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I'm just going to leave this here, because this woman said what I've been trying to articulate for ages much more effectively and succinctly than I've been able to

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VOTE VOTE VOTE. i have significant issues with some of the things biden has done (especially recently), but voting for him is SO MUCH BETTER than the alternative, and the more of us that don't vote for biden because we don't really like him, the more likely it is that trump is getting re-elected

please fucking vote

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I miss the old, good internet, but I don’t want to bring it back.

I want a new, good internet. One where users can’t be locked in because we make it legal to:

• reverse-engineer products and services, so you can leave a social media platform but still send and receive messages from the people you leave behind;

• jailbreak your devices so you can remove antifeatures like surveillance, ink-locking or repair-blocking; • move your media and files out of the silo whence they originated and into any player you want.

I want a new, good internet where we constrain the conduct of tech companies, banning unfair labor practices, deceptive marketing, corporate hostage-taking and other forms of rent-extraction.

I want a new, good internet where it’s both illegal to impose bossware on your employees, and where those employees can legally hack the bossware their bosses shove down their throats.

I want a new, good internet where creative workers and their audiences can reliably connect with one another, where news reporting isn’t held hostage to extractive processes.

I want a new, good internet where we seize the means of computation so that the digital infrastructure that connects our romantic, personal, political, civic, economic, educational and family and social lives is operated by and for the people who use it.

-Enshitternet: The old, good internet deserves a new, good internet

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We are ineffably elated to confirm that Good Omens will return for a third season! This calls for a round of hot chocolate and sweet treats!

@neil-gaiman

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you know when you overhear a conversation and it makes you completely lose respect for someone? just heard some people at my uni talking about kids transitioning and someone compared it to fgm.

#transgender #ftm #trans #i figured she was probably conservative and she did smth shitty last year #but damn #and she’s so nice to me too #perks of being cis-passing now is that transphobes just unironically are nice to me #bc they just see a normal ass white dude

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cishet liberals saying “women and nonbinary people” when they just mean women is something that’s so frustrating to me. like, no, amab nonbinary ppl in europe in the 1700s did not face the issue that you’re talking about. literally just need to say “people assigned female at birth”

#this one uni prof is your stereotypical white female liberal #like she means well but some of the stuff she says is just a little off

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umm yikes ok OP of the post you just reblogged believes in nuance and grey areas so i'd delete that if i were you

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i've started regularly using the men's bathroom since the gender neutral one i was using is closed bc the toilet broke or smth and i know i definitely pass bc nobody's been looking at me twice (even once when i was standing between 2 other guys at the sink.

also my 80 year old prof who knows i'm trans bc i emailed him at the beginning of the semester referred to me using he/him pronouns the other day and honestly we stan.

and also everyone i'm meeting this semester is automatically defaulting to he/him, even before they know my name which is Epic.

#transgender #ftm #trans guy #trans man #trans #trans pride #trans positivity #transitioning #transition

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it's been said before and i'm sure said better than i can phrase it. but really, really - if you like making "i'm going to kill myself" jokes, please try switching to being ironically conceited instead.

anytime something goes wrong, say things like "ah well at least i'm beautiful and charming and everyone loves me." when you forget something, try "my big huge brain is so smart and thinking about too many other very big wizardly thoughts you wouldn't even understand." when you're frustrated by one of your symptoms, start talking like you're in My Immortal. "Life has come for me but my eyes are beautiful pools of gorgeous fire and my hair is amazing. I stuck my middle finger up at life and told it to fuck off and it did."

just... try it for a month or two. try saying the most absurdly self-congratulatory shit you can think of.

i know it's tempting to make suicide or self-harm jokes. and for me at least, a decade ago (!) when someone suggested i stop making those kinds of jokes, i was kind of at a loss for what to replace them with. i wanted to make light of these moments, but genuinely (at the time) my first thought really was suicidal ideation. there was a part of me that even felt like ... i was kind of "making light" of that voice. that if i could say i want to die lol, it would help take the sting out of that genuine (albeit passive) desire. like i could turn my illness into a joke.

when i started complimenting myself instead, it felt awkward and stupid. it felt really, really ironic. what i was actually saying was nobody would ever think this stuff about me, that's what makes it so fucking funny.

but. the effect was immediate. first thing i noticed was the people around me. when i dropped a glass and said ah my skin is too beautiful and sleek the glass has swooned and broken for me, other people were suddenly overjoyed to jump in with the joke. rather than making an awkward moment, we'd both start cracking up. ah princess sleek hands, i've heard of you.

i was 19. i hadn't noticed i'd been making others tense when i said i want it all to end. i know now that it's incredibly hard to know how to walk that moment - do you talk to them about your concern? do you potentially make them uncomfortable by asking if they're okay? do you ignore the situation? do you help them pick up the glass, or do they need to do it by themselves? are they genuinely made suicidal over this small moment? and most importantly, how do you - without professional training or supplies - actually help?

most people want to help you pick up the glass in your life, they just have no fucking idea how to do it. they don't want to make anything worse. they don't want to make assumptions about you. they love you, they're scared for you - and being scared makes people kind of freeze up. it's not because they don't love you. it's because they do.

now when something bad happens, my first thought is how can i make a stupid joke about this. it isn't my brain saying you're a dumb fucking bitch. i spend more time laughing. i spend more time being gentle with myself. i spend more time feeling good.

and the thing is - what's kind of funny - is that you'd be surprised by how many people agree with you. the first time i said i'm too pretty to understand that, someone else said to be fair you're the prettiest person in this room. i promise - you really don't know how kindly your friends see you. but they love you for a reason. they sort of reverse-velveteen-rabbit you. your weird and ugly spots fade away and you just become... the love they want to give you.

go love yourself ironically. the worst thing that happens is that you end up tricking your reflection into actually loving you.

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shoutout to transtape for helping me live my best "sexy gay composer white button down shirt" life

#trans man #transgender #ftm #trans guy #trans #gay #trans pride #queer #music #composer

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Once more with feeling...

#SCREAMING CRYING THROWING UP #good omens spoilers #if anyone still cares at this point

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“I am but paper. Brittle and thin. I am held up to the sun, and it shines right through me. I get written on, and I can never be used again. These scratches are a history. They’re a story. They tell things for others to read, but they only see the words, and not what the words are written upon. I am but paper, and though there are many like me, none are exactly the same. I am parched parchment. I have lines. I have holes. Get me wet, and I melt. Light me on fire, and I burn. Take me in hardened hands, and I crumple. I tear. I am but paper. Brittle and thin.” ― T.J. Klune, The House in the Cerulean Sea.

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just finished this book and i am OBSESSED

finished reading the house in the cerulean sea

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the barbie movie hits different as a trans man who’s just recently started reliably passing

#transgender #ftm #trans guy #trans man #trans #trans pride #barbie #barbie movie #just ken #barbie and ken #ken discovering male privledge is literally me #minus the obsession with recreating the patriarchy

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on-screen lovers and off-screen besties is literally the best dynamic ever