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sionainnthewise · 2 months

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abuse recovery

abuse is horrid at what it does to the mind. we can be in the thick of it and struggling to understand why it's happening but entirely blame ourselves. like we aren't good enough or worthy enough of decent fucking treatment. breaking free of it takes courage. and learning to love and be loved again takes courage. there are so many wonderful people on this planet who can absolutely love a formerly abused/recovering person the way they deserve to be loved. and formerly abused/recovering people have SO MUCH LOVE to give. but recovery is a mind-body-spirit thing. you have to feel safe, comfortable, and protected to be open, heal, and connect again in meaningful ways.

btw, recovery is also a mental journey of self-understanding. relearning what kind of behavior is okay and what isn't. recognizing that YOU DIDN'T DESERVE THAT BULLSHIT, and what they did to you was NOT okay is part of that. you always deserved better.

what's agonizing is that even though we know all these things and we want to believe them, we can still set ourselves up for failure in future relationships. recovering hearts are prone to self-sabotage, especially in beautiful and loving relationship(s). its like, it wasn't enough that the abuser fucked us up in that relationship, it has to stick to us like superglue.

my darling ones, you deserve better. it is okay to believe that.

if you have moved on, remember: the person/people you are with now aren't the people who hurt you, used you, manipulated you, or tried to destroy you. give yourself space to shed off those slimy layers of toxicity and learn what love REALLY looks like. be patient with yourself. recognize your fight/flight responses in relationships. be open. be honest. find people to support you. as formerly abused people, we have to UNLEARN relationship norms and RELEARN them. this can be any kind of relationship, not just romantic. i can't stress this point enough.

for the fantastic people who love formerly abused and recovering people, thank you for being patient with them as they learn to accept what everyone else knows as normal fucking behavior as the norm. when they ask for assurance a zillion times because they were used to being gaslit and mentally tortured, please don't hold it against them. when they need more time or comfort or hugs or space, it isn't you. trust me, they know you have them. it just takes time. healing takes time.

together we can get through this.

#abusesucks #afterabuse #abuserecovery #findingloveagain #itsokaytobefuckingupset #recovery #love #relationships #adviceforreallife #peoplelovingpeople #formerlyabused #trauma

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millionairelovez · 5 months

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mde-creative-video · 8 months

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Finding Love Again - The Unwavering Commitment

#youtube #MdeCreativeVideo #MadeTunes #ThePowerOfFaith #FindingLoveAgain #TheUnwaveringCommitment #Thehealingpoweroftime #wisdom #wisdoms #sweetstories #AncientPhilosophy #Philosophy #wisdomquotes #greatminds #heartwarming #heartwarmingstories #Motivation #MotivationalVideos

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theloulouge · 10 months

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Life Lens - Day 02

I’ve had my share of heartbreaks, two to be exact, with my first boyfriend and the most recent one. I won’t sugarcoat it, it was tough. The pain was real and at times, it felt like it would never end. But here’s what I’ve learned from these experiences: Heartbreak, as devastating as it can be, does not define my future. Each heartbreak taught me something new about myself, about love, and about…

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#BelieveInLove #FindingLoveAgain #HealingJourney #HeartbreakHealing #lifelens #LoveAfterHeartbreak #LoveIsOutThere #LoveLessons #MovingOn #PersonalGrowth #SelfGrowth #theloulouge

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soulreflectiontarot · 1 year

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Love is in the air! Today’s cards are from The Soul Reflection’s Twin Flame Oracle Cards by Nadine Swiger. Please take only what resonates and leave the rest! . A reunion with a loved one is on it’s way. Try to not control the outcome of your visit, but allow things to unfold and flow naturally. Concentrate on being present in the moment as you enjoy your time together. Allow yourself to give and receive love. (This can take on many forms of love - friendships, lovers, family, etc… place it where it fits in your situation) . . . #oracleoftheday #oraclelovereading #reunionwithlovedones #loveisintheair #happyandloved #loveiscoming #feelthelove❤️ #giveandrecievelove #lovingconnection #lovingreunion #lovereading #twinflamereading #twinflamelove #soulmate #soulmatelove #findingloveagain #findinglove #starsoulmate #starfamilyreunion #loveiscoming #twinflame #kindredspirits #soulreflectionoraclecards #nadineswiger #twinflameoracle #soulreflectionoracle https://www.instagram.com/p/CoVCATYu77G/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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drmarr · 2 years

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“I suck at dating,” is what I thought when I first started dating… I am a serial monogamist - went from a 5 year relationship to another 5 year, to 6, etc… no dating in between. So by the time I started dating, I didn’t really know what to do 😆 At 32, I had literally never been on ONE casual date. (Talk about overthinking!) UNfortunately, this lead me to think I had to be flexible in my approach to getting to know people as I “wasn’t sure what I was doing…”. This lead me to give people more chances, when in reality, they were signs to close the door (immediately 😆). And at my core I knew that, but I still questioned myself. This was new territory. “Maybe this is what dating is like?”, I thought. FORTUNATELY, I learned quite quickly, that if you don’t like how the situation is making you FEEL, THAT is all that matters. THAT is what you listen to, and THAT takes top priority. This is the power of an anchor statement. The moment I started owning this, making it my philosophy, making it the only thing that mattered (above and beyond all excuses or justifications for behavior and feelings), is the exact moment I started to trust in love, feel whole, and feel hopeful. You don’t need to make excuses for behavior that doesn’t align with your needs. What you want exists (and you deserve it). #KnowThis #dating101 #datingadvice #newtodating #thedatingworld #findinglove #findingloveagain #anchorstatements #isuckatdating #firstdate #firstdates #dating #truetoyourself #selflove #selftrust #serialmonogamist #breakup #breakuprecovery #trustyourself #respectyourboundaries #healthydating #learninghowtodateagain #relationshipcoach #relationshipadvice #meaningfullove #meaningfulrelationships #loveyourlove #lovelove #youdeservelove #startingagain https://www.instagram.com/p/CcnW2qnOKYZ/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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heleftnowwhat · 2 years

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Doggy Guests #67, #68, #69 plus more

I have really lost track of time. I haven’t written a post since early February! Its been a very busy 2 months! Here’s is an update. First, the doggy guests; Rudy came back for 4 nights in February. Roxy and Chloe also stayed for 2 nights in February ‘ Rudy was here again, all of last week On the Art/Photography front, things have been busy! Since February, 3 more of my photos and 1 of my…

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#Acrylicpainting #dating #datingafterdivorce #dogboarding #doggydaycare #dogs #findingloveagain #Lifeafter50 #lifeafterdivorce #LynnesDoggyBnB #Midlife #newrelationship #Paintpouring #photography

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melancholyinlove-blog · 6 years

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A water lily is said to symbolise love and life. Even if they dry up, they return to the waterways after it rains and this is why they also symbolise optimism and rebirth.

Today, it’s normal to almost fall in love. Sometimes it hurts, but how can it when it’s only almost a something but not quite there yet? That is the melancholy in love. And like a water lily, I keep coming back to the waterways searching for a ��something’ but still finding ‘almost’.

#relationships #totga #goodbye #findingloveagain #unsentletters #letterstohim #lettersiwillneversend #healing #love #lovingyourself #waterlily #rebirth #optimism #melancholy

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loveatlastkw · 3 years

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For those of you starting over...it’s never too late!😍 💓 Always on the search for amazing people for our clients! DM me for details or visit singleinthecity.ca 💓 #relationshipgoals #findingloveagain #nevergiveup #matchmaking #findingyoulove (at Kitchener, Ontario) https://www.instagram.com/p/CORMOiVAp4V/?igshid=eeuth13yk3or

#relationshipgoals #findingloveagain #nevergiveup #matchmaking #findingyoulove

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millionairelovez · 5 months

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I'm looking for someone who can match my energy and be able to grow together, any one interested a dating link on bio join now today.! CLICK HERE

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jaimepintojr · 6 years

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iba na to... hahaha 🤪🤪🤪 #findingloveagain #asapamore #mema #kunganuanolang #feelingcrazy

#findingloveagain #mema #feelingcrazy #asapamore #kunganuanolang

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jabberedthoughts · 4 years

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Instagram Post Fan Post by @sachin_dahal | Like Comment Share Follow Us on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram. DM us your queries, suggestions and wonder works to get featured with credits. Tags: #snippet #snippets #snippetroll #rant #findingnewlove #findinglove #findingloveagain #moveon #loveislife #jabberedthoughts #jibberjabbar #randomthoughtsbyaj https://www.instagram.com/p/CEyDxPNFi8o/?igshid=7f0p2g2nb2c5

#snippet #snippets #snippetroll #rant #findingnewlove #findinglove #findingloveagain #moveon #loveislife #jabberedthoughts #jibberjabbar #randomthoughtsbyaj

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megpie · 5 years

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Day 2: #30daysofgratitude . I'm incredibly grateful for this man. 🖤 . “Life is about change, sometimes it’s painful, sometimes it’s beautiful, but most of the time it’s both.” — Kristin Kreuk. . I've spent a lot of time over the past few years, making a big effort to keep my circle small, keep people at a distance, in an effort to build a layer of safety, after some pretty unpredictable years of life. . Then, this guy. Somehow he found me, at just the right time, and is just the right person to know how to get past all those walls I'd built up. Change can be difficult for me... But I'm ready for some good changes, finally. . He's amazingly patient, and I'm amazingly thankful to have met him... 💛 . #embracingchange #findingmeaning #findingjoy #lovethelifeyouhave #findingloveagain #butyoudontlooksick #chronicallyill #thankfulfor #thankfulness #thankfulAF #thankfulforyou #gratitudechallenge #novemberchallenge #gratitude30 (at Terrace Heights, Washington) https://www.instagram.com/p/B4ZIwd1lkb9/?igshid=qweo21yxf61b

#30daysofgratitude #embracingchange #findingmeaning #findingjoy #lovethelifeyouhave #findingloveagain #butyoudontlooksick #chronicallyill #thankfulfor #thankfulness #thankfulaf #thankfulforyou #gratitudechallenge #novemberchallenge #gratitude30

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knithappylady · 7 years

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Strange Feeling Today

I remember the morning of Sept. 11, 2001 very clearly -- brilliant blue skys, warm temps, yet everything was surreal. A horrible tragedy had befallen our nation. Thousands of people who left home that morning were no more, victims of senseless violence. My kids were at school and my husband was traveling for business. I called him and begged him to come home. I was scared. I felt very alone and vulnerable. He was not understanding and did not give me what I needed - stability, comfort, love, protection. My marriage was over and three months later my husband told me he didn’t love me anymore and I filed for divorce. Today, another great tragedy has occurred - a lone gunman with a cache of automatic weapons opened fire on concertgoers in Las Vegas. From his perch high above in a hotel room, these innocent people were sitting ducks, unable to take cover or protect themselves in any way as he fired over and over again until he took his own life. The feeling I have harkens back to Sept. 11. But now, not only are my children grown and living elsewhere, but my father is gone and my mother lives in a long-term care facility. The man I devoted my life to walked out on me three months ago and I am very alone, vulnerable. I still need stability, comfort, and protection. How strange to find myself back in the same place 16 years later. I thought with my now ex-boyfriend I had found the love of my life. I never thought that he would break my heart and hurt me. It was a total shock. Now, I find out that he has enormous anger toward me -- all over stupid shit. Having no ability to express himself in a healthy way and consistently keeping things inside until he burst, our relationship came crashing down. As I reflect on my life, I see that I’ve made a series of bad mistakes. I’ve stayed with men long after I realized they were bad for me and didn’t value me. I’ve learned now after being completely on my own for the last three months that the most important relationship we can have is with ourselves. After being told repeatedly by my ex that I’m a horrible person, I can honestly say that I am flawed. I make mistakes. I don’t always choose the right path. But I love myself in spite of all that. I have many great attributes -- honestly, loyalty, ability to love with my whole heart, compassion, kindness, and willingness to forgive -- and I deserve to be valued and loved. I spent the day yesterday just doing my own thing by myself and I had a great day. I know I’m going to be just fine. Would I like to share my life with someone? A resounding YES! I don’t know if that will ever happen, but if it does, he will value me, love me, and like the person I am, because I’m pretty damn special!

#9/11 #lasvegasshooting #findingloveagain #relationships #imworthit

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jaywfoster · 5 years

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Transformation is realization. There's a way we can train our minds toward peace. The key involves letting go of all that's false about us. 🔑 🛩️

#freeyourmindfriday #anxietyfighter #minds #findingloveagain #resourceful #transformation

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pratibha-r-dh · 6 years

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'You' ~ Pratibha R DH When my steps are shaky When the world is grey When my feet tremble And my balance is unstable You are that golden light to me You ease my pain and uplift me, You instill firm faith in me You restore that confidence in me I am the luckiest I am the strongest I am the wisest I am the most tenacious All because of you Your love so selfless, so true Hope somewhere, I have tried too To be the same to You 🎄🎄🎄🎁 🎂💫✨💥🎉🎊💞 🌳🌴🌵🌸🌻💐🌾🌿🍁🍃🌹🌷🌻 🌱 #happyvalentinesday #valentinesdayiscoming #happyvalentinesday2018 #valentinepost #valentinepost #bemyvalentino #bemyvalentines #bemine #valentinepoetry #valentinemagic #valentinefeels #valentinefeelings #valentineforyou #everlastingloveforever #findingloveagain #romanticpoetry #love #lovequotes #lovequotesforhim #lovepoemsofinstagram #lovequotesforher #iloveyou #lovepoems #lovepoems4u #poems #couples #romanticpoem #romance #romancelovers #romamcenovels #chicklits #coupleinlove #lovecouple #repost

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