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thoughtsofmine97 · 3 years

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Am I in the wrong?

I AM USING THEY/THEM PRONOUNS FOR PRIVACY REASONS.

So, I was friends with this person for six years. They were the first person I became friends with after I moved to the high school we graduated from, my mom considered them to be an extra kid, they are friends with my brother (who had also graduated with us), and we hung out/talked to each other constantly for the past several years.

But, apparently, the last time we had hung out, I had said or done something that had pissed them off/made them uncomfortable. They never told me that I had initially done anything wrong.

They then proceeded to ignore me for three weeks (as in ignoring texts and Snapchat messages (I only would send one or two texts every other day or two). I had thought that they were busy with life (I.e. work, their partner, family, etc...), and that was why they had never gotten around to replying.

On Black Friday, I had texted them asking if they were busy that night in hopes to hang out for a bit, then a few hours went by before I had actually gotten an answer from them.

A few hours later, I get a reply from them, saying that they were trying to "distance themselves from me" and that whatever I had said or done had made them uncomfortable/pissed and they were frustrated that I wasn't getting the nonexistent hints that they were trying to give. They finished the text with that "It's best that we're not friends right now".

I had sent three texts over half an hour, trying to get them to talk to me, to try to get a reason why they had waited three weeks to even say anything, and what I had said or done to make them so mad/uncomfortable with me enough to throw away six years of friendship.

But, the only thing I had gotten was them was a text telling me to stop "blowing up their phone" because it "wasn't helping" and to leave them alone.

I haven't heard anything since, and it's been three and a half months.

I believe that they had gotten one of our friends that I met through them to ignore me as well since the other friend hadn't opened my messages in over two months.

I had recently talked to a few friends from high school at a get-together (we were all wearing masks), who were also friends with said person, and they all said that the person had done something similar to them as well (saying something that the person didn't like, then just ghosting them).

Am I in the wrong for not knowing what I did? Or, is the "friend" in the wrong?

#what the fuck #what did i even do #friends #what the hell #longterm #help a girl out #come on #am i the asshole

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thoughtsofmine97 · 3 years

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Traveling: Greyhound Bus Addition!

Everyone has at least heard of the greyhound bus line.

If you live in the U.S., Canada, or Mexico, and you have traveled on the highway, you may have seen one driving next to your car. Hell, you and your family members may have tried to be the first one to connect to the bus’s wifi before it got too far away or one of you got off at the next exit.

But, if you haven’t, is is a form of mass travel (think of airplanes, but on the ground) that goes to over 3,800 destinations in North America (and yes, that means Mexico and Canada as well, and you need a passport for those trips), and it is an easy a cheap way to travel, if you don’t mind being in a sitting position for a long period of time.

Here are some things that I wish I had known before I had decided to go this route (pun intended) or that I had to just figure out myself.

WARNING: This is my opinion, and I am in no way a professional since I had only taken this company once. This is just from my own experience. There is a man on YouTube by the name FrugalTravelGuru (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC_NqsoFzUroeZ90ZZDdqSaA) who has good advice as well.

I have also traveled by other means, and I will implementing tips from those as well!!!

Book your ticket well before hand

You are going to want to book your ticket ahead of time.

Like a month or two before your travel date.

Besides the obvious reasons (I.e. Cheaper, more seating options, and the fact the bus can fill up quickly), plans can change. And when plans change, you have to have ample time to change your means of travel.

Lets say that you book your bus ticket two and a half months before the day that you leave, and it’s to go to a friends wedding. And a month goes by, and your friend (lets say the bride) Calls you and says that the wedding is moved up a week, and now you have to reschedule.

If you give enough time between the booking of the ticket and the actual traveling date, you have more wiggle room. You never know when an emergency will pop up.

Keep your luggage in mind and what is a carry-on?

No matter what kind of ticket you buy, the bus line allows you to have at least one free suitcase and one free carry on (This is just standard. Check online or your ticket to see which one you get and what it allows).

The weight limit for your suitcase is fifty pounds (50 lbs), and you do have to pay a fee if it is overweight. There are luggage weighing devices at the larger stations, but you can weigh them at home with luggage weighers that you can buy yourself or eyeball it (remember to keep the weight of the actual suitcase in mind) so you don’t get surprised when you get to check in.

Just remember, your luggage goes underneath the bus in the luggage compartment, and you won’t have access to it until you get to where you are transferring to another bus, or to your final destination. I also suggest getting luggage locks from Walmart (Or your retailer of choice) to deter people from taking your things, and keep the key on you.

Your carry-on is the small/medium sized bag that you can bring with you on to the main part of the bus. It has to be small enough to fit in the overhead bin, on the floor by your feet, or in your lap. Personally, I kept my most needed items in this bag to keep it close by.

Here's a list of the items I personally think that you might need, but you probably don’t need everything on this list:

Your bus ticket

Passport (if traveling between the U.S. and Canada or the U.S. and Mexico)

Wallet

Phone/phone charger/headphones

Small travel pillow (they have these at Walmart with dust covers and cases that zip up and are in different colors or designs. They are perfect for keeping something between your head and the window)

Small throw blanket (It has be small enough to put back into your bag, and it comes in handy because the bus tends to get kind of cold)

Extra cash

Tylenol/allergy meds/other meds that you may need/cough drops

Gum

Some granola bars or small food items

Water

Hygiene products (small hair brush, toothbrush/paste, pads/tampons) I brushed my teeth when I had gotten to my layovers just to keep bad breath away. I also keep deodorant/body wipes on me so I can not smell bad.

Again, you don’t have to have everything on this list, but feel free to use it if you need to.

Keep in mind that, more than likely, your gonna probably doze off or not have full attention on your bag, so get a luggage lock on it while you aren’t actually looking for something and keep the key on you (in your pocket). You might also want to keep your wallet/ticket in a hard to reach pocket just to keep your ID and ticket on you and no one tries to pick pocket you while you’re asleep or on the way to the bathroom.

TIP #1: I know that you may have heard this a thousand times, but get luggage that is brightly colored or had a different pattern on it (I’ve seen people get their faces printed onto their luggage). Stickers, paint, or bedazzling works as well, but keep anything that makes it look “expensive�� to a minimum. The shinier and newer it looks, the more likely it is to be stolen (put a few dings and scuffs into it for good measure).

This is because everyone and their 2x great Aunt Lucy has a black suitcase, and if your bag gets left at a station or stolen, they need identifiable features to find your bag(s). Don’t just put a luggage tag on it! It can be ripped/cut/torn off.

Also, have a picture of certain items in your bag (I.e. a few of your shirts, a laptop, any personalized items, etc...). This way, if they located it, they can confirm that it is yours. Just remember that anyone can say that it’s theirs and walkaway with everything.

Have extra cash on you!

Now, keep this in moderation. Don’t go around with large amounts of cash on you, especially at the larger stations in big cities where questionable people tend to hang around. Keep it under $100 if you can. Have two or three $20 bills, a few fives and a few ones.

I say have extra cash on you because emergencies pop up, you can’t use your card for some reason, or other situations where cash is the best option.

For example, if you have to change your ticket for whatever reason, the first time changing it is free, but each additional change has a $20 fee.

I had to change my ticket twice, and the second time was two in the morning in Nashville, and the card reader was off, and if I had waited for it to turn on, I would’ve eventually miss the bus I had my ticket changed for and would’ve had to wait four hours for the next bus in the morning.

Also, it’s just easier to pay in cash when at the vending machines or at the Cafes that are in the stations.

HAVE PLEANTY OF WATER ON YOU!

For the love of God (or whoever you pray to/believe in), bring some filled refillable water bottles with you onto the bus. The driver isn’t going to stop every hour whenever someone needs a drink.

I went a solid nine to ten hours without a drink because I was stupid and didn’t bring any. It wasn’t until the driver had stopped at a McDonalds the next morning when I was finally able to get something to drink.

The drinks in the bus stations are expensive!!

Unlike airports, you are allowed to bring outside drinks (non-alcoholic!) onto the bus, So, put your favorite hydro flask(s) into your carryon!

More than likely, your bus driver isn’t going to have trash cans/trash bags on board, so refrain from bringing plastic bottles or cans onto the bus. Plus, it’s just annoying to have someone else’s empty soda can roll down the middle aisle while you’re trying to take a nap at midnight (yes, this is from personal experience)

The Bathroom (dun dun dun!)

Now, I am talking about the bathroom that’s on board the busses themselves, not the ones at the stations.

I’m just clarifying.

Wait, there are restrooms on board the greyhound busses?

Yes!

But, they are simply just port-a-potties put into the back of bus. They even have the blue toilet water that you normally see in them. The restroom is just a bit bigger than a port-a-potty, with just a toilet, a toilet paper dispenser, and enough room to stand up. That’s it. And the walls are thin, so the entire bus can hear you (to an extent).

And, just as a heads up, the toilet doesn’t flush, so whatever you put in there, it stays in there until the greyhound employees drain it.

TIP #2: Bring hand sanitizer. There is no sink on the bus for you to wash your hands in, and who knows how many people have used it.

TIP #3: DO NOT, and I mean DO NOT, attempt to stand up and pull up your pants in the restroom right as the bus starts to pull away (yes, I’m speaking from experience again). You may yell a four letter expiative that four Mennonites, an elderly woman, and the bus driver you are 100% sure saw clutching a rosary as you were boarding hears it.

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Well, I hope this helps! I can do a part two if this becomes popular!

Remember:

Drink your water

Take the fourteen cups, five spoons, your cereal bowl from two days ago, and a million water bottles down to the kitchen.

And light your favorite candle (within sight and don’t catch anything on fire)

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thoughtsofmine97 · 3 years

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Where is your favorite vacation spot?

Everyone love going on trips, even though it may be on the other side of town or on the other side of the world.

Now, I know....

I know not everyone can afford getting on an airplane, staying in a presidential suite at a 5 star hotel, and do everything there is to do in the area. And, it may not be everyone's cup of tea.

So, I was wondering: What is your favorite vacation spot?

Where is it?

How do you get there?

What is there to do in the area?

Is it more on the expensive side, or is it more accessible to the general public?

Is it somewhere new that you have just started going to in the past few years, or is it somewhere that you or your family have been going to for as long as you can remember?

What do you like about it?

When do you usually go, if you go on a semi-regular basis?

If you want to, leave a comment and say where your favorite vacations spot is. But, please try to refrain from using a popular tourist trap or theme park.

If you can’t/don’t know of another spot, try to make your experience unique. Try explaining the mostly unknown tips or trick of the place that you visit that most people wouldn’t know.

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I hope you all have a great day, night, or what ever it is where you live! Just remember to drink water, take the dishes in your room to the kitchen, and read your favorite book!

#vacation #vacay #favorite #spot #question #what

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thoughtsofmine97 · 3 years

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Hello!

Welcome to my blog!

This blog was made to have some conversations about things that I couldn’t have had with those that I know, but I hope that you can join in the conversation too!

This blog also serves as an advice column!

I will try to post at least once or twice a week to keep this active, but I may post more if something big is happening!

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