#in the mainstream can you believe it

[waterberry-strawmelon]

just gonna go ahead and say this in advance—

if Riz does indeed come out in junior year, and he says, “I’m ace” or “I’m asexual” when referring specifically to his lack of romantic attraction, aromantic people are allowed to be upset about it.

#because yes of course some people irl say ace to mean both bc that’s how they personally identify #but in fictional media the distinction is necessary. especially with how few canonically aromantic characters even exist in ANY mainstream/ #popular media. #I assure you I’m not invalidating anyone who is ace and they mean that to include lack of romantic attraction. #But to look at this from a MEDIA PERSPECTIVE its irresponsible to do this w/out clarification that they also know the word aromantic exists #because otherwise that’s just a conflation of asexual and aromantic without any nuance #and an erasure of aromantic people who are not asexual. #Plus—name a single fucking time a character in mainstream/popular media has said the word aromantic. #Because I can name several instances where they say asexual. But I can’t think of ONE where they say aro or aromantic. #(Maybe that Isaac kid does in season 2 of Heartstopper? But I haven’t seen it so I’m not 100% sure.) #anyways. #the way this fucking fandom—and ANY fandom with a canon aro character—discusses the aromantic spectrum #is blatantly just to remove their own personal guilt for shipping that character with other characters and erasing their orientation. #because yes aromanticism IS a spectrum!! But when people talk about fabriz and say ‘he can still be ace!’ (Which is aro erasure) or #‘he can still be aro!’ They never SHOW riz still being aro or having any kind of complex relationship with romance. #I’m angry and I’m allowed to be. #I get that a ship you liked may be hard to let go of or something #But I’d be much less mad if all the fabriz fans said ‘yeah I know Riz is aro in canon and he and Fabian would never get together. #I just like to imagine it sometimes in fiction/fanon!’ Then that would be a WHOLE different conversation #Because then they’d at least be acknowledging that riz doesn’t feel romance in canon. That fabriz is something that actively #Goes against the canon characterization of one of those characters—and that’s fine. Just fucking ACKNOWLEDGE IT. #But most of these people either WANT fabriz to be canon/believe it WILL BE canon #OR I guess feel uncomfortable confronting the fact that they ARE erasing riz’s aromanticism so they don’t even acknowledge it at all. #fhjy #fantasy high #d20 #dimension 20 #riz gukgak #aromantic riz gukgak #fhsy

[just-a-little-unionoid]

You know I think we can resolve a lot of our problems and moral dilemma by asking ourselves "does this really matters that much?"

#this is mostly in relation to current moral panic specifically in france but i think it van apply to a variety of contexts #like idk if yall know but france hate muslim people (specifically women) so much and it's so absurd #like... so much debate over muslim girls in school specifically #'we can't let them wear hijabs cuz hijab is a symbol of oppression*' okay well does it really matters that much? #isn't it more important to let them go to fucking school in peace instead of forcing them to remove it #(*i know it's stupid but that's the mainstream view of the hijab in france) #'but we have to stay religiously neutral at school' why? i understand teachers being religiously neutral but students who care? #wouldn't it be better to let anyone exprime their identity instead of forcing a standard‚ so‚ y'know‚ people can learn about diversity? #'well sometimes they refuse to go to swimming lessons because they don't want to be half naked in front of boys/men' #yeah i can understand that somehow not sure it's specific to their religion tho maybe we shouldn't force kids to get half naked idk #maybe we could allow them to go to female only swimming lessons if they want to #'WHAT?! but that's separating bous from girls that's sexist and we won't surrender to that backwards vie-' does it really matters? #obviously i don't believe society should be segregated between men and women but here isn't it more important that those kids learn to swim? #(yeah i fucking hate this debate) #and that works for a lot of subjects #'but trans people-' that's 0.09% of people what the fuck are you talking about #'but if we let kids transition and they regret it' yeah what if? sometimes people do shit they regret (but let's look at the stats too) #if they have regrets we should support and help them and that's it #and like‚ sometimes the answer is 'yes' and if it is you have to keep fighting for your cause #but you have to choose your fights donlt waste energy again things that don't matter that much

[yuridovewing]

As a fellow Dovewing lover, it's frustrating how the fandom watered her down into a whiny brat who never cared about Ivypool. I mean, seriously? Not only did Dovewing care about her sister (reacting in horror when Lionblaze, her own mentor and Jayfeather are willing to potentially sacrifice Ivypool's safety by employing her as her spy instead of trying to get her out of the Dark Forest's clutches, hiding a thorn in her nest to cover for her scarring from her training).

Heck, even the scene where she tries to feed Ivypool her catch during a hunting patrol was demonized because 'she was trying to make Ivypool break the code like SHE does, as if it doesn't matter' and because she got upset when Ivypool started arguing with her! But you guys said she didn't care, right? Plus, people act like being forced into a prophecy is something you should be grateful for, as if it didn't irreparably change her close relationship with her sister? As if Lionblaze and Jayfeather didn't still keep her out of the loop (and for all the fussing they made about keeping it a secret, Lionblaze confesses his power to Cinderheart and Jayfeather doesn't even care).

Meanwhile Nightheart is angry he isn't orange and hates his mom for being exiled and the whole world has to stop for him. 🤪 And Bramblestar is simply so tortured by having an evil father, the only choice is to train with him and his evil half-brother and hide this from his wife! (But remember, it's bad when that witch Squirrelflight hides the parentage of the three from him, even when Blackstar and Leopardstar were still around after being complicit in the torture and killing of halfclan cats.) Why are these male characters sympathized with, even when they actively harm people (Nightheart forcing himself into Sunbeam's life by lying to everyone about being her mate without even asking her if she would be fine with that beforehand), Bramblestar (we all know what he does), but when Dovewing or any other female character is upset, people freak out and call them whiny brats or abusive for (checks notes) asking her partner if he loves her anymore after they argued multiple times in a book. Really makes you think! (Sorry this is so long, you just have based opinions!)

dovewing being characterized as this flighty airheaded vain popular girl stereotype in fanon is like. one of those biggest "we didnt actually read the books" things in the fandom. like theres so much fanart where shes grinning and giggling over the prophecy and shes besties with the trio and shes got preferential treatment, and then in the actual books shes basically the autistic kid no one actually likes. people really, REALLY overexaggerate that one scene where she snaps at ivypaw and brags. (and i dont wanna shit on amvs but i am forever side eying how the animation community handled dove back in the day. more than one person animated her getting murdered. normal.)

i do think its gotten better recently at least. but wow does it feel like at least one person on the writing team has a bone to pick

(also awww thank you <3 no need to be sorry i love getting stuff in my inbox)

#it does also feel so insidious to me just how long the bramblesquirrel conflict was painted as ''equally kind of wrong'' #the ppl who put words in squilfs mouth sometimes which. btw ill get to that when i read the book #and tbf part of it is that sometimes abuse isnt as easy to spot if youre primed to the mainstream version of it #like. bramble isnt a born evil wifebeater everyone can see coming from a mile away. hes a complex guy with his own insecurities #and his own goals and people he openly cares about. and even in some fanon stuff i see ppl kinda erase that part of him #(which i wont pretend im above- ive been trying to walk that line myself) #and that doesnt match how abusers are usually percieved by the public. or in this very series. #like. the main excuse for clear sky is literally ''hes sad his sister died and tried to save her! no one changes THAT much'' #anyone can be an abuser. you could be an abuser. i could be an abuser. that doesnt mean that we ARE but we are capable of it #and the thing that catches ppl off guard is that abusers are really good at hiding who they are and theyre often charming #i often hear this account of abuse that goes something like ''my parent abused me but no one believed me bc theyre nice in public'' #you dont know whats going on behind closed doors. and ik this is about funny kitties at the end of the day but its quite telling #so... yeah bramble has his nice moments. hes got his GREAT moments even. i love his relationship with his mom for example #but those moments dont mean that hes not capable of being worse. of being a monster to his loved ones #its why squilf keeps getting sucked back in. hes not a one dimensional asshole. hes capable of being kind to her. #and thats what makes his disgusting moments hit so much harder #wow ok i got off topic in the tags but yknow. idk i got feelings abt this matter as someone who's experienced toxic relationships

[biphobia-truther]

I wanna know who of significant influence or number treats bi men like "injured deers". because, if you do hear about bi men at all from any side of the political spectrum, it's almost always about how particularly degenerate, disgusting, evil, and culpable we are. Or in GC online spaces there's a proliferation of just straight up homophobic jokes, rape jokes, etc that are seen as somehow woke and almost no one challenges in any way lol.

PS it's actually really easy to say that heterosexual men are objectively worse by almost anything you could mean by that ranking and that bi men are still an oppressed minority.

#y'all are so weird sometimes tbh #remember that woman saying straight people don't mind if bisexuals have gay sex #or the one that said bi men are the reason mainstream sports like american football are homophobic #like I want to know how lying about homophobia like this helps anyone #I wish there was any group that worshipped us as much as ppl on here wanna pretend #you can hardly even get bi men to be nice to each other like so many do believe bi solidarity is wrong and bad

[aplpaca]

idk what leftist needs to hear this but being Radical isn't actually a virtue

#like. its neutral. something being Radical doesn't automatically make it good. it just makes it “extreme” by societal standards #like. are u actually approaching societal problems with compassion and rationality #or are you gunning for whatever feels most cathartic and then patting urself on the back for being ''radical''? #something being radical isnt automatically a negative but its also not automatically a positive either #the idolization of being a Radical Leftist seems to make a lot of people either desperate to posture what they believe as Radical #or make them jump to the most radical positions they can. as if more radical inherently equals more pure and righteous #when like. you should not be basing your political positions or goals on how far from ''mainstream'' society they are #thats an unstable and ultimately unhelpful framework

[captainjonnitkessler]

“Tumblr is going to die because all these changes are going to drive away its core userbase!!!”

Tumblr is going to die because it’s losing $30,000,000 a year, investors are finally realizing that social media is not and never will be profitable, and its core userbase is a bunch of broke millenials who pride themselves on never paying for anything but sure, the fact that they moved the menu from the top of the screen to the side of the screen is probably the primary factor. Obviously if they just instituted the changes you personally want, random tumblr user who thinks they represent everyone on the internet, they’d become profitable overnight.

#why are people suddenly being so incredibly stupid about this #'tumblr just wants your money!!' yes. because they are losing 30 million dollars a year #'it's just like when radioshack tried to go mainstream and lost their niche!' sure. if radioshack was losing 30 million dollars a year #'they should just cater to what the core userbase wants!' sure. if the core userbase can provide them 30 million dollars a year #except whoops we're also harassing and mocking anyone who suggests giving tumblr money. you know. #to try and offset the THIRTY MILLION DOLLARS A YEAR THEY ARE LOSING BY KEEPING THIS WEBSITE RUNNING #websites cost money to run!!! i don't fucking know how so many people are refusing to believe this!!

[tasmanianstripes]

Maybe it's the result of my main fandom for the majority of my life being one where canon just genuinely doesn't exist, where there are so many different canons and literally any sort of interpretation of a single character is correct and can range from a moronic maniac with a chainsaw to a depressed old asshole boss, but

Literally who gives a fuck about canon?

Especially when the character is practically a blank slate or if it's an AU

Like, I'm sorry, but if you're butthurt about a mischaracterisation of a fictional character in an Alternative Universe then I don't think you understand what an AU is

#thylacines can talk #Maybe that's the reason I do not have the same violent reaction to mischaracterisation 99% of fandom spaces seems to have #I genuinely think that getting butthurt over somebody not writing a fictional character exactly how they appear in canon is the stupidest #most juvenile pet peeve you could ever have. Literally WHY do you care so much? It's words on a screen. Calm down. #I think it's only a problem when you believe that it's canon or try to shove your own interpretation of a character or AUs onto everybody #else. Otherwise...literally who cares? Somebody else treating characters like dolls is not hurting me. I'm not about to get legitimately #annoyed over fictional characters in a children's cat book. Unless it's like. Bigoted. But then I criticise the person's beliefs not a #goddammed characterisation of a fictional character. #In the fandom I was in most of my life a trigger-happy clown with a chainsaw canon and an old deppressed asshole boss were seen as the same #character and only had like. One design detail in common. And literally nobody batted an eye. You could write a dynamic between two #characters being incredibly hateful and toxic and somebody else could write them as old friends or an old married couple and both of these #interpretations would be equally canon. A single guy could have two wildly different personalities and backstories and he'd still be #treated like the same character as long as the two looked vaguely similar physically wise. Sure there were interpretations of characters #that were more popular than others but literally the only people who would treat one specific interpretation as canon and shove that #interpretation onto everybody else would be people who came from different kinds of fandoms and let me tell you. They were annoying as fuck #So coming from that kind of fandom into more generic mainstream fandoms feels like such a culture shock. Genuinely cannot comprehend why #people care so much. #'oh this character is so far from canon they might as well make an oc' okay...cool...and? #Maybe they don't want to make an oc?? I mean come on. It's fictional characters. You're an adult. It's not a fucking English class #People don't come to fandoms to study book literacy they come here to have fun. Literally WHO CARES if somebody's interpretation of a #character has only name and looks common with the canon version. WHO CARES. ITS WORDS ON THE SCREEN. Who are they hurting if they're just #making AUs in their own corner and not shoving it in anyone's face? #Idk I just see a characterisation I don't agree with and just go oh. Kinda weird but go off. And move on. #This got longer than I meant it to but whatever #I mean if you have that pet peeve but aren't an asshole about it. It's also whatever. That opinion also doesn't hurt anybody. It's only #people who act so butthurt about it and shit on other people having fun that I have a problem with. If you put it on your own blog and #criticise that sort of content in your own space instead of coming to somebody and going 'hey. I don't like what you're doing'. Then I #couldn't care less. Again. That's kinda weird but go off #It's kind of like. I like horror but I dont care if you dont like horror and talk about it in your own space. But I'm gonna care if you #go up to horror fans and go 'hey I think horror sucks' or 'I dont like horror so you shouldn't either'.

[obessivedork]

My casteless Dwarf to Alistiar after they've seen the ashes of Andraste cure Arl Eamon: Hey so I know your people don't want to hear this but if that really WAS the remains of the historical figure Andraste she was definitely a healing mage, right? Like. That's the most logical answer, and if Wynn were to die and be cremated her ashes could do the same, probably.

Alistair: You might not want to think that last thought around anyone else.

#Natia is more convinced that Andraste was a mage than *I* am #She has THOUGHTS and they are VERY heretical because she does not care about Andraste or the maker #And she did not think through the. uh. implications of 'if this is just what a dead healing mage can do there's nothing stopping the chantr #from making as many healing mages as possible and KILLING them all.' Not until Alistair points it out. #she's just a kid give her a break lol #She's also just like. BAH! that is the most magic thing to ever magic you dumbass humans that wasn't no miracle!! #take your stupid maker goggles off for five DAMN seconds! #She thinks as though she doesn't strongly believe in The Stone (in like. a different way than Orzammar mainstream #in that the 'casteless' DO have ancestors and they DO return to The Stone too because fuck the system The Stone doesn't recognize #arbritrary dividing lines like castes) #dragon age

[beholdthemem]

Well, if there's one useful thing that Ace Discourse has taught me, it's that all that solidarity people like to talk about is a goddamn myth. You have to look out for yourself, and if somebody falls under a Different Letter Of The Acronym, there is apparently zero guarantee they're going to have your back.

It is truly fucking amazing how somebody can post some truly awful shit about asexuals, implying they can and should be FIXED, medically or otherwise, and have all these people in the notes going 'I completely agreed with you until I noticed that you identify as a radfem :/' and see NOTHING WRONG WITH THE FACT THAT RADFEM RHETORIC SEEMED COMPLETELY REASONABLE TO THEM AS LONG AS IT WAS ABOUT A GROUP THEY DON'T LIKE. It blows my mind, how these same people will go back to their own blogs and write horrible, bigoted thinkpieces on asexuality, asexual culture, all the things wrong with allowing people to 'consider this an orientation', with 'letting them call themselves queer because they want to feel special or something' and have all these people with banners on their blog about how important it is to fight back against bigotry and to be there for each other, to have COMMUNITY- commenting and reblogging and agreeing with it. Because all those things are fine, as long as they're just about asexuals.

'We're all in this together- except, not YOU.'

Heard you loud and clear, you various wastes of life.

#personal #i have blocked over fifty people today. over FIFTY. #like im glad aphobia is at least a slightly less mainstream opinion but it hasn't gone away #people are just more quiet about it. #im glad younger asexuals sometimes end up finding community now but me? i don't fucking trust like that. #i will support everybody else because that's the decent thing to do but i don't believe for a SECOND you'll be there for US #when we need it. #i am a community of ONE. i don't want in your special fucking club i want to be respected #and since you've made it clear you can't even do THAT you can eat SHIT. #aphobia cw

[psalmsofpsychosis]

after my ✨️third✨️ attempt in the past 4 days to expose myself to standup comedy and build my lukewarm-jokes survival muscles i'll hereby conclude that jesus christ i'd rather fucking die

#like yes i'm sure there are actual funny standup comedians out there but #you people laugh at this shit?????? #98.99% of standup comedy culture is quite frankly incomprehensible to me i've never not-laughed at something this hard #i love george carlin but then again i watch him for sociopolitical commentary not for laughing #a lot of standup comedians are really just. extremely angry and frustrated borderline hateful people #or people with 45 accumulated years of severe depression which i mean. is absolutely fine to me #like the way i want to sit the lot of these people down and go ''talk to me. You're alright; you dont need the subpar 3.5/10 #socially acceptable veneer of jokes you can afford to have 2.5 seconds of sincere unscripted rage. maybe even cry a little. #you can do this i believe in you; cmon lets go'' #like these people are.... insanely unfunny. as a funny clown with funny shoes i find stand up comedy abhorrent honestly. #no offence whatsoever to people who like it; i know 'funny' is very a very subjective experience #i just think that the funniest people alive are often people who dont directly aim for being funny; it's got a medusa curse #the moment you look at funny directly you become the unfunniest person on the planet #(i adore hannah gadsby too but again. watching for sociopolitical commentary not for fun) #oh and i've been thinking about Joker's business of being ''funny'' too; pretty damn sure my experience of mainstream ''funny'' #is gonna play into that. oof

[swiss-army-fangirl]

man i really think i could write a dissertation abt bad omens’ relationship w the media at Large. i have a lot of thoughts abt it.

#another day another ‘why is noah unhappy with the band’s newfound fame’ #buddy a normal person could tell you that Fame in this day and age is like …… one of the worst things that can happen to you #you’re living the dream w resources beyond your imagining. you are under a microscope. everyone believes they can control what you do #how you Feel. how you interact and Present. #you’re doing what you’ve always wanted. you’ve never despised anything More. #anyways. watching the way this band has snowballed into the mainstream gives me complicated feelings and i only BARELY have claim to calling #myself an og fan. #used to be u wanted nothing more than a fave to make it big and now you’re like ……. never wanting to manifest that for them - LOL #tori talks

[dataheights]

the variety of scammers on insta is insane

#the algorithm shows me exclusively scammers’ ads bc I always click on them to see what they’re about and send some screenshots to my friends #saying can you believe this shit #it used to be mainstream shit like tarot/astrology but it keeps getting more and more unhinged

[chanselysees]

the thing is i understand people who make fun of swifties who are so adamant about her being "the best songwriter of our generation" or whatever. i personally believe she is very good lyrically, but to my mind it only truly shines in speak now, (some songs on) red, folklore, and evermore. most of her other albums range from lyrically okay-good to meh-cringe (vigilante shit i'm never forgiving you), but the thing is. that's literally not a problem? are we above mindless, fun pop songs? i can shake ass to 22 while simultaneously recognizing that the lyrics are Very Much average hot 100 billboard. this goes both to swifties who think every single one of swift's lines was crafted by calliope herself and to deny that is to be a misogynistic hater—she's been the most influential artist in the world for at least 10 years, of course her discography has to be built on accessibility and songwriting tropes & easy options—, and to bad-faith critics who only ever use shake it off as a counterargument to her way with words, as if she hadn't written hundreds of songs. she has pop hits and a lot of them are Lyrically Average, only enhanced by how abysmally vacuous a lot of charting songs are. but she also has delightful songs that read like poetry. yes the sexy baby line exists but so does "i'd meet you where the spirit meets the bones, in a faith-forgotten land / in from the snow, your touch brought forth an incandescent glow, tarnished but so grand". get over it.

#clara tais toi #taylor swift #if you leave the realms of mainstream pop yes a lot of her lyrics seem very meager... (though i personally believe as i said that speak now #and the sister albums are Objectively Good through any lens esp considering she wrote speak now at 19) #however that's like. not even close to a problem to me lmao #like you can enjoy her music without claiming that her songs are john keats reincarnated. u know? #OBVIOUSLY there are exceptions like the archer state of grace clean all of these fucking slap lyrically and theyre all very clever #dont come at me im literally a swiftie...lmao

[kraniumet]

sorry. I got something in my eye. (remembered the person who suggested rocknrolla on a post looking for "gay movies that aren't about softboy teenagers" or whatever)

#i think ritchie should commit to having textually gay characters in his works again (not talking about rocknrolla but sh: a game of shadows) #edit. okay. fair play 2023 guy ritchie. now do it again but more focused. in my heart i believe you and only you can make the first #mainstream stupid gay blockbuster action movie that doesn't feel like a netflix brand-building project

[captain-noir]

against my better judgment i dippied my toe into the merlin fandom, tangentially (guinevere pendragon tag) and had to curse loudly. its 2023 and we’re still on the ‘ackshully arthur didnt really love gwen its heteronormative he l they were just besties and he couldnt tell the difference he loved merlin ackshully’ GROW UP! if the only way you can ship stale ass merthur is to discredit actual canon....i pity you and your lack of imagination

#yaz has thoughts #merlin #guinevere pendragon #arthur pendragon #good to see im still abjectly homophobic when it comes to merthur as a concept #its the battlescars in my brain being pressed on when i have to witness those two wonderbreads #the general mainstream interpretation of theirs does such disservice to their joke of a dynamic #can you believe this is some folks gateway into the arthurian legends....i shudder! #the beef i have with this show and fandom - made me a lifelong gwencalot extremist an almost hater #andaskndanmdlaknsdmalkndmas

[rdlain]

that’s nothing. virtually every other masc/butch lesbian i know besides myself is currently on T. i am dealing with women telling their gfs or wives that they are now suddenly wanting to be addressed as ‘he’. it’s destroying me deep inside. it’s none of my business to tell them what to do but it’s absolutely wrecking me.

my own girl asked me not so long ago if i was planning to transition.

god I'm so sorry. It's such a brutal betrayal and they don't even realize it, thinking it's hip and subversive and a middle finger to the status quo to......willingly engage with or encourage in others conversion therapy tactics + confirm everything homophobes say about us is true and we truly are "males trapped in female bodies" for not loving males or presenting as feminine caricatures.

#if it's worth anything I personally think we're past tra's ''golden age'' of mass-encouragement and as people grow older #It'll be equated to 'cringey emo/scene phase' from the past (i.e. ''omg what was ur enby name mine was sock can u believe it lololol.'') #I think by late 2020's the public'll grow more and more aware of the negative side effects of hormones + surgeries #(probs after a big lawsuit going after the main medical practitioners) it'll eventually leave the mainstream breaking off into niche 'true #believer' groups that'll themselves grow smaller and smaller (eating each other alive as tra quWueer groups so often do) #hopefully sticking to themselves and out of our dating pool sad-lol. out of fashion like lobotomies of the past #but I def feel you. it really fucking sucks :(