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At first Fabian refuses to interact with his and Fig’s new sibling but one day his mom is dealing with something in the other room and the baby is crying and so Fabian has to pick up the baby. So he picks up the baby, bouncing them gently, and says, “One day, eighteen years from now, I will fight you to the death.” Then the baby reaches up and curls their little hand around his finger and Fabian’s voice breaks, utterly in love with this tiny person, and says, “I will defeat you,” unconvincingly.

#omfg imagine if fabian calls the baby “my darling boy” (gn) #actual tears

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Siobhan Thomson and her incredible skill of making me cry in the Finale of almost every Campaign she is in

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i dont htink ive posted these before, but regardless, heres some mooblooms, mooshrooms, a cow, and creeper :)

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#i think they're neat :D

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Not that anybody asked, but I think it's important to understand how shame and guilt actually work before you try to use it for good.

It's a necessary emotion. There are reasons we have it. It makes everything so. much. worse. when you use it wrong.

Shame and guilt are DE-motivators. They are meant to stop behavior, not promote it. You cannot, ever, in any meaningful way, guilt someone into doing good. You can only shame them into not doing bad.

Let's say you're a parent and your kid is having issues.

Swearing in class? Shame could work. You want them to stop it. Keep it in proportion*, and it might help. *(KEEP IT IN PROPORTION!!!)

Not doing their homework? NO! STOP! NO NOT DO THAT! EVER! EVER! EVER! You want them to start to do their homework. Shaming them will have to opposite effect! You have demotivated them! They will double down on NOT doing it. Not because they are being oppositional, but because that's what shame does!

You can't guilt people into building better habits, being more successful, or getting more involved. That requires encouragement. You need to motivate for that stuff!

If you want it in a simple phrase:

You can shame someone out of being a bad person, but you can't shame them into being a good person.

#....oh

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My Mother and I, Both Disappoinments

Mother, @maiabaia // my writing, photo unknown // A Hopeless Dawn, Frank Bramley // Class of 2013, Mitski // Mutter und Kind, Robert Noir// @inkskinned // BLACKSMITH, Zeena Abbas // unknown // Shameless // On Earth We're Briefly Gorgeous, Ocean Vuong

#web weaving #web weave #motherhood #poetry #prose #painting #on mothers #poems #lyrics #mitski #sad #art #compliation #quotes #words #writing #original writing #angst #mother

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haunted daughter body

stoker // Blythe Baird // Brian Kershisnik's // ? // bojeck horseman // pink // sharp objects // lana del rey

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it took us a hot minute but the badges are done. reblog to receive your badge

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Thinking about what it would be like to see color for the first time. I always love stories with those kind of themes, ever since I read The Giver as a kid. The idea of growing up without color but suddenly seeing it for the first time always stuck with me.

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Kill the vampire🗡️💔

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The Crow Beneath the Ancient Arch

Hey I should probably actually post here more, huh??

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unforgiven.

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ego of a god

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Wild boars ❤️🐽

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A short comic I made about my experiences as a seasonal worker, and the way places change you.

Prints & PDF

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faceless

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Don't stop talking about them. We need to be their voice.

Inspired by the amazing poem by dana