GIVE ME LUCK
My final exams are starting in... 3 hours? and end on the 17th
need all the luck you wonderful people can give me <3333
thank youuuu, my grades appreciate it-
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<3 being gentle w myself because the unbearable suffering i experience is out of my control and it's better to be gentle than to be suffering and cruel <3
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ngl this is literally the worst week for the Anthesteria to fall on and I'm not sure how I'll pull it off. Might have to push it to this weekend because there's no way.
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ok i just need to get through this exam even if it kills me
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uaghhhh i really need to talk to someone about my life situation but i can’t afford therapy !!! and i have no friends !!! and i can’t talk to my family because it will stress them out !!!
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this week is deadset on kicking me while I'm down huh
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what's up i'm back from the dead just in time to procrastinate studying for my final exam this semester!
i just realized that cc3 comes out in less than two months so i need to finish my manorian cc3 crossover fic asap before sjm crushes all my hopes and dreams by not making them appear in the book:( stay clowning guys<3<3<3
you might get a fic tonight, might not, we'll see;)
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me n sy r off to get run over so we can rest up in comas for a while, anyone else up to join?
@arakhnee
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i wanna take a nap so bad but i can’t bc i have two homework assignments to do that are due at 11:59 tonight
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Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".
Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"
And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".
Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.
At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.
So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!
Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!
Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!
Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.
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iv been super art blocked (mental illness and school is kicking my ASS rn) so i might post some like. Unfinished art or old sketches or whatever!!! i swear i’ve been trying to work on my garden au but im jus super burnt out with everything lol
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Gideon Nav terrible fashion sense is so important to me babygirl has never been free to dress herself in her LIFE and i firmly believe that if she did have that freedom she would wear just. the most dogshit outfits. socks with slides. neon colors. shirts that say TITS with an arrow pointing down. outfits so bad every woman she meets is begging to take her on a department store makeover episode. outfits so bad you wonder if she got dressed in the dark upside down picking her clothing items by chaos potential. outfits so bad they wrap around to being sick as hell before winding back and punching you straight in the face
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I feel so drained from everything I’ve been through this year I just want it all to stop
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