Are you too Facing any of these common teenage problems?
Now, if you are reading this, you may be a parent looking for details about what can be done for a child or a teenager trying to understand what the hell is wrong!!! Well, don't worry. Let's talk.
To remind you, teenage is a phase of transition from childhood to adulthood, and when there's something new, the new brings new problems; to be honest, the more you avoid them, the more they will mess with you. So, let's have a look at some common teenage problems first.
ANGER ISSUES
So, has this scenario happened anytime at home, that the young one has shouted at mom, or maybe has thrown cups, forks, and whatever has come to hand in the house, and the surprise is this has happened the first time or many times? Well, don't worry; it is a usual occurrence which happens.
Generally, if this happens, the child wants your attention and care, which hasn't been enough in the past. But that may not be the only reason; sometimes psychological problems like BPD (borderline personality disorder) and bipolar disorder and many such factors can be a cause. But wait, hold on, don't consider that you might be dealing with these problems after reading this. We would suggest researching a bit about it and then concluding.
SO, WHAT TO DO?
For Our Champ:
Bro (regardless of who you are), hold on; we know that you get sudden anger and you want what you want and may start doing in the flow, but that won't help you; instead, you may end up getting punished or maybe two beatings but not what you want for sure. We know sometimes you won't be able to control this feeling, but you can try to try that your actions don't hurt anyone or cause problems because if you don't, they will not solve your current issues but increase problems for you.
See, although you might not believe it, your parents can be your most significant support if you learn to discuss things with them. Again, you may think of them as enemies, but trust me, they are one of those in this world who want the best for you. So sure, get angry at them; they are your loved ones but do it in such a way where you properly tell them what you want and why you are mad, and if everything goes well, there are a lot of chances you may get your PS5 or the money for going out with friends.
For our parents:
See, your child is growing, getting exposed to new things, new people, new ideas, new worlds, and also new hormones. They will start forming new ideas and thoughts of their own, and you need to understand. If a young man or lady comes and tells you something which you don't like and you don't want them to do,
attacking them with a NO! without listening to their side won't work.
Forcing them not to do it won't work.
Telling them to only do with reasoning won't work.
What you need to do is now,
You need to tell them why you are saying no; reasoning will now be critical, as if they don't know why you are saying no, and if they don't know the consequences, they will do it regardless of what you say and don't want that. Explaining your side would work out well most times.
On the other side, there might be thousand other reasons they may get angry; UNDERSTAND THEM. Try to find the WHY, and check what can be done accordingly.
For example, if your buddy wants you to check out his drawing and you ignore it knowingly or unknowingly, it may not turn out well over time.
This is now a new phase in a relationship and would need efforts from your side and excuses like you have loads of work, won't work, and don't want extreme resentment from your child. Also, a tip can be, instead of investigating like a bond, a good talk may help your child.
DATING ISSUES
Well, as Indians, we are not that open to our young people dating or 'being in a relationship' is what they call in rural India, and on top, we have some aunties or uncles around who are unhired informants. Well, to tell you, dating will be a new space teenagers get in, and if, as parents, you keep imposing unnecessary restrictions, well, you are damaging the communication line, that's it.
Now, due to hormones and other changes, our striplings start having feelings for people around, which are romantic ones. You have to understand that the conditions are new here and don't panic; you will eventually learn what can be done. Regardless, if you are a child or parent, you don't want to mess up things, get to know the wrong things, and do something stupid.
SO, WHAT TO DO
For our Amigo:
So, do you like someone? That's fine, but we would want you not to do anything stupid in that flow, so here's a tip how about you try telling it to someone you can trust, maybe a good, responsible friend who won't give you any senseless advice or perhaps an experienced adult, again whom you trust. This intention mainly helps you from making any bad decisions.
But what if you don't like someone and everyone, your friends from school, from the neighbourhood, are dating, having fun, and you feel, why am I not doing this? Umm, no chill. You don't have to think this way. Whatever you are experiencing in such a situation is called peer pressure, and trust us, you would want to reject this as doing things just for cause others are doing is not a good decision.
And if you have faced rejection regardless of who you are, don't worry, bro, it's terrific; I assure you this isn't the end of the world. This would be hard and some new feelings as well, but you need to learn to respect the other person's answer, BUT
DO NOT THINK that the person's rejection makes you a worthless person, NO. It was this person's opinion of you, and that isn't reality. Instead, you can learn from it and work on improving yourself. We know saying this is easy, but we tell you that you will only be looking back once you start taking that self-help steps. How about you start by reading books? Try the book MINDSET, and you will learn a lot about such things.
For our parents:
There is a thing called reinforcement, and there are two types of reinforcement: positive and negative. Your child tells you that they like someone, and you start shouting and yelling; you are providing negative reinforcement and conveying that he made a mistake by telling you. Positive reinforcement can be a healthy and calm talk with them and listening to what they have to say. Remember, positive reinforcement will make the action (them telling you about a thing) repeat, and a negative one will stop that action. But this doesn't mean you don't get angry at all. You need to know when they are going wrong and put them on the right track.
Now, if your little one dating is something new to you and you can't accept it, let us give you a new perspective; dating and making relationships help them learn more about relationships and management. They know how to deal with the opposite sex and get exposed to new kinds of problems which can help them learn. And in all of this, you would want to be on their side, but make sure you let them deal with things and be a guide. And this big thing can happen only with good communication lines. To know more about nurturing your relationship with children, try the book 'MINDSET' by Carol Dweck.
THE ORIENTATIONS
This may be a new thing for some people, but there exist romantic and sexual orientations. Now to state a fact, Indian society hasn't been very open to queer (LGBTQ) people, and most think this is a western concept. Let us tell you this isn't a western concept but a very human thing, and it's natural for queer relationships like gays and lesbians to exist. Many teenagers get confused about their orientation/preferences. If they find themselves being gay, they may get anxious or panic or try to suppress those feelings, which isn't a good thing. Because they can't tell anyone, they may feel alone, and sometimes, due to the consequences they see in their environment about this, they may slip into depression and loneliness or, in some cases, even may attempt suicide.
SO, WHAT TO DO?
For our mate:
It is natural liking a boy, being a boy, or a girl being a girl. Now, if you are reading this, no one around you may know about this, and it's okay. Make sure you share this with someone who understands and knows about it and can be trusted. Make sure you don't take any wrong actions in recklessness. But if you are figuring it out and don't know your preferences and likes, don't worry. There's no need to rush; explore around, and take your time, no one has told you until 20 or 21, and you should figure it out. Take a chill pill, do some excellent research, and if you want to say to your parents, you would need to explain it to them adequately, as it would be very new and challenging to accept due to societal conditioning.
Also, many support groups can be your lighthouse; if you want to know more about it, check out – yes, we exist.
For our parents:
This might not be a whole new thing for you; you might have learned a lot of negative or positive things, but now is the time to cross-check and see what truth is and what is a myth. You might see many people having traditional baseless views about this topic, so we suggest you research more about this and not worry. This is entirely natural and not some western concept or a devil entering your child if you might think so. If your child comes and tells you that they are queer, make sure you don't react incorrectly and try to understand their child. If you talk things out, you will be that person in their life whom they feel close to and can rely on, and trust me, that is one of the most satisfying feelings you can have. And if you want to know more about this topic, check out YES, WE EXIST and get what is there and correct about being queer.
SUBSTANCE ADDICTION
More than 15 million children between 10 to 17 years of age in India take some or other substance, and the number has just been growing. Adolescents are easily influenced and addicted to anything intoxicating as they are new to the feeling of high and start loving it and want it more. Now they know it's terrible, and they won't go and tell the parents, 'Yo mom, want a joint?' That day would be a great misery for them.
SO, WHAT TO DO?
For our buddy:
So, mate, if you aren't into any of these things, good! Keep it that way. But if you have got addicted, let us tell you some things.
Things like cigarettes and drugs cause many physical problems, and if done excessively, mental issues and anxiety lead to schizophrenia. It may also start affecting your confidence. It also may start affecting your daily life and relations with everyone, so let us tell you, it just has all negative things to offer, so why does it do it? If you want that high, we promise an excellent hobby will give you the same high healthily. There are many ways to get out of it, but you better get out of it before it is a big problem, or else severe consequences are on your way.
For our parents:
If you find out your child has been drinking hard, smoking, or doing drugs, try to find out why they got into it and accordingly explain things CALMLY, not by being aggressive, or else they will ignore you. Explain to them the consequences and the result if they continue and ensure they understand. As a parent, you need to convince them to get out of it and help them to quit these addictions. By seeing your care, they would slowly understand and try to stop it, but if they don't, make sure they face the consequences or punishment other than beatings, as that would be a negative reinforcement.
MENTAL HEALTH PROBLEMS
Parents need to know that depression, anxiety, or personality disorders are mental problems that exist, and the solution isn't just sleeping. These account for significant teenage difficulties and must be addressed quickly. Suicide among teenagers has been increasing, and one of the primary reasons is that there is no talk about these problems, and most times, children don't find they can share it with their parents. For Adolescents, it is a transition phase, and if they aren't looked upon due to falling into the wrong environment, they may be easily affected and get such problems.
SO, WHAT TO DO?
For our Pal:
Adolescents like you may face such mental problems, and it's okay. The good thing is you have accepted and know that there is a problem, and now you can work towards finding a solution. But alcohol or drugs or maybe continuous sex if you think there aren't any solutions to these problems. Here it would be best if you had people who could be your friends and whom you could trust. But if! If you can make it, try saying to your parents and explaining to them what has been happening and what you are feeling and what you have been growing through. If possible, please go ahead with professional help; if you can't tell anyone and want to keep it secret, you will thank yourself later for taking this step.
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For our parents:
We, from our hearts, would want you to keep communication open with your kids, as you may only understand what they might be going through. If they need some space or time, let them. Try to understand what might cause them if they are sad or anxious. It may be due to various issues they struggle with in their social circle. If you find them avoiding telling things to you, there may be some mistakes you have made. You may have criticized them unknowingly or compared them with others, which might have hurt them or made them feel low about themselves. Also, let us tell you one more thing: if they don't find a safe space around you or others, they may feel lonely, which can slowly lead to depression.
Your children are growing and entering a new phase, and they will be looking up to you for help; if you don't be careful, you may end up damaging the critical communication channels leading to severe consequences you might not know. But that doesn't mean you should do things for them; no, you would make them entirely dependent on you, and they may not be able to learn something by themselves; hence you should be their biggest support. Staying calm and talking things out with your children would help you sort out the majority of the common teenage problems and make sure they help you ensure they don't turn to the wrong paths.
So, this was about some familiar problem majority of teenagers face; we know we might have missed a lot, so feel free to mail us on
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