not to be discoursey but I just cannot stress enough that it wouldn't kill anybody to be mindful and kind and not dehumanize others in online spaces, and especially in fandom conversations, and especially especially in conversations about characters who do not exist.
Like there's a world of difference between "Character X is gross" and "Fans of Character X are gross" and there's no need to continually use language like this that only fuels drama.
It costs you nothing to be kind to people and it keeps fandoms so much safer. I've heard Brené Brown talk about this a few times and I super recommend this so we can all check ourselves and make sure we're still being kind.
Humiliation and dehumanizing are not accountability or social justice tools, they’re emotional off-loading at best, emotional self-indulgence at worst. And if our faith asks us to find the face of God in everyone we meet, that should include the politicians, media, and strangers on Twitter with whom we most violently disagree. When we desecrate their divinity, we desecrate our own, and we betray our humanity.
And like. IS FANDOM AS SERIOUS AS THE REAL WORLD OUTSIDE AND ACTUAL FORMS OF VIOLENCE AND OPPRESSION? Of course not.
But I don't think you can have it both ways. This is either your hobby that you spend hours of your day navigating, or it's not that serious. And your online friends are either the people that you have conversations with every day, or they're not. Just because it's a silly hobby doesn't make the time you spend here less real and doesn't mean you need to be shitting all over the carpet in your own house, yeah? There's already enough stigma from the outside world about your nerdy hobby being a stupid waste of time; you don't have to buy into that when you feel so passionate about the things you make, and read, and the friends you talk to every day.
Like, if you want to be that person, if you like starting drama, if you like hurting people's feelings, idk. That's a You Problem. And you need to work on that and it's not my business. That's such an extreme divorce from my values I'm not sure we have anything to gain from each other. But I'm not interested in harming you. I just want to feel like my hobby is a safe place.
Anyway, be nice to people please. 🫶
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it's always crazy that my first thought about the end of the world or escaping or having to flee is: god i hope i die
does that make me a coward? i don't see myself living through fleeing if an earthquake collapses our house or something just please end it
being told everything is weird and unprecedented and that they're preparing for something just please i don't want to live through another global catastrophic event just let me die man
with my health problems already it's a struggle enough to get up and live i can't imagine bejng in a real crisis if my body is already taking this as a sign im going tk die
do i like how reactive i feel when ppl talk about the possible catastrophe of earthquakes or eclipses or preparing for some unknown something to happen? no. i don't like the fear and the immediate "i need to kill myself or ill suffer unknown tragedies" maybe ive read too much apocalypse fiction where the world ends and factions split and people run rampid
because i know im not built to survive it. im not and i cant. i don't want to live in fear again by the powers over me I don't want to be subject to cruelty and horror
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Can i be honest i did not like nightwalker the song. The music video was ok but the song is just not something i would listen to again or even listen to at all if it wasnt ten. And now im scared i wont like the rest of the songs so im leaving them for friday night edible time so it can soften the blow if i end up not liking them
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But imagine,
what if...Yugi accidentally kisses Kaiba when he’s attending a super serious online meeting
or Kaiba accidentally on purpose kisses Yugi when he’s on a group chat with his friends
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MEGA UPDATE!!!!
So. like yesterday I came home from the airport after being in a whole other state with my lovely, amazing, beautiful and effervescent partner @shinyeeveelynn who flew me out to where she lived and I spent the week by her side <3
it was just about the most amazing experience I've ever had and I think I'll hold it close to my heart for as long as I live. I'm excited for our future together and the many more trips to come!!
We got to go to Disneyland! I met my wizard mans, St.ephen St.range and gave him a hug, got chased around by my dark sided bf Ben So.lo TWICE, gave my bf Tony Sta.rk attitude in public (haha, nerd.), and got to spend a wonderful walk-ful 13 hours with my magnificent partner. I also saw a certain pirate...if ykyk. It was beyond fun and I cannot wait to go again! I'm still sore from walking that much. gah damn. Also flying for the first time was like, hella scary but also not. But jesus christ turbulence makes me so unbelievably sick, good to know!
Being so close to my partner all the while having somewhere safe and comfortable to stay was just the experience I needed me thinks. I'm so beyond grateful for that week, despite it being short and feeling like it passed all too fast, was the best thing ever to me.
I also screamed the most I ever have in my life. Thanks In.diana Jo.nes. Didn't know I could scream like that! Also sorry not many good pictures to even share here, I was too busy being shocked by the environment and sipping blue milk FIOJHUASD
Welp, that's just my little life update. You can expect more activity again, I've just been a bit busy suffocating @shinyeeveelynn with my love <3
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guys i’m seeing dream on monday and i’m already nauseous just thinking about it i’m so excited i might just faint
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WAIT hold on ive seen you mention stuff with ur bf and like im curious if its the guy u crush rambled a lot before??? if ur comfortable answering ofc
also not sure bf meaning boyfriend or bestfriend but either way IM HAPPY FOR YOU
YES THATS THE GUY he asked me out almost exactly two months ago AGBSGSG the crush rambles aged well I suppose :D
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