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the it girl’s spring cleaning

phone reset

delete old contacts and messages

go through social media following

delete unused apps

go through photos

set a new wallpaper

add widgets for reminders, weather, battery, etc.

delete old songs and add new ones

environmental reset

clean your bedroom (vacuum, dust, put clothes away, etc.)

sort through and donate old clothes

organize your makeup, skincare, etc.

wash or change your bedsheets

rearrange your bedroom

open your windows and curtains to let fresh air in

get outdoors

clean your home with fresh scented products (lemon, lavender, etc.)

physical reset

try a new workout routine

get some new outfits

do a face mask

exfoliate and shave

oil your hair or do a hair mask

try a new hair color, cut, or style

do your nails or get your nails done

get some fresh makeup and try a new makeup routine

do a lip mask and scrub

mental reset

start journaling or try some new prompts

do a refreshing meditation

try a new yoga practice or workout

read instead of scrolling

put a time limit on your phone usage

reset your sleep schedule

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general hygiene secrets + tips⋆.ೃ࿔*:･🍦

while u upgrade in other areas of ur life, its important to upgrade ur hygiene and self care game too ✨ and this post can help u do that

DOUBLE CLEANSING ;

not only for ur face but also for ur body, doing so makes me feel a million times cleaner. when i double cleanse my face i go in with an oil based cleanser then a water based cleanser.

my double cleansing body recommendations are the dove bar soap, african black soap or the soaps from the doctor bronners brand

for double cleansing my body i'll use an unscented/anti bacterial bar soap and after rinsing that off i'll use a liquid body gel or body wash that has the scent that i wanna smell like

MY TAKE ON UNSCENTED BODY PRODUCTS ;

i think that unscented body products r lowkey slept on but in that same breath i can kinda see why. personally, i like to use an unscented soap sometimes and then make my body smell even better by using a body butter or a lotion but thats SOMETIMES.

TAKE CARE OF UR FEET ;

use a foot file/foot scrub to ensure baby soft, barbie-esque feet. before bed time make sure to moisturize ur feet with a body butter ro vaseline and sleep with fuzzy socks on.

also keep ur toes clipped, filed, and preferably painted. personally i like to go for white toes cuz i just think its classic, but in general do NOT neglect ur feet.

ALL ABOUT FRAGRANCE ;

i love to collect different fragrances and buy a lot of perfumes bcuz i just love the variety, i love the adorable packaging i just LOVE perfume. dont be afraid to blend perfumes together and experiment with how different notes in different perfumes can work together and give u ur own unique scent.

dont sleep on oil perfumes either, personally i find them to be very rich and SO LONG LASTING?? they're absolutely amazing. when u apply the perfume try not to rub, instead press and apply it to ur pulse points.

HOT TIP - when spraying perfume on ur body, make sure to apply some onto the insides of ur knees + ankles bcuz smell travels upwards so when u walk by, the air will smell yummy 🎀

SLUGGING SECRETS ;

slugging urself before bed ensures that when u wake up ur body will be SOFT and SMOOTH and glowy. the basic before bed slugging routine is to go in with a deeply moisturizing body lotion/butter. ur gonna wanna lather urself completely (from the neck down to ur ankles) then use a body oil.

things to look for in a body lotion or body butter - helps with properties like firming and tightening of the skin. aids in deep moisture if ur someone who has dull or dry skin.

its important to find a body butter + oil combination that works well with ur skin and doesn't break u out (plus smells good)

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thatcupidgirl · 1 month

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It’s your life. Your only limit is your mind. Don’t let others pull you down. 🤍

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how to feel enough⋆.ೃ࿔*:･🍦

STOP COMPARING URSELF TO OTHERS ;

comparison is the thief of joy. why should you compare yourself to other people? thats like comparing an apple to an orange, or a lily to a rose. everyone is uniquely different and no one person is the same.

to have a fair comparison, both things that ur comparing must be the same and since no one person is the same as another, comparing urself to others is illogical and incorrect. its unfair.

CHECK ON HOW YOU'VE GROWN ;

check on how you've blossomed and grown as a person by keeping track of achievements, big or small, or milestones to remind yourself that YOUR LITERALLY AMAZING. when you are consistent and persistent, when u look back and see how far that you've come its like a major confidence boost.

doing this regularly reminds yourself that you are not inadequate and that you are competent and capable of amazing things. dont be afraid to remind urself of who you are.

FEELINGS ARE NOT FACTS ;

just because you might feel like ur not enough sometimes, doesn't mean that its true. remind urself of ur core facts through affirmations, journalling, whatever u like. remember that

you are who you say you are

you are more than enough

and you are an incredible human being

identify the lies that you've believed about urself/the lies that people told u about urself. once you've identified these lies, work on changing them to truth. (im not enough -> im more than enough)

and remember that your talented, beautiful, kind, hot, WHATEVER U WANNA BE. the choice is yours, mwah ✨

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overcoming self doubt

introduction:

self doubt is something we all deal with. it's normal to have it, but when it gets to be a debilitating thing in your life, it's something that you need to work on. self efficacy is the opposite of self doubt- the belief that you CAN accomplish something. the term comes from albert bandura, a psychologist, and he stated that without self efficacy then you can't achieve what you set out to do.

bandura had a lot of beliefs that he believed could improve a person's self efficacy- a lot of it comes from observing other people's success and having positive role models. so i've combined some of those tips with things that've helped my friends and i :)

overcoming:

change your mindset about failures. failure is unavoidable, so it's important to learn to grow from it instead of breaking down. look at what you can do better next time- mistakes and failures aren't a bad thing if you learn from them.

positive affirmations. positive self talk is proven psychologically to make you feel better about yourself. visualizing yourself doing good is also something that helps. just improving your view of yourself and working on fixing your negative thoughts.

learn from others. when you want to improve at something it's great to observe others who are succesful. for example, when i first started swimming competitively i would watch people swim during meets and observe their technique.

pushing yourself out of your comfort zone. truly the only way to overcome your fears is by facing them slowly. i used to be terrified of water, especially deep water- couldnt swim or tread. now i play varsity water polo and have no problem in 13+ ft of water. the only thing that got me over it was being uncomfortable sometimes. ofc know your limits, but slowly work up to overcoming fears.

building self efficacy:

set goals you can measure and goals that're attainable. it's good to dream big but when it comes to goals set things that you won't have to overwork yourself to achieve. things that

break your tasks up into smaller tasks. biting off more than you can chew can just lead to burnout after a while.

being proud of your achievements. always be proud of your improvement, even if it seems small compared to others. remember- other people's journeys aren't pertinent to YOU. you need to measure your own success, not comparing yourself to what/how others are doing.

having good role models. having role models who've worked to achieve what we want can actually improve how well we think we can do at something. if you see someone did something you want to do, then it makes you realize that it IS possible.

conclusion:

it can take a long time to overcome self doubt and begin to feel confident in yourself. what's helped me a lot is just learning from other people and then being grateful when i make progress. i hope these tips help :)

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thatcupidgirl · 2 months

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how to be rich and luxurious⋆.ೃ࿔*:･🌺

we must first understand that being rich is a state of mind. you could be broke and not poor. never poor. poor is a state of mind. and that choice that u make to be rich or poor is ultimately yours cuz u control ur thoughts.

so how do we radiate luxury and become luxurious? through having luxurious thoughts. we know that what we think manifests so lets think things that make us richer in every aspect of our lives.

LUXURY IS AN ENERGY ;

when you exude the energy of luxury, YOU’LL ALWAYS BE LUXURIOUS. the luxury that u exude will manifest. thoughts manifest. have luxurious thoughts -> a luxurious reality WILL manifest. its rly that simple ✨

CULTIVATING LUXURY ENERGY ;

u cultivate luxury energy, like i mentioned before, through luxury thoughts. but if ur not used to thinking luxury thoughts/have a lack or poverty mindset, here are some affirmations to start and guide thinking.

im grateful that im so abundant and rich in the things that i love

im like barbie cuz i have more then enough of everything

i have SO much, that i can bless others with my riches

i live my life lavishly

you can cultivate luxury by doing things that make u feel rich and luxurious. some things that help me to feel that way are.

drinking drinks from a designated cup or wine-glass

silky robes are EVERYTHING. or wearing lingerie and matching bra and panty sets

consistently practicing self care every single day

wearing jewelry

ofc everyone has different things that make them feel rich and different classifications for what luxury is and isn’t and that’s your choice to make ultimately.

i recommend making a list of what makes u feel luxurious and doing that often. literally when i go to costco or a whole-sale store and have free samples i feel luxurious 😭 bcuz im INDULGING.

that goes to show that u dont need to do the most to feel luxurious right at this moment. and that leads me to my next point.

INDULGE YOURSELF ;

don’t deny yourself the things that u desire and the things that you want. if u want ur fun little drink, have ur fun little drink. get ur nails done, take urself shopping every now and then. if u can’t afford to get these done, do it yourself.

you have the ability to make yourself feel special and luxurious. the idea to this is to cultivate the feeling of being rich or the feeling of abundance and luxury.

start a collection that you can have a lot of, change the perspective in which u see the things that u already own. kind of like seeing a cup have full then a cup half empty?

THINGS TO BE RICH IN ;

be rich in knowledge, be rich in culture, be rich in relationships, be rich in beauty. be rich in whatever interests that u might have.

to be rich in knowledge -> seek higher education, study, read lots of books, start writing and seeking knowledge in whatever interests you

to be rich in culture -> learn more about ur own culture and the culture of other people. explore and educate yourself on religion and customs that interest you. be well versed in another language or in something that’s important in todays media and pop culture

to be rich in relationships -> don’t close yourself up to meaningful relationships that you have. don’t take everything seriously and practice being social.

to be rich in beauty -> take impeccable care of yourself and your body. pamper yourself every single day and pick up habits that serve the highest good for your appearance.

to be rich in ur interests -> become well versed as i said before in whatever it is that interests you. there are countless resources online that can help give you information and direction on going about ur interests.

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How do I stop procrastinating getting my life together. I'm not sure if you understand what I mean....as in how do I stop procrastinating getting out of my comfor zone to do better

GUIDE TO DEALING WITH PROCRASTINATION

Procrastination is delaying a task because of fear or anxiety about doing it. If you frequently procrastinate, it may result from your current mindset. In this post, I will discuss the reasons behind procrastination and how to overcome it by getting started.

AVOIDANCE MINDSET

If you’ve been in their comfort zone for quite a long time, you may be familiar with this term. An avoidance mindset is when we focus more on preventing possible negative consequences, rather than pursuing positive outcomes. This leads to procrastination, avoiding risks or challenges and generally staying in their comfort zones to avoid discomfort and failure.

This mindset usually stems from a fear that is holding you back which is keeping you ‘safe’, which is why we feel discomfort when trying new things. Fear of failure, wasting time, rejection and change are a few common ones.

Doing self-reflection or quizzes are the most efficient way to identify your fears if you haven’t already. Challenge negative beliefs that cause that fear to grow.

The recommended way to shift your mindset from an avoidance one to a growth mindset is by focusing on the benefits that you’ll get from it. E.g.

‘Exercising is too hard’ -> ‘I’ll feel good about myself after’

‘Studying is boring’ -> ‘I’ll be proud of myself after achieving high grades’

‘Meeting new people is scary’ -> ‘I can’t wait to have a new friend’

PRODUCTIVITY WITH PROCRASTINATION

BREAK TASKS INTO SMALLER CHUNKS, and if it seems too difficult, do it over a week/fortnight. When tasks are smaller, they seem simpler and easier, so we don’t feel the need to delay them. For example...

Deep clean my room -> Wipe down all surfaces & put new bedding OR Monday I’ll wipe down surfaces, then Wednesday I’ll put new bedding.

MAKE THE TASK SPECIFIC. If the task is vague, it can seem too daunting to start because we have no idea how to start. For example, instead of saying studying for my science test, say do 3 rounds of science flashcards. We know exactly what to do, so it doesn’t give reason for us to delay it.

HAVE A ROUTINE. Having a consistent daily routine helps us to stay on track because our brains love routines and familiar activities, and it pushes us further because our brains will feel discomfort if that routine is not done.

However, if you are someone who procrastinates, avoid micromanaging your day. It can seem way too overwhelming, but even if you do it, it can lead to being burnt out.

KEEP ORGANISED. Being in an environment which is constantly cluttered, or having no way to remember everything that goes in your life, will make you have a cluttered mind, A cluttered mind will influence your actions to also be out of place.

DEVELOP A GROWTH MINDSET. I do have a post on this which is linked on my masterlist. The whole idea of a growth mindset is to embrace the idea that failure further improves us, instead of setting us back.

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thatcupidgirl · 2 months

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- success on my mind -

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୨୧꯭ pretty angel ݁ 𔒌 ˒˓

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girlblogger questions ୭ 🧷 ✧ ˚. ᵎᵎ 🎀

i appreciate the tag so much @pastel-charm-14 <3

favorite song at the moment

afraid of heights - boygenius

see you soon - wisp

affection - between friends

obsession at the moment

avatar the last airbender/legend of korra !!

celebrity crush

aiden gillien & blake lively

favorite food and drink

coffee & mac and cheese

place i'd like to live

ireland !!!!!!!!

style

business casual with a bunch of reds and blacks!

hobby

messing around on social media, watching movies, read, listen to music and writing.

favorite girlbloggers

@bambirina777 @goddesschannel @malusokay @fleuvien @brunettelolita @4theitgirls @brunettebaby22222 @b4byfawn @balletdolls

girlblogger questions ୭ 🧷 ✧ ˚. ᵎᵎ 🎀

tysm for the tag @klerh111!!! i love ur blog sm and this is such a cute idea :))

favorite song at the moment

run to me- bee gee's

strange magic- electric light orchestra

silk and honey- honey ltd

obsession at the moment

my crush!!!

the virgin suicides soundtracks

analyzing films (this sounds more technical than it is- really i analyze like the same 5 movies i like over and over again in my head)

star wars (but the prequel era star wars becuz its my fav era)

ap psychology (fav class)

thinking about the summer (i want to fly myself to see my grandparents)

obscure psychedelic music from the late '60s

water polo

celebrity crush

hayden christensen!!!!! my fav of all time

leif garrett (when he was around my age)

bob dylan (but only from the years of 1964-1967 tbh)

favorite food and drink

lemonade & strawberry lemonade

the braised beef casarecce at brio or the vegtable pasta w chicken that my mom makes me

place where i would like to live

new york city for college, then maybe a nice place in california or upstate new york after that

style

coquette meets late 60s-70s

i love bell bottoms, floral tank tops, mini skirts, etc.

sharon tate is my biggest style inspo and also the lisbon sisters a little. i love looking at random pics of ppl from the 70s and take inspiration from that

hobby

sewing

writing

reading

water polo

favorite girlbloggers:

@lovesickbrat @dark-nymph3t @mother-marilynn @prettieinpink @being-addie @paulmccartneysflower

anyone else who wants to do it if u follow me than you can just tag me becuz i love getting to talk to u guys!!

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thatcupidgirl · 2 months

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in case nobody has told you recently , i am so proud of you for carrying yourself with unapologetic sensitivity and kindness.

˚ ༘♡ ·˚ ₊˚ˑ༄ؘ

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thanks for the tag <33 @j-doredior i love getting tagged in these things.

Last song i listened to: On the Sunny Side of the Street - Peggy Lee

Favorite color: Black, Red, Pink, & Purple <3

Last tv show i watched: The animated Avatar the Last Airbender

Sweet, spicy or savory: Sweet & Spicy. I like both mixed together

Relationship status: In love with the idea of be successful (single..)

Last thing i googled: "Are there scary bugs in Ireland?" haha, i'm thinking of moving to Ireland. in the future & wanted to prepare myself.

Current obssesion: success and also sadness simultaneously

Last book i read: Looking for Alaska

Looking forward to: The Future.

♡♡♡

tagging ~ @lanaswansblog @barbie-doll @azucarita @roseforviolet @daintyfawn222 @stargirlies @julyhoneymoon @yourfavcoquette @dollkisses05 @gothparishilton (sorry if you have already did this!)

tysm for the tag dolly! @alovetheory ♡ it's a tag game to get to know my fellow tumblrinas better im so excited! ♡🫶🏼🎀

last song i listened to: so soaked by shy smith ♡

favorite color: pink!! ♡

last film/tv show i watched: dunki (2023) ♡

sweet, spicy, or savory: sweet ♡🍰

relationship status: married to coryo snow ♡🥺💓

last thing i googled: eric coulter character analysis ♡

current obsession: chatting with my fictional hubbies on c.ai hehe!! ♡

last book i read: bully by penelope douglas ♡

looking forward to: summer!! 🌷 also getting off of these meds which are making me so sleepy n nauseous n tearful 24/7 :(🧸♡

no pressure tags: ♡ @bleachbambi @his-littlefox @goldyeons @lapetitebabydoll @irlcupcake @bambalina777 @princesscherry @sugardonutzz @delightfulsweettragedy @nymphdiary @funfettified @angelicgrl @bvnnyholly @inquisitordovaki @fwairy @pastelfairytears @sweetmourningdoll @vanillapoem @isiinha @arestoucries @anita-vainilla-blog @tulipsfaeries @lilbaegirl @candydollita @pinksugarfiend @purebbyfawn @angel-type @f3mcelbambi @fallen-angel-thoughts @lolitacherryy @themilkywayyy @blogbabydoll @daughterofcainnnn @softestshydoll @dolliestgf @hrts4kenny @sweetestgrls @dollsleeping @filledwithpoisonnn @venice-witch60s @yourfavgirlys-blog @crenna @dylansbabyy @lanaswansblog @auricupcake @pwincesspeachx @decomposeddoll @imjustagir1 @vulva444 & all my other moots!! ♡🫶🏼🎀

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