#i was rec’d

[canichangemyblogname]

FFS, things have nuance. 🤦‍♂️

Like, it is true that marriage is oppressive for women and has been used as a tool of political and patriarchal control. And it is true that marriage equality has been affirming for LGBTQ+ people.

LGBTQ+ people did not fight for marriage equality to placate cishet people. It wasn’t some sort of concession or bargain at the expense of “queerness.” Two men or two women wanting to get married is not defending or reinforcing “female oppression.” Marriage equality— and, ultimately, its idea that certain partnerships should not be discriminated against— does not detract from the historic use of marriage as a tool of patriarchal control. Patriarchal norms are the reason for the heteronormative history of partnerships.

LGBTQ+ couples were denied access to more than 1,100 federal rights or responsibilities associated with the legal partnership that is marriage. There were laws on the books criminalizing private consensual sexual relationships. The fight for marriage equality was about fighting the idea that homosexuality is immoral and that LGBTQ+ people do not have legal protections because of the “immorality” of their relationships. It was about recourse for discrimination in employment and housing, protection from violence, custody rights and protections for minors in the care of LGBTQ+ parents or guardians, hospital visitation rights, funeral and burial rights, and property rights.

Did you know that families used to deny people’s “life partners” from their death bed? You could live with someone you love for 30 years and be barred from their hospital room or funeral by their family. You would have no say in end-of-life care or their services because their family was legally ENTITLED to erase your loved one’s queerness. They were legally ENTITLED to freeze you out. Your partner may not have seen these people in 30 years, and those people had more rights and recognitions than you did. Simply because you are queer.

Not only could they deny you everything, but they could take it all from you, too. You might live with someone for 30 years, yet your partner’s family is legally entitled to their whole estate. Every piece of furniture. Every article of clothing. Every photograph. You have no say over any of it. None of your shared life would belong to you *because* you’re queer.

^ This was the reality— and the norm— before marriage equality.

Get fucked.

#vaguing about posts I see rec’d to me in the feminism hashtag #R-fems are like: ‘Gays are actually oppressing women because they fought for marriage.’ #another example of why they’re just queerphobes. not a feminist bone in their bodies

[campbyler]

What are Mike and Will’s top three artists? (Idk if you’ve mentioned it before sorryy)

oooh i don’t think we’ve named specific favorites for them before!! i don’t know if we’ll be able to just name Three (edit: coming back to proofread after typing out this ask. i did not just name Three), bc to me acswy mike and will both have pretty varied music tastes — i think they’d both listen to a lot of different genres and artists, especially music that their friends/family/assorted loved ones introduce them to that might not be something they’d usually go for.

mike: we did mention in ch2 that mike has a demon days poster above his bed in the blue cabin, and while i don’t think gorillaz is one of his Favorite groups by any means, i do think he 1. listens to them a lot while driving specifically and 2. just reallyyyy loves their album art. to me mike is also such a pop punk enjoyer, so i think some of his go-tos include bands like all time low and paramore and blink-182, probably with a little midwest emo thrown in bc the boy did literallyyyyy grow up in indiana. i do also think he has a soft spot for feel-good pop, especially boyband music like 1D and BTR, and i think 5sos is not technically a boyband (or that they don’t like to be called one? iirc? maybe?) but i think he would listen to them quite a bit as well! really and truly i think mike would just like a little bit of everything, and his fav artists probably rotate a lot depending on his mood.

will: always a jeff buckley enthusiast across universes to meeeee, and the clear answers here are also the cure/the clash and other oldies rock OBVIOUSLYYYY but i think he would also totally dabble in typical Male Manipulator Music lol with likeeeee peach pit and pool house and the strokes especially. i think he’d also be into midwest emo (cannot escape his fate), and maybe also deftones and ptv a little bit (<- self indulgent and me projecting but i am not sorry). i think he also has a soft spot for pop, but not really in the same way mike does — for example, el definitely makes him listen to a lot of carly rae jepsen and the like when they’re together, and he also has a lot of good memories of listening to older pop songs with his mom when he was younger! like. he hits shuffle on his liked songs and it’s destiny’s child followed by radiohead followed by jenny by studio killers. he contains multitudes i’m afraid

#jenny by studio killers is a very special will song to me. if you guys care. i’ll scream it until i’m blue in the face #i also rec’d a fic on my main blog that basically cemented will as a sufjan stevens enjoyer for me for life #likeeee that is my canon now. sorry #anyways i’m so sorry i know you asked for Three and i just word vomited at you #but i just am so insane about them #and their music. #i have a lot of thoughts #asks #acswy reference

[dreamings-free]

now what.. 👀

#/369 #the story was deleted after the countdow finished 😫 #<- oh thanks for pointing that out @thechavier !! #it was! #i screen rec’d this at 8:03am BST and short after that it was gone

[tiffanyachings]

last year i introduced my mum to the crane wives and bought her the albums on bandcamp and now she sings along with me in the kitchen

me sowing: :))

me reaping: :))

#also my friend said she’s gonna read gideon the ninth because i rec’d it to her last year #fieldwork

[bimboficationblues]

Barcelona was cool. I danced, I made new friends, I squashed a beef, I hit on someone without approaching Peak Neurosis, I looked at a collection of civil war era posters, had a little “Sex and the City”esque dinnertime experience. I wanted to go visit the Walter Benjamin memorial in Portbou but it was such a compressed trip I couldn’t make the time.

#thanks to those who rec’d stuff I did most of it!

[softerpixels]

i may have willingly started reading tender is the flesh of my own accord HOWEVER i feel i am entitled to financial compensation for emotional trauma because what the FUCK?! 😅

#.txt #mind you????? i am not done??? #i still have 39% of the book left to go #idk if i can stomach it #i love horror it’s my favorite genre but this???? #DEMONIC! #DARK SIDED! #i’m not scared i’m just violently upset lmao #like i am going to fucking PUKE #everyone who rec’d this owes me COLD HARD CASH omg

[quinloki]

Damn these lyrics just out here going hard like this

#listening to my Sabo playlist while I work so I can refine it a bit #quin muses #music musing #spouse rec’d this song and hells it has grown on me #Spotify

[astrobei]

Do u have any byler fic recs? I’ve read all ur work and it’s wonderful!

hii omg thank u :’)) i’m going to try my hardest not to only list every single of my friends’ fics on here or ones that have been recc’d a million times even though they are all deserving of a million reads!!

you are sick (and you’re married) by @wiseatom: OK i said i wouldn’t list every one of my friends’ fics on here but thea’s modern coffee shop au immediately came to mind. everything she’s written has been so incredible but she characterizes will and max especially so well in this! delivering to us the cringefail will content we need for reallll <3 i am so in love with her writing and something about her style just makes so much sense. i tell her this every single day but it will never be enough, because her will is so precious to me and i need thea to quit her job and only write loser4loser byler for the rest of her life. read this! or else! (coffee shop au, modern setting, cringefail will byers tm)

king of my heart by @bookinit02: i had to restrict myself in choosing just one of haven’s fics for this list because i love her and i would put every one of her fics on every list ever if i could, but this fic. THIS FIC. listen. i don’t cry easily when reading fics but this one. i was reading it in the living room and my roommate came down and she said, “suni, are you okay?” and i said “yeah, why?” and she said, “oh, i thought you just got dumped or something :(“ and i didn’t know how to tell her that the reason i was eating ice cream out of the tub on the couch at midnight while crying quietly in my comfort hoodie and fuzzy socks was because of this fic. that’s all i have to say <3 (soulmate au, angst, fics that tear my heart out of my chest)

in from the snow by @parkitaco: every one of parker’s fics is near and dear to my heart, and i’ve gushed at them about it in their comments and inbox and asks but this was my most recent completed read and it has literally everything i could’ve asked for ! ice skating date! established byler! jewish byers!!! her characterization is incredible and her established byler is my favorite i’ve ever read EVER in my entire life ohhh my god. she has so many wonderful fics and i literally cannot choose a favorite because they’re all 10000/10s so do urself a favor and binge her entire collection of works if, for some reason, you’ve been living under a rock and haven’t done so yet :^) (winter fic, hannukah, established byler, mike wheeler’s pathetic inability to ice skate)

want for anything (and everything): the writing in this fic is so beautiful. like. i am a sucker for fluff yes but also i’m a sucker for fics that just rip my heart right out of my body with how well written they are. i was looking through my bookmarks for this list and i haven’t read this in a while but my bookmark notes said, and i quote, “EVERYTHING ABOUT THIS IS SOOOOOOO!!!!!! IM AHSJDJDJDJSKSKKSKSKSKDKDJ” which sums it up perfectly in my opinion. post s3 mike and will figuring out their relationship and this author has such vice grip on me because i immediately binged the entire series too!! (six unrelated fics but each one of them are so. SO. GOOD!!) (this series has a whole bunch of premises so i’m just going to let u all figure that out for urself by making u read every single one of them. lol)

selfless; self destruct: i find myself coming back to this fic a lot because i have such a soft spot for will and mike finding each other again and repairing their relationship. the writing in this fic is so heartbreaking and the will pov in this was so spot on! they have a whole phone conversation about toast that just. it was so small and so simply and so raw and so THEM that i literally had to put my phone down. i’m sure i recommended this already but i can’t rec this fic enough !! (angst, post s4, reconnection)

hanging on the telephone by @elmaxed: lumi’s writing is just so. i don’t know how to explain it but the way they write is so soothing and easy and it conveys so much emotion with such simple dialogue and prose. everything lumi writes is s tier and this fic was no exception !! i Need more will and mike talking on the phone during the 6 months will was gone and it was really incredible reading this from mike pov. the characterization, the dialogue, mike’s struggle with his feelings for will vs what he should be feeling for will,, literally just the whole package. read it immediately if you haven’t !! (post s3, phone calls, mike wheeler’s ongoing homosexual crisis)

who you gonna call? (mike wheeler!) by @andiwriteordie: OK everyone and their mom has read andi’s fics because she’s famous and a legend and also one of my best friends (!) so it would be redundant for me to shake you by the shoulders and demand you read her fics but. this one is just so so special to me! like this one specifically. every one of her fics is incredible masterful beautiful but THIS ONE IS JUST SO!! i can’t explain why i come back to this fic so many times (other than the fact that it’s perfect). college byler where mike is an ra and will visits him, except they keep getting interrupted by the students on mike’s floor. ugh. perfect. holding it so close to my heart forever and ever <3 (college au, established byler, interruption trope x100)

bonus!! these fics aren’t byler but they are some of my all time favorites and i would shout their praise from the rooftops for all eternity if i could :^)

in the morning i’ll be better: jancy jancy jancy jancy jancy !!! stoprobbers on ao3 has some of the best, if not THE best jancy fics i’ve ever read! the characterization, the plot, the tenderness ☹️ jancy usually gets sidelined in byler fics so i eat up every single fic where they’re the main couple and this is everything i need from season 5. nancy’s talk with steve, reconnecting with jonathan, UGH. just. everything about this. (reconnection, jancy talking their issues through, nancy whooping steve’s ass for the six little nuggets monologue)

a life in your shape: if any of you are stoncy readers, this fic is the gift that keeps on giving. nancy and steve get engaged, and jonathan, their best friend, is,,, he’s dealing! i don’t read a lot of stoncy just because i feel like fics that are my style are few and far between, but for writing like this, i’d read any pairing the author wrote for. i have a sweet spot for this relationship and the way that the chemistry between all three of them is so palpable and balanced is so rare and beautiful to read! 36k of some of the best writing i’ve ever read i swear even if you’re not a big stoncy fan this fic might just convert u :^) (2/3 of an established relationship, 3 way pining, weddings)

november and july by @lookslikefireflies: this is such a wonderful max and will fic and probably the best max character study i’ve ever read. GOD the writing had me clutching at my heart in beautiful, glorious pain. just so many lines in this fic that i think about so much. takes place between s2 and s4 and just. i literally have no words. the way this author writes max is so so special to me, i want to put this prose in a mug and sip it on a cold day. the relationships between will and max and also max and mike and even though byler isn’t a focus of this fic, you can really see will’s struggle with his relationship with mike post s3 even though it’s not through his pov. i just come back to this fic a lot when i’m sad it’s so warm and gorgeous and just. ☹️☹️☹️ (max character study, angst, fics that make me curl up into a ball and weep)

i’m honestly not the best at fic recs because i keep forgetting to bookmark ones i like before i close the tab but i hope you enjoy these :^)

#phew #this took me so long on mobile #i hope u guys like these !! #tried to not. rec ones that everyone and their mother has already rec’d #all of these deserve one million hits and kudos fr #byler #fic #byler fic rec #fic rec #idk what to tag this w

[marsixm]

i’m laughing so hard rn the big burly middle aged overnight frozen guy walked by my phone, where im watching a drama youtuber video about iilluminaughtii and he goes “hey i’m watching the same video!!!” HFKSHDKS HE LITERALLY KNOWS ALL THE TEA THIS IS SO FUNNY

#he used to watch her too #i rec’d him the hbomberguy vid man that right there is almost half a shift’s worth of content #this is just like how me and the girl in bakery watch true crime 24/7 #i never post abt it but i’m very in the weeds of like every youtube drama

[suntails]

finally. i finally only have one job. hopefully time to catch up on longass fics i had to skip for later. time to sleep. time to dissolve into dust for a little snork mimi. time to read the last of my doujin

#hush catriona #glaring at the hollow moon tab thats been there for like. a month. i will read that 40k fic if it kills me #glares at the gen fic i rec’d a while ago. i WILL catch up on the 6 chapters i fell behind on. its only like…60k words #glares at the 3 dj i didnt finish. soon. get fuckign ready #not actively planning to draw yet bc i rly wanna take it easy for a min first #ive been nonstop working since i graduated high school and this is my first time working less than 20hr/week since. just finished my 65/week #grindset. i did 80 per like 6 months ago. im so fucking tired #honk shoooooooo ty tumblr for being the best of my socials i love u guys

[cozymochi]

‼️‼️😱😱THERE I AM GARY THERE I AM‼️

ITS ME

#cozy crap #my own crud being rec’d to me 🫵 #‘you might like this’ yes i would like my own stuff #and on that note i ‘d like to semi apologize to the few who thought grim should be playing dragon mal instead of scribble blue eyes #on that i say… sorry the world doesnt revolve around your selected fae spouse #but it DOES revolve around blue eyes white dragon #/PLEASE JOKE THATS A JOKE I DONT WANNA BE DESTROYED BY THE BRIGADE

[timothylawrence]

hehe my last gifset is probably my most popular gifset ever and it’s of wyll 🥺❤️… its so funny because I made that set after hundreds ppl on Twitter were being awful assholes to his character lmao and now my tags are filled with people being so sweet abt him 🥰

💞❤️💗💓💕💞❤️🧡💖💛❣️❤️💗💓💕💞❤️🧡💛💖❣️❤️

#ewbie.txt #I’d literally never used Twitter for fandom and then this post got Rec’d to me and it was literally like. #thousands of likes hating on him and hundreds of people talking abt how they killed him instantly etc #‘Theo doesn’t use social media as much’ would you want to if your character was being talked abt like that LMAO?? #anyway. I love him and he’s my bestie #this is just more fuel to my fire of making content for him!!!!

[kastlequill]

jason todd being the origin of my thing for masks/helmets at the ripe age of 8, and then him being the origin of my discovery that there are some really good x reader fics at age 20 … its really poetic if you think about it

#that man is like the majority of my fandom milestones #i love him sm #jason todd #my friend actually rec’d the fic to me and i was like idk man i dont like x readers! #and it was so fucking good i was forever radicalized #dc comics #rambles

[puraiuddo]

To all the people who have suddenly followed me that have the generic icons and nothing on their blogs:

for godsake customize your blog and reblog/like things or you’re gonna end up blocked on suspicion of being a bot

#i don’t know if my blog got rec’d to new users or something #i don’t wanna block new people who don’t know how the site works #but i also don’t want bots!!!

[curiosity-killed]

This is the funniest backhanded fic rec I’ve ever encountered. Absolutely incredible 10/10 no edits needed

#did block them immediately after a quick glance at their profile #author issues include ‘Have written for xicheng’ #and 16 stitches got rec’d hand in hand with the most thorough dismissal of tdh I’ve seen yet (and I’ve seen some) #this is cracking me up so much #peace & love to this person I hope you go outside someday but I’m glad you liked some of my fic (against ur will/better judgment???) #personal #‘some of their works are incredibly gory & disturbing’ #can I put that as a testimonial

[thunderon]

Never Let Me Go by Florence + the Machine for the pool scene playlist!

gooooosh it’s been forever since ive done a pool scene rec! and what a good one at that!

#asks #thunder tunes #thank you for the rec! i return to my roots eh #old timers on this blog know it but #for anyone unfamiliar: a few years ago i started a pool scene playlist and put whatever songs people rec’d on there #so it’s not really ‘my’ playlist i am just a humble custodian #the locked tomb