#like using the phandom as a means to talk about toxic shipping could be so interesting but only if you bring other fandoms into it

[randomnebula]

i refuse to watch the phandom video essay that keeps getting recommended to me because from the first few seconds it’s very obviously just gonna be “the phandom was all just horrible weirdo creep shippers (derogatory)” for like 40 mins but i’m just like it doesn’t have to be like

i obviously just said i haven’t watched the video or any video of that nature for that matter but i feel like one of the things those types of videos likely miss is like the phandom wasn’t necessarily wholly unique in it’s more like toxic aspects of the time. like i think the topic of ‘toxic shipping’ in fandom (specifically rpf) in the like 2010s could be such an interesting video and like the phandom could be involved in a video about that topic but like it just seems unfair to only ever talk about the phandom in regards to that topic (both in the only ever talking about the bad parts of the phandom sense and in the the phandom being the front and center fandom referenced when discussing shipping at the time sense).

#dnp #phandom #dan and phil #phan #idk what tags to use anyway #like using the phandom as a means to talk about toxic shipping could be so interesting but only if you bring other fandoms into it #like there were other youtuber fandoms that got toxic with the shipping #does septiplier crashing and burning mean nothing to you people #also in a not specifically youtube sense there was like one direction and like other bandoms #idk like anything about those but like i think i’ve seen stuff about shipping causing rifts being one d members #idk i’m just like it could be an interesting thing to see a video on #i find fandom as a whole such an interesting topic #but also i like never trust people talking about it because it’s like like are you doing this to just make fun of the people in the fandoms #anyway if anyone read all this and knows good videos to watch or stuff to read about fandom let me know #the galaxy speaks

[yonpote]

can you plz talk more about allie tricaso's video on the phandom 👀 i do not have any energy to dive into it but i would love to hear your thots

sure! here's a link for people who do wanna give it a watch, i really enjoyed it, she came at this topic from the perspective of someone who used to be (in her own words) a toxic demon phannie. she talked about how people like sh*ne d*wson and onionson would just mention dnp's names in their videos to get views, and she talked about how the community would sexualize or scrutinize dnp in the wildest ways, one of my favs that she brings up in the video was someone had photoshopped dan like basically on top official phil in a spooky gaming video and claimed that THIS REALLY HAPPENED GUYS I TURNED THE BRIGHTNESS UP AT THIS TIMESTAMP AND OMG which is honestly hilarious to me

tbh i feel like in a weird position cuz i feel like arguably the stuff i post about them could be read as demon phannie? and i definitely used to be on all the pw locked blogs and watched That etc etc but i always like validate my actions to myself by being like, well im not fuckin @ replying them about this shit and honestly most of the horny stuff i post abt them is tongue-in-cheek and i hope yall dont take it too seriously and understand like, when fanfiction is fanfiction and when reality is reality (i could probably do better to post tone indicators for that tho sorry) (but thats also why my blog is 18+ lol yall are adults hopefully ! use ur discretion !) BUT AT THE SAME TIME do demon phannies even exist anymore if theyre both out and dan is saying "basically yeah" to being a couple and they are just Like That in videos now? idk

i actually commented on the video about how like, dnp have always been pro-fanfiction and pro-fanart or at the very least they have never actively discouraged it, i mean they wrote their own fics in their book for christs sake and dan has admitted to reading fic multiple times lol. so like even when they were very denying of being gay and no-homo howell was a whole thing, dan still made a video about shipping (that got deleted but its out there) that was like "oh you wanna write a story abt me fucking my friend? ok fine but YOURE GONNA MAKE MY FAVORITE POKEMON GOLDEEN???" or like in the tumblr videos they would poke fun at like phil dying in fic or "why are we kissing at the radio station so unprofessional" but never hated on it or told ppl to stop which i think is interesting.

[beacon-lamp]

oddly this kept me up at night and i would like to ask a bunch of people on tumblr sp here we go. have you guys ever thought about how george/dream may have gotten sick of the whole dnf thing? like what if one them just fucking snaps either live or not, they've stated that they're fine with it but at some point one of them has to get sick of it right? i feel like it would be george because dream would be "aha money" you know idk i feel like we're so close to that breaking point 1/2

and i've been to other fandoms where the two people getting shipped just snaps, dan and phil, larry stylinson. maybe i'm just being paranoid but they're both straight (dream may not be) but still if you identify as straight you'd be bothered by that yeah? do you guys think they had a huge argument about it or something god i'm getting scared rant to me idc just tell me something give me a paragraph go for it 2/2

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honestly i don’t know anon.  it’s 4am i haven’t slept and there are too many questions and never enough answers. (also i lived through the phandom and one direction eras but never participated and only saw things from the outside so i’m not sure how things ended.)

i’m not very good at comforting people and your worries are valid but please don’t be scared and maybe go to sleep.  

the thing is, we’ll never know how the dream team truly feel as that’s how parasocial relationships with internet personalities are.  we can speculate on “is it queerbaiting or is it just closeted/repressed emotions” but none of us actually know.  

that being said, in this poorly written essay/stream of consciousness, i will speculate on this dteam situation you have asked about.

the three of them are Good Friends who have known each other for Years, long before any of us had ever heard of them.  i mean they spend half the day on call or falling asleep on call with each other.  and if you think about your own friendships with people you’ve known for Years, you (hopefully) respect your friend’s boundaries and are comfortable telling them if something made you uncomfortable and vice versa.  so i think if any one of them were to start becoming really uncomfortable with the Shipping and whatnot, they would tell one another and work it out in a way that respects their own personal boundaries.  because that’s what i would do with my friends and that’s probably what you would do with yours.  

so under the reasonable assumptions that they are all comfortable enough with each other and practice healthy communication with each other, i don’t think things would ever boil over to a point where one of them Snaps.  

ok but what if that does happen?  what if one of them does Snap?  

well i don’t think it would happen on a livestream.  they’re all Adults with an understanding of the public image they have put out into the world and probably have enough professionalism to not air out private matters publicly.  worst case scenario, the person would just end their livestream early.  and then the three of them will talk it all out privately because at the end of the day, they’re all friends and Care about each other.  and maybe they’ll argue, because it’s good to express your emotions and not keep them bottled up inside for too long.  and this might take a little while because emotions are a fickle thing.

so then what? after one of them becomes uncomfortable with the shipping and they’ve worked it out amongst themselves?  

i would assume they would all come to an agreement that respects all 3 of their boundaries.  a “statement” of sorts would likely be drafted up by them together and they would post it probably on twitter, likely reassuring fans that they are all still friends but that their stance on shipping has changed.  

the fandom would be on fire for a day or two.  things would trend on twitter.  

some people might leave the fandom; some might be toxic about it; but most would likely remain and respect the dteam’s boundaries/feelings.

and after the dust has settled, maybe dteam won’t want to do what they do anymore.  and that’s ok.  or maybe it’ll blow over and things will be the same except minus the shipping.  

who knows.  certainly not me.  and i don’t know if any of this will ever happen?  maybe one of them will come out and the timeline shifts?  maybe things never change for the duration of their mcyt careers?  or maybe something completely unforeseen happens because we’re talking about 3 guys in their early 20s who play a block game for a living.  who knows what could happen.

but i do think things will be ok in the end.  

because regardless of where the dream team’s careers take them, i genuinely believe that dream, george, and sapnap would Never put their careers ahead or at the expense of each other’s feelings.  and that’s perhaps the bottom line of it all.

so please don’t be scared anon.  and maybe go to sleep.  hugs.

#none of this was coherent pls tell me if anyone actually understood any of this #anon #ty for the ask #im gonna read this tmrw morning and be like wtf #Anonymous #also i dont take ‘truthing’ seriously like its fun to speculate #but idk i dont rly care all that much abt whether theyre actually gay straight bi etc #but hey if it brings u joy and ur not hurting anyone or yourself then u do u fam #also was any of this helpful??? prob not but maybe???? idk if i even made a coherent point #long post

[danielle-routh]

Please Go Down With This Ship

The phandom is toxic.

There, I said it.

When I refer to “phan,” I don’t mean the people who watch Dan and Phil’s videos, follow them on Twitter and Instagram, and are general fans of the duo. No, I mean the people to whom “phan” means something far more.

Shipping Dan and Phil in a relationship without confirmation. Gushing in the video comment sections about everything but the video’s content. Making “gay moments” video compilations. Drawing erotic fanart. Writing explicit fanfiction. (Possessing the audacity to make sure that Dan and Phil are aware of these creations.) Harassing—yes, harassing—Dan and Phil about their relationship and saying they would be so cute together and why aren’t you two just dating already and why won’t you tell us more?

This is more than a callout post, so keep scrolling.

If you’re reading this post, you’re most likely aware that on June 13, 2019, Daniel Howell uploaded a video titled “Basically I’m Gay” in which, with characteristic humor and heart, he discussed his sexuality and confirmed his relationship with Phil Lester.

He also, however, took the time to address certain members of the phan community with the following:

“We can’t force people to disclose [their sexuality]…there are so many reasons someone might not be open about it…Aggressively speculating or trying to out someone is really bad. They might not be gay, in which case we’re harassing someone and probably stereotyping, and if they are, there’s gonna be a reason why they haven’t talked about it.”

Aggressively speculating.

I wonder to whom that could refer.

Putting aside the negative effects of fetishizing male friendship (which is an entirely different topic for an entirely different post), I want every single person who’s ever shipped Dan and Phil together in a romantic relationship to stop, really stop, and consider their actions.

Is this normal?

Is this healthy?

Is this beneficial?

I genuinely want to know how we arrived at a place in society where looking at two male friends, deciding they must be gay, and creating fanfiction and fanart about this supposed relationship was not only deemed acceptable but also encouraged and praised by millions of people doing the same thing.

What if hundreds of strangers were so invested in your sex life that they pestered you for details? That’d be weird, right? So what made it okay to not only assume that Dan and Phil were gay but also essentially bully them for lurid details about their relationship?

That’s not normal.

That’s not healthy.

That’s not beneficial.

Dan is gay (for lack of a better term), and he is in a romantic relationship with Phil. Dan confirmed this in a video of his own making and his own choice in his own timing. That’s normal, and that’s how it should be. Any prior speculation on the part of phans is just perversion, plain and simple.  

As someone who’s read their fair share of fanfiction, I understand just how fucked up it can be—and I don’t use that word lightly. I’ve seen all kinds of ships, from incest to noncon to genderswaps to anything a sick little mind can dream up.

But when this cavalier attitude toward sex seeps into reality? When it affects real people who are already struggling with their sexuality and just want to live their own lives without the virtual equivalent of stalkers whose noses are pressed to the windows? When you can no longer differentiate between fantasy and reality?

That’s messed up. And it’s why I say the phan community is toxic.

Honestly, I’m scared of how these people—you people—will react to “Basically I’m Gay.” Will the fanfiction diminish or flourish? Will the fanart tame itself or grow more outlandish? Will phans back off or demand even more from Dan and Phil regarding their relationship?

I don’t know. But I do know this: as Dan stated in his video, someone else’s sexuality is none of your business. Whether or not they choose to come out or stay closeted is none of your business. How they live their life is none of your business.

Just because someone is famous doesn’t give you the right or the privilege to treat them as characters in your own little fantasy world. They’re people, just like you. Treat them as such.

And for heaven’s sake, leave Dan and Phil alone. 

#phan #dan and phil #basically I'm gay #shipping #phandom

[kae-karo]

I'm having a hard time figuring out how to be nice/respectful and shippy/enjoy demon moments. Sometimes I wonder if analyzing DnP interactions so closely might be crossing a line. I'm not coming after anyone, I just respect you a great deal and think you'd have insight into how to have fun with shippy stuff and also respect them as people. What are your tips?

hey b! i think a lot about this honestly, like probably more than i should tbqh but here’re my thoughts (i’m enjoying the fact that this is apparently a valid contraction lmao)

first and foremost: being a demon means we inherently exist in a morally grey zone. i don’t want to stand here and say ‘oooo yeah we’re pillars of morality bc we say we’re being respectful’ like we shouldn’t ever get in the mindset that there’s nothing wrong with being demon (the term is what it is for a reason....we ain’t callin ourselves angels)

here’s the thing. and i talk a lot abt being respectful of dnp, so like. idk search ‘respect’ on my blog or smth i have lots of opinions lmao. but to me being respectfully demon means

not purposely/directly bringing relationship/shipping/etc stuff to the attention of dnp. it exists, they know it does, but it’s rude and disrespectful of us to throw it in their faces or give them them impression that all we care abt from this vid or that is ooooh dnp you were sitting so close and ooh the heart eyes dan you’re so in love with phil etc etc (examples: it’s disrespectful to ask if phan is real! esp during liveshows! or to @ mention dnp on phanart - the phan kind - that isn’t yours!)

enjoying the cute moments - so long as that’s not all we care about! i think this is where things get tougher, bc we love their relationship and we enjoy doing these little analyses (or big analyses) but we should always be checking ourselves: is the reason we’re here/posting this thing/reblogging this post primarily bc we like to overanalyze their relationship? or is it bc we enjoy their content, and looking at their relationship is a bonus? (examples: this is harder, but it’s more an internal thing and thinking abt why you loved a vid/piece of content - was it purely bc they almost touched in that one part? bc there were a lot of heart eyes?)

acknowledging that dnp aren’t stupid. they’re quite aware of the things we harp on (heart eyes, touches, innuendos, etc). within their videos and the non-live content they choose to post, i firmly believe they know when they’re including smth that might catch our attention. maybe not every time, or every thing, but some of the big stuff, and they’re choosing not to cut it out. i’m not saying this is express permission for us to pick apart every vid without care, but again, there are ways to be respectful and enjoy these moments without letting them take priority over the entire vid/content ahem trying to live my truth (examples: the pizza thing in the google feud vid! they chose to keep that in, so if we talk abt it being adorable and domestic, nothing exceptionally harmful there!)

being cognizant consumers of phanfic - dnp are well aware phanfic exists, and it’s been years since they’ve felt the need to actively address it, but that doesn’t mean we should assume they don’t care. it’s really really important to remember that phanfic is fiction. even the hcs and blurbs and stuff like that, they are not dnp. if you’ve not watched it, i highly recommend pj’s vid on fandom (x) as it hits some v good points about fandom in general and this specifically (examples: watch the vid srsly but apparently people have left him angry comments abt things he as a character did in a fanfic? it’s important and healthy to regularly go ‘yep okay that was a phanfic/hc, not reality’ and take time to ground yourself - esp with hcs, we sort of fill in the blanks from stuff we don’t know in their lives, and it’s really easy to forget that we don’t actually know)

being cognizant consumers of dnp-related content - we see funny posts cross our dash all the time, some more demon than others, and it’s important to encourage the behavior we want to see and not encourage the behavior we don’t want to see. we can police ourselves, ofc, but there will always be phans out there that take things too far, and we can have an effect on toxic or problematic behavior by not giving it the same attention we give to other more positive/respectful dnp-related content (examples: i mean i honestly just straight up unfollow people who post too much stuff like that, but really it’s just a matter of taking a second and assessing your reaction to a post and going ‘okay, is this smth that might be a bit much?’)

checking ourselves regularly - and i know this is smth i need to work on myself sometimes, as it’s very easy to get drawn down the rabbit hole on something and not realize that we might be digging too much, taking things too seriously or too far. fandom is meant to be fun, if we’re getting in an argument or too involved in discourse, it might be time to take a step back and consider whether this is something we should even be discussing, or something that we should be discussing in such detail (examples: discourse, esp about coming out or sharing a room or who tops or their behaviors with regards to a relationship together or w.e and i’m trying to minimize it on my blog - although i do want to get through everyone’s asks - bc, while i want everyone to be able to express their opinions, there are def times it goes too far and, bc we exist in a grey zone, it’s hard sometimes to realize when we’ve wandered from the light grey to the dark grey)

not taking anything too seriously - this sort of goes along with the last one but we want to enjoy being here! we love dnp, we love their vids, we love the friends we’ve made and our fave blogs, our fave writers and artists and gif-makers and edit-makers and content creators, so we shouldn’t take anything too seriously (and we should be able to tell, or be on the lookout for signs to indicate, whether a blog is posting something good-naturedly/jokingly or posting something in order to cause a stir/be disrespectful) (examples: someone makes a really dumb shitpost that we think is hilarious but is also very clearly a shitpost with no serious meaning? cool, probably not immensely harmful to reblog it. someone makes a post that seems to be seriously commenting on smth that might be a bit too private/personal or we think is taking things a bit too far? leave it alone. unfollow the person if we feel they’re going too far too often)

moral of the story here: we aren’t perfect angels, but there are ways to be mindful of what we’re doing/saying, mindful of what we’re consuming, and mindful of how we’re interacting both with dnp and with other phandom members. we should try to be cognizant and aware, ask ourselves if something might be propagating something that could be harmful to dnp in some way, and regularly ground ourselves in reality - because, at the end of the day, dnp are real people and, while it’s fun to take things out of the realm of reality for a bit, we’re fans of the real dnp and we definitely want to show that!

#dnp #dan and phil #phan #dip and pip #respectfully demon #wow this ended up being v v long #but i hope it helps? #i know i'm still working on some of this stuff #but we can always improve #and it's always good to take a step back and asses how we're doing #if we're being respectful #and if we're enjoying their content in a respectful way #that doesn't prioritize their relationship over the actual content #anon #ask #kt

[phanbliss]

i'm asking out of a place of wanting to understand, so please don't assume i am accusing you or attacking you, but regarding a post you reblogged recently, it was an ask where templeofshame claimed that if dnp weren't together it would be kind of like "baiting" us but i really don't think that's fair? they haven't EVER said or pretended to be in a closeted relationship, only been friends that joke a bit about their occasionally romantic tendencies, i have friends who think me pt.1

this ask is long due to there being several messages, so i’m putting it under a cut. the post in question: x

me and my best friend are together when we’re really not. we’ve said so, but eventually just stopped denying the claim while occasionally joking about it. i think its unfair of us to act like they owe us something? they don’t owe us a “coming out” (i agree with op tho that coming out has issues of it own, but its the most relevant term) neither do they have to tell us if they aren’t together. 

however we perceive their relationship is our business, and as long as we aren’t toxic about it pt. 2  then really we shouldn’t care about ppl calling us “silly shippers” cause shipping them isn’t weird or rude, i, myself, truly believe they are together, but i don’t think that they owe us anything. they are real people with their own complex lives that we may not understand, heck, that THEY may not understand and they are just living their truth. for whatever reason, they may feel that they don’t want to tell people that they’re in a relationship (if they are in one) pt. 3but neither do they feel the need to (and in my opinion, shouldn’t feel the need to) explain and clarify their status to us.

 it isn’t in any way baiting or manipulation. if we decide to invest our lives and our time into writing fanfics and making art then that is our choice! they are obviously fine with it so long as it isn’t shoved in their faces, but they don’t owe us clarification, maybe i’m misunderstanding something, i just don’t think it’s fair to say that they are being manipulative pt.4simply by being themselves? 

they are their own people with their own reasons for keeping private or not telling us. they have never pretended like phan is real, have even denied it in the past, never made merch or something that has catered to shippers specifically. they have simply let us be (even if dan was quite rude about it before, but i believe he has improved a lot over the years) and made some quips about it. they choose to share parts of their lives with us and however pt5 the phandom reacts to that is our “issue”. 

in summary, i believe that it is unfair to say that if they aren’t together it means we have been baited and manipulated and “wasted our time” because i really don’t think that’s fair to the good times we have had while shipping them. they are real people that owe us nothing about their private lives and can hide or reveal as much or as little as they want. i do believe that some people DO “queerbait” irl, especially ytbrs, but dnp have never pt.6acted fake or overly romantic to seem like they’re in love, their bond, in my opinion is genuine, and whatever we read into that is valid, but it doesn’t mean that they owe us an explanation. 

i think i should end this now, but before i go, know that i do NOT intend this to be a dig at anyone, just wanted to share my perspective and ask your opinion about what i’ve just shared. i just see ppl acting like dnp could qb us and it kind of makes me think. have a nice day, take care, peace out! end 

ooof anon, i appreciate that you sent this to me, but i’m really not the right person for it! i’m not one of the smart people in this fandom, nor one of the cool ones, so discussing things with me over anon is not as fun and rewarding as sending an ask to one of the popular people haha. but i’ll reply with my thoughts anyway!

we’ve had discussions about this on IDB before and my opinion hasn’t changed since the last time i said anything on this subject.

TO BEGIN WITH:  i in no way believe they are consciously encouraging the shipping to make money. they are two people in a long term relationship that navigate a difficult world of being queer, being popular and trying to stay private.

1) “me and my friend” - while i definitely appreciate and understand that, we have to try to not compare dnp to ourselves if we want to make a proper point. i could say that me and my friend x haven’t talked in 2 years but i still consider them a friend, which doesn’t mean that it’s the norm for everyone - same goes for the “me and my friend” arguments concerning dnp. i don’t mean you necessarily, i mean things i’ve seen over the years. “me and my friend always say i love you! we live together! we spend all our time together! we’re platonic!” - that’s awesome but it doesn’t mean anything about dnp

2) i don’t think @templeofshame acted like dnp owe us anything. i took it more as like at this point, dnp admitting to having been platonic this whole time (lol i’m laughing while typing this) would have been a form of queerbaiting. templeofshame never said they owe us a “coming out” or anything like that

3) you have to remember that their audience is largely queer. to a lot of the younger fans, they are some sort of role models and maybe even eye-openers when it comes to their [fans’] own sexuality. they are most likely aware of this and definitely accept it.

4) the biggest thing i guess i should explain is why i believe that them having been platonic this whole time would have been some form of queerbaiting and… and there is no way to put it while still being nice? so forgive me, this is my opinion and i’m not trying to start drama.

they DEFINITELY benefit off phan. they have since the start (or at least dan). back in their younger days, people didn’t really ship them as much as assume they were a couple, that’s how they behaved and most people would jump to that conclusion. when shit hit the fan (vday + general life stress) and dan started lashing out, shipping got real hard. and dnp could have left it there, could have left shipping as that elephant in the room that we’re not allowed to mention, but no

slowly, gradually, they went back to accepting shipping. they haven’t denied anything in years and in many ways they encourage it. and really, no one will make me believe that they - as in the joint brand of dan and phil - would be as popular as they are without the shipping. lots of people watch them for their chemistry and hear of them through phan. they themselves no longer shy away from it - see tatinof fanfic scenes, their fanfics in tabinof, all sorts of things i’m too tired to mention - lots of recent things from this year.

so yeah, i believe they are very aware of phan and accept it, and if they accepted it while being two bros in ~other relationships~ or ~perpetually single~ then yeah, i would feel it’s wrong. not because they said something outright but because 9+ years of certain behaviors are as good as admitting to it. 

they are basically out at this point, both as not being straight and being a couple, and i’m happy they got there on their own terms.

bottomline - i firmly believe they’re together and all that is missing is an actual confirmation - which we don’t ‘need’ - but if they weren’t together, we’d be right to be upset by this point.

idk if this answered your ask but i’m really tired and as i said, i’m dumb so you’re better off asking someone cooler than me hah :)

[tumbledryiing]

Some ask thingy that looks fun to do

Thanks to @oceanblue-and-forestgreen​ for tagging me in this :) 

Do you want/have any tattoos? If yes please describe them (if you’re okay with sharing) I don’t know yet. You see, I would love a small, block minimalistic one, perhaps on the inside on my wrist, but I’m yet to find a symbol that is both aesthetically pleasing and has true meaning to me. I think at this stage I’ll just stick to jewellery; at least I can change that when I get bored of it 

A fic that you’ll carry with you forever? There are actually a few, to be quite honest. Obviously the Hat Fic because that scarred me for life, and My Immortal because not only did that become a meme amongst my friends and I, it’s also something the internet (in a rather perverse way) loves to hate. However, there’s a fanfic (actually a fanfic series) I read from the One Direction fandom called Texting, and it was one of the first fanfics I ever read, even though I’ve never been part of the 1D fandom. Even Lovers Drown is a fic that I read right when I first started watching Dan and Phil, and made me fall in love not just with the story, but with the whole concept of fanfiction and fandoms and also made me ship Phan and was instrumental in me joining the Phandom. Text Talk is another fanfic that drew into a fandom, however this time it was the Marauders fandom (a “sub-branch,” per se, of the Harry Potter fandom, which I’d been a part of since year 3) and the ship was Wolfstar. This one probably holds the most room in my heart because not only is it a good slow-burn which you can read anytime, but also my best friend and I never fail to talk about this one whenever we catch up. 

Is it better to be hurt than to hurt others? It depends. I’ve been in both positions in my life, and neither are fun: when I was the one being hurt, I felt weak and powerless and like I couldn’t do anything. When I was the one hurting others, I felt terrible and would lose sleep over it. Overall, however, it’s better to be hurt than to hurt others; when you’re the one being hurt, it’s a lot easier and healthier to either cut ties with the ones hurting you or to stand up for yourself in a polite, yet assertive way, and end up making good quality friends and earning the respect of your peers. If you’re the one doing the hurting, people won’t want to be around you, and you’ll have to live the guilt of knowing that you hurt another a person, maybe even in a way that leads to them having severe mental health issues. Tl;dr: It’s better to be hurt because there are ways that you can fix that in a non-toxic way. And when you hurt others, at the end of the day, you just end up hurting yourself.   

Swearword(s) you refuse to use? The only one I can think of off the top of my head is c*nt. In my opinion, it’s a revolting word, however where I come from, I’m in the minority... I’m Australian 

If you could get away with killing one person, who would it be? Probably Trump. I would someone that I (thankfully used to) go to school with, but they’re not in my life anymore, and besides, why kill one insignificant teenager when I could kill modern Hitler?  

Do you have any special talent? No. I’m not special.

Favourite time (to be awake)? around 1 in the morning. I don’t often stay awake until then because I already struggle enough waking up for school as it is. However, when I do, it’s great; the world is so still and quiet and nobody knows what you’re doing. I also once made a sandwich at 1 in the morning and ate it. It was great.  

Write me a summary of your day? I get up. I go on my phone. I put on my school uniform. I do my make-up. I arrive at school around 1-2 minutes late and completely piss off my teachers. I sit awkwardly next to the one friend in class that I have, or I sit silently next to a different kid in class that I want to be friends with, too anxious and socially stupid to make any sort of legitimate conversation. In Maths, I sit by myself. At recess and lunch, I got to the canteen and by myself some unhealthy food, while simultaneously lamenting how fat I am before either a) sitting in the toilet writing b) helping out the librarian c) practicing my trumpet in the music department or d) watching Yuri on Ice with my one friend. I then go to rowing training, where I feel useless and fat, and then I go home, shower, eat dinner, and then go on Tumblr or listen to music instead of doing homework. I go to bed. Throughout the day, I am reminded that my behaviour is problematic and self-sabotaging, however I do not change it bc I am problematic af. Stay away from me.    

Would you be cool with meeting up with me when I travel the world (late summer 2017- summer 2018)? I would be cool with it. I don’t know you very well, but I would love to get to know you. The only issue is that when Northern Hemisphere peeps have summer, Aussie are in the middle of Winter, which, for my school at least, is one of the busiest times of the school year. But we can work around that :) 

Who’s your favourite character of all time? All time? You can’t ask me that! However, the character I relate to most, and therefore is my favourite, I guess, would be Hermione Granger, particularly Hermione in StarKid musical parodies. 

What do you think everyone should know? I think everyone should know that their actions and words do have consequences, whether intended or not, and that if we were a little more open-minded and a little less judgmental and a little nicer to each other, then the world would be a much better place for everyone.  

Alrighty kids, I know with that with these things you’re supposed to write questions of your own and tag different people, but tbh, I’ve just got back to school, and I’m tired and stressed and I can’t be bothered. I’ve had fun answering these questions, and if you want to do, you can answer these too. Once again, thanks to @oceanblue-and-forestgreen for tagging me, and you should go follow them bc they’re awesome! Thanks, and good night :)

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