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WOW YOUR ANC4ANC FLAGS ARE SO BEAUTIFUL, can I request an AFAB TRASFEM 4 AMAB TRANSMASC (and vice versa) and an AFAB TRANSFEM 4 AMAB TRANSFEM (and vice versa)? Thank you 💗

As a fan of anc identities, your anc terms are a source of pure euphoria 🩵

Thank you and of course! Here you go! I hope you like them! <3 AFAB Transfem 4 AMAB Transfem

AMAB Transmasc 4 AFAB Transmasc

AMAB Transfem 4 AMAB Transfem

AFAB Transmasc 4 AFAB Transmasc

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How is this trans exclusion if it explicitly states it's inclusive of trans people?

If you believe perisex dyadic amabs can't be transmasc and you support transmasc4transmasc folks, then it's hypocritical to be against afab4afab for example.

Regardless, these flags are even inclusive of those who were originally designated/assigned a certain gender but reclaims an agab other than their natal one. Additionally, someone can be into an agab not because of biological materiality, but psychologically (fe)male sexed secondary traits/characteristics.

AGAB4AGAB flags

AFAB4AFAB | AMAB4AFAB

AFAB4AMAB | AMAB4AMAB

This can be used regardless of orientation, pronoun, or gender. Inclusive of AGAB non-conforming people. Reminder AGABs/ASABs also represent psychosocial aspects of birth assignment, not just biologically deterministic definitions of sex, including those who self-assign as certain AGAB(s).

For example, a transmasc4transfem can be AMAB4AMAB. A hetero transfem can be AFAB4AFAB. A she4he can be AMAB4AFAB. And an intersex4intersex can be AFAB4AMAB.

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Pronoun4Pronoun Flags

She4He | She4She

He4He | He4She

#she/her #he/him #pronoun flags #pronoun preferences #pron4pron #she4she #she4he #he4she #he4he #pride-flags #mogai safe #mogai friendly #binary pronouns #genders #gender positivity #cis #cisgender #transgender #trans

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AGAB4AGAB flags

AFAB4AFAB | AMAB4AFAB

AFAB4AMAB | AMAB4AMAB

This can be used regardless of orientation, pronoun, or gender. Inclusive of AGAB non-conforming people. Reminder AGABs/ASABs also represent psychosocial aspects of birth assignment, not just biologically deterministic definitions of sex, including those who self-assign as certain AGAB(s).

For example, a transmasc4transfem can be AMAB4AMAB. A hetero transfem can be AFAB4AFAB. A she4he can be AMAB4AFAB. And an intersex4intersex can be AFAB4AMAB.

#afab4amab #agabs #agab non conforming #amab4afab #afab4afab #amab4amab #anc #lgbt flags #sexuality #orientation #trans #t4t #gender preferences #agabpunk #women's rights #trans4trans #biology #tw discourse #radinclus #radqueer #transx #transid #mogai safe #neomogai #neoagab #terfs dni #dni radfem #transgender positivity #queer flag

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Extrasexual or Supersexual Pride Post

As a person who has always had an unusual interest in sex and sexuality, and a high sex drive to match…I’ve often felt othered by my peers and culturally pressured to suppress that aspect of myself.  In fact, the stigmatization is so bad it took me almost 30 years to notice that all the words we have to talk about highly sexual people are exclusively for disordered sexuality. This led me to work on creating an identity and flag for people like me, who are highly sexual, but not in a way that negatively impacts life. Flag Meaning Green represents consent, communication and respect. It takes up the most space, and is in the center because consent is the foundation of healthy sexuality. Purple represents sensuality, intimacy and vulnerability Warm pink represents raw sexual power, and carnality Black represents support for safe, sane kink exploration FAQ

What is extrasexual and what is supersexual? The terms can be used interchangeably. A supersexual or extrasexual person is someone who is highly sexual, but not in a way that is causing them distress or damaging their life. This is contrasted with hypersexuality, which is a term meant for people who have a disordered relationship with their high sex drive. It may be easiest to think of extrasexuality and supersexuality as the opposite of asexuality. Isn’t that just ‘horny’? While it’s true that extrasexual and supersexual people are often horny, the word horny is not an identity, it’s a feeling. As such, people of all identities, (even some ace people) can feel horny. Extrasexuality and supersexuality are terms exclusively for people with a much higher than average sex drive or interest in sex/sexuality.

Why do these identities need to exist? First, to combat stigma. The stigmatization of sex and the people who are passionate about sex in our culture is often so pervasive that it’s invisible. It’s easier to bring attention and respect to these issues if we have terms that people can take seriously. Second, to create community. It’s useful to have terms and a flag to rally under, so people who have suffered in similar ways can connect and offer each other the kind of support you can only get from people who understand your experience directly.

Are extrasexual and supersexual 'queer’? Are we doing LGBTQIAES+ now??? No. Though many queer people are also extrasexual/supersexual, having a high sex drive alone is not enough to warrant inclusion under those labels. While extrasexual and supersexual people experience stigma and shame for who they are, that shame is not rooted in homophobia. The communities can support one another effectively as allies.

What ways are extrasexual/supersexual people stigmatized? To begin with, many of the world’s largest religions mandate modesty, chastity and sexual purity. Women in particular are considered heathens or sinners for engaging in perfectly consensually and safe sex, especially outside of marriage. All throughout human history women have been stoned to death, burned alive and otherwise killed in the name of sexual purity. Even today, many women feel extreme shame about their own bodies, and guilt for enjoying sex.

Men are often expected to be extrasexual, even when they are not. They’re pressure to pursue sex in unhealthy and coersive ways in order to establish social standing. As a result, men who are extrasexual may be rewarded if they are considered conventionally attractive and socially intelligent in their social circles. For extrasexual men who are not considered conventionally attractive, or live with nuerodivergency like autism however, are likely to be considered inherently predatory if they even mention sex. Sexuality has also been legally controlled in a myriad of ways, from the criminalization of sex work, to decency laws controlling what types of bodies can even appear in porn. 

Aren’t overly sexual people dangerous? Anyone, regardless of their personal relationship with sex can violate consent. Consent is especially important when it comes to the topic of sex and sexuality because bodies are highly personal to us. While sex has the potential to be a very intimate and bonding experience, it’s that same vulnerability that can create risk. Many people have had experiences where their bodies were not respected, and as a result have been hurt or now live with trauma. Being extrasexual/supersexual is NEVER an excuse not to respect consent. That’s why the color green, representing consent, is in the center of the extrasexual/supersexual pride flag, and also takes up the most space. It’s the absolute foundation of a strong community that prioritizes reducing harm.

Sadly, it’s the stigmatization of sex that has led people to feel afraid to have the open dialogues that are required for creating a strong consent culture. It’s led people to feel ashamed to seek help when something has happened to them.  https://www.consent.academy/book.html is an invaluable resource on how we can work together to build a consent culture that works for everyone, supersexual/extrasexual or otherwise.

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New Sexualities

Here are some sexualities which I thought up of. They’re different from other sexualities in the sense that it is not based on gender identity or expression.

Corporealsexual/ Biosexual/ Mattersexual:

People who are sexually attracted to people based on physical/biological appearance rather than gender identity and expression. Does not have to be related to sexual characteristics.

Noncapillosexual:

People who are sexually attracted to people with no body hair regardless of gender.

POVsexual: 

People who are sexually attracted to people with external genitals which were identified as a vagina/vulva. This sexual attraction is regardless of gender. 

POPsexual: 

People who are sexually attracted to people with external genitals which were identified as a penis and scrotum. This sexual attraction is regardless of gender. 

Vulvasexual/ Yonisexual: 

People who are sexually attracted to people who are females who have some does not have to be sex characteristics of a female. This sexual attraction is regardless of gender. 

Phallosexual: 

People who are sexually attracted to people who are Males who have some but does not have to be all sex characteristics of a male. This sexual attraction is regardless of gender. 

Mülleriansexual/ Dyadic-Vulvasexual/ Dyadic-Yonisexual: 

People who are sexually attracted to people with XX chromosomes. Who were born and still have external genitals which were identified as a vagina/vulva. Who were born and still have a uterus and ovaries. Upon natural puberty, experienced development of secondary sex characteristics which include (development of breasts. Increased amount of body fat in hips, thighs, buttocks, and breasts. Widening of hips; lower waist to hip ratio. Upper arms approximately 2 cm longer, on average for a given height. Less overall body hair. Higher levels of Estrogen). This sexual attraction is regardless of gender. 

 Wolffiansexual/Dyadic-Phallosexual: 

People who are sexually attracted to people with XY chromosomes. Who were born and still have external genitals which were identified as a penis and scrotum.  Who were born and still have testes. Upon natural puberty, experienced development of secondary sex characteristics which include (Growth of facial hair. Enlargement of larynx (Adam’s apple) and deepening of voice. Increased stature in height and frame. Heavier skull and bone structure. Increased muscle mass and strength. Broadening of shoulders and chest; shoulders wider than hips. Higher levels of Testosterone). This sexual attraction is regardless of gender. 

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Enough of the superstraight bullshit. I will return to tradition and give those MOGAI names.

A woman into cis women and trans women alike is a shadaddle (adj. shadaddlian).

A woman only into cis women is kombaddiny (adj. kombaddinic), with a stress at the NEE like French. The slur for them is kombu/algae/seaweed (they only pair well with fish, not chicken/turkey).

A woman only into trans women is trenomnom if cis (slur: as you know, chaser), undilesbian or nocilesbian if trans.

A man into cis women and trans women alike is a Norman.

A man only into cis women is a Jorge if, pronounced Zhawr-zhie. The slur for them is monkeysoup, or not uma delícia. If trans, they are a Kieran (Kyle × Aiden).

A man only into trans woman is a Christian if cis (as we know, the slur for them is chaser); a nocihetero or, less seriously, a Melman if trans. Both of them can also be called Mario Connor, but don't use this term if you are either cis, straight and not into trans people, or cis and transphobic.

A woman into cis men and trans men alike is a Sarah (either cis or trans). More specifically a Jennifer or Jenny if trans.

A woman only into cis men is an Amélia if cis and a Charlene if trans. The slur for them is minionette.

A woman only into trans men is a Judith (slur: some of them are chasers but I don't think chaser captures well the problematics of wife-of-a-trans-man as an identity lol I will leave trans men to coin an insulting epithet). If trans, you can also call her nocihetero or, less seriously, Curnegunda.

A man into cis men and trans men alike is a Captain.

A man only into cis men is a Euclides. The slur for them is platypus (as they are mammals but came from eggs).

A man only into trans men is a Vlad if cis (slur: chaser). A nocigay or Gayden if trans.

Infrahetero: a straight that is not into cis people

Infragay: a gay not into cis

Infralesbian: a lesbian not into cis

Infrabi/sexual: a bi/sexual not attracted to cisgender people

Infra- as opposed to supra- (superlesbian, superstraight, supergay, superbi/sexual).

These were coined by two friends of mine. I'm making anatomical versions:

KoleoMullerian: someone with female sex traits/characteristics attracted to people with female sex traits/characteristics; koleóssexual Müllerians, attracted to other Müllerian people.

KoleoWolffian: having male sex traits with attraction to individuals pursuing male sex traits; Wolffians attracted to folks with Wolffian body.

PeoMullerian: peossexual Mullerians, attracted to Wolffian corporeality.

PeoWolffian: Wolffians into Mullerian bodily variations.

Koleósexual was coined by a trans folk in LGBTA wikia. Péosexual was used somewhere. Both derive Greek péos and koleós. Péossexual and koleossexual can be contrasted with phallisexual/phallosexual and yonisexual/vulvosexual.

#koleosexual #koleossexual #peosexual #female #biological sex #mogai #terms #male #characteristics #infrasexual #suprasexual #supersexual #infersexual #infer #super straight #superstraight #str8 #lesbian #lgb #lgbt #trans #cis #gay #bi #bisexual #infrabisexual #superbisexual #chaser #ss #infraheterosexual

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I'm not op, but what about: koleo-Müllerian/Mülladic?

Yet again, koleósexual had other names before: yonisexual, vulvosexual, vagsexual, vagisexual, vaginosexual, vulvovaginosexual and XX-sexual (XXsexual).

New sexuality I thought up.

Koleossexual: Sexual attraction to female sex characteristics.

Disclaimer: This is not a transphobic post

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This had other names before: phallisexual, phallusexual, falosexual, falisexual, penisexual, penosexual, peensexual, penoscrotosexual, scrotosexual, and XYsexual (XY-sexual).

New sexuality I thought up.

Phallossexual: Sexual attraction to male sex characteristics.

Disclaimer: This is not a transphobic post

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Some newly-coined sexuality terms: XX-sexual and XY-sexual

Since I’ve seen asks for this sort of term, and have been feeling the need for this myself, here goes my coined words!

XX-sexual: sexual attraction exclusively for people with primary sex characteristics of a female, or AFAB people, no matter what gender they currently are

XY-sexual: sexual attraction exclusively for people with primary sex characteristics of a male, or AMAB people, no matter what gender they currently are

As for intersex people exclusively, those may fall under skoliosexual as intersex people are born as part of the nonbinary spectrum.

Feel free to leave comments and suggestions, that would be quite helpful! :)

Tagging some noteworthy accounts for visibility:

@genderfluxthings @bigendering @buzzfeedlgbt @crystalgem-confessions @queers-transgenders @nonbinary-support  @nbsuggestions

@questioning-resources @nb-positivity-images @hate2breakittoya @lgbt-advice

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Yonisexuality and Phallisexuality

[Update] I’ve made some long-overdue changes to the language in this post. Originally it came across as cisnormative, which is exactly the opposite of the point I also added some clarification at the end due to some nasty notes.

For many years I have opted to reject labels. Not calling myself straight, or gay, or bi or pan, because I felt it was no one’s business but mine and any partner I may have. But lately I have been thinking hard on what WOULD I call myself? What single term can I use to explain my sexuality without having to go into a long explanation? You see, I can be attracted to any gender identity. With just that I could be Pansexual. But the thing is I am NOT attracted to every sex.

I am only sexually attracted to people with vaginas. But Heterosexual doesn’t fit because it implies I am only attracted to  Cis women. Which is untrue.

Initially I thought maybe Polysexual fit. That is attraction to multiple, but not all genders and/or sexes. But that didn’t fit because my attraction is again to ALL genders but ONE sex.

So I was stuck. There literally was not a label for my sexual orientation that fit 100%. So I invented one.

Yonisexuality is attraction to people of any gender with vaginas.

Of course I also coined the term for the inverse.

Phallisexuality is attraction to people of any gender with a penis.

These new terms should not be confused with the existing terms Androsexuality and Gynesexuality:

Androsexuality is attraction to males, men, and/or masculinity.

But one can identify as male, and present extremely masculine, but still have a vagina. So Phallisexuality is different, because the gender identity and presentation are irrelevant to a Phallisexual.

Gynesexuality is attraction to females, women and/or femininity.

But one can identify as female, and present extremely feminine, but still have a penis. So Yonisexuality is different because the gender identity and presentation are irrelevant to a Yonisexual.

I like these terms because they mean the same things regardless of your gender, whereas heterosexual and homosexual mean different things depending on what gender you identify as. I also think they will be INCREDIBLY helpful to non binary people who are unable to use hetero or homo/ straight or gay.

Additionally I feel the need to clarify basis of these sexualities is not to “minimize people to their genitals”. Genitalia is absolutely not the SOLE basis for sexual attraction with Yonisexuality and Phalisexuality (that would be like saying a gay males SOLE basis for wanting to date someone is because they are also male).

The point is Yonisexuals and Phalisexuals are not interested in sex with people who have penises or vaginas respectively. Now, they can absolutely have romantic attraction to both, neither, or either. Romantic attraction is it’s own thing entirely.

I hope these two new terms can be helpful to someone else too, I know I was getting really frustrated in a lack of an identity before I invented Yonisexual.

Let me know if this has been helpful!

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I have designed the Yonisexual and Phallisexual Pride Flags! Top: Yonisexual Pride - The pink on the top and bottom represents attraction to the female sex (the color is taken from the Pansexual Flag). The lavender strip in the middle represents the possibility of attraction anywhere along the entire gender spectrum (it’s taken directly from the Bi Pride Flag). Bottom: Phallisexual Pride - The blue on the top and bottom reprisents attraction to the male sex (again taken from the Pan Flag). The lavender strip again is for attraction along the entire gender spectrum.

For an explanation of what Yonisexuality and Phallisexuality are, see my detailed post about them here.

#archived #flags