#yippee! transcript! thank you!

[rysnscommand]

my pal @yellow-r-o-s-e just got to the elhokar part of Oathbringer. and then sent me this (transcript under the cut)

Sorry this is a comple te vibe shift im just Recovering. Havent finished processing and brain Coping. Anyway I had a dream that kaladin had to get an extra job and he was like “i think i will be a stripper. That has always been a dream of mine yippee hooray” and then it cut away to dalinar in the palace and he was on the phone which existed for some reason and he was like “hey kaladin youre the sexiest guy in the kingdom everyone is in love with you” and kal was like “thanks” and dalinar was like “but how will you use this for the army” and kal was like “ohoohoo i already Have. Im using my Skills to get people’s guars down and do spy work. Look at this sowrd i stole” and then despite having been on the phone a second earlier he was Next To Dalinar and handed him a shardblade and he was like “yeah some noblewoman was too busy flirting to notice me steal this bad boy away” and dalinar was like “wow thank you. Youve done the kingdom proud” and then he turned to shallon and was like “youre no longer the best tempress in the kingdom. Youre obsolete now. Youre fired.” And shallon started crying and then it switched to her inner monologue and she was like “i HAVE to seduce kaladin now. I HAVE to. Its a matter of pride” and kaladin started cackling and then . in my dream. I called you qnd i was like “hi what the fuck is happening” and you were like “yeah i didnt get that part either. Dont worry its not plot relevent. I just pretend it doesnt exist” and i was like “great i’ll do that too” and then i startwd reading the book again and kal was stealing horses in an attempt to increase his sexiness and then inwoke up

Im like why did i have a dream that kaladin was mettaton. My only theory is my brain was like “oh ace character” and grabbed in A Box for random traits

I need to read more and see the aftermath of the stabbing im just like. My heart still beating out of my chest im goong to pas sout

#oathbringer #stormlight archive #tali rambles #kaladin #cfsbf #maybe one day we can write a crackfic of this. it would be fun

[magic-is-something-we-create]

URYAK DESIGNS

As usual, a transcript of the words will be blended with the worldbuilding segment below, and I'll put a description of the Uryaks themselves in the alt text of the image!

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Uryaks are the favorite pack animals for the vast majority of Emarye, and have become beloved all over Ehl for their soft fur, gentle eyes, and ease in the presence of sentient peoples of all kinds. They're a resilient species built for the harsh, long winters of the far north, and wild herds can be found on the borders of the Motherfrost and the polar mountains to this day, even after a long history of domestication.

While their fluffy, dog-like fur keeps them well insulated against the cold, it's not the most practical for textiles - Woolwyrms are a much better option for Emry shepherds - and the white color has historically made them quite easy to lose in the blizzards that frequent their home. The solution to the latter is the brightly-patterned blanketed saddles given to most domesticated Uryaks (based on traditional Tibetan yak saddles and ornamentation), as well as plenty of equally colorful yarn adorning their horns to serve as a potential beacon in the ice plains, should they ever be separated from their riders. Like many Yaks and similar animals in the real world, Uryaks will often be given nose rings in their youth to make handling their rowdy adolescence easier, as well as to aid in weaning them off their mothers.

It can be difficult to tell which sex calves are for the first few years, especially because they can be far more energetic and playful than their parents, acting much more like fox pups than baby cows. Adult females tend to have shorter horns and snouts than their male counterparts, and usually weigh significantly more. They also have longer tails, which nursing calves will use for extra warmth and cover when feeding.

(From a meta standpoint, they're a blend of Tibetan Yaks, Arctic Foxes, and Polar Bears; I landed on what I would say is 60% yak, 30% fox, and 10% bear, which is, in my opinion, the cutest of all the variations I came up with along the way.)

thank you for reading, if you did!! there's a bonus autism/tbh/yippee creature rendition under the cut because my brother insisted i make one and i love it so u all get to see it too <3

#art #creature design #artists on tumblr #digital art #fantasy creature #fantasy creature design #digital sketch #sketchbook #my.art #ehlverse #uryaks my beloved <3

[3raccoonstryingtorobabank]

GUYSGUYSGUYS WH UPDATE AAAAAAAA

guestbook!!!!!! first page! Person named zip posts “wonderful site! I feel at home thank you!” OPEN THE GIF IN NEW TAB Video of JULIE AND EDDIE TALKING

did the houses change around? I could have sworn the post office was more upwards? maybe just me idk

text transcripts of new audios on characters asbfgdhej

so below looks the same BUT WHEN YOU SCROLL DOWN SPIRAL GIF APPEARS AND THERES AN AUDIO TRANSCRIPT that just sounds like a grainy ticking clock

there. are. STICKERS I REPEAT DIGITAL STICKERS AND MORE BANNERS

playfellow exhibition (NOT ABOUT THE XXX TAG DONT WORRY) if I can never buy that cardboard cutout of Wally I be sad (idc if it’s a cereal ad he is literally the most)

merchandise: nothing for sale just stuff they DID have back when the show existed including cool phone with audios, cardboard cutout mentioned above, COLORING BOOK, RECORDS AND RAINBOW LETTERS EDDIE DEAR PLAYSET please let this be official merchandise if clown sells it I am so normal about this

news tab, new entry exactly:

“ So many guest signatures… so many of them are trying to communicate. What are you telling me for? Do you think I can answer. What are you trying to do to me. I’m closing that guest book, I’m not playing this game anymore. The ringing is enough. “

spooky

cool new audios in media tab! yippee! and art! yippee squared!

didn’t see anything else, too lazy to deep dive and pick the damn site apart so probably going to wait until some YouTuber does it lol. Hope you found this interesting and be sure to check out the site for audios and art!

#hopefully I’m not too late to this lol #It’s 1am what am I doing with my life #Anyways #welcome home sally #welcome home #welcome home puppet show #welcome home wally #wally welcome home #wally darling #welcome home howdy #welcome home poppy #welcome home eddie #welcome home frank

[thepunmaster]

flesh eating bacteria heat death of the universe YIPPEE the sun and uhhhhhh glitter >:]

these are a little hard to read so I'll put them below, I'll put (chosen) at the beginning for the ones Creechur chose

[text transcription: ask game with 16 options, in a 4 by 4 grid. listing from left to right and up to down, they are: 1. (chosen) Flesh eating bacteria; Eating You Eating You Eating You Eating You Eating You Eating You Eating You. 2. Faux fur; I headcanon you having a really really bad fashion sense [heart emoticon]. 3. (chosen) Yippee!!!!; *points* You. Autism. 4. Greg; You are like a shelter dog to me. I'm taking you home with me. 5. Looking; Reading your posts like a newspaper. Get perceived idiot LMAO. 6. Normal; You Are So Normal And Regular. 7. Meat; Let's make out in the frozen meats section of the supermarket. 8. Calm ocean breeze; I am maiming and killing you and tearing you asunder with a violence you can't even imagine. 9. Temporal anomaly; [indistinguishable characters and symbols]. 10. Unspeakable brutality; You and me should totally go for a picnic sometime!! Iced tea and sandwiches [smiley face emoticon]. 11. Science; If you were a highly corrosive glowing liquid in a glass beaker labeled Do Not Drink I would still drink you [heart emoticon] ILY. 12. (chosen) Heat death of the universe; You are literally so fucking rad that I wouldn't be alarmed if a sick pair of shades materialized out of thin air and dropped onto your face. 13. Gold star sticker!; you are the most reprehensible immoral malicious Evil fucked up person I've ever laid eyes on. Keep it up!! [smiley face emoticon]. 14. (chosen) Glitter!!!!!!; Throwing it in your Eyes and Running Away Cackling And Hooting Hahahahaha. 15. Stop; Please Just Stop For The Love Of God. 16. (chosen) the sun; The posts that you make could eviscerate a god by proximity alone. This could be a compliment or an insult [smiley face emoticon]. / end]

(flesh-eating bacteria) I'm like a pineapple. I'll eat you back

(heat death of the universe) thank you you are also so rad and cool

(Yippee!!!!) uno reverse card but also yes

(the sun) oh that's definitely a compliment. be thankful I didn't reblog the Bezos feet pics, I was tempted to

(Glitter!!!!!!) Augh No It's In My Eyes- I'm gonna pocket sand you-

[anime-dub-transcripts]

Hetalia: The Beautiful World Episode #13: Finding Santa Transcript

This episode has the nations filling in for Santa.

America: Yippee-ki-yay, little bro!

American boy: OM freaking G! It’s Santa! Ain’t you supposed to use the chimney? You got glasses on your face.

America: You didn’t see a thing, got it?

American boy: Do you really have to give me anything I ask for? ‘Cause, like, you so almost killed me with that entrance.

America: Good old blackmail!

American boy: Then you will get it to me by Christmas?

America: Dude, I’ll order it online!

American boy: Euh…

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Britain: Euh…just because I’m British doesn’t mean I’m bloody Sherlock, mate.

Finland: But three Santas are missing and we still have all these presents!

Britain: Yes, well, um…have you considered asking Sweden for his assistance?

(Dream Sweden: Grr…)

Finland: The world isn’t ready for that level of terror!

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Canada: Jesus murphy, no sign of him up here either. Well, that’s just a darn shame, you know? Breaks your heart, eh?

(Kumajiro: Hmhmhmmmhmhmm…)

Kumajiro: No, don’t give up, eh? Christmas will be brutal without Santa Claus and brown pop! Let me help, Canada, let me help!

Canada: Hehheh!

Britain: Huh? What’s so funny?

Canada: Wow, I think Santa dropped off my present after all.

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America: I ain’t got time to bleed!

(Britain: AAAHHH!)

America: Christmas is so safe, dog! Who cares about a few AWOL Santas when you’ve got the best Kris Kringle of, like, ever?!

Britain: YOU TIT!

Finland: Thank you! But how do we get all the gifts on time?

America: Prime, baby!

Britain: Piss off, arsehole!

(America: Neyahah!)

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Sealand: Today I’m going to get presents from every Santa in the world! Everyone always loves to buy stuff for their cute and adorable relatives like me! All right, jerk Britain Santa, you better be listening! 🎵A pony, a skateboard, warship armada, bazookas, a nuke and a copter, a slingshot, a tropical island, a pony for war, and holiday truffles of chocolate! But none with the nasty cherries! Please don’t you dare disappoint me or else! A pony, a skateboard, warship armada…🎵 Hey, guard, wake up! I have to know if Santa’s already visited us! I thought of more things he needs to give me! Wake up!

King of Sealand: Awehehehe…

Sealand: Jingle jingle bells all the way! Heh!

King of Sealand: Oy, sorry, kid, totally forgot about your gift this year. We’ll just order something online.

Sealand: Awah!

Britain: Does he do anything besides cry?

(Sealand: Not even the government remembered his only ward! How could he forget?!)

Finland: Oops! I totally forgot to buy him a gift this year!

(Sealand: Why doesn’t anyone like me?! You stupid jerk!)

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France: Christmas. All of Paris lights up with the aura.

Phone: Ring!

France: Simply magnifique under the pale moonlight!

(Magnifique: Magnificent → French)

Phone: Ring!

France: Ehuh! Sacrebleu, what do you want?!

(Sacrebleu: Dammit → French)

France: I was in the middle of splendid tranquility, dammit!

Britain: Forget that, we have a Santa Claus crisis!

(France: Euh!)

France: Hello, Britain, so what’s up with Santa?

(Sealand: Wehe wehe!)

Britain: A few have gone missing. You wouldn’t happen to be having another mass execution, would you?

(Sealand: Wehe wehehehe wehehehe!)

France: Please, it’s not like we do that every year!

(Sealand: Wehehe wehehe!)

France: Now then, I suppose I could lend you a hand, for the right compensation.

(Sealand: Wahaha wahaha!)

Britain: I’ll pass. Suffice it to say, we could do without one of your labor strikes.

France: I bet you’re aware, but might I suggest asking Hungary to be Santa and visit me later tonight?

(Dream Hungary: Hehehe! Merry Christmas!)

Britain: I wanted her to visit me!

(Dream Hungary: Mmmm…)

Britain: Never mind that, I’ll just do it.

{Caption #1: Hehehe}

{Caption #2: Reindeer}

France: No human alive wants to see Santa Claus drunk off his ass and in the nude!

(Dream Britain: Merry bloody Christmas, you tots! Hehehehehehehehe!)

Britain: Bollocks! I won’t go to the pub first!

France: No, you’re always stealing and pillaging too! If you’re not naked and drunk, then you’re being dickish and eerie and peerie and creepy…

(Dream Britain: Leahleahleahleahleah…)

Britain: Oh shut it, I’m not that big of a twat!

(France: …and less than cool and weird as hell!)

{Caption: Christmas a long, long time ago}

Chibi Britain: Mean old dummy!

Chibi France: Don’t make me laugh! Hurry and hit me with your best shot!

{Caption: Christmas a long time ago}

Teenage Britain: Hey, stupid idiot Frenchie face! When’d you escape the jerk store?

Teenage France: Ohonhonhon! That can’t be the best you’ve come up with! English is not a very compelling language.

{Caption: Christmas a bit ago}

Britain: You just don’t know when to give up, dumb, stupid, bugger-headed dummy!

(France: Yah! Ay! Yeh! Aah! Aahah!)

France: It’s nice to see you still suck at slinging insults!

(Britain: Yeh! Heah heah heah yeh yah!)

Britain: What?! Why, you bloody, cheeky, moron stupid face!

France: Some things never change, Sherlock!

Britain: Yeah, I’ve become a Brit and proud!

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Germany: Excellent work, men. Looks like we’re right on schedule.

Italy: And it’s all thanks to you, Germany. What’d you two pack in the packages? I went with pasta!

Germany: What is wrong with you?!

Japan: What did you include?

Germany: Me? The usual: toys and bratwurst.

Italy: Haha! Great idea! And you, Japan?

Japan: I made a series of boxes with smaller and smaller boxes inside of them.

American boy: Woah! There’s another box inside this box! And yet another box inside that smaller box! And this one has…no way! Another one! It’s like box inception! When do I wake up?

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Italy, Russia, China, America, France, Japan, Germany, Britain [talking to the audience]: To all a Merry Christmas!

#anime #anime transcripts #anime dub transcripts #hetalia #hetalia dub transcripts

[normal-thoughts-official]

My dear transcribers and video describers,

First of all, I love you. Without you, I wouldn't be able to understand any video or audio content. So thank you

With that being said

Please do not describe a song as just "Yippee dippee by The Fucking Guys is playing"

Because that doesn't actually give anyone any information if they don't already know what the song sounds like

Which is one hell of an assumption to make at any time (lots of people don't know songs, even if they are worldwidely popular across generations, which most songs aren't. And even when they know, they might not know its name. Most people know Bohemian Rhapsody, but I doubt most of them know it's called Bohemian Rhapsody), but it's particularly one hell of an assumption to make when making an accessibility tool for people who... Can't hear

Like... A d/Deaf person cannot possibly know what that means even if they wanted to. Because they can't hear. They don't know what that song is expressing. Even if they looked up the lyrics (which, if they have to do, means the transcription isn't really doing its job), there's still a lot more information to a song they might be missing. "I loved you" being screamed to the sound of violent electric guitars and being sung softly to the sound of an acoustic guitar with harmonizing means two very different things

It's fine to mention the name of the song if you want, but please also add a description (for example: "a slow, soft, romantic song") and, if there are lyrics, a transcription of those (you can get them on Google, they might be the easiest thing to transcribe there is). But just saying the name of the song might as well be saying nothing

Thank you

#accessibility

[dailyaudiobiblechronological]

12/12/2019 DAB Chronological Transcription

Acts 20:4 - 23:35

Welcome to the Daily Audio Bible Chronological. I'm China. Today is the 12th of December, welcome. It is so great to be here with you guys today. Today we jump into the book of the Acts. We're in acts chapter 20:4 -  chapter 23:35. And we continue on in this week with the Common English Bible. Commentary

So today's message is really about being misunderstood and something being like you being punished for something, one that you're like "timeout, like I know that the Lord tells us and he even says like, Hey, you're actually going to be persecuted for my name's sake and you're actually, you can expect this and you're going to have persecution". But I don't think that people were like, "great, yippee. I'll fire up the hatchet". Like, I don't think that that was people's hearts, or attitudes, and if it was, that's really weird. But more so of anything really just like seeing how these people who are so obedient to the Lord are just treated like they're not human because they're speaking of, of a hope of a gospel that brings hope, of a story that is bringing forth peace and hope and the resurrection. And it's so interesting to see. We read about the Pharisee's and Sadducee's. And Sadducee's, they reject that, that that's the truth. They don't believe in the resurrection or an angels or in spirits, but the Pharisees do. And like what a change of story. Like that's a flipped narrative for sure. But man, I think we can all really identify with some part of Paul's story today. The part where you know, I'm in this place that Lord, I was following you is doing the right thing. I shouldn't be treated this way. And even because of like who I am, my story, I should not be treated this way. But here I am and I'm struggling. And I think that something to really recognize here is some of the people who have been tried the hardest gone through literally hell have never once been like, Lord, are you sure you know what you're doing? Are you sure that like you're worth this? Let me think about this. Cause like I really miss my freedom. I really missed this. And that's so challenging and encouraging to my heart because I don't ever think to even respond that way of "yup Lord, you're right". Your words that I was going to have temptation, trial, which translates to really spiritual warfare nowadays. And there's even a scripture verse that says it counted all his joy and I forget, like I'm always like, "where's this coming from? Why is this happening"? And typically my husband will be like, well, "what have we been doing for the kingdom lately"? And I'll be like, "awe, you're right". Um, but to count it as joy and to not be surprised. Like, isn't that crazy? That that has to be our normal. But really for Paul, that's his life. He's really living through that. Prayer

And so Jesus, we just invite you into our space. We just invite you into this moment with you. And Lord, we're just so grateful for how you love us and for how you know us. And Jesus, I just thank you that you didn't promise us an easy life. And Lord we didn't, we don't really need an easy life. We just need you to be here with us. And so Lord, I just pray that as we continue to read through your word that really and truly we would our eyes and our hearts and our minds would be open to the things that you are speaking through your people long ago. But things that you want to minister to our hearts now. And so if there are those of us who are feeling misunderstood, that we are feeling out of place, that we are feeling justice is not being sued, but I just pray for peace. That's the only thing that we really even can depend on is your peace. I thank you for just the sweetness that comes with your peace. And Lord, we just love you. We praise you, we honor you, even in this moment, even in this place that feels in prison, even in the uncertainty. Lord, would you just come and dwell with us here. And it's in your son's name we pray, amen. Announcements

Dailyaudiobible.com is our website. That is our home base and a place of connection. So be sure to hop over there and check that out. And uh, and grab your Christmas box before they sale out, before it goes away. Uh, so that they can be here on Christmas. If you would like to partner with the Daily Audio Bible, you can do so through our webpage. If you listen through the app, you can do so through there. Uh, there's a tab on the right hand side that says give. Or if you are like, I just want to send it in the good old fashioned way. Um, we have a mailing address and you can mail it in at PO Box 1996 Spring Hill, Tennessee 37174. And we thank you for your partnership. Thank you for being in agreement with what the Lord is doing here in this community and really just like partnering with us and in agreement and sowing into this ministry. So we thank you. And as always, if there are things as a community that we can be in prayer for you for, really just coming around you and loving you and encouraging you, you can call in at [phone]. Or you can leave your prayer requests in through the app. And this Sunday we will kick off our, our Christmas kind of episode so that we have like really just two weeks of, um, I'm trying to see, yeah, it wouldn't be like a full week and like four days I think. Yeah, something like a week and a half of Christmas calls and greetings. So if you and your family, your loved ones, you want to call it and just wish everyone a Merry Christmas, feel free to do so. And uh, yeah, so our Christmas episode will kick off on the 15th which is on Sunday, but that is all for today. I'm China, I love you. And I'll be waiting for you here, tomorrow. Community Prayer Requests

Hi, this is Corey from California, and thank you for all your prayers, and everything. Things are going good. It's just another mountain climbing thing I do with trusting God. Uh, both cars need tires. So you know, it's expensive and the job new job is going well. It's just the pay is not great. So trying to navigate that. Other than that, everything's good and it's just another year where seems like we're always coming up against something and, but God is good and we're just trusting God for to be make ends meet and for money for Christmas. So, and that I hope I was good with all, everybody out there and bless y'all thanks. Hello Daily Audio Bible Chronological family. This is Sierra Tango Papa on the Eastern front, requesting your prayers for a church project that we're in the midst of. We are moving into moving our church building into the mall, which I think is going to present us such an incredible opportunity to be available to people. And we've re we've come across some pretty significant resistance, uh, many delays in the project. And this last one could be up to two months and we just want prayer. First of all, that we as a body will be ready for. All that God brings is a result of us moving into this space, but also so that we will have just blessing for the remainder of this project and that God's going to open doors to allow it to move quickly. Thank you so much again. Sierra Tango Papa on the Eastern front. Thank you.

[adulting-with-autism]

Yippee! It’s episode three!

@izzyisahufflepuff @firesidoni @yesharrypotterlover123blr

Transcript under cut:

Welcome to AWA. Today’s episode is going to be slightly different because Liz is ill so I’ll be handling your questions solo. Hopefully I’ll do okay.

izzyisahufflepuff said:

“I just saw your tips for toothbrushing, and though they're very helpful, can you offer some tips as to how I can stop forgetting to/coming up with excuses not to brush my teeth? please and thank you”

Now what I generally recommend is something like habitica or similar apps that sort of provide little incentives in a game like structure. Wouldn’t say gamify I hate that word an irrational amount. But that’s something that’s worked for me in the past. Or something like writing down a little schedule for yourself could work quite well. That’s about as much as I’ve got for that one really. Just try and establish a routine through an app or a more old fashioned method. But whatever you do, try to go a couple of days in a row of doing a thing and you should start to adjust hopefully.

Next Question: firesidoni says

“I generally have a terrible time making out what people are saying when there's much background noise - I have a hard time turning the noise into words. Is this (potentially) an autism thing, or just a me thing?”

It’s definitely not a you thing. That’s something where I’ll definitely have a problem hearing people if there’s a lot going on. I tend to withdraw and things like that ‘cause it can be hard to pick out one particular set of sounds and interpret them so you’re not alone there. As for dealing with it I don’t have an answer for you there, I just avoid those situations where I can.

yesharrypotterlover123blr said

“Hi I'm autistic. I try following blogs and debating people, but I wind up offending people accidently. I don't feel comfortable saying it's autism, because it might not be (as I'm very sheltered and privileged/rich/white), + it sounds like an excuse (regardless of the situation in question) but I'm sick of seeing privileged neurotypicals get the benefit of the doubt just for being tactful. Any advice?”

Ok, for not offending people I guess one thing that really helps is just well sometimes I’ll go “right I won’t discuss this issue” if it’s sort of an emotive topic. One thing that really can cause problems, I think this came up in a previous episode, is when you’re interested in an abstract debate on an issue. A lot of people can get this, neurotypicals as well. People like looking at issues in the abstract and going about it in a thought experiment sort of way when the person they’re trying to have the conversation with is saying “this happened to me, this is an experience I had”.

The question is: is this a person who’s talking about – if you look at someone’s blog and they’re talking about had or have on a regular or semi-regular basis. I might post, I don’t know, money’s really tight or something like that, or alternatively on familiar ground someone might talk about sensory issues. You wouldn’t want, I’m sure, lots of us post about that kind of thing but you wouldn’t want somebody replying to that saying let’s start a long proper debate about how you feel. So that’s sometimes how trying to debate people comes across I think.

Because sometimes the best response isn’t a debate. It’s not necessarily what you want, it seems you like debating, but what’s sometimes best is saying “that sucks” rather than saying “but does it happen like that” or “is your experience really valid”. That can just, I think, get in the way. That means you’re not going to get a good faith debate because you could maybe say on a particular issue I’m not sure that…

There’s a difference between disagreeing on a solution for a societal problem, which is fine it happens every day it’s perfectly healthy, and disagreeing that something is a problem in the first place. It’s quite possible and healthy to have a discussion about the former, “right you know, this is an issue how do we get past it” there aren’t always cut and dried answers to these questions.

The trick is at least start out saying “that sucks how can things get better” rather than “did this really happen, was this an issue, was that person…” I don’t know, running dry on examples but I think maybe do something like put up on your blog, I don’t know if you have already, something about “I like debating” and maybe post an invitation, put a post up on your blog or add a little line on your profile “I’m open for a proper theoretical debate, theoretical conversation”

I think there’s impassioned conversations about social justice and there’s debates about these things and there’s room for both, but you’ve got to set parameters for a debate. Like in schools and colleges debate clubs don’t just spring up. They’ve got to be formalised. You say we’ll set up here, go by these rules, and not make things too personal, that’s great that’s fine but a real problem lies when people take that kind of debate club mentality, that debate club ethos and expect it to apply in every situation.

It doesn’t sound like you’re falling into that trap you want to engage people in a respectful way, you’re trying to work out how to do that so kudos to you. The main thing is you’ve got to set the parameters. Say “this is a call for debate so get in my inbox, comment on my post and we can start that conversation”. I think that could happen. Might not be that successful but you’ve got a better shot with that because sometimes you might end up derailing a more personal subjective conversation about social justice and things like that with a demand for an entirely different kind of conversation.

It’s how, I think, things can get out of hand it’s two very different styles of discussing issues and I guess that’s what you’ve got to be really clear on. You can always say “sorry I was looking at it in an abstract kind of way, I wasn’t trying to minimise what you’re going through or the issue”. You can always say “sorry I’m looking at it a bit too abstract you guys carry on”, or alternatively try to look at it from the other person’s pov. How you’d feel if somebody tried to put an abstract spin on something personal to you. I’ve started rambling so that’s as much as I’ve got on that I think.

There is a long question on here. It’s a three parter and it sounds kind of thorny so I’m probably going to be spending the rest of the episode responding to this and working out what to say.

“Hello guys, I was wondering how you feel about polyamory. As a queer autistic boy in a big group of friends (including my partner) who are all allistic nb, queer, and polyamorous (no one’s dating each other, just friends), I feel very left out in a way, because my brain is incredibly hierarchical. I find that I can only have one (1!!!) best friend at a time, and I can only love ONE person (i.e my partner). How can I unlearn this hierarchal thinking? It feels absolutely impossible

but I hate feeling left out (a big source of anxiety for me). People often (my friends and partner included) seem to make polyamory seem like a more Moral alternative, and that monogamy, on the other hand is a Conscious Choice one has to be Determined to make? This feels alien and a bit upsetting to me. And even though my partner says that just because you love 1 person doesn't mean you love someone else more, you can love equally, but this concept I just cannot grasp.

It's as hard to me to understand, as it is for humans in general to imagine colours we've never seen. It's impossible. But I feel kinda guilty and immoral, as if I'm not as emotionally developed as them or something, and as if I'm "possessive" because I can't handle my partner dating someone else than me WHILE they're dating me? My partner isn't actively polyamorous when they’re with me ‘cause they know it'd upset me but still... I don’t wanna be the autie weirdo.. I don’t know what to do”

And breathe. Right, that sounds like a fraught sitch. Thing is I know lots of my friends who are poly and many of the things you’ve mentioned, and I think that frankly I’m sure Liz would back me up on this, acting all as if it’s a better choice is just daft. It’s plain daft is what it is. Looking at alternative forms of relationships to monogamy is really interesting. It works really well for some people but not for others. Some people have, you can have vastly different levels of comfort, different thresholds for jealousy without being a controlling person, without being a bad or insecure person. It’s okay that you feel that there’s one person you want to be with and you don’t want to date anyone else or have your partner date anyone else.

It’s fine. And that could be the way you feel for the rest of your life or you could change your mind, but whatever feels right in that relationship is the right call. There’s no higher or better form of a relationship and anybody who says otherwise is leading you astray I think. I think that there’s a good chance with a lot of people who wouldn’t be comfortable being polyamorous and going for it anyway I feel like there’s, if you feel you’d get possessive, then simply trying to switch to a different form of relationship wouldn’t make it go away, it might just manifest in a different way. It doesn’t sound like you’re being a bad or possessive person at all.

Lots of people have a small amount of people they’re close to in friendship and romance. Lots of people have one partner and one best friend. That’s a really common thing and sometimes people can be a bit elitist about it and a bit, “oh I’m doing a different thing I’m standing out”. It could be that they’re not trying to say the form of their relationship is an inherently moral choice, might just be it’s the right thing for them. There’s a point halfway through about talking about monogamy as a conscious choice. They’re both conscious choices. Choosing to remain with one person choosing to be with multiple people, that’s a conscious choice. But choosing something that’s different to the mainstream isn’t necessarily a better thing nor a worse thing. The only way to make that kind of decision is based around your emotional well-being and your partner’s emotional well-being.

That’s the only thing that really matters there. Tis important to just do what makes you happy. There’s no more right or wrong answer than that. It sounds like you’re someone who’d be much more comfortable being monogamous. It sounds like you wouldn’t be happy with that, it would make you feel less happy in the relationship and even if you feel like you said to your partner “alright let’s try a different tac”, if you’re just doing that to make them happy and you’re uncomfortable with it, chances are they’d notice your discomfort and that would have a knock on effect.

I feel like if you think it’s a thing you can handle or go for, and would be genuinely interested in it then go for it, but going down that path because of what sounds like peer pressure is a really bad way to go I think. It’s got to be about what’s right for you what’s right for your partner and I don’t think it’s necessarily autism at the root of it. It may have something to do with it. But you don’t have to unlearn any thinking.

You don’t have to change. The thing is if it is down to disability then anybody expecting you to change a part of yourself change a part of your thinking is being really gross I think. That’s plain weird. Be yourself, there’s no better person to be. There’s nothing wrong with you, there’s nothing less moral about you. You’re trying to do what’s right for your emotional well-being. It doesn’t sound like you’re judging others, it doesn’t sound like you’re doing anything negative towards anyone.

You keep on going the way you’re going. It might be a good idea to talk to your friends about how they may come across and how it feels like they’re pushing it as a superior thing. I guess a lot of people fall into monogamy by default but you’re someone who knows the options there, knows the choices they’ve got and you seem to know what makes you feel comfortable. There’s a point to make that people default to monogamy but for some people it seems like you included, it seems like the right way to go.

That’s the last question in the inbox and that just about wraps up the show.

Somehow I’ve manage to talk to about as long as our regular show just on my lonesome. I was tempted to fill in for Liz by occasionally doing an impression but I think they’d probably end up listening and I’m not sure they’d appreciate it. So it’s tarrah for now until next time dear listeners.

That was Adulting with Autism, a very Nick centric special.

Take care.

#podcast #episode 3