as evil #not for me tho my ocs are so good (and by so good i mean catering to my ideas of good disabled rep for me specifically) #basically the point of this post is can we let chronically ill characters be angry and grieve the loss of their health without being #treated like monsters or something #i dunno if i need to tag this for any filters or anything feel free to let me know #this has been willows tumblr journal cause i was too lazy to grab my actual one goodnight

[road2manjuumaster]

im gonna yell in the tags just to be safe but i am THINKING

#tw ed mention in the tags > #so fun cater fact #im not formally diagnosed but i mean. do i rlly need to be? #ive had eating problems for basically my whole life?? bc as a dancer and ESPECIALLY as a young afab dancer there were body standards #we know this it sucks #and if youve read like. anything ive ever written you can probably tell i project that into arashi REALLY hard #and now im sitting here ( instead of eating lmao ) feeling soft about #arashi being there. like trying to support me and help me get better. bc shes been there and she doesn't want me to suffer #qnd it hurts her to see me like this #like shell always invite me to eat lunch with her and shell make me something and wven if its not much its better than what id usually have #( nothing ) #bc at the very least knowing its from her for me specifically would make it just a little easier #and thinking about how if i asked her to give the cal count for each thing in what she made me she would #bc if i dont know then ill straight up refuse to eat it or ill try to overcompensate cuz i dont know how much it was #and she doesnt want ne to harm myself any more than i already have #f/oposting #its so funny how i didnt think twice about the midoteto suicide pact post but THIS #THIS needs to be out of immediate view #idek if this counts as gush #⚜️

[nott-gay]

CARLOS MY KING MY LOVE

#IM SO EXCITED #I was literally just talking about how much I loved Carlos’s playing and how much I missed seeing him in something literally fucking 3 days #ago #it feels great to be gods favorite 😌💅 #I’m SO happy #WITH ERIKA AND IZZY AND JASMINE TOO #I AM BEING SPECIFICALLY CATERED TO AND FED #Zac is also here ig #no offen king I love you I just love the rest of this cast SO much more holy FUCK #aaaaAAAAAAAAAAAA #YES #dimension 20 #carlos luna #coffin run #mine

[maxillo]

just now occured to me that maybe I have vastly different expectations and presentation methods of content specifically because i got my start on wikia

#as in im more used to just creating repositories of information that others then read #in a space thats in some sense communal and interlinked in content #i have no idea how to consistently post about my work on social media like most people do #and it always feels like it goes against the grain of my brain because i want to keep everything centralized #and that i have to cater and trim it in a way that gives a reason for people to read it if they find it at all #versus people only needing to find a specific wiki of specific kinds of content where everyone contributes their ideas in the same space #its hard for me to even find and try to interact with fellow creatives on tumblr or elsewhere #it feels like such a goose chase of algorithms that demands way more energy than just being part of a wiki where people come and socialize #on their own terms and occupying a close and inherently blended environment where collaboration and interaction is much easier #maybe thats why i dont like 'advertising myself' in places either #in my wikia days people would just find my stuff and interact with me of their own volition all in the same space #it feels so weird and uncomfortable trying to pitch myself and my ideas in places where im not guaranteed reciprocation of interest #no surprise that i still prefer to structure my ideas through wikis but theyre not community spaces because tiddlywiki is 'solo' on its own #and i genuinely dont know how to bridge the gap between them and social media #im honestly wanting to just either find or create an actually communal wiki space and invite friends and mutuals to join or observe that #and maybe somehow integrate it with the wikis i already have #i just really miss being part of creative communities in a mutual way and thats the only method to organize it that makes sense to me #max yaks

[menalez]

The tzov person is weird... lesbians and bisexual women who focus on the liberation of ssa women aren't feminists? What type of weird logic is that? So if I a pakistani woman focus on helping other desi women in immigrant communities instead of all the white women who predominantly make up the female population where I'm living I'm not a feminist either? And so what if ssa women unfollow when you do analysis on men... Like why do you even pay attention to losing followers that closely and more importantly, why tf assume they're all ssa (or even women. Maybe it's just men 🙄) unless you're specifically keeping tabs on your followers in which case that's unhinged behaviour.

u just don’t get it 🥺 hetero women and hetero relationships just don’t get discussed in feminism and actually the evil lesbians (and febfems, always gotta throw them in there to distract others a little) are responsible for this. how dare lesbians not cater to het women enough in the feminism movement that lesbians apparently now dominate??

#she rly was like .. no im not referring to historical and current trend within feminism which centres OSA women #no im not referring to the trend within radfeminism catering mainly to OSA women #no im not referring to the reality that OSA women are the majority #i also somehow manage to only follow lesbians and febfems on radblr where they majority are het & bi women many being het-partnered #so im referring to the very small subgroup within subgroup within subgroup that are female-centric including in their dating lives and #im not happy they specifically don’t cater to OSA women and het relationships enough 😠 #sounds entitled but ok!

[grimmjowjaegerjaquez]

you know i think. when i do feel confident in myself to do more than just fancomics for things (and also uh. find the will to actually work on/finish those fancomics) i think each of the small stories i will make will just be male romances. but with cool shit that i like. this feels like a very nothing statement i know but perhaps i just want to give permission to myself to cater to myself.

#i have ideas about a few. and i need to force myself to make them short and concise lmfao. #trim the fat out of em #or they will never see a conclusion #i think making them more like story Tasters might be a good approach anyway-- at least at first #like ok you can say that the fancomics im making are also just male romances with extra shit and YOURE RIGHT #BUT------- #LISTEN #theres a lot of little shit that kinda makes me go :I when i see it in some comics people like or might recommend to me that does cater to #this specific thing but BECAUSE of those little things it makes me want to make my own #and thus i will have a bunch of little things that will make other people go :I when they read but lmao #not my problem B) #i like romances. and i think its good of me to admit that instead of pretending i dont #but i think my problem with it is just. a lot of the shit surrounding it and the specific portrayals common in them #if that makes sense #and i do think itd be weird to make the romance be the Only Thing thats going on #but also love the idea of two characters having profound effects on each other and being narrative foils and etc etc #not that romance is the only way you can have that ofc but also #i like it when characters kiss and hold hands #i think i am mostly saying all this so you know what to expect from me in the future lmao #and the future is... a very nebulous timeframe with nothing confirmed lmao #maybe some of them will say something deep. theyll be more than just what they are. #but what i plan for them to be at the very least is a good time. regardless of how deep they are or arent #trying to delude myself into thinking that i can make something Smart and Fresh is just going to frustrate me #bc itll never feel smart enough #so fuck that its gonna be a stupid time its gonna be a fun time instead #ill be basic instead of ripping my hair out trying to think of things thatll blow your mind or completely make you reevaluate your life