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gritting my teeth. I do not need to be the person my parents want me to be. I am allowed to be my own person. I am allowed to disappoint them. I am allowed to choose not to follow their advice. the world will not end if my parents disagree with me about what is best for me and my life

#!!!!! #reminders

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i just want my life to revolve around love and art and passion and making others feel safe and secure and just enjoy living as a whole and i don't think that's too much to ask for tbh

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“We… need to forgive ourselves… for all the things we didn’t do. All the things we should have done. You can’t get stuck on the regrets of what should have happened.”

— Mitch Albom

#forgiveness #healing #quotes

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I cannot stress enough how important it is to do silly, frivolous things that serve no other purpose than making you happy.

#on god

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you can be angry that it happened, no matter how worse off someone has or had it than you. trauma is not one big competition of who’s suffering more, of who’s endured more. we all respond and go through different things in life. your pain is your own and it’s valid.

#trauma

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you ever have a good time laughing with your friends and think this is it. this is actually the point of it all

#yeah man

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go outside and sit in the sun, your problems won't disappear but you might gain a little hope

#self care

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hey

hey friend

dont kill yourself tonight ok

you have a really pretty smile and i know its not always easy to manage one but itd be a bummer if we never had the chance to see it ever again

youre really important and you matter a lot so stay safe and try and have a nice sleep

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I am sure it works for some, but the “you are not a burden” posts don’t help me. What helps me is remember that I am allowed to be a burden.

I put work into being there for loved ones, and I even inconvenience myself for strangers sometimes. I am also allowed to take up that space!

Loving someone often consists of work. But what we need to remember is we’re worth the work and effort! We deserve the work and effort.

#absolutely #reminders

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‪It’s Monday!‬

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yoichi midorigawa / dostoevsky

#quotes

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#tw suicide #suicidal ideation

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Any emotional experience is real and valid, but that doesn't absolve us from working on our behavior. Like getting aggressive and violent in your behavior isn't justified by feeling angry. Stalking people and being accusatory isn't justified by feeling jealous. Manipulation and guilt tripping isn't justified by feeling insecure. There's nothing wrong with feeling your feelings and having emotions, but your actual behavior towards other people is not above criticism

#just because your feelings are valid doesn't mean your behaviour is

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It's absolutely okay to rely on medicine to have a good life!

You are worthy and you deserve a good life, whether that includes medicines that help you enjoy your life or not, it does not determine your worth. Know your rights.

#medication #encouragement

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flowerais

#encouragement

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reiterating tags here bc ive been kicking around this idea more recently and i really like it: if youre someone who struggles w apologizing or saying you fucked up (especially admitting this w/o self flagellation and accidentally centering yourself instead of the person(s) you hurt), please consider literally just saying the words out loud to yourself as practice. recruit a friend if you need to! make up a fake conversation/scenario w no real stakes and roleplay to give your brain and body an excuse to say "i was wrong" and "i'm sorry" without all the high pressure high stakes emotionally intense in the moment stuff. if acting it out still brings up hard emotions for you, i hope it at least gives you a safer place to reckon w those feelings, a means that wouldn't detract from a moment in which you would genuinely need to apologize and be sincere and say you didnt know something or were incorrect about something. i really feel strongly about the importance of doing hard things while taking them out of really difficult circumstances so it becomes easier and more natural for you when you have to act in the moment. it's a skill, you have to learn it, it's okay to practice.

#this is good

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doing your best will look different every day. that doesn’t mean it’s not good enough. it’s good enough.

#encouragement