#but she's still an asian mom

[wikagirl]

I finished the less important side characters. Just wanted to draw them so I had a visual ref for when I write them.

From left to right we have:

Nicolle, Gabriellas aunt and thus her fathers younger sister. She's the middle child and as you might be able to tell from her outfit, a professional ice skater. The glitter on her dress is supposed to represent a rising phoenix, a metaphor for being "reborn" after having to drop out of skating for a while due to overexhaustion and burn out and coming back better than ever. Her career is her life, she will not talk about anything else ever. Her sister does her hair for her.

In the middle we have Alexandra, the youngest sister to Nicolle and Gabriellas father. She does heavy wheight lifting, owns a sports clothing brand and organizes sports programms to teach people that sport can be fun without needing to be competitive or for wheightloss purposes. Also graphic eyeliner is a must and her outfit is inspired by 4-time olympic gold winner Serena Williams' adorable poofy tennis outfits. Sports wear can be cute and practical. For her physique I references Emily Campbell, britains first ever medal winning womens olympic wheightlifting candidate

And last we have Waylen. Waylen is an adrenaline junkie and a member of the Hale pharma private military. He has a whole arsenal of prosthetics for different pruposes and yes those are mantis blades from cyberpunk and the prosthetic legs are inspired by that one lady from the first kingsman. He went through so many body modificatiosn that the constant switching out of parts, medications post surgeries and his overall very low self preservation instincts took a bit of a toll on his body so now he has to permanently wear the bottom part of his airfilter mask or else he will literally suffocate. All the foods he consumes must be liquid and snorkeled in through a straw and a little hatch at the front of his mask. Thanks to the previously mentioned issues he has a almost non existant feeling of hunger, meaning that he often only realizes he should eat when it's allready to late and he tips over sideways. Depending on how much coffee he has in his system he can be a representaion of every song in the misery/cpr/reeses puffs mix. The only reason for why he hasn't been kicked out of the military and sent to early retirement yet is because he's good for the morale and knows what he's doing as long as he's in a team, on his own he suddenly looses all those braincells and turns into a "stealth is optional? nice *explosions*" type bingus.

#myart #ocs #I used to hate sports growing up because in school everything was competitive #and outside of school everything seemed to be with the sole purpose of loosing wheight #in fact you can be quite active in sports and still not loose a pound simply because muscle is heavier than fat #and also because diet plays more into wheightloss than training #so to everyone who keeps calling people who don't look “normal” (notice the “”) lazy and unhealthy: plz shut the fuck up and die <3 #you know absolutely nothing about the people you're looking at. their body their choice and now do me the favour and fall off a cliff #I'm really sick and tired of people trying to police other peoples bodies AND FEELINGS ABOUT THEIR BODIES under the guise of care #as you might be able to tell I didn't put as much work into these as the others since they are only side characters #that will only pop up once or twice #also since gigi is as ashy and pasty as the rind of a parmesan cheese and her aunties are significantly darker you can probably guess #she is mixed with her mom being what would be asian on planet earth and her dad is mixed black and something secret #and with something secret I mean this is still a work in progress #he'll be the bestest of best dads none of that toxic father figure bs in my house #he is inspired by christopher judge who was literally one of my childhood heroes in his role as teal'c in stargate btw #visually and personality wise I mean #a strong but still kind and caring for those he holds dear. maybe a bit odd to outsiders :3 #tw eating issues #tw ed #kinda #bc of waylens digestive situation? #side characters

[galariangengar]

💭

#still kinda shocked about this but this morning after we went to breakfast for my dad for father’s day #my mom facetimed my abuelita and talked to her for a bit #then my mom mentioned how she’s taking my dad this afternoon to see the new transformers movie #then went to talking about movies and mentioned how me and her wanted to see the new little mermaid movie #then my abuelita started going off on a racist rant about black people… #everything she said in those few minutes before my mom hung up shocked me and I’m disappointed in her… #bruh why are so many latinos (especially middle age and older ones) so fucking racist in general??? #like I grew up my whole life hearing not only my family but several other latinos call any/every Asian ‘chino’ #and saying derogatory things like making fun of their language and shit #also on my mom’s side/ we have a very close family friend who is black and has been like another uncle to us #he is the kindest and funniest guy around and I love that we grew up with him and we always play video games with him too #I almost wanted to tell my Abuelita like ‘hey I dare you to say that racist shit to [so and so] imagine how he’d react to you rn’ #jazz uses curse! 💜

[caimitos]

my most self indulgent hc that is closest to my heart and haven't talked about in years is vespa ilkay filipino (her eyes have a rage you only see in 3rd world med students)

#when u grow up in a place where going into healthcare is a ticket out of ur shithole country that exports 10000s f healthcare workers yearly #but only if you're a nurse or some other profession that can still get ordered around in hospitals #the amount of MDs i know who tried working abroad thn got their degrees & licenses rejected so they had to pick up...a wildly different job #and also vespa ilkay medtech grad real in my heart of course (points at heart of it all pt 2 the blood tells you everything) #and vespa ilkays mom ofw na unti-unting hindi na umuwi also real in my third secret heart #her network of med professional friends is fucking huge bc filipinos go into pre/med expecting half the ppl to leave for richer countries #which is to say most of my friends are already making plans of leaving for the usa/australia/singapore etc etc and some are there already #most of her college batch is scattered across the galaxy they have a groupchat named 'brain drain gang class of 2XXX' or wtv the fuck #but also college swamp girl vespa is just so dear to my heart like the mental image of her #studying under a mosquito net sweating wearing a neck fan with her illegally photocopied medical textbooks from rangian recto avenue #she broke my 'characters i love are southeast asian (in general) characers i hate and want to suffer are filipinos' rule i'm sorry queen #skl.txt #rangian recto avenue whee she gets a fake marriage certificate for her and buddy for shits n giggles #guy who knows all the alumni gives her one for free when she visits they have copies of the vesbud wanted posters behind the counter

[tianshiisdead]

My hairdresser didn't spend the entire hour telling me about how she would purposefully mess up the names of her Asian coworkers and make racist comments to their face as if looking for me to validate her actions, in between comments about how I looked like a little doll (baby talk voice), all while I sat there and couldn't move, for ppl to say depictions of racism in books are 'too blatant' or 'too preachy' 🙄🙄🙄

#diary #hater tag #racism #its like whatever yk u learn to deal but it drives me up the wall when ppl act like its not a thing #it is a thing and its annoying and everywhere and u just . ignore it #i used to complain to my mom and shed say dont waste ur time w other ppl's stupidity and shes right. so i just move on #but uts not like its. a pleasent experience? i still avoid new ppl and all that #ottawa is sooo bad tho like alberta i was vibing and ppl werent nice but at least they didnt fucking run up to me and explain #their view of asians and then look to me to validate it like im suposed to give them forgiveness or smthn #proving their lack of racistness by forcing me to judge #the first time someone told me i looked like a little doll i was like hey thanks ig and then it stopped being a compliment tbh. fuck off #im not even short or anhthing u just baby talk me bc u see an easian woman and cant take her seriously #guy who jumped in and tried to play translator when i was talking to a librarian. lady who used a baby voice to ask me where im from. #lady who tried to gently show me how to use a credit card machine after giving me a butchered ni hao and bow. lady who kept telling me abt #how her son loves asia and asian girls and then call me 'omg so cute' like im not an adult. every one else. go die now!! kys im not kidding #id rather be called a slur than treated like im a 2yo dog while in a work situation

[lilyblossoming]

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#ok i dont want ppl to hate my mom or think she's 100 bad and cruel and abusive bc shes not #her dad was apparently rlly awful #and hurt herr younger sister #and she was the eldest sister and had to tak care of her fam along with her mom at a young age #and they never got enough protein so mom is small #growin up in china in the 70s as a poor family in a tiny town #i feel for her #and i remember how affectionate she is #but she still made a looot of mistakes and is too emotional #and focus on her feelings over mine #like ik im an adult now but im still her kid #mom had to take of her mom so she thinks its normal #plus fility the value in asian cultures #mom i wish we (and baba) can all go to therapy and heal

[broodyjoey]

Mom: Your sister, she isn't even dating yet and it's already so hard to reach her (via texts)...Wait till she dates a man, she'll be disappearing without a trace!

Me, who knows my lesbian sister is currently in a steady relationship: Ah yeah, sure......

#ASDFHJKLL SHE DOESN'T KNOW #the reason my sis is alr so hard to contact is probably because she's busy with her gf AND she even stays over at her house often #LMAOOOOO #my mom still thinks she's straight ASDHFKSKRHKTJ #not that my sis walked out of the closet anyways our parents are old style asian homophobics type

[kisshim]

another thought on nhie where maitreyi’s character always wears a half sari when there’s a special occasion …🙁

#i love it i love it i can cry about how i love it #wearing half saris isn’t even common anymore but it is so young tamil girl of her i..i do strongly like that addition #simply bc there have been too many moments in my life where i’ve had to explain to people that i don’t really wear lehengas bc it’s not #rlly culturally significant the way half saris are specifically where i’m from #also can we all please bring back the casual half sari 🙏🏽 idgaf if homelanders call me a weird NRI bc actually i’m not even an nri 😭 #i’m an oci. anyway #i love tamil girls i love her she’s also gorgeous have i mentioned that #also for obvious reasons people hate on the show and say it’s shit representation and we don’t need representation #but speak for urself motherfuckers😭 this is exactly who i was #it’s hard to be a south asian girl in america period. i hated being indian for so long it’s a process ok🥲 #people who hate on the rep prob grew up in fucking edison or the bay area #and at the end where she’s with ben and she’s still wearing all her jewelry and her bindi … that’s smth else #i have a strange relationship with wearing a bindi in public bc my mom told me i’d get hate crimed🙁 #anyway that’s enough for today

[standbyric]

as someone who works in the legal world man it’s effin’ corrupted yet I chose to remain here i’m not less corrupted - -“

#checkinlife #don’t mind me I’m just rambling #asian dilemma #either be a doctor a lawyer #or an engineer #or take CPA #wanna quit my job but my asian grandparents are still alive #and I’m kinda sick of them blaming my mom #she’s a widow you arses - - #ctrl+del later

[viovio]

this is insane

#moms talking about asian culture and abuse from discipline and how its not acceptable nowadays #shes my teacher btw. i witness her yelling and hitting my kuya everyday just this morning she berated me #and the sleeping schedule i had which was fine until THE SCHOOL FUCKED IT OVER #BY EXTENDING OUR SCHOOL HOURS I LITERALLY TOLD YOU THIS WHEN I WOKE UP #speak iza #child abuse ment #abuse ment #well kuyas an adult but its still ableist abuse ill kill us all #damn when i have no one to reach out to bc my abusers my mother and class teacher :/ #vent tw

[rongzhi]

hey (culture ask incoming) im wondering about weddings in china and whether people generally wear more western style wedding clothes or traditional chinese style?

(Long-winded answer incoming)

Depends.

I would say Chinese/hanfu style wedding attire has been making a big comeback (so to speak) in recent years as a side effect of the hanfu revival movement, but there is also Chinese wedding attire that is distinctly it's own genre of clothing, i.e, bridal/groom wear. When you look at it, you know (if you know) that it's wedding attire. More on this in a second.

Still, for those who can afford it, it is popular these days to wear both western style wedding attire and Chinese wedding attire. Most people who I've seen wear both change into the Chinese attire for the wedding banquet. If they wear a western wedding dress, it will be at the ceremony/walking down the aisle. Likewise, if they wear both hanfu and Chinese wedding attire, they will wear the hanfu for the ceremony. Another thing to keep in mind is that in China, it is quite popular to take wedding photos in a myriad of outfits, not just the one you will be wearing on the occasion. So people nowadays may take photos in all the different kinds of wedding attire (via clothing rentals), whether they are going to wear it at their wedding or not. In that spirit, they still technically wear both western and Chinese style wedding clothes.

Hopefully that answers your question there. I have a #chinese wedding that covers a lot of videos but in which you can see the types of gowns and all that which I will briefly go into below.

So: when it comes to "traditional Chinese style" wedding attire, what does that really mean?

To me, three main types of clothing come to mind: 1) Chinese Wedding Attire™ , 2) Chinese style wedding attire, 3) Wedding hanfu

1) Chinese Wedding Attire™, AKA 秀禾服 Xiùhé

Visually distinct, it is not really hanfu nor qizhuang but a secret third thing.... In this case, it is a blend of Qing dynasty and Republican era styles dubbed "xiuhe". As bridal wear specifically, it is actually a rather recent trend (21st century), but it's become a fixture in Chinese wedding wear. While the colors can vary wildly and magnificently, the classic colors here are gold and red.

The style that exists today shows Qing dynasty influence in its construction and at its core consists of both bride and groom wearing embroidered tang suit tops and a matching silk skirt. The bride usually wears hair ornaments/pins in place of a veil. Since there are pins in the hair, brides may wear a xiapei/cape with a long train instead.

A few bridal styles (keep in mind that these are just the classic cuts and colors—there are other styles/colors that contain recognisable elements of bridal wear but are made of different fabrics, have different draping, have more tassels, have a softer look, etc):

2) Chinese style wedding attire

This is admittedly somewhat of the same thing as Wedding Attire™, just toned down as it was more popular/commonplace in the last century, when it was what was most affordable for most, but it's a style that nonetheless comes to mind. With this, the key is simply that the bride wears a mostly all red dress/top+skirt and the groom wears a suit. Bride and groom will also often wear a red flower/ribbon pinned to their top or worn around them gift-wrapped style, haha. My mom just wore a red top and bottom to her wedding dinner (that's as much detail as I've ever gotten out of her lol) when she got married in the early 80s. Another thing is, since white is a funerary color/color of death in Asian cultures, some people also just wear Western style wedding dresses that are red.

3) Wedding hanfu

As you can imagine, this is ornate hanfu that is worn for weddings. Song/Ming style hanfu is particularly popular here.This clothing is traditional in the sense that it has historical basis and is what those who could afford to word for weddings historically. Historical wedding colors varied but color pairings like red & blue and red & green are traditional (man wears red, woman wears blue/green; 红男绿女). Wearing hanfu for weddings is a trend that has become popular with the hanfu revival movement and is, as you might guess, a trend for Han Chinese people

Chinese ethnic minorities have their own wedding attire that they may choose to wear/wear as well (if they do a banquet, etc). Or they might just wear red/xiuhe/western style dresses, too—this is another area where wedding photos let you basically wear everything.

(just a few examples:)

#text #answered ask #chinese wedding #hanfu #long post #少数民族 #LMAO I just noticed I accidentally included the same couple twice in the hanfu section 💀 #…it’s ok her makeup and hairpiece is slightly different

[ladysophiebeckett]

seriously wondering if the maggie hulu show originally intended the lead to be hispanic or biracial bc having her be white doesn’t make sense narrative wise. 

#the mom being named 'maria'. maggie not fitting in bc she's psychic. the mother\daughter issues. #the parents being landlords is a white thing but the daughter living on the property that's still so close to her parents..doesnt feel white #just...something doesnt feel right #ya know? #especially bc the rest of the cast is asian and hispanic...why is the center of it a white woman psychic?? #its suspicious

[lilyblossoming]

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#i know my mom loves me and wants the best for me #but she gets so caught up in her own feelings and emotions #and done traumatic things to me #and wont admit it #i feel abused and im sure some of it it is #verbal abuse and when i was younger she would hit me #true sometimes i would push her first or yell insults first but its probably bc of resent #still not right of me #but she's the mom #i love her and i hate her #i feel bad bc her relations with dad is so weird #but they dont divorce or get therapy #asian immigrant parents ig #and i feel bad about the trauma in childhood with her dad #and mom and i do have wonderful times #but i cant forgive her #i love her rlly but it is too much #do not reblog