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The one who follows the crowd will usually get no further than the crowd. The one who walks alone is likely to find himself in places no-one else has ever been.

Albert Einstein (via perfectquote)

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And that’s the thing about people who mean everything they say. They think everyone else does too.

Khaled Hosseini (via thoughtkick)

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Self discovery prompt #3

Question: What would I tell my future self?

Answer: To be kind, gentle and understanding with yourself and loving. That even though life can be hard, you can do anything and there is nothing more limiting than a mind that is limited. And loving yourself is most important and what matters. 

#self discovery #self love #self awareness #love #loveyourself #growth

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The only person who can pull me down is myself, and I’m not going to let myself pull me down anymore.

C. JoyBell C. (via perfectfeelings)

#love #selfawareness #self love

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Self discovery journal entry #2

Question: I am grateful for...?

Answer: I am grateful for my family because even though they get on my last nerves sometimes, they still show up for me when most needed. I am grateful for my nephew, Don, because he is a light in such a dark world. He is my little muffin man and makes me believe in miracles. He is so smart, colorful and sassy and I couldn’t live a day without him in my life. 

#grateful #self discovery #self love #journal #love

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I hope you fall in love with someone who never lets you fall asleep thinking you’re unwanted.

Unknown (via thoughtkick)

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"To fall in love with yourself is the first secret to happiness."

Robert Morely

#love #selflove #self improvement #happiness #you matter

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Self discovery journal entry #1

Question: What am I most proud of?

Answer: I am most proud of how far I have come in my life. While life hasn’t been particularly hard for me, I have had to overcome a lot of hurdles to get to where I am. From flunking out of college to deciding to have major surgery due to my endometriosis, life has dealt its blows. Through every battle I have faced, I have been able to emerge stronger and continue another day. Some days are harder than others but I have created a life for myself that I love and cherish. I am blessed beyond measure and some days I wake up I cannot believe that this is my life!

#self improvement #self discovery #love #self learning #self love #you matter

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Reflections

So, lately I have been feeling unloved, undesirable and down right hideous, coupled with the fact that I have gained the weight that I started to lose back before quarantine. Last year I was ghosted by a guy that I truly liked and cared about and a year later he has resurfaced with some lame ass excuse and apology. Coupled with the fact that the other guy that I had been seeing on and off for years has a new girlfriend, that left me questioning why not me. So over the past few weeks I have been, metaphorically speaking, self-harming myself with thoughts of not being good enough, pretty enough and skinny enough. Today, I said to myself that I’m tired of the self-pity party that I’ve been throwing myself and thought I would start a self discovery journaling prompt that I found on Pinterest to help shake my horrid thoughts about myself and increase my confidence. Over the past years I have struggled with low-self esteem and confidence and spent time looking at pictures of beautiful women while crying and wishing that I looked like them. When any of my friends would get into a relationship, I would be so jealous and feel so bad about myself because I wasn’t in a relationship and couldn’t figure out why. I avoid my mom most of the time because she likes to bring up me being single or how much weight I’ve  gained which would cause me to spiral into this pit of despair. It always seems like my sister, who is older, prettier and sexier than I am, always has the attention from men or a relationship. Whenever we go out together, men always approach her and not me and when I bring this up to her, she’ll say it’s because I’m unapproachable. I say all this to say, whatever the reason may be, I know that I’ll never meet anyone with the attitude that I currently have. I have had enough with feeling unconfident and unsure of who she is based off of made up thoughts in my head but change isn’t easy. So I decided each day I will be pick a question from my self discovery topic list and post a journal. I am hoping to gain more confidence, learn more about myself and start to heal the parts that I have broken over the years. A quote that I love, “ So, how do we get to a place of feeling like we deserve it? Of course, confidence, but more specifically, understanding that your worth and your value isn’t entirely based on your appearance.” -Beth Gillette @ www.theeverygirl.com.