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The Wilmington Morning Star, North Carolina, December 9, 1915

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bisexuality is not inherently male-centered

#the babe speaks #this is still important #bi community #bi tumblr #bisexuality

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It’s okay to be a bisexual who IS confused, who IS experimenting, who DOESN’T know what they want. You’re still a valid bisexual, deserving of love and respect.

#bi community #bi tumblr #bisexual #bi positivity #all bisexuals are valid

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Bisexual is a good and wholesome word. It’s okay to be bisexual. It’s okay to actually say you’re bisexual.

#internalized biphobia #bi positivity #bi community #bi tumblr #bisexual #the babe speaks

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i’ve been thinking lately about how it’s easier for me to tell someone “i’m bi” than it is to say “i’m bisexual” because adding the “sexual” part makes me feel dirty and perverted and like all the stereotypes about bisexual people that i hear every day

but you know what fuck that i am BISEXUAL and i am PROUD and that doesn’t make me dirty and undeserving of love

#biphobia #internalized biphobia #the babe speaks #bi community #bi tumblr

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let’s talk about wlw, real and fictional, and the 2017 Emmy’s

the handmaid’s tale honestly sweeping

with not one but two lesbian main characters, one of whom (samira wiley) is a lesbian in real life and attended the show with her wife, and the other of whom (alexis bledel) won an award for her portrayal

kate mckinnon, a lesbian, being the first snl actor to win 2 emmys

lena wiathe, a lesbian, being the first Black woman to win an emmy for best comedy writing and giving a shoutout to the lgbtq+ community. (not to mention she won for sharing her own coming-out story!)

san junipero, a story about an interracial lesbian couple getting the happy ending they deserve, winning both of the awards they were nominated for, one of which is the biggest award of the night

WLW ARE AWARD-WORTHY. NEVER FORGET THAT.

#good things #wlw #wlw positivity #wlw representation #lbpq

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In California [in 1992], antigay activists perfected divide-and-conquer when they defined lesbians and gay men as “a rich class demanding ‘special rights’ at the expense of true minorities” — which didn’t seem like a lie because the visible leaders of the movement were almost exclusively white and privileged (and male).

Kelly J. Cogswell, Eating Fire: My Life As a Lesbian Avenger (2014), Ch. 3

hmm… good thing no one believes that anymore

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#lgbt history #homophobia

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Happy Bi Week, everyone!

#bi week

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I should have taken a picture but I was filling out paperwork for IOP and they left a blank for gender (which is awesome!) and I literally scribbled out my answer three times lmfao if that doesn't describe how I feel about gender

#gender identity #genderqueer #gender #the babe speaks

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Just a reminder that lesbians aren’t just skinny cis white girls! There are black lesbians, fat lesbians, trans lesbians, disabled lesbians, depressed lesbians, etc. Dont just reblog posts with 2 white girls laughing and act like that’s the epitome of lesbianism…that’s a problem.

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just keep going, ok? ♡

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I’m perennially sickened by people who distort the relationship between AIDS and the fight for state-recognized partnerships (gay marriage/civil unions/etc.). It’s not that AIDS and the backlash made people get “”socially conservative”” or “”homonormative”” or whatever the buzzwords are; it’s that the AIDS crisis illustrated how vulnerable our communities are without protections for our relationships. You can argue all you want that we shouldn’t need legal protections to be safe, but please understand that terminally ill gay men were evicted from their apartments immediately after watching their partners die horribly because they couldn’t inherit the lease or the property (or couldn’t do so without paying heavy taxes). Gay men were unable to attend the funerals of their long-term partners because homophobic parents had custody of the remains.

This still happens, in states without gay marriage; a woman in Indiana was told that she was an “unrelated third party” when she tried to arrange her wife’s cremation. Reducing this real suffering to “you want marriage rights because you want to prove you’re just like straight people” is horrible, and I don’t know how that argument ever left someone’s typing hands without them realizing that they were absolute garbage.

#lgbt history #hiv #aids #hiv/aids #aids crisis

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Forcing bi women and lesbians to prove that their experiences are real, that their sexuality isn’t a phase or fake, that their love for women is genuine and important to them, is dehumanizing. 

Coercing bi women and lesbians into making decisions solely centered around on how “radical” people will perceive them to be maintains the harmful politicization of their lives, which are already politicized under heteropatriarchy.

You, the biphobe or lesbophobe who does this, may think that this will lead them to examine their choices and mindsets, but all it does is discourage them from pursuing happy and healthy relationships with women, and further it makes them internalize toxic and hurtful rhetoric about themselves, each other, and their community. 

Finally, using language that implies that a bi woman or a lesbian is the same as straight women or straight people is not only erroneous - it’s cruel. 

Bi women in relationships with men are not “basically straight women”. Femme lesbians are not “basically straight women”. Butch lesbians (including trans butch lesbians!) are not “basically men”. Butch/femme dynamics do not “replicate heterosexuality”. Women who choose to get married to each other should not be held responsible for the violent institutional underpinnings of marriage - that is, if a w/w couple gets married, they are not making a “regressive” choice. A bi woman can prioritize women even if she is currently dating a man, and she did not “choose the easy way out” just by being herself. 

Bi women and lesbians are not privileged for their sexualities. 

They do not have to prove anything to anyone. Leave them alone. 

(Don’t touch this post if you’re a transmisogynist, a biphobe, or a lesbophobe. Nothing in this post is up for argument or discussion). 

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*checking my mood ring* it says i love girls

#basically

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Edie Windsor & Thea Spyer 46 years of true love

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Update: I'm still cute and I'm purple again.

#the babe speaks #girls with like girls #wlw #bi tumblr #bi community #self

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You saying you’re bisexual is not tmi, it’s not inappropriate or something that you need to avoid talking about, and you don’t have to push yourself back in the closet to accommodate others.

#!!! #bi positivity #bi tumblr #bi community