#SAFE AND SANE

[chaptertwo-thepacnw]

Happy 4th of July, Make it Safe and Sane.

#gif #4th of july #fireworks #make it #safe and sane #tom and jerry #tom cat

[whumpty-dumpty-doo]

#whump #whump community #poll #polls #deedoo original #I'm sure this has been discussed in the community but idk #I haven't found those discussions if they've been had before #I have a few things I wanna put on this blog (tagged so they can be blocked if people want) #but idk if that's like taboo? #I've seen some depictions of “irl whump” on blogs but it always tends to be artsy photography #that's good but like?? what about more amateur stuff #please no hate I literally am just curious #again #SAFE AND SANE #I'm not talking about graphic images of violence. There are things I can see in drawings but can't stomach irl #also no photos of abuse #though I did see an image of a scar from someone getting hit by lightning that was sick af that I wanna reblog

[lets-go-hurt-someone]

The Dark Urge was canonically into necrophilia and cannibalism, right? Which means if they end up with Astarion, even if they’re a redemption Durge, they technically still get to have a bit of cannibalism and necrophilia as a treat. Which is so nice for them tbh.

At its core, Durgestarion really is the wholesome tale of two mentally unwell disaster people discovering the beauty of consent.

We ask before we bite, but we definitely still bite😌

#consensual but not necessarily safe or sane loool #bg3 #astarion #baldur's gate 3 #baldurs gate 3 #dark urge #durge #bg3 dark urge #bg3 durge #durgestarion

[luvaaheee]

again and again

#tears of the kingdom #legend of zelda #totk link #link totk #zelda #zelink #my art #i am so completely sane about them #totk spoilers #spoilers totk #maybe idk wanna be safe

[vaesivlasta]

something, something peak romance

#bg3 #durgetash #neither safe nor sane and idk how much these fucks know about consent #but it's hot #obligatory don't try this at home #or do #i ain't your parent #... id let him stab my hand to something too #dark urge #enver gortash #baldur's gate 3 #and why do i always draw this type of stuff on the couch next to my family?

[novorehere]

Vore is actually the pinnacle of comedy when you include a character acting as the “straight man” who’s wholly disgusted and appalled by the casualness of everyone around them. What do you mean you just got swallowed whole and alive. What do you mean it was “just a misunderstanding.” What do you mean the two of you are going out for brunch tomorrow. What the fuck.

#op #Basically what I’m trying to say is that we need more vore haters #The ‘I am the only sane one in this place’ characters #I almost don’t dare to make the comparison but like #I feel like more stories need a squidward #soft vore #safe vore #extreme cuddling #vore talk

[aspiringobject]

Guys, for real though. If you don't have love or care for your sub and constantly see them as inferior, worthless, or just an object, you need some serious help.

Love and care for each other. Check up on your sub. Make sure everything is consentual. Don't be a fuckin piece of shit.

#dumbification #free use slvt #male violence #men are superior #patriarchy #patriarchy kink #rap3toy #bimbo hypnosis #cnc drugging #degredation kink #fav #i purposely put the worst tags as a wake up call so its on everyones dash #support and love your partners #care for your partners #safe sane consensual

[muchmossymess]

Why is everyone here so obsessed with sex and romance why can't you appreciate the comedic genius of "rivals who fight about parenting to rile the other up to begrudging coparents who bicker like a divorced couple to actually maybe tolerating the other and the insults are now less spiteful and biting to hells first qpr (queerplatonic rivalry) to hells first qpr (queerplatonic relationship)"

#like. gah. there is so so so many interesting ways to take this dynamic and you chose kiss and fuck #i can excuse the aphobia but i draw the line at ooc dynamics (ITS A JOKE A REFERENCE A JOKE I DONT EXCUSE APHOBIA) #sigh #i can excuse all the smut to a point but like. you took the (ONLY) canonically sex repulsed character and made him fuck the dilf #and you didnt even make it an exploration of sexuality with the realisation sex isnt necessary for a relationship #or that its ok to actually hate sex #(when it involves yourself. so long as its safe sane and consensual its not really your business) #ughbkembaalgk ive lost my train of thought i think its late but yeah im just a lil pissy about the casual aphobia #dont even get me started on the blatant stuff ffs #radiostar #radioapple #appleradio #alastor #hazbin hotel #hazbin alastor #moss' madness

[chaptertwo-thepacnw]

Happy 4th of July, Make it Safe and Sane.

#flashing gif #gif #4th of july #firecracker #fireworks #kaboom #make it #safe and sane #2023

[trustymikh]

they were making out :)

#they are both so deranged and evil #both their romnatic and sexial interactions are consensual but in no way sane or safe #ghetsis wants giovanni bleeding on the floor for stealing his plan in pokemas #and у is taking that attitude to the bedroom #mik draws #terribledadshipping #team rocket giovanni #giovanni pokemon #giovanni #rocket leader giovanni #team plasma ghetsis #ghetsis harmonia gropius #ghetsis #pokemon ghetsis #tw bruises #cw bruises #tf blood #cw blood #pokemon #drawing #digital art #digital drawing

[poetry-protest-pornography]

The way that they're talking about consent (in the midst of all the recording and dishonesty) is really interesting and important.

Last week, we had First and Soong doing a lot of roleplaying-- and First asking Soong why he didn't use his safe word if it hurt and Soong saying he liked the pain, and then there was aftercare.

This week, there was the whole really intense kidnapping scene, which required so much planning and discussion. And then later, there was the argument about Soong feeling pressured to perform and faking an orgasm, and First's reaction to that read to me like he was hurt that Soong wasn't honest with him, and shame that his desires were causing Soong stress. And mostly, horror at the idea that Soong wasn't an enthusiastic participant in their sex.

I feel like this is confirmed later, when we have this scene, where Soong uses his words, and First is genuinely distressed about their boundaries. (And in his talk with Zouey at the end, but more on that later)

If you've been with your partner for long enough -- or you're naturally observant/careful to pay attention-- yes, you can pick up on the difference between "into it but getting used to what's happening" and "not into it, this is Not Good", but as First points out later, the line between the two is blurry, and that's why safe words exist. So what Siong is asking for here isn't out of the question, but it isn't something that their relationship could manage at this point; they just don't know each other well enough.

And then, we have Teena and Zouey.

Zouey said he wanted to have sex with Teena, and Teena was a little dubious, but he just got that boyfriend title, and there was no way he wasn't going to take the chance to sleep with Zouey -- the boy is down bad. But, Teena is a smart cookie, and he's also experienced, so he establishes a safe word, rightfully anticipating that it would be a struggle for Zouey to let go and needing to know he was being safe and considerate (and sane and keeping it consensual).

It goes poorly, because Zouey protests, but doesn't use the safe word, so Teena pushes, thinking he's still within established boundaries

But Zouey isn't experienced, and when he gets uncomfortable he doesn't remember to use the word.

(And there was the whole "if we're going to be a couple, we're going to have to do it" bit, which I do believe Teena when he says that he misspoke, because he was so genuine when he said before that they didn't need to have sex, but that's a different post. But, at face value, this idea of "we're already halfway there, we shouldn't stop" is very much about consent and how and why safe words are important.

Discomfort and hesitation are natural parts of sexual experience, especially if it's new, and double especially if it's kinky. Having a word that means "Actually stop now, something's not working/is wrong" is vital to keeping you and your partner safe and feeling good physically and emotionally.)

This conversation with First and Zouey is so important.

They're both struggling with the idea that they've been involved in a sexual situation that veered into abusive, and they both need to hear what happened was actually bad communication.

And then, First wraps it up nicely, when he can see Zouey is struggling a little still.

I'm really impressed by how hard this show is pushing the importance of consent and safe sexual experimentation (especially when these discussions are held up against the not-sure-if-this-is-consensual things that are happening with Many, and with the definitely-not-consensual sex tape Captain made). It's very rare for conversations about sex and kink to be handled so well-- or to be shown at all, really.

Also, Zouey?

Please do, he looks like a kicked puppy.

#playboyy the series #safe sane consensual #consent is sexy

[kakushino]

Farmer's hand thirst thoughts about Gyomei

Because he ain't no boy

Farmhand! Gyomei, who has to duck awkwardly when he enters the room. He's so huge your mouth fell open when you first saw him. He's the beefiest man you've ever seen in your life!

Farmhand! Gyomei, whose one hand could crush your whole head, whose two fingers are enough to fill you up so well and who has to spend an unholy amount of time to prepare you to take him. You have to be shaking from head to toe and babbling, fucked stupid on his fingers before he even allows you to take off his pants (I can see him wearing overalls but not wearing it properly, like the straps and the belly and back cover hanging off - so hot)

Farmhand! Gyomei, whose dick is a weapon of mass destruction and you suddenly know why he spent such a long time preparing you, prying you open with his fingers as if he were trying to open a stubborn barn door open with a crowbar. He sometimes has to use a lubricant even then because "I could hurt you, kitten."

Farmhand! Gyomei, who makes love to you, while at the same time giving you the dicking down of your life, and you have to hang onto him as if your life depended on it, because it kind of does.

Farmhand! Gyomei, who's already given you many orgasms but he unintentionally bullies another and another with his giant dick, apologizing all the while, because "I can't help it- You're so tight-!"

Farmhand! Gyomei, who has to wait until he softens somewhat to pull out, or he'll overstimulate you (again). Cockwarming him is a regular occurrence, especially if he doesn't have any chores in the morning. Why, if he stays in, he doesn't have to prep you again for repeat round(s) in the morning! Smart, and efficient!

Farmhand! Gyomei, who's a huge fan of dry humping, because there's something so hot about the desperation, about both of you creaming in your clothes from being so horny you can't waste another second.

Farmhand! Gyomei, who carries you on one of his arms as if you were a child, your ass/thighs on his forearm, giving you a view from his perspective. It's his favorite way to carry you around, especially when you can't walk after… ya know.

Farmhand! Gyomei, who's the sweetest, showing you the kittens he takes care of and blushes every time you smile at him. His hot work days are spent daydreaming about you, your tight hole and the date he wants to take you on… if you agree, of course. You aren't just a summer fling for him, after all.

#demon slayer #kimetsu no yaiba #himejima gyomei #himejima gyomei x reader #farmhand beefy men have me in a chokehold okay #i need them to choke me safe sane and consensually #desi writing #smut #kakushino

[angeart]

Tips for not getting stressed out from writing, coming to you live from someone who has done this for 18 years and got a degree in it:

- remember that you write for fun. This is the big one. You write because on some level you enjoy it. Sometimes you gotta lasso that abd reel it into your heart and hold it there so it stays.

- keep compliments close at hand. And i do mean this literally. I print out AO3 comments and friends compliments and keep them in a jar to pull them out at random when I need a little brain boost. I keep a folder of screenshots of nice things people have said on my pc.

- accept that not every day is going to work out. Even the best authors have days where the words wont work, days where they wont flow at all. Its okay to take a step back and not worry about it. Refer to my first tip: youre doing this for fun, you dont have to force yourself

- get silly with it. If youre really having a day where you want to write and its not working and its frustrating you but you cant put it down it is TIME for the sillies. Set a tiner. 5, 10 minutes. Write whatever comes to your brain. Fully turn your editor off. I get sentences like "And the doh turned blue and whacked rhe tennis ball with its tail into the bridge". Utter nonsense. It helps to get the wiggles out

- handwriting can also be helpful. I keep several journals, and glitter pens, and fun markers - sometimes doing the task physically instead of digitally helps to get the wriggles out.

- sometimes you have to accept an idea is not working. It takes experience to figure out when this is, but youll get there. Come at ideas from different angles, back out entirely and rewrite older scenes to make new scenes work.

I hope these help you!!!

thankyouuu for sharing these!!! <3

it's true that the positive comments are always a great motivation. maybe i need to start a collection for myself. indulge a little. (shut up the eternally dissatisfied part of my brain-)

i'm honestly struggling to find a balance between knowing i write for fun, and the pressure of it. (they're happening simultaneously, sometimes seemingly too closely intertwined.) but maybe one has more weight than the other, and i have to realise that only one of those should really hold any priority.

i'm very tired now, but i'll be rereading all these again later and letting them settle in gently. thank youu

#ange answers #writing tips #for staying safe and sane

[smallmeanie]

it’s only cause i need some affection / so i creep

#me #bisexual #lgbtq #body posititivity #plus size babe #handcuffs #safe sane consensual

[yeyinde]

I know you plan on doing a Johnny baby trapping but it would be funny if the rest of the 141 were baby trapping their partners and Johnny and his partner actually plan things out with each other.

could you imagine, though. the plot twist is actually that he's wholesome, down-to-earth, and completely well-adjusted. the cabin in the woods? his family vacation home. his dirty secret?? he doesn't pay his property taxes.

#but the set up would be full thriller/horror #Final Girl x Slasher vibes #only to end it w a long conversation about being sane safe and consensual #soap x reader baby trap #cod