#they are encouraged by those around us

[transmascissues]

i could honestly write a whole essay on how the internet’s obsession with romanticizing ‘girl dads’ while simultaneously making fun of ‘boy moms’ and gender reveal parties is directly related to a pervasive lack of care for trans men&mascs even among supposedly pro-trans people.

#if people cared about young transmascs at all #they would not be encouraging dads to make their whole identity as a parent based around their kid being a girl #because if they cared about us they would realize that some of those kids might not be girls #and that those kids will absolutely feel how their parent looks at them differently when they don’t fit that father-daughter image anymore #it’s also very much based in misogyny. that would be part of the essay too #we’re very comfortable making fun of moms and don’t care how the parenting we idealize might hurt daughters #tbh we need to start talking about benevolent sexism again #bc some of y’all really seem to think that as long as the surface content is positive it can’t possibly be harmful #and that’s simply not how any of this works and i thought we already knew that #transandrophobia #transandromisia #transmisandry #virilmisia #virilphobia #anti transmasculinity #transmascphobia

[ahappydnp]

who has the dan colorblind list i have something to add

dan saying 'blue donut' in his guild wars 2 interview and then the actual game designer sayings its purple (x)

'maybe that's just us weird europeans' girl no you just can't see red

#also rewatching those two videos is a secret comfort of mine like despite not understanding any of it i love nerdy fanboy dan SO MUCH #i love his reaction to spoilers and his passsion for the game and encouraging people to get out their and join guilds #and how he flips between presenter dinof and dweeb gamer living the actual dream #and how he seems legitimately starstruck and nervous around lena and frosty so he keeps directing everything back to rubi #which i wonder if it was just thats who he'd talked to and was comfortable with or she just happened to exist on his right side #and his body is kinetically trained to turn that way #anyway ily gw2 nerd dan you are so one of us <3333333333

[tricoufamily]

have to side eye every youtuber who does an air up sponsorship. why cant you just drink water. grow up

#i know you don't actually like this product... #and if you do. bigger side eye #are people who arent youtubers with a sponsorship actually using this #it's so weird like i want one of those giant water bottles so bad because i just do drink that much water but all of them- #-have that stupid writing on it like 'keep going!' 'you can do it!' and that's too embarrassing to carry around i cant do that #why do you need encouragement to drink water it's WATER

[drinkingdeadpeopletea]

i think what's really getting me about kozma claiming to have blown up the moon and also claiming to "be" the breach and basically equating "breach collaborators" and "my allies" in the same speech is that. the breach operative we've known since season one, the person who "is" the breach as far the story's concerned, is saskia. and midst is saskia's HOME! she built the black candle with her own two hands (metaphorically, at the very least), she LOVES it there and she loves those people :( and if we take kozma's story at face value, she just threw the "centerpoint" (according to imelda) of her own operation entirely under the bus and endangered the lives not only of innocent people but also of a bunch of her own operatives without their knowledge just to destabilize the trust and frankly that makes me kind of hope she IS telling the truth simply because that's the kind of betrayal i find absolutely delicious,

#midst spoilers #midst #midst podcast #i DO think she's probably bluffing about all or most of it. i bet she was collaborating with the breach but not as closely or with as much #authority as she just claimed and i no longer think she blew up the moon #but MAN those claims leave a nasty taste in my mouth for the exact reasons outlined above. #and it certainly COULD make sense! it's a smart move to encourage/fund/organize an insurrectionary movement within your political rival! #and easy to sacrifice them--especially when it's not even all of them and you've got bigger plans now--to make an even bolder move! #she's a collector! she can move her pieces around the board! #and the scheming of it all only makes her threats have more credibility to the upper trustees she's threatening #except of course that hieronymous is sitting right there having the full perspective & caring about the breach and about saskia specificall #just one more crazy layer to what must have been going through his head during that dinner #frankly. WEEPE has the full perspective too although whether he cares about any of it remains to be seen #i do think kozma is probably going to get killed by the trust/weepe pretty quickly here. but i would LIKE for saskia to get to confront her #if kozma IS telling the truth #it's nuts even WITHOUT the breach component considering she OWNED midst until literally last week. ma'am those were YOUR people. #like to be very clear blowing up that moon was a callous and fucked up thing to do regardless of personal connection. whoever did it. #but the closer the relationship gets the crazier it feels as a thing to do or to claim to have done #i just think saskia deserves revenge or justice on SOMEONE for her home being used as a piece in this stupid game...

[bylertruther]

do you ever think about the fact that throughout the entirety of stranger things we’ve always seen mike practically shout his love for will from the rooftops by throwing his everything into believing, protecting, and helping will no matter the stakes, and how a majority of byler moments are initiated by him, and how will has always loved him back quietly despite being the one canonically confirmed to be in love, and how will is almost always on the viewer’s right in iconic byler moments but in season four we find him on the left in what used to be mike’s spot because their “roles” have switched AND when we’re taken out of the viewer’s pov and put in jonathan’s pov we see jonathan Come To A Realization here because while mike has always made it clear how special will is to him and how different their relationship is, will has always managed to keep the true depth of his feelings a little closer to his chest and it’s only when he publicly takes up that support role that mike has played for him previously that the audience is purposely made to realize, too, how romantic it truly is, because coming from mike everyone might have thought it was his usual overzealous theatrics but when the same tenderness and earnest love comes from will they realize oh. this is... this is actually something more. this is how they are this is mike and will like nothing has changed and no time has passed but it’s now that we realize just what it is, and now that will is starting to slowly but surely come out from this curtain he’s hid behind his whole life and voice that yes he loves mike of course he does he’s always loved him and loves him in precisely the way that mike expresses he needs to be loved there is simply NO conceivable way that they can come out of this hellish slow burn miscommunication trope not in full acknowledgement and eager acceptance of this love they have for each other and have always had and always will !!!!!!!!

#byler #like. do i make sense. am i making sense. #tagging my posts is so scary now tht there's 92380923028020 of us bt. i can be brave ig .. [trembling in my boots] [sweating shaking crying] #s1-2 was mike loving will more than anyone and not being afraid to show it and s3 was him thinking he had to grow up n out of tht love #bc clearly it's just a kid thing and they'll get over it if they just get girlfriends #and it ended with him having his italicized 'oh.' moment as the byers drove away #and s4 was mike thinking he had lost will for good that time only for will to show him that he's wrong he never lost him and he won't #s4 was about will showing mike that he's always loved him back s4 was abt will showing mike what it means to be in love with someone #s4 was abt will showing him tht he's just as lost without him as mike is without him and tht he doesn't need to be normal or cool #he's absolutely perfect just the way he is and he's loved and needed for who he is not all that he can or can't do #s4 was mike stumbling and will catching him and carrying him the same way that mike carried him in s2 #and s5 will be about them supporting each other and living their complete and total truths now that they see there's no reason to hide #and then in s5 we will finally find our way out of this god awful miscommunication trope</3 #they're a team they're best friends mike needs will and mike is will's heart mike makes will feel better for being different and will shows #mike that he doesn't need to conform and be 'normal' to be worthy of love that he has no obligations to others that everything he is is what #encourages those around him to fight the good fight #and that support and love and the way that they'll come to see each other wholly and truly is what will defeat all evil <3 #it's all coming full circle is wht im saying !!!!! #mine #also when i say audience and we i mean the general audience bc i kno my brothers in byler Understand n Watch The Show With Their Eyes #<3 #also no i will not structure my posts in a way tht makes sense u will read my uninterrupted stream of consciousness and WEEP

[fortes-fortuna-iogurtum]

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#hey university people in charge?? yeah it's all good and well for you to keep encouraging us to spend less time on our phones #and more time in the real world #but what about those of us who have bEEN ALREADY DOING THAT FOR LIKE A WHOLE YEAR #as in WELL BEFORE THEY GOT HERE TO THIS CAMPUS #and thought that maybe college would be a good time to cement this commitment bc having more people around would make it easier to practice #having real-world connections and not just digital ones #but are currently finding themselves really stinking lonely #because EVERYONE ELSE ON CAMPUS IS STILL ON THEIR PHOOONESSSSS #AND THAT'S HOW YOU CONNECT AND BUILD FRIENDGROUPS IN THIS STUPID DAY AND AGE #ARURUUGHGHFHFHGHHSDGHDFGJKLFDBHNLDKFSHBLN #sorry I'm just venting I gotta get this out somewhere 🙃 #delete later #complaining at college #or whatever that tag was that I came up with earlier lol :')

[buckttommy]

Buck and Eddie's conversation at Eddie's hospital bedside where they're discussing Chris in 4x14 is very much two parents debriefing over the wellbeing of their child

#Profoundly fascinated by the use of conversation in this episode #specifically the fact that both Bobby (father figure) and Taylor (LI) chided and chastised Buck for climbing up the crane #but it was his conversation with Eddie that really drove the point home #Just makes me think of how like. There's this thing that happens... like when you fall in love and build your own family #your parents and friends aren't all that you need anymore #They can love you and guide you and encourage you and fuss at you #but at the end of it all #it's your partner that really tethers you and brings you home. #There was never a moment in this episode where Buck was unsupported or even unseen by those around him #but none of it really mattered until Eddie #Eddie woke up and looked at him and heard him and saw him and said 'hey Evan lets talk about this for a minute' #and then suddenly things looked a little clearer. #I'm fully convinced that conversation (at least in part) set Buck on the collision course to where he is now #Being seen.... Being found..... and all of it amounts to what? He doesn't know yet #But he will #It might take getting struck in the chest to get him there #but he'll get there #jack.txt

[tate-lin]

hi hi Tate, happy STS!! how much have the themes you write about changed throughout your writing journey? what kind of things did you like to write in the past compared to now? did some of them stay the same?

Hiii Cee!! Wow that's such an interesting question: I def have to uno reverse it some day 👀

For JOA, the main question asked is what does it mean to be alive? My characters will approach this in different ways with their different life experiences, but the main themes that deal with it are choice, agency & acceptance.

I think this is quite different from stuff I used to write in the past. You know how some books (especially around a decade ago) tend to glorify self-sacrifice and love? Yeahh I used to think that way too, especially since I'm asian so we're a very collectivistic society that places importance on your community above yourself. While I don't think that's necessarily wrong, I do think that people take it too far sometimes. Now I think that your responsibility to others and your responsibility to yourself are both equally important.

If other people are important, then you can't diminish your own importance. Because you are people too.

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#joker of ashes #tate lin writes #storyteller saturday #no matter what anyone says i'll fiercely deny those who reject other people's humanity #humans can be ugly & evil but calling those kind of ppl monsters and placing them in a mental category far away from yourself is just askin #for yourself to fall into the same pit trap. at the end of the day all humans look the same as each other #dunno if i'm making much sense but i feel strongly about ppl accepting both the good and bad parts of humanity #sometimes ppl can be too focused on one side imo #i feel like if we can accept ourselves and others as a whole while still encouraging change & growth we can be happy with ourselves while #still looking at life around us with clear unfiltered eyes

[alphagodith]

i wish other people would block the damn porn bots so when they reblog my stuff i don’t get swarmed with them. the bots are like an std or something and people ain’t gettin’ themselves checked ‘n cleaned >:V

#at least that's how i THINK it works #like if someone has a bunch of bots following them and then reblogs your post #those bots then see you in their feed and follow you #but really if you aren't reporting/blocking the bots that follow you #even if that's not how it works #you are encouraging them to stick around and continue to bother the rest of us #by letting them get away with it

[mrsackermannx]

bye my husbands rn😭😭😭 out of all of my faves the only one i get perfect with is gojo😭😭 it’s bc we’re both annoying😭😭! i get good only with geto, shoko and armin 😭😭😭😭

#lourdes selfships! #me and gojo both have a playful and unserious way that i feel like would be a disaster for those around us #like we would annoy everyone #but i would like a fun partner like him hehe <3 #but levi babe we defy the odds <3 #me and you forever #satoru is just polluting my brain rn #*giggles nervously* #promise #levi would accept my serious and like control freak structured ways #gojo wouldn’t like bother me about it but he’d challenge me and encourage me to lighten up more for sure #gojo and levi are the true two opposites of my personality

[bricky-brikson]

hey! this is chance & here’s week 2's prompt. when you write or create an oc, do you like to reference elements from your life? if yes, name a few. if no, why not?

Pull from my life ? Sort of. Specifically, myself. I often make my villains by extrapolating my worst behaviours. Felix Abner, the villain of my main WIP, started as a self insert.

I have BPD, quiet type, but I always think about what a worse version of myself would be like, a version of myself who didn't have the crippling anxiety that holds me back from making a scene or hurting people. Felix started as that different version of me, although he has certainly changed over time and has many aspects of his character that no longer resemble me. However, his behaviours centred around obsession and love still pull from my own disordered thinking.

Cassedy Lowell, the main character of that same story, has NPD. Although I don't have NPD, I do use some of my own self-aggrandizement as inspiration for writing him and his thought processes. I often dream of being famous or widely recognized, so I gave him similar desires then built from there (with advice from acquaintances with NPD).

I find it therapeutic to put my mental issues into my characters, especially the issues that cause me to imagine violence or have upsetting intrusive thoughts. Writing characters who go through with those thoughts lets me handle those ideas in a safe place where no one actually gets hurt.

Also, my life isn't really that interesting, so I don't have any cool events to pull from. If I had a more exciting life I'd probably use it as inspo, but I'm a pretty boring person from the outside. All the interesting things happen in my noggin.

#felix is literally a worst case scenario #do not use him as a reason to feel uncomfy around ppl w/BPD #he was literally groomed to be violent #my characters ARE NOT representative of the disorders i give them #they are characters who dont even in-universe know what those disorders are #i use the disorder labels as an easy writing tool as a modern individual to summarize some of their behaviours #if youre interested in BPD or NPD then i encourage you to talk to ACTUAL PEOPLE who have those disorders #not take fictional characters as the bastion of what these disorders are #ok now all the empaths have stopped reading. fellow cluster Bs when are we taking over the world #felix abner #cassedy lowell #dear cassedy #ask

[truegoist]

old ppl are like sooo important to me

#like whenever I see an character w white hair wrinkles and shit it’s immediate sympathy for me and I will never blame them #and I don’t even know why #but when I was little I remember whenever I was stressed #I used to dream of this little old lady who would encourage me and just hang around do all those grandma shit I saw on books & tv #man I wish I had grandparents I would love them sosososo much :((( #AND I SWEAR #I SWEAR IF ANY OF YOU COME AT ME LIKE “oooo but my grandparents suck/old ppl are this and that and this” I WILL FUCKING BITE YOU #don’t ruin my fucking dreams man

[icewindandboringhorror]

*screenshots the highlights of my youtube to mp3 downloads folder as if it were some fancy aesthetic spotify wrapped image or whatever* 

#I don't know how spotify works I'm not sure how the images people share are actually generated but you know what I mean lol #Though I do wish the native windows music player thing kept track of like.. how many times you listened to a song or something #merely because I think it would be really funny for me since I'm very much a like 'listen to the same 3 songs on rotation for literally #4 months at a time. then eventually rotate in another few songs to replace those. never revisit any of them again' type person #And like most media I have a lot of trouble connecting with music or ascribing it the same deep meaning that most other people seem to get o #ut of it like. I think maybe it has something to do with my emotional range in general being very shallow (I am neutral 90% of the #time and even when I'm not I just don't feel things very strongly. when I do feel antyhing it's weak fleeting emotions usuually that #I don't even remember a few days from then. You know how babies don't have object permanence? It's like I don't have emotional permanence lo #l. Which is probably standard for like. severe childhood neglect situations where nobody was around for you to mirror their #emotions in early childhood or whatever usually happens when people are being raised. Like if nobody was there to encourage the development #of emotions and show what those look like then maybe your brain just doesn't develop them properly or etc. etc. ANYWAY gjhjhb) #I think maybe that has somehting to do with why it's just really hard for me to care about media of all kinds - and even when I do it's not #very deep. Also probably why I've never really been in a fandom or gone to a concert or been really into anything like that. Because people #form deep emotional connections and memories and attachments to their favorite media and I just like... don't #I can still like things!! But it's always in a more like.. intellectual kind of cognitive way if that makes sense? Like if I liked a TV show #it would never be becaise I find the message heartwarming or the characters relatable or because it made me FEEL something. It would be bec #ause the lore is cool and I like to analyze it. Or I think there's an interesting social dynamic going on which is fun to kind of pick #at the innerworkings of. And if I like a song like.. it's not because This Music Got Me Through A Hard time In My Life or because #I relate deeply to the lyrics or it makes me feel a certain way - it's usually because the overlapping of instruments or thetones that are #used interests me or there's something intruguing or cool about it to hear. Part of why I like classical or choir music is that there's oft #en so many instruments playing over each other it's like a little puzzle to try and hear each part seperately or etc. etc. #Which isn't to say that I can NEVER relate to or feel some sort of attachement or idea related to a piece of media. but just that it's not #ever very strong. like not powerful enough to be some significant motivator or pivotal aspect of my personality or etc. #BUT ANYWAY. I still can like things to a degree probably not just the same exact way as others lol. #So I rarely even listen to music that often (maybe once a week or so? I'll listen to like one song or two. but I'm not like a 'have music on #in the background playing in the house all the time' or 'listen to music while I get ready' type) but when I do it's very repetitive. I do #think it would be interesting to see the statistics then lol. I thought windows media player used to track statistics so I wonder why the #'updated' version of that on windows 10 doesnt??? Maybe bc they assume everyone is using streaming services instead? stinky #I don;t think the built in music player on my phone tracks anything either. It's more of just a file accessor or something. hmmgbb #That alone will never convince me to actually use some service to get music though lol. I don't need the statistics. yttmp3 for life babey

[haarute]

tumblr is weird because i've been here for over a decade now and i've seen this site go through many phases. and while now we're seemingly in a very "live and let live but take no shit" phase which is lovely, it also makes me think back to how this site used to be so rancid circa 2015 where T*RF mentality and a weird policing of people's lives used to run so rampart and so widespread that it's caused me and i have to assume many others irreversible damage. so much so that even if nowadays people try very hard to fight against because it is bs, that support still feels "fake" to me on some level, and really i wish that wasn't the case.

seeing people migrate here for the first time in 2023 and feel welcomed makes me really glad that others get to have a much better experience than i did years ago. i'm happy that this site's userbase has matured like this so that people can feel safe and not like they have to justify their existence to strangers online. or worse, become part of the problem out of a need for belonging.

#i feel like most of those people moved to different sites or just Grew Up and changed their beliefs #as i think the average tumblr user's age has gone from like 16 to 26 lmao #and like I Get It. it's completely normal to just mature and start to see the world and its people in a different light #so you change your thoughts and feelings accordingly. that's just life. #but like... we really did use to let people say whatever they wanted here back then. #not only that. we encouraged some of those toxic mentalities and spread it around like a moral gospel. #i am so thankful those days are over. #and i know there's still some corners here where those weird people still congregate and spread their hateful messages amongst themselves #but like. i think they're very tiny and it's only a matter of time before they fade away. #so i pay them no mind. they're not real to me anymore. and for that i'm glad.

[swordmaid]

i had a job interview earlier this morning and I got such a good experience out of it ❗️😭💓 like even if I don’t get the job, I’m just really happy that I got the chance to talk to them fr

#they said they’re gonna get back to me at Monday bc they’re interviewing other people but I’ll send them a thank u message #like it was really nice!! we talked for a while too like after the initial interview they started to give me tips and advices and all these #encouragements etc when it comes to like applying. like I didn’t even ask for those but they just started talking abt it and I made an #impression on them and the lady used to work in hr and she was saying that she’s seen a lot of people and cvs and I really stand out etc #etc it’s like I’m not tooting my own horn!!!! I’m just really happy and surprised bc this is the last thing I expected I was really scared #for this but they were so nice and 😭😭😭 def needed to hear that encouragement though!!!!!!!! #and it’s like I don’t even know them. and they don’t know me but they took the time to talk to me about all that and it was #so irrelevant to what I was applying for it’s sksnjdndndnfjfjd 😭😭😭😭 just nice all around #good vibes for reaalllllllll. I’m still reeling honestly