#an EXTREMELY public figure

[hewantshisbrideback]

Nobody can definitively say the means which lead to the tragic ends of two such beloved public figures. Nobody can name what it was that brought the last Targaryen heir to the throne and the only daughter of House Stark together in the first place. No one knows exactly what happened, not in truth, but people can speculate. And speculate, they do.

A SONG OF INTERVIEWS AND FAKE NEWS: Retrospectives on Rhaegar Targaryen and Lyanna Stark

#rhaegar targaryen #lyanna stark #asoiaf #a song of ice and fire #pureasoiaf #if they look more minimalist than the others. thats because the magazine covers theyre based on are extremely minimalist lol #thats just how Respected Publications handle the deaths of beloved public figures #prince rhaegar is based on a princess diana cover even tho elia is definitely more princess diana or even lyanna #lyanna is partly based on a few time magazine covers and partly on the same diana cover lmao #its meant to look more true crime ish and less picture perfect nostalgia memorial #originally i was going to make article samples like i did for the arya ones and then i was like. lmao no #i could do a jon centric spread and i have a couple ideas #but i would rather he have his own set of 4 like arya #so. thus. as a result. tosses this at your feet #that being said i prefer rhaelya divorce!verse over a more book timeline modern au #bc its funny to ME #and i have written a little bit of fic for it feat stealth jonrya #but mehhh idk. id have to edit to post #this is not smart or pretty enough to throw into every single possible canon tag. i just want it out of my drafts #hewantshisedits #hewantshisposts #hewantshisaus #hewantshiscontemporaryaus

[seaweedstarshine]

Hi! Long time no yap but I've been really bothered by this thing and I know you're just the person I can go to with this (even if we don't always end up agreeing at times).

I got into a tiff with someone in a comments section of a post that was about Amy (Which character do you think deserved to become a villain? or something similar). They brought up Amy's abuse of her boyfriend. I may have tried to defend Amy (key word is tried. I am officially rubbish at debating) but then I may have said something? Because they said that I (and apparently a lot of other fans) was excusing Amy's abuse because of her trauma. It got me stumped because isn't young Amy's treatment of Rory rooted in her trauma? Did I miss the memo where we separate trauma and abuse? Am I missing something?

That statement bothered me a lot because if there's one thing I never want to do it's defend an abuser. So here I am, humbly asking and hoping to clear the muddy waters.

Your really confused and disturbed moot, Tia 💌

TIA!!!!! Thanks for the ask 💌 , and I send you all the hugs.

Discussion of abuse, trauma, ableism, infidelity, and unhealthy relationship dynamics beneath the cut.

(First off… while I really appreciate your faith in my explaining skills <3 <3 <3 my passion for traumatized characters and mentally ill+neurodivergent rights doesn't make me especially qualified to fully clear muddy waters especially not knowing the full context, but I feel you, and what follows is my informed perspective!)

Speaking generally first, harm done in media is best examined by the impact on the audience, with a different lens than harm done to real people. While relatable experiences in media can be useful and validating and incredibly important, you can’t be “defending an abuser” when the abuse is fictional. It's actually normal for traumatized/ND/mentally ill people to project onto mentally ill villains, when villains are the only significant representation for those stigmatized symptoms in a media landscape that excludes and demonizes us simply for existing. RTD can't stop people who hallucinate from reclaiming the Master's Drums and projecting onto the Master, for example — 90% of the best Doctor Who psychosis fic by psychotic authors is about the Master, whether RTD likes it or not. It's not true crime.

(This is speaking generally. Amy Pond is very much not the Master.)

Abuse is a behavior, and there can be many reasons for it, but reasons based in trauma don’t make it not abuse (some forms of generational trauma can propagate abusive parenting styles, when the parent thinks abusive parenting is normal, or lives entirely vicariously through their child). This absolutely should not be taken to mean trauma correlates with abusive behavior; rather that abusive behaviors from traumatized people are more likely to present in specific ways.

Abuse is also a targeted behavior, based in control — not consistently displayed C-PTSD symptoms as seen in Season 5 Amy Pond through many aspects of her life. Mental health symptoms don't become abuse just because they hinder one partner from meeting the other partner's needs. Any life event can do that.

Without knowing the context of the arguments, this is the aspect of their relationship I've seen you talk about before (which I also feel strongly about), and what I assume is what you were debating? So, here I will talk specifically in regard to Season 5.

We all know Amy — she's never attached to Leadworth because she never wanted to leave Scotland, no steady therapist because none of them stick up for her, can't stick with one job yet her first choice is a job that simulates intimacy because her avoidant behavior (a known trauma response) isn't sustainable to her wellbeing. Rory knows her fears of commitment stem from her repeated abandonments, it’s why he’ll always wait for her, and it's why he blames the Doctor “You make it so they don't want to let you down.”, who apart from having caused a lot of her trauma, has actively taken advantage of her being the “Scottish girl in the English village” who's “still got that accent,” because he wants to feel important, so yeah, I think interpreting Amy's issues (and how Amy and Rory transverse them) as Amy abusing Rory indicates a fundamental misunderstanding of their relationship, as well as a misunderstanding of the (raggedy) Doctor’s role in Amy’s formative self-image (which of course she works through in Season 6, but I am sticking to Season 5).

Abuse is always based in control. That just doesn’t fit here. While Amy's detachment from her real life includes things like calling Rory her “kind of boyfriend” (which she is upfront about to his face; differing commitment levels isn't abuse, though it can be a relationship red flag for both parties IRL) — her Season 5 disregard of Rory’s feelings occurs only in response to the fairytale embodiment of her trauma. It's never a response to Rory; it's a response to the Doctor, who stole her childhood and led her by the hand to her death. She cheats on Rory with the Doctor in her bedroom full of Doctor toys, drawings, models, she made from childhood to early adulthood.

(And yes, like many repeatedly-traumatized people, Amy is prone to being sensitive and reactive. Take her “Well, shut up then!” line in The Big Bang; but given Rory responds to this by hugging her, clearly he doesn’t take it as her actually dismissing him. He knows her better than that.)

And by no means do I meant to imply this is fair to young Rory, poor Rory, who's left struggling with the feeling that his role in her life is in competition with the role of her trauma (aka the Doctor). But not every unhealthy relationship dynamic is unhealthy because of abuse. Labelling Amy's treatment of Rory in Season 5 more accurately isn't the same as excusing her harmful choices — but making mistakes is part of being human, Amy's mistakes are certainly understandable, and she works through them out of love for Rory.

If there's one thing to say about Moffat women, it's that Moffat allows his female characters the same grace that the male characters *coughTENcough* have always had, to hurt and struggle and make realistic mistakes and overcome those mistakes and to heal without being demonized.

Amy isn't perfect, but she is a fully realized character, and her story gives us a resonant depiction of childhood trauma.

#abuse #rtd critical #anti rtd #im NOT really anti rtd but im tagging it that because some people block that tag and uhhhh this post strays into rtd critique #maybe he does regret how he wrote the master! we'll never know because rtd is very anti-admitting-his-own-mistakes #words by seaweed #anyways tia i am. SO relieved you’re not upset with me about our last disagreement? #i high key jumped to conclusions after the lack of reply to the last DM? so thank you for this ask it's great to hear from you #sorry you were in a debate about this! that sounds extremely awful. #anyway i'm gonna WAIT at least a week to tag Amy and Rory to avoid this showing up in the character tags right away haha #because I am KINDA scared the anti-media-literacy ppl will find this (I had to include the first part tho its important) #(lack of distinction between harm to audience *in fiction* and irl harm *to actual ppl* leads to problematic public apologies where- #-public figures apologize to fans they let down *instead* of the people they actually hurt. no it doesn't work like that) #(parasocial relationships are not more important than real victims agency or privacy) #editing to say..... yanno what? ive come to terms with not all the posts with the following tag been about the doctor #and I am planning to make a post at some point about the nd aspects of Amy+the Doctor's connection which this stuff IS relevant to soooooo #(eleventh) doctor is neurodivergent tag

[kangals]

on one hand i do bemoan the fall from popularity for collies quite a lot because i think they are wonderful family dogs and more people should have them. but, i'm also equally grateful that they lack the popular appeal that would make them victim to terrible trendy breeding practices (i.e. wacky colors and XXL/tiny sizes and other hypertypes)

i feel similarly about greyhounds - the fact that (in the US) they have had such incredibly limited breeding outside of tracks has been good because it results in a very healthy, regulated population. but with the closures of tracks we're already seeing more and more non-sport, non-show breedings start popping up and i am very concerned about what a BYB greyhound population will have to deal with. but given that it's ether this, or the breed becomes incredibly limited... not really a good option either way.

#given the already-scary OSA figures in racing lines and cardiac problems in show lines #the idea of those genepools condensing so dramatically is a nightmare #at the same time i think like collies they lack the popular appeal and utility to really be self-sustaining without tracks #not to say there arent shitty breeders/trends in collies because BOY are there #but you look at a breed like a frenchie or a lab or whatever. with 800 new marketing gimmicks a week #and maybe trading diversity for lack of whatever the hell is going on there isnt too bad #i -think- given the publics current hyperfixation on extreme brachy and non-shedding coats both of these breeds are 'safe' for now #but its only a matter of time before it swings in a new direction. and who knows wtf that will be

[tovaicas]

it’s inchresting how aymeric’s status as a bastard child affects him far less than it does haurchefant or say, hilda, where it hangs over their lives like a shadow and restricts the amount of respect they get for just. existing.

#is it bc ayme//ric’s staus is more rumour for most of his life while edmont has acknowledged his ‘indiscretion’? #*status #but like everyone *has* to know he just Appeared in the Borel household one day he wasn’t concieved there? #like aym//eric is an extremely public figure and haur//chefant despite the fact his father loves him #is stashed nice and quietly out of the way in camp dragonhead. #it’s just an interesting difference. #ishgardposting #saint.txt

[aeide-thea]

the thing abt h*rry styles is like. i don't even personally like his music, and while i still haven't looked up the details of the latest nonsense it sure sounds like he said something dumb and unexaminedly homophobic and it's more than fair to critique that, but the way some people talk abt him sure is revealing wrt how agonizingly fucking narrowly they define queerness, and how viciously fucking snidely they want to police it!

#like—i'm not personally interested in making claims abt styles' sexuality in *any* direction #(pun not actually intended but.) #partially because i don't care #and partially bc quite frankly i think the level of entitlement wrt public figures' private lives is fucking. off the charts #we saw it with hashtag ownvoices and we see it with accusing real people of queerbaiting #actually ppl should be allowed to just. live their lives without yr desperately trying to shove them into one box or another #so you can decide whether you respect them or not #but like. when you make posts that are like. queerness is just abt who you fuck— #trans ppl see those posts. ppl who aren't getting laid see those posts. people who don't *want* to get laid see those posts. #i mean ultimately i guess if that's what queerness means then fuck queerness‚ i want radical acceptance #but also that definitely *isn't* what queerness means #anyway there's an extremely specific context here but also there's a whole pattern #of ppl being snide abt bisexuals and asexuals and 'transtrenders' and 'theyfabs' and ambiguously gnc ppl and it's just like. can you stop #the cishet normies in the bible belt hate *all* of us actually! #but like. also why is this conversation even *about* identity. #this whole idea that like. there are bigoted ppl and marginalized ppl and no overlap between the two is absolutely fucking wild to me #we all swim in a sea of toxic ideas and sometimes we regurgitate them and sometimes we even do it when they're poisonous to us personally! #someone saying something homophobic doesn't actually tell you whether they're straight #and if yr talking shit abt that‚ yr not talking abt the actual problem‚ which is the rhetoric in question and its implications #anyway. would truly *love* to get off this hill without dying but unfortunately. people keep charging up it

[bluberimufim]

Theo was getting interviewed and they asked "so what was your (adoptive) family like?" and she basically goes "you know who my only living relative isn't? the enemy general"

#Theo and Seth having opposite amounts of lying skills will never not be funny to me #Seth is a GREAT lier and Theo absolutely SUCKS #guess which one is the extremely public figure with a past to hideeeee #and also tries to hide her own emotional distress #writeblr #writing #my wips #devourer of souls wip

[softgrungeprophet]

the most unrealistic part of my AU is that the current year is 2007 and

1) everyone very consistently uses masc pronouns for dyke doc ock*

2) no one has said the r word

*though i hadn't fully decided on him being a he/him dyke until recently so... you know. technically a retcon... 😅

#actually re point 2 i very very nearly did have one of the cops call peter the r word when he had his little public meltdown #but i chose to remove it in the end as it's already a kind of intense scene and it felt like a bit much #this next chapter set in may does have mac refer to ock as a dyke in his mental summary but i'm still figuring out how to make it clear #i did remove some lines referring to him as a man cause it's not strictly correct (tho not strictly incorrect either...) #he's an extremely specific kind of middle aged butch... not trans but not NOT trans either you feel me #anyway #arghwrites #nadia rambles #came in through the window last night #having to type this out every time is killing me tumblr please save my frequent tags #leaving reblogs on cause i doubt anyone will even glance at this post #but i swear to god if anyone tries to be a clown in my notes it's off

[the-sappho-of-lesbos]

I caved and shaved. I’m so disappointed in myself lol. I’m not normally this self conscious about my leg hair.

#I think I’m just extremely stressed so my brain is taking anything it can get to latch onto #I figured if it’s going to help give me one less thing I’m self conscious about it while in public I’ll just do it #because today is going to take a toll on me as it is #still made at myself though lol

[globaltelevisionofficial]

Speaking of, I forgot the original intent of this account was for PR and important public announcements. One moment.

#Blaming this lapse in memory on the extremely callous way everyone else uses this website. #You know you're public figures right? People can see these things? #Post

[the-furies]

ME WHEN .

#pk;m eddie😈 #STL EXTREMELY UNFINISHED BUT WE ARE SITLL HAVING FUN TIMES (IN SPACE ! /REF) #all the text is placeholder and tomorrow we wILL!!! figure out how to get fontawesome icons to be on the same line as !!! text and such !!! #we've primarily used codes from the coding resources pages as seen above #idk. what else to add to this tbh I don't think we plan on making it public when we finish it aside from letting mutuals/friends use it #if they Rlly want to ofc #we DO wanna add a simple bg though !!! idk!! we'll figure shit out !!

[crystalkleure]

@ DID/OSDD anon, I’m sorry but I cannot keep answering asks like these because I have to post them publicly. These are extremely loaded subjects you keep touching on and me discussing them on my blog, no matter what I even say, will attract people wanting to start massive fights in my notifications about it.

#This is a type of conversation that would need to happen through DMs #I'm deeply uncomfortable having said even as much as I already have about the matter because I don't want a lot of attention on me for it #People were doxxing eachother over these things very recently #It's really not safe for me to talk about these things in public. At least not right now. #I don't want to get called slurs and sent graphic threats that may be credible. No one ever figured out HOW the doxxers were doxxing people #.It speaks #.Maxim 🎩 #I'm going to delete that other ask I posted because it is going to bring me extreme trouble no matter how much I beg to be left alone #I am desperate for peace on my blog. I don't get much IRL so I gotta have it here. #I like science and block ableists and transphobes and that's the most I'm willing to state publicly on the subject at this point #I want to talk about anime #That being said; since I'm about to nuke the link I posted earlier: #did-research.org is still one of the best sources of quick and comprehensive info on dissociative disorders #I'd recommend getting your basic info from there rather than from me anyway because it's written so well I'd pretty much just quote it all

[gumm1defloor]

Genuinely. legitimately struggling to think of a Vox that would have loved his hypothetical wife actually (*tears out hair). Like I don't even think he had the emotional capability of realizing it was an actual feasible option back then. Or even long afterwards, for that matter.

#I tried guys I rly did #everytime #without fail #the voice under the mattress goes “no the fuck he did not” and I mean who am I to ignore the omnipresent I guess #I am putting heavy emphasis on the word “hypothetical” here because there is still a extremely high chance the man stayed single till death #he was a rich #middle aged #highly influential public figure in the 1950's so I would doubt it but still. #hazbin hotel shitpost #hazbin hotel vox #feel free to argue with me abt this if anyone wants to btw I am still struggling

[vexenya]

Woman: online content creator abused me, here’s my story [produces acres of evidence, screenshots, testimonies from other victims, and a very detailed timeline of the abuse and when it happened and how it escalated]

Random dudes with anime pfps: well did you directly tell him it was bothering you. did you try to handle this in private. smh. everyone wants to be a victim nowadays

#this is about multiple situations in general #I wonder if I’ve posted about this before #anyways #it’s extremely depressing that some online users will do mental gymnastics to avoid believing abused women #especially when the abuser is a content creator or otherwise public figure

[froody]

Medieval scribes writing things like “fuck the abbot” (their boss) and “I am so hung over I feel dead” and “that goddamn cat got in here and pissed on the manuscript” and drawing penis monsters and purposefully unflattering portraits of public figures and animals in the marginalia is funny, yes. But more than that it is so deeply quintessentially human. It reminds you that they were largely just frustrated young adults who did an extremely repetitive and tedious job 6 days a week during daylight hours in poor conditions and felt the same malaise young adults feel now.

[getvalentined]

An open letter to @staff

I already submitted this to Support under "Feedback," but I'm sharing it here too as I don't expect it to get a response, and I feel like putting in out in public may be more effective than sending it off into the void.

The recent post on the Staff blog about changing tumblr to an algorithmic feed features a large amount of misinformation that I feel staff needs to address, openly and honestly, with information on where this data was sourced at the very least.

Claim 1: Algorithms help small creators.

This is false, as algorithms are designed to push content that gets engagement in order to get it more engagement, thereby assuring that the popular remain popular and the small remain small except in instances of extreme luck.

This can already be seen on the tumblr radar, which is a combination of staff picks (usually the same half-dozen fandoms or niche special interests like Lego photography) which already have a ton of engagement, or posts that are getting enough engagement to hit the radar organically. Tumblr has an algorithm that runs like every other socmed algorithm on the planet, and it will decimate the reach of small creators just like every other platform before it.

Claim 2: Only a small portion of users utilize the chronological feed.

You can find a poll by user @darkwood-sleddog here that at the time of writing this, sits at over 40 THOUSAND responses showing that over 96 percent of them use the chronological feed*. Claiming otherwise isn't just a misstatement, it's a lie. You are lying to your core userbase and expecting them to accept it as fact. It's not just unethical, it's insulting to people who have been supporting your platform for over a decade.

Claim 3: Tumblr is not easy to use.

This is also 100% false and you ABSOLUTELY know it. Tumblr is EXTREMELY easy to use, the issue is that the documentation, the explanations of features, and often even the stability of the service is subpar. All of this would be very easy for staff to fix, if they would invest in the creation of walkthroughs and clear explanations of how various site features work, as well as finally fixing the search function. Your inability to explain how your service works should not result in completely ignoring the needs and wants of your core long-term userbase. The fact that you're more willing to invest in the very systems that have made every other form of social media so horrifically toxic than in trying to make it easier for people to use the service AS IT WORKS NOW and fixing the parts that don't work as well speaks volumes toward what tumblr staff actually cares about.

You will not get a paycheck if your platform becomes defunct, and the thing that makes it special right now is that it is the ONLY large-scale socmed platform on THE ENTIRE INTERNET with a true chronological feed and no aggressive algorithmic content serving. The recent post from staff indicates that you are going to kill that, and are insisting that it's what we want. It is not. I'd hazard to guess that most of the dev team knows it isn't what we want, but I assume the money people don't care. The user base isn't relevant, just how much money they can bring in.

The CEO stated he wanted this to remain as sort of the last bastion of the Old Internet, and yet here we are, watching you declare you intend to burn it to the ground.

You can do so much better than this.

Response to the Update

Under the cut for readability, because everything said above still applies.

I already said this in a reblog on the post itself, but I'm adding it to this one for easy access: people read it that way because that's what you said.

Staff considers the main feed as it exists to be "outdated," to the point that you literally used that word to describe it, and the main goals expressed in this announcement is to figure out what makes "high-quality content" and serve that to users moving forward.

People read it that way because that is what you said.

*The final results of the poll, after 24 hours:

136,635 votes breaks down thusly:

An algorithm based feed where I get "the best of tumblr." @ 1.3% (roughly 1,776 votes)

Chronological feed that only features blogs I follow. @ 95.2% (roughly 130,077 votes)

This doesn't affect me personally. @ 3.5% (roughly 4,782 votes)

#tumblr dot com #tumblr staff

[neosatsuma]

@greekceltic you color-matched with the post above you!

#sorry for the extremely awkward public delivery of this message #it was the only way I could figure out to do it lol #helloooo from a hetherev kid from long ago~