#THEN try having a debate

[stardust-falling]

There is never an excuse to not use someone’s preferred name and pronouns. Unless they’re closeted around some people and ask you not to, there is literally no good reason to not just refer to them how they want to be. No one is being protected when you intentionally misgender a trans person, or when you insist on using a deadname— even if you “don’t agree” with the existence of trans people, or think that gender identity shouldn’t be treated the way it is in whatever way. You’re not standing up for yourself and you’re not standing up for others— you’re just being an asshole.

If your friend’s legal name was Katherine, and she told you “please don’t call me Katherine, I have negative associations with that name, call me Kathy instead,” then would you still insist on calling her Katherine because you don’t think it makes sense to use another name, even though you know it causes her significant emotional distress?

Intentionally deadnaming and misgendering someone because “it doesn’t make sense” or “you don’t agree” makes you just as much of an asshole as that. Changing the language you use to refer to someone hurts no one and helps them immensely. Intentionally misgendering someone just makes you look like an asshole and, quite frankly, stupid as well.

If you want to have an actual debate about the ethics of trans healthcare or whatever, the least you can do is actually respect your opponents. Fundamentally, respect for one another is key to proper debating. But no, you don’t want a debate, you just want to beat people down.

#caught a glimpse of some terf bs #like #ffs you can argue all you want about things you feel are genuinely a threat to your safety #like I get that!! a lot of those thoughts and fears are coming from trauma!! #and it’s not easy to unlearn! #I would be a lot more sympathetic though if there wasn’t the constant use of dehumanizing language and blatant lack of care #but well that’s just how it is #anyway even if there WAS a legitimate concern #refusing to refer to someone the way they’re comfortable with doesn’t have anything to do with it #even if there IS concern to be had over puberty blockers/HRT for minors/etc #misgendering a trans kid isn’t protecting them #even if said kid DOES decide they’re cis later on doesn’t make it okay to refuse to acknowledge their current identity #and if you want to claim you speak for/care about those you see in your mind as ‘women’ (afab people overall) #then DON’T FURTHER ENDANGER TRANS MEN BY CALLING THEM WOMEN/BEHAVING THE SAME WAY AS THE ABUSIVE #TRANSPHOBIC FAMILY MEMBERS OR PEERS WHO DRIVE TRANS MEN TO SUICIDE!!! #respect people’s right to self determination #learn to treat trans people with respect (by referring to them the way they ask you to at the minimum) #THEN try having a debate #but it IS NOT A DEBATE if you’re just punching down #transgender #transphobia

[ps1demodisk]

Sorry I'm not low empathy autistic in the "mysterious loner boy who secretly cares about his friends and talks in a monotone voice" way and I'm actually just completely indifferent to the suffering of people I don't know personally and help strangers out of a sense of "this is the right thing to do" and not "I feel so bad for this person" or guilt.

I sit and listen to my friends even though I don't really care about hearing about their problems because I know they'll be upset if I don't, and despite the fact I honestly can't genuinely care about the issue itself, I care about the impact it's having on my friends and that's enough to make me want to help them through it.

Did you know that's actually an expression of empathy all of its own?

It will absolutely happen again I literally am not even sorry

#actually autistic #low empathy #low empathy autistic #seriously #personal rant #serious post #the first part isn't a dig at people with high empathy or regular empathy btw #i know it reads like that #but i don't have alternative wording #you can't just say #support all autistic people #then turn your back on people who's presentation of autism you dislike #you're just as ableist as any other bigot #and I mean that #don't try to debate me on this post I'll actually bite you

[feathers-silly-rambles]

OH!!! OH!!!

DO YOU SEE THIS??

DO YOU SEE IT??

SHE'S TOUCHING HIS SHOULDER!!

Oh mah gawd. He doesn't let anyone touch him unless they're his friends.

If they aren't his friends, he'll either lean away or wipe off his hand. He hates being touched if he's not the one initiating it, to the point of wiping his sleeve off when Lucifer's hat just BARELY grazed against it.

He didn't wipe his shoulder off when Charlie stopped touching him either.

AND!!!

And!!!

Before You Say 'He did lean away', or 'She wasnt actually touching him, her hand was just near him', Take A Look At This!!

Look closely at how he moves when she splits them up. He doesn't lean away, she SHOVED him. She actively MOVED him. That wasn't an 'oh she's making contact with me, guess I should lean away', it was a 'well she's shoving me now, I'll shut up for a minute'.

Which also proves she WAS touching him. She couldn't have shoved him if she wasn't making contact.

He didn't lean away from it, he didn't retaliate. The ONLY people he lets touch him are people he cares for. And not only did she put her hand on his shoulder, she actively pushed him back, and he showed no sign of discomfort towards it. So why am I screaming about this?

Because he DOES care! It proves he cares for her. Don't get me wrong, I still think saying he's her 'dad' is a bit of a strech, but he does care enough to let her touch him. He doesn't dislike or even have a neutral opinion on her. She's his friend, even if just a little bit.

Just an edit to clarify; I know 'friends' is probably also not the best word to use, but it's just the easiest way for me to describe it.

#hazbin hotel #alastor #hazbin hotel alastor #lucifer #hazbin hotel lucifer #charlie #hazbin hotel charlie #feathers rambling #screenshots #please debate with me if you don't think this is right #the best way to see if my theory is solid is if people try to poke holes in it #spoilers #episode 5 #hazbin hotel spoilers #you have no idea how much trouble gave me about this post #for some reason it wouldn't let me post it from the app if I added the photos #So I had to go on the website and fight with it there #and go back and forth because I could properly position the images on the website #A big pain #:.)

[b4kuch1n]

study of this masterwork

#wayneradiotv #rtvs #sonic the hedgehog #after '''''typesetting'''''''' this thing I almost forgot how to spell hedgehog #the caption is fully unironic btw this is for educational purpose. its very fun to draft a comic from an existing ''thumbnail'' it turns ou #but also I just love comics dude. I just love sequential art its so cool to see how anyone arranges things in their own comic #like. wayne's sprite on top of the ''what!!'' speech bubble. really fucking good #little bit sad I couldnt catch the streams live even tho they did run in my timezone... bc Im bad at sleepin #but! Im gonna try and set an alarm this weekend. wanna hang out for a bit #also yeah all dialogue in this is accurate to the original. no use fixing whats perfect as they say #debated printing this out and scuffing the paper with eraser and then re-scan it. for authenticity. but Im tired and dinner soon so #sorry cosme my friend cosme I couldnt commit. I couldnt do it.... #anyways yeah. I dinner now #have a good day lads! what u see truly is what u get

[yukipri]

I miss him...

(Mayday)

~~

This art is a reupload of an art I drew last year! BUT this version has been Gl*zed and N*ghtshaded! Reblog to spread the anti-A*I poison

PLEASE DO NOT REUPLOAD, EDIT, TRANSLATE, OR OTHERWISE USE MY ART. To share, please reblog! Reblogs and comments greatly appreciated!!!

❀ You can see the rest of my art through the Masterpost pinned to the top of my blog!

#YukiPri art #artists on tumblr #commander mayday #the bad batch #tbb #spoilers #tbb spoilers #clone troopers #star wars #fanart #Artist comment: debated just reblogging the old art BUT I've been trying to make a conscious effort to gl*ze/n*ghtshade more #and in order to remotely make a dent I should probably reupload all of my old art #so you may see some of my old art again but if u see the lil comment thing #know that it's been updated #it took me almost 2 hours to gl*ze + n*ghtshade this one image #and I know not all folks have the computer power to run them #so i'm doing my best to contribute ;_;

[mangofanarts]

This happened yesterday, except for the hug part - but I would like to imagine they did because that would be sweet

#qsmp #badboyhalo #qsmp pomme #qsmp fanarts #mmangoarts #I was debating leaving it uncolored because the simple style might have looked better #but I decided ehhhh I should try and see how it looks colored

[arttitude130]

disco in my brain

#disco elysium #de skills #harry du bois #kim kitsuragi #my magnum oppa style #rhetoric and logic are having a heated debate while encyclopedia moderates #endurance is trying to comfort pain threshold but blaims all his problems on wo men #(authority agrees) #perception is just describing things to hand/eye #empathy is trying to comfort half light but composure is judgemental #visual calculus is just talking to himself bc i didnt know how else to include it sorry vis #and i think the rest are self explanatory #but i may post individual/larger pics of them later

[thebrainrotsreal]

EVIL MARK, EVIL MARK, EVIL MARK!!! I want to be coherent about this season but please picture me foaming at the mouth and running on the walls. S2 being what if Mark's just like his Dad? Insanity. I love this show. Anyways, AU where an Evil!Mark tries to make Our!Mark worse, and Our!Mark tries to make the other better. Something something confronting your idea of the worst version of oneself. Plus, tweaked black and yellow costume because I saw it and immediately went murder hornet lookin' ass and knew I had to draw it. Evil ass Mark. Horrible. I think he should be dragged kicking and screaming into redemption.

#mark and the fact he is fighting for this fucking life to avoid the Many Bad Endings???? im pacing. getting out the red string. #when the season is about who you are and what you could become. when trying to be good is an active choice and a struggle. #RAHHHHHHHHHHH #chewing on the bars of my enclosure...when every mark is evil OUR mark is the outlier. the exception. the OTHER. RAHHHH #dog poetry being mark poetry because how often can you kick a dog before it starts snarling before you raise your hand? #how often can you beat it before it rips into you without mercy? when it bites not at your hand but at your neck? #when does violence for survival and violence for vengeance start and end? when your opponent is down and you keep drawing blood? #circling and pacing and losing my mind over this btw if you care #anyways self vs self gets me going crazy. did you know i loved the end of atsv? because it shows. #i think o!mark would lose his fucking mind at what evil wasp looking mark has done + this mf wasp would LOATHE mark's kindness #they both see the other as the WORST version of themselves and they can't stand it. They can't shatter the mirror but they think they can-- #--change the reflection. #evil mark seeing mark and seeing what he USED to be #mark seeing what he COULD be #CAN U SEE THE VISION?????? #digital art #invincible rotating in my mind #invincible fanart #fanart #mark my beloved #mark grayson fanart #mark grayson #invincible s2 #invincible show #mark like hello this is my secret twin and he is NOTHING like me hahahaha anyways wanna debate about having mORALS and LIFE #mark grayson vs the urge not to accept every responsibility as his own #he's batman coded that way #ok im done yapping #if this happened in the comics in any way shape or form dont tell me JACK SHIT or i will PUMMEL YOU with my SHOES

[nenyunavi]

Wer geboren werden will, muß eine Welt zerstören.

#limbus company #limbus posting #limbus #sinclair lcb #emil sinclair #sinclair limbus #fanart #lcb #project moon #sinclair #care for some sinclair fanart in these trying times #i was debating on posting it but ultimately am here now #i spend like 4 days on it + i have a timelapse of me drawing it #idk what else to tag this other than i hope everything will be ok orz #demian #kromer #franz kromer #max demian

[notemaker]

A friend sent me a winter story about frozen spiderwebs, and thought it would be a really cool design to add to jack. With his gangly limbs, he's kind of a Winter Spider himself.

#will I ever get tired of drawing him? #hmmmmm #debatable #more news on five #so im trying to develop my art style. well. not my art style as much as my art progress in general #but my art style still plays a role as well as the way I want it to become. There are many different styles to have #though. but yeah #jack frost #jack frost rise of the guardians #jack frost rotg #rotg jack frost #jack frost fanart #rotg #rotg fanart #rise of the guardians #rise of the guardians fanart #winter #Old man winter #my art #art post

[fallowtail]

“So, how did you end up here?” “Well, I fell in love with a white girl with a cute, cute butt and then she inherited a haunted house and then….”

My @cbsghostsdaily Spooky Gift Exchange gift for @alexisrosemullens !! 👻

#cbs ghosts #ghosts cbs #cbsghostsdaily #ghostsgiftexchange #alexisrosemullens #samantha arondekar #jay arondekar #i hope you like this! #the choice was between jam and nisaac for couple-stuff and there is like NO content of Sam and Jay so I have come to deliver!!! <3 #I think ours ghosts would be very upset about how I've chosen to depict them here LMFAO #debating printing this as a print or a sticker tbh #I chose their s1 finale outfits because I love the way they match :] #Yes I went insane trying to hand draw the pattern on Sam's sweater no I don't regret it yes I do question my choice to do so #mine

[canisalbus]

Would Machete and Vasco classify as twinks? For Machete I am pretty sure he would, I don't know about Vasco though. So very sorry for this question btw but I can't stop thinking about it.

To be entirely honest I'm not sure, I think the term is pretty subjective. I generally try to avoid putting too many labels on them, they start to feel so oppressive so fast.

#for example one of the qualifications is relatively young age #both of them are in their thirties so you could potentially argue they might be past that prime twink era #or not depends on who you ask #and the ideal 'twink body shape' is also up for debate because you're supposed to be slim but not too bony #Vasco might have too much muscle and Machete too little or they could both fit the definition I dunno #I don't mind either way but I probably won't assign categories for them myself #not trying to act holier than thou it just doesn't seem necessary eh #answered #anonymous

[woopstarz]

its the league club man

#lacey #drayton #crispin #kieran #amarys #pokemon #i like to think these mfs have the weirdest conversations #like one of them says a rlly random shower thought and then it leads to a very heated debate over like cereal #amarys trying to play the role of sane man but shes up against 4 insane kids #they are so funny to me. silly little drama club

[messiahzzz]

When I came across that "joke" from Tav to Quill and Z'rell's comment (plus Halsin), I had to take a minute to process what happened. Gale might be a bit silly and eccentric but he's the kindest, sweetest and most passionate character in that party. No wonder the poor man has deep insecurities to solve, so many people reduce him to an easy target! Ofc one of the side effects would be overconfidence and ambition as a defense mechanism. He's obv lonely; only Tara and Morena ever loved him for him.

his eccentric nature might be a part of it. he is loquacious, outgoing, and doesn’t see the point in hiding his enthusiasm. he is considered to be the weird one. naturally, wizards in general being seen as somewhat squishy and physically weak might also add to it.

personally, i really don’t like the implications of the (widely considered) autistic-coded character being the one who faces the most ridicule by far by other characters and fans (and larian) alike.

some might disagree with me on that, but i don’t find it funny by any means either. mostly it just makes me feel bad. “he deserves it. cocky, arrogant, hubris-ridden wizard needs to be taken down a peg” like he isn’t… y’know… already at his lowest. it also disregards the fact that much of his bravado is part of his carefully curated Great Wizard of Waterdeep™ persona that he has skillfully adopted to mask his general feeling of being defective. being fiercely proud of your skill and knowledge and being doubtful of having something truly worthwhile to offer are mindsets that can coexist. according to fandom, gale is either secret hubris incarnate that is only waiting to be unleashed upon the world or pure baby that can do no wrong. instead of a character that is just as flawed and traumatized as all the others, but no less deserving of genuine love.

to me, the constant ridicule just reads as further feeding into his deep-rooted insecurities and his belief that he (as gale, the person) isn’t someone who holds inherent worth. it really, really doesn’t sit well with me.

#gale dekarios #gale of waterdeep #bg3 #baldurs gate 3 #but then again i believe that fandom still has a hard time grasping his character as a whole #we always talk about wanting complex and complicated characters that contain multitudes #but once we get them we don’t know what to do with them #and proceed to try our hardest to reduce them to a few select traits #gale is a kind and good-hearted person. that is not up for debate. #anyway gale deserves people around him who respect and cherish him and are genuinely supportive #protect that wizard and shower him in all the adoration. he needs it. #and i get you anon!!! i also really wish we could call out our companions & npcs #my tav would always keep a spray bottle on hand just in case #someone is being mean to gale again? [pssssht pssshhht] u stop that right this instant #on that note i also don’t like the undertone tav has when they have the option to talk about gale to other parties #what’s with the hesitancy and the derisive undercurrent??? #am i supposed to pretend that my tav wouldn’t turn into the personification of the will smith meme whenever they had the option to #talk about their bf/husband???? lies and slander #larian critical #it speaks

[watcherscrown]

a real conversation i had at work this week

me: Library reference desk, how can I help you? man: HOW DO I IDENTIFY AN ARTIFACT me: um. what kind of artifact? man: I FOUND IT ON THE SIDEWALK me: have you tried uploading it to any websites, to see if any experts recognize it? man: I DON'T USE THE INTERNET. I ONLY HAVE THIS PHONE THAT I'M TALKING ON RIGHT NOW me: okay! so- man, interuppting: I FOUND THIS ON THE GROUND AND I THINK I KNOW WHAT IT IS, BUT I DON'T KNOW WHAT IT *IS*, YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN? me: I think so. So, we don't really have anyone here with that kind of expertise, but have you tried calling the main library? Someone in archives or special collections might- man: THEY'RE ALWAYS CLOSED me: I assure you they are not man:... man: WHEN I WAS A KID AND I WENT TO THE LIBRARY, THE LIBRARIANS WERE VERY KNOWLEDGABLE AND EDUCATED me: I'm- man: WHAT HAPPENED me: excuse me? man: ARE YOU EDUCATED. I MEAN, DO YOU HAVE A COLLEGE DEGREE me: I do :) man: DO YOU KNOW WHAT THE GALAPAGOS ISLANDS ARE? me: Yes, I do. man: DO YOU KNOW WHAT A "KIMONO DRAGON" IS me: Yes, I know what a Komodo dragon is. man: DO YOU KNOW WHAT HAPPENED WITH THE GALAPAGOS IN WORLD WAR TWO me: sir, I have to assist another patron, do you mind if I put you on hold? *line goes dead*

#op #libraries #librarian things #'other duties as assigned' #i was SO chipper #like a bubbly unbreakable brick wall #he accidentally stumbled his way right into the special interest zone and almost got the convo turned back around on him #i was almost like 'DID YOU KNOW SCIENTISTS DEBATE WHETHER OR NOT KOMODO DRAGONS ARE VENOMOUS OR SIMPLY FULL OF BACTERIA?' #'DID YOU KNOW THEIR SALIVA IS A POTENT BLOOD-THINNER?' #I honestly should have but i was GENUINELY trying to escape and help someone else

[tokiro07]

Love triangle?

I prefer love molecules

...Wait, is that why they're called polycules???

#undead unluck #fouryearsandananime #fuuko izumo #undead andy #unruin ruin #gina chamber #sean datz #feng kowloon #julia u stitia #uu spoilers #i strongly debated whether to link julia to andy but that will depend on their dynamic when they meet i think #i don't want to just assume that juiz and victor will translate like that #i also probably could have made this a lot prettier but i was trying to throw it together before bed and it ended up taking like a half hou #cus the wiki didn't have good icon images for sean ruin or julia #had to find and resize them myself