#girls who are so obviously dating

[oneroyi]

akihisa numero uno!!!!!

#revue starlight #honami hisame #akira yukishiro #starira #akihisa #that one line on the top left changed my life #girls who are so obviously dating

[winepresswrath]

i will say ariana commits like no one else. "yes, and?" as a response to cheating on your husband with spongebob is gutsy. yes, and?" as a response to "you wrote and recorded this album about cheating on your husband with spongebob?" is transcendent.

#spongebob clearly likes women who know how to articulate their feelings because not a girls girl was obviously an instant classic #i'm sorry we can't be friends is an amazing song but i'm being haunted by context #we can't be friends because you cheated on me with spongebob #wait until you like me again #he was playing a munchkin is a wizard of oz prequel at the time #i don't want to fight but i'd rather die than bite my tongue #what a beautiful and heart wrenching summation of a near universal human tragedy #spongebob's wife was pregnant. u took me on a double date with spongebob and his pregnant wife #caveat that i am not actually up on celeb gossip this is just what has made it my way but really. the sponge is hers #i'd say so. he's a ruined man WHO is going to want him when she's done

[jaybren]

I Believe...Steddie

I normally don't mind angst (though I avoid drama fics in general). Miscommunication is the biggest trope in romance, so I'm all for it, but for some reason Steve x Eddie fics / drabbles where Eddie still thinks of Steve as Steve THE KING Harrington always sit weirdly for me. Sometimes, if the Upside Down didn't happen (AUs in general) or pre-UD setting, maybe -- sure, then that could work. But close to canon fics where Eddie lives and Steve legit confesses to him? Always just -- strikes me as wrong.

Finally realized why -- it's literally the antithesis of canon Eddie. Canon! Eddie is quick to acknowledge Steve has changed. He literally runs up to him in the Upside Down while a bunch of madness is happening and where he has every right to be consumed by his own shit-tastic situation, but instead, he's telling Steve how he is a great guy and has changed.

Can Eddie be bitchy and prejudice? Yes.

Does Eddie have grudges against jocks / the popular crowd? Yes.

But he also goes full on bowing gentlemen for cheerleaders (going out of his way to help Chrissy and make her smile) and he's quick to acknowledge Steve's not that same popular AH anymore.

With Steve's bitchiness not aimed at him, Eddie would be eating his Honeycomb and snickering when old habits popped back up, and maybe he'd feel conflicted about jocky Steve, complaining about going to games or something until somebody smacked some sense into him. Totally believe tension and disbelief about one liking the other or some bias about things, but I just can't see Steve proclaiming his love or whatever and Eddie assuming it is a trap or trick or prank or something.

Maybe he'd think Steve was confused. Maybe he'd assume they were doomed, but I can't see him blaming Steve for that or blowing up their relationship IF Eddie accepted the confession and they started dating. Eddie's way more down on himself.

If someone can explain how it makes sense, please do. I'd love to enjoy all Steddie tropes, and that one seems popular lately, but where my brain sees so many problems with them getting to the confession point or even a number of big arguments that could happen afterward due to outside aspects, those two strike me as highly tactile, highly clingy romantics who would be convinced they were the height of discrete while practically fused, constantly touching and being snide little judgy dudes together.

#steddie #Steve x Eddie #Eddie Munson #Stranger Things #Only way Eddie doesn't see how Steve's changed is if the Upside Down doesn't exist but then Steve might not have changed #the second Steve asks him out Eddie is 100% in #won't accept anything different #Eddie is a drama king but he's the the sort to be clingy and pushy and cause problems by being too tactile and obvious in a homophobic town #which is why I 100% believe fics where Eddie and Steve fight over Steve refusing to come out or leave Hawkins #Despite also 100% believing Eddie would understand #frankly I fall for all the tropes EXCEPT Eddie not believing (in a canon compliant Upside Down having universe)that Steve has changed #where are my double date fics with Eddie and Steve taking out two girls only to get dumped because they spent more time chatting themselves #What about the fics where Eddie sets Steve up with a metalhead girl only for Steve to be like 'wow I'm super into this' #but then he realizes partway through he is 100% imaging she's Eddie #Or Steve setting up Eddie on a double date only to have a 'oh no I fucked up' moment as he realizes halfway through that he loves Eddie #Steve: Cool Eddie might score (*and it was at that moment he realizes he fucked up) I don't want Eddie to score #Give me hooking up duo who 'just like making out' and 'just aren't ready to get back out there yet' who feel pressured to do so #and they end up throwing hands over it and banging #Eddie: So...that happened. | Steve: Do you think Dustin was right? | Eddie: No way that butthead is right. | Steve: But what if he is? #Eddie: Obviously we can't tell him. | Steve: But we can still make out right? | Eddie: Fuck yeah #Give me dumb bets between guys friends inspired by Steve trying to relate to Eddie like he used to Tommy

[thedreadvampy]

like clockwork someone who's been openly a sex pest for decades gets named as a rapist and sexual predator and we all get to play the hit parade with such classics as:

oh my god oh my god did you know this industry full of rich people who are rewarded for exploitative and abusive behaviour...has an issue with rape and abuse??? CAN YOU BELIEVE THERE'S ABUSE IN THIS INDUSTRY???? (yeah man we know. we've known for quite a while actually. for longer than I've been alive for sure.)

oh my god I can't believe there are rapists among us (1 in 3 women have experienced rape, who do you think is doing it?)

but he seemed so nice! (not really tbh)

well I met him and he never raped me and like, I'm really hot so if he was really a rapist he would have (Jesus fuck get help)

is it really rape to fuck 16 year old girls when you're in your 30s? (yeah it is if you fucking rape them mate)

can't believe everyone knew but never said!!! (they literally did say and also hey imagine if you will what reasons there might be too not say anything, such as, say, it's not your story to tell and the victim had expressed a wish to not be at the centre of a whole shitstorm)

Real Victims wouldn't go to journalists they'd go to the cops!!! (hey guys I have some upsetting news about the experience of reporting rape to the cops)

This is a conspiracy to make this irrelevant celebrity look bad! (please touch grass)

it's all just a bit of fun innit (no)

and every time we all over again have to go to this place where rape is simultaneously a significant threat and common experience (agreed) but also everyone who's ever talked about being raped is lying, and nobody's ever done a rape even if there's 20 years of documented evidence and on camera confessions and also their whole public persona is 'cheeky sex pest' (fucking. what?)

and then that guy hopefully gets cancelled and people feel a bit more guilty about watching him. and then they'll go HOORAY THE EVIL IS DEFEATED WE HAVE GOT RID OF THAT GUY THAT DID THE RAPES. OUR WORK HERE IS DONE. COMEDY/FILM/MUSIC/TV IS FREE OF PREDATORS NOW

and then 6.5 seconds later allegations will come out about someone else and we will start the whole thing again from scratch OH MY GOD CAN YOU BELIEVE THERE'S ABUSE IN THIS INDUSTRY???

#red said #it gets SO under my skin like how are people STILL SURPRISED????? #like this happens SO OFTEN you canNOT still find it this unexpected??? #especially when it's someone like Russell Brand who is the kind of 2000s comedian who built his entire career on predatory misogyny as a bi #like I'm sorry I'm sorry this isn't a time you so moment #but some people you're like oh that's disappointing. he seemed like he might be sound. #others though. you cannot tell me at any point in the last 20 years anyone's looked at Russell fucking Brand #and not thought at least a little bit oh this man's a fucking nonce #'russell brand predated on teenage girls for years' may be up there in the least surprising sentences I've ever heard #i have never seen a man who's more obviously used to regularly using the phrase 'I waited until her 16th birthday so it's fine' #the fucking fedora ass incorrectly loquacious cult vibes '''''ironic''''' hipster misogyny known-in-thr-scene creepster #like we all know that guy right? sometimes he's a famous comedian and sometimes he's a 38 year old musician who only ever #dates girls under 18 and hangs out at spots frequented by students trying to show off both how hip he is and how he's got Adult Money #but the vibes. the vibes. tbf a lot of those fuckers in the 2000s were probably also modelling their vibes off him also. #the looming monster of rape in the abstract

[florallylly]

sorry queen but a cheater is a cheater is a cheater and that's not a label i easily let go of

#obviously extenuating circumstances #but i don't mean i was traumatized and repressing my feelings blah blah staying with the safe choice #so u were an asshole. #so u obviously don't care enough about the person ur dating to stop for a second and actually think about the consequences of ur actions #and the fact that she didn't even acknowledge what she did #and just happily ended up with her man and her ex APOLOGIZED? #pick up ur head king ur crown is falling #and yes this is a major reason why i refuse to even support ronance #like it's my personal opinion and i'm not stopping people from shipping who they like #but i also want to get my thoughts out there scream into the void or whatever #as a lesbian from a small town i'll tell u i would certainly not date a girl who cheated on my best friend #so don't pull that argument on me #it just feels evil to me #like can't steve have ONE thing like ONE person in his corner #why make him constantly apologize and have to give way when he's done like. nothing wrong #first of all he was reclaiming queer duh #and he was right to be pissed #i get that it's two attractive girls and one is canonically gay #but ur reaching

[devilsskettle]

dinner in america is such a “take what you want from it and leave the rest” movie for me because i do think it’s very cute and i can buy into some of the wish fulfillment nature of the story but admittedly there are some parts that really don’t work for me, there are some parts that fall a little flat either in terms of the characters or humor, and the pacing is a bit of a challenge tbh. but it’s unbelievable what the human brain can overcome by virtue of simply Just Liking That Guy

#idk i just like that guy #obviously i’m a loser girl enjoyer but i have some qualms about how infantilized patty is throughout the script #it must be said i worry how much of the wish fulfillment thing is about guys wanting to date fairly naive young women who don’t know things #and who are ‘innocent’ and easy to take advantage of etc #but i also think that a LOT of the wish fulfillment thing is being a young woman in the world for the first time #feeling unsure about how you make sense of the world and your place in it #feeling pretty inexperienced wrt intimacy etc #and having someone see you very clearly for who you are and not caring about you figuring your shit out #and just liking you and wanting to be with you and thinking the stuff that makes you a freaky little weirdo is rad af #so like simon’s narrative role ends up being WAY more mpdg than patty’s and that actually saves the movie for me lol #anyway sorryyyyy for turning into a kyle gallner fan blog. frankly predictable behavior from tumblr user ‘devilsskettle’ though tbqh #also this movie is like. if may from may (2002) grew up in a healthy family and found somebody who could match her energy #instead of that asshole poser she gets involved with #so good for her. definitely part of the weird girl cinematic universe #honestly feels like a movie that should’ve come out in 2002 instead of 2020

[detransraichu]

broooo not my ex making posts abt how hard it is to come to terms with being conventionally attractive while having low self-esteem issues and how wild it is to get compliments randomly on their appearance when they go out and how they're worried that their new transmasc boytoy is only into them bc they're hot -_- i'm tired... meanwhile i'm just seen as a gremlin now that i'm not hyperfem... they truly have the biggest issues in the world lol

also they were like "omg turns out i'm not ace i just needed a bf lol" and i'm like yeah. i know. you've been lusting after male characters for years. you were horny as fuck just not for me bc i didn't transition. you only made moves on me when you were bored, lonely or drunk. i always asked if that was the case and you were like no baby it's just your insecurities i don't need you to transition uwu. for 5 years. my trust issues are thru the roof now yayyyyy /dies

#lay text #i'm being mean and petty ugh #my heart kinda hurts but talking w my counsellor abt it helped #it rly helps to have a neutral third party to vent to #also i still think my ex is a good person i don't actually hate them i love them as a friend. but i do hate what they did to me #i hate that they went along w us dating bc they're too much of a doormat. i hate that they thought abt breaking up w me for years #but never told me bc they were worried i wouldn't survive without them financially or emotionally #feels so fucking infantilizing #now i'm so much better off without them despite being broke #that was my first and only real relationship my first time my first everything. i'm so embarrassed wtf i was RIGHT i was right all along #i was right it wasn't just insecurities they straight up never wanted me they wanted future transitioned male-passing me #it was all lies!!! from the get-go!!! meanwhile i did so much romantic bullshit and i was wearing rose colored glasses!!!! #and i was a big dyke. being with a woman who identified as a woman would've made me 2000x happier anyway. we could've just stayed roommates #i'm so bitter guys. i feel so jaded but i'm trying not to be :/ #and now they have so much luck in their love life #and i'm just a lonely gremlin dyke who only attracts polyam/casual girls who only want me on the side #where tf is my love story :'( i've been trying SOOO FUCKING HARD to gain my ex's affection for 5 freaking years i was the most loveydovey g #i deserve a love story i think i've really earned it by now!!!!! #so much love to give #now they have it so easy wtf. feels unfair ngl. i'm happy for them obviously they deserve happiness too. but i am still bitter >:/ #trying to process these feels instead of repressing them for once. i have a tendency to bottle up angst bc i think i'm bad for being mad #but nope those r healthy emotions!!! i can work thru this #it just sucks #if you read all of this bs i give you a cookie 🍪 <3

[gomacave]

hi... hating how this game writes women again.

i seriously need the game to lay off on this weird waifu baiting this is SUCH a tone deaf thing to say about 1) a dead woman 2) somebody who is grieving. HTE AERITH IN MY HEAD WOULD NOT SAY THIS......

#it makes her seem so fucking. weird. like desperate to talk about romance with cloud but its obviously the writers shoehorning in another- #aerith 'hehe you dummy' type romantic moment I LIKE CLOU/AER BUT NOT LIKE THIS. #its so. fails the bechdel test but like. worse bc you can even talk about the girl who the convo is about its if cloud dated her or not #UGHHHH LIFE IS SO HARD BEING A JESSIELIKER #TXT #gomaff #rebirth spoilers #ff7 rebirth spoilers #ffvii rebirth spoilers #critical talk

[shopcat]

turns anon off. i think one aspect of the reason there are intolerably endless amounts of gay and even bi transmascs who claim to not be able to like character who is a woman and use every reason under the sun to justify this, from "i just can't relate to them" to "the writers themselves don't like them so why should i, they're written badly and don't deserve the effort", and additionally, the implication that in order to Enjoy a Character you must be capable of being attracted to them And also be plain attracted to them (which only ever applies to women for some reason, I Wonder Why, and also is a weird mindset to have regardless about anything in the world forever) is because they, AS transmascs with a flawed mindset, particularly with baby transes, are so used to rejecting femininity and some sort of nebulous concept of womanhood that it comes to the point where women are now entirely unrelatable, entirely useless to you as they serve no purpose, entirely unable to be empathised with or liked and entirely unable to exist as people, reduced to nothing and left behind with the "girl clothes" you threw away or whatever.

they're operating under the notion that to be transmasc is to reject being a girl or a woman, and in one foul swoop reject everything about them and everything that may encapsulate that, and fail to see how this is not only obviously some very surface level unsubtextual misogyny, but also absolutely ridiculous and childish and Wrong as a mindset (and somehow fail to see how negative of one it is in the first place... being trans is about embracing what makes you happier and more comfortable, not soullessly rejecting something else). they don't WANT to engage with female characters, they don't fucking care!!!

and to be clear i hold absolutely no sympathy for people who hide behind their own dysphorias and misgivings and identities in order to absolve themselves of having to actually care about women in any substantial way, esp the ones who cling onto the gay/bi identity before anything else bc it provides them some sort of euphoria and then clouds their judgement entirely and leads to situations where people genuinely say "i think the reason i can't relate to women is because im gay (and don't want to fuck them)", and i refuse to sympathise with little boys who refuse to grow the fuck up.

i also think this is particularly important just to note, bc like yeah i'm talking about fictional women here, but it's no surprise to me when these men and boys turn out to be raging misogynists irl, recreate meninism and harbour unquestionable transmisogyny, all bc they've normalised this way of thinking whilst victimising and infantilising themselves at the same time so that they can't be criticised. i would be deeply ashamed if i had the lived experience of a woman in any way, shared everything in common with them that we do and actively chose to turn my back on them. you don't grow misogyny the second you try out he/him pronouns but these idiots sure act like it. if you as a transmasc cannot at all find it in yourself to want to relate to or share experiences with or even just plain like and love and respect women you need to seriously examine why, doubly so for anyone who IS attracted to them in some way for some very obvious reasons.

#🐾 #sorry it's just like incredibly frustrating and a particular and specific issue with transmascs SPECIFICALLY #like obviously the idea of ppl hiding behind their identity isn't new but it's so insidious and cruel in this case #and of course tbis isn't always the case but to be honest i think it's very common #and to be even clearer to not so baselessly reject everything at all to do with the very concept of femininity will make you LESS dysphoric #not more. transmeds have truly rotted peoples brains out of their skulls #not even touching on how half of these people DO embrace it and talk about how they were Girls and all that but then are still. just #literallg misogynists. like i know it's systemic but damn ..! #the idea that some of these guys are also dating women at the same time is super fucking worrying too #i love girls i love mt girlfriends i love women i love female characters my life would not be complete without them i would rather CLAW #my own body apart than be deprived of them. the idea is literally unthinkable. i'm not kidding 😭 #i hate men ... #and the ones who can't go two seconds w/out their yaoi fix then go but it's actually um brave and awesome because you see Homophobia exists #like okay....

[lunarharp]

was bored, realised i care more about orufrey than anyone ever, then decided to work out my top 5 otps of all time and give them awards

(below) then i got drunk on power and judged them on even more categories... canon rating.. colour-coded rating (??) .. and the mysterious.. Fated Rating.

orufrey

-canon rating: 4/5

romantic narrative that can be reasonably assumed at this point to be “going somewhere” while technically ““not canon”“. i know what she is doing

-colour-coded: 6/5

no words. designed in perfect and homosexual complements. black & white = yin & yang. black hair white shirt black skirt. white hair black shirt white skirt. also they’re fire & water.. elemental coded. qif’s glasses are black & white too... everything about them represents them as a pair. and they both have gold & blue highlights. what is it going to be, white & black tuxes at the wedding or do witches get married in gowns. just skip to that chapter it’s fine

-fated rating: 5/5

The. Tassels. they chose to live together and entwine their lives around each other. it means MORE that it was choice and not fate. nuff said............... p.s. read my fic

ferdibert

-canon rating: 4/5

they can be implied to get married or they can kill each other depending on YOUR choices. 4 points for the chaos of that. would be 5/5 if the pair ending text wasn’t translated in a homophobic way

-colour-coded: 3/5

orange and black. looks good together so points for that. also those colours mean ferdibert forever to me i don’t care about halloween.

-fated rating: 2/5

they used to hate each other. and with slightly different happenstances in life they end up killing each other (with pathos). but that stuff means something in its own way so it’s fine they’re fine.

suipo

-canon rating: 5/5

they basically end up together and kiss at the ending 💗

-colour-coded: 4.5/5

blue & pink. perfect. beautiful. and they match as perfect complements in other ways too. both are named after sweets. suipo 4ever

-fated rating: 4/5

they just met randomly. BUT... they had to meet... they both needed to meet each other to advance their personal narratives. <3 +2 points for dying and ending up in heaven together cause that’s bonkers

wrightworth

-canon rating: 2/5

NOT CANON.....I GUESS.......i literally forget this though. designed by a BL creator or something and a stupidly gay narrative for Friends so how could you say 0/5 though

-colour-coded: 5/5

another pink & blue. or red & blue more broadly. incredible. great. they match in tons of ways. like the wedding rings that capcom made.

-fated rating: 6/5

childhood friends to whatever they are is worth 3/5 in and of itself, but then so many of their choices are literally about each other in such incredibly pathetically gay ways that it’s truly nuts.

joker/akechi

-canon rating: 2.5/5

i don’t know what to say. the narrative and the heartcrushing 7 minute romantic ending song that haunts my waking moments even now are what they are. i don’t know what to say

-colour-coded: 3/5

well... their colours are both black & red... ? kind of? you could say black/red & black/white. i don’t know. it looks good though.

-fated rating: 4/5

(literally loads of spoilers................... !!!!!!!!) they were quite entirely given their powers on purpose to foil each other. but, akechi wants to be free of narratives and doesn’t want to be entwined with anyone else’s life. next time this’ll be his choice. THAT MAKES IT EVEN MORE....WHAT IT IS. also they’re just obsessed with each other and their songs are about each other and no more what ifs, what matters is how you bring joy to life when i said a false happiness would be enough you softly covered my mouth etc etc etc

orufrey: 15

suipo: 13.5

ferbies: 9

wrightworth: 13

j&a: 9.5

WHY ARE FERBIES LAST???? hubert is going to kill me.....that's ok. the fact that i learnt to draw with you means the world <3

P.S. I LOVE BYLITZA!!!!!! from fe3h. but ones like that are so personal that there's no point saying "i love this" like i love the same thing others love. or something

ok bye

#sometimes uve got to have fun online. #i dont know how to draw anyone but orufrey any more. who are these people #p.s. by persona 3p protag i obviously mean the girl one so it's gay. #i doodled this to put it on twt but it would be weird if ppl RTed something so obviously personal & manic #i feel like i forgot some major ship i massively love. there are lots of others i love btw. even a few het ones... (?!) probably. #i didn't used to be much of a shipper cause i didn't use the internet i didn't see fanart i didn't draw. for years of my adult life. #sometimes i get really obsessed with something bc of the time i encounter it. like those two from good omens really got to me #i should do a takarazuka-only version of these. suipo vs everyone else. i've drawn couples interacting and fighting before :') #i like my ferdibert & orufrey crossover comic doodles. for the audience that is me. i like thinking about double date failures. #it really is weird/interesting that i do care about orufrey SO much and draw them SO much but there are ones i dont wanna draw. #^ the commentator (me) watching my award show presented by me for me

[strozzaprete]

dies of wanting a girlfriend but must take the time to heal from past relationships before i start dating again disease

#i hate instagram and i hate my friends who are couples OK???? #jk i don't hate them obviously but it's been longer than i thought since i felt a human touch #and one of my acquaintances started dating a girl i matched on tinder with almost a year ago and never texted so i'm feeling a Type of Way

[musical-chick-13]

Fandom be normal about bi women challenge (impossible. apparently.)

#look. I too am tired of (white) men getting praised for the bare minimum #but you all do realize that sometimes women do genuinely fall in love with men right #that women are capable of making their own decisions about who they date right #this is one of the reasons that I hate the 'genuinely I hate every single individual man' rhetoric #because so many times it goes hand in hand with this infantilization of women who are attracted to men #it's like 'oh these poor girls trapped in their attraction to men' and then like...treating them as if they are incapable of making informe #choices? like they're just inherently doomed to gravitate toward awful men because they Don't Know Any Better and are #Brainwashed By Society??? please tell me you understand why treating women as if they are too stupid to make their own decisions #is just misogyny again. you understand that right. RIGHT. #'why would you CHOOSE to date a man instead of doing the RESPONSIBLE and PROGRESSIVE and REVOLUTIONARY thing and date a woman!' #because sometimes. women fall in love with men. you can't. you can't will love into existence. you can't control who you fall in love with. #and people-if it's feasible-tend to want to commit to someone they have actual feelings for. what's not clicking here. #(and yes obviously this is a niche-queer-spaces-specific problem people don't have discourse about this in this way irl like the #general population isn't telling me I should only ever be attracted to women and date one solely For The Cause they don't want me #to be interested in women at all. that doesn't stop me from being annoyed every time I see said niche-space-specific ''''take'''') #it's especially confusing to me when BISEXUAL PEOPLE are like this about other bisexual people. like you of all people. should know #how maligned we are from multiple conflicting angles #In the Vents #biphobia #like I know I talk SO much about women and how I want to marry one but that genuinely is just because historically I have been more #attracted to women than men. if I meet a man I click with and fall in love with then hell yeah I'm gonna date him and be happy about it. #I'm not opposed to that outcome at all. but heaven forbid I ever say that lmao

[maddy-ferguson]

i wish the internet had never learned the term prefrontal cortex because people use it to make 25 the new 18 which is so strange

#like is 17-19 predatory no and it's stupid to say you have to wait until midnight on the younger person's birthday to be in contact with #them even if you're only 366 days apart. and now people are like someone who's 20 can still be taken advantage of which yes obviously but #they're like it's because their brain is not done yet. at 24 you are a baby and at 25 you're a grown woman. but actually not really because #chris evans married someone who's 26 but that's close to 25 so she's not old enough. her brain has only been done for five minutes so it's #actually terrible that they're together. like there's saying that young adults are still vulnerable and...young and then there's pushing #the idea that women are just little girls forever lmao. #and it's just so weird that people use the brain thing so much i can't say why exactly but it rubs me the wrong way #i'm not saying this because i'm only 22 and people who say that would talk about me like i'm 14 because i wouldn't even date anyone who's #significantly older than me or anyone who's like under 20. but yeah😭 #and i'm not even saying that the phenomenon of men always dating younger and women always dating older (even if it's just like 2 years) #and not vice versa isn't worth examining i'm literally a sociology student i'll be the first to say everything's interesting. but like #what's the end goal here #even in more extreme cases when a 25-year-old woman marries someone 40 years her senior i'm always like well i would never do that #but what are you random person on the internet gonna do. #and the thing is there's always potential power dynamics like you would have to be dating yourself to avoid it and even then #and like i say: brf slt

[itadorii]

ik biphobia is a thing and bi people are often invalidated for dating the opposite sex but the tiktok bi girls are still annoying for acting as if liking men is the worst thing that ever happened to them and saying they have a boyfriend but wish they were with a girl instead. like ok!! and i hope he leaves your stupid ass!!

#like you literally have a CHOICE in who you date. why the fuck do you bitches ALWAYS have boyfriends if you’re just gonna act like #they’re inferior. if you wanna date a girl so bad then do it. tf? #imagine loving someone and alllll they can talk about is how much they wish they were with someone else #like it’s not automatically okay just bc you have some childish idea in your head that girls are naturally superior to boys. grow UP #this isn’t about people who are closeted btw. that is obviously a different thing

[jovalencia]

okay the jokes about bi women with jakey ass boyfriends were funny but I'm gonna need everybody to stop before people start getting too comfortable and start getting really biphobic with it

#like the first couple times were funny but like. I do not like the direction this is going. my bestie has straight up got hate comments #for being a bi girl with a bf like people are saying she has it so easy is basically straight etc like😭 #not that biphobia (against bi women specifically) didn't exist before this joke blew up recently but some people think it's a lil Too #funny to call bi women with boyfriends basically straight #as if they're like. what? lying about being bi? faking it for attention like what do you think. they're not actually bi bc they're dating #a man. idk just don't like direction this is going #as a person with the opposite problem (people I'm insisting I'm a lesbian) I kinda get it like it obvs doesn't feel great to have people #doubt your sexuality. especially in the context of them making fun of you #ALL THIS BEING SAID this isn't abt my mutuals and friends who I know are normal and not biphobic AND this is not about not making fun #of jakey boyfriends. obviously i think they should all kill themselves. #carmen.txt

[wavesoutbeingtossed]

Late night parasocializing on main:

I’m not saying these situations are the same AT ALL and I know I don’t know these people AT ALL, but the Joe/Taylor situation reminds me of two friends in my work friend group who we all watched crush on each other, start dating, become a couple, etc. To the point that they became a Unit and were together for years. Then they broke up and went their separate ways (something something how evergreen our group of friends don’t think we’ll say that word again) and there was a lot of hurt and bitterness and resentment there and we all went from thinking, “obviously they are going to be a couple they’re perfect for one another,” to “wow they’re such different people I can’t imagine them being together in the first place they have zero in common” to now close to a decade later legit forgetting they ever dated because it feels like soooooo long ago and their orbits would just never cross ever again. Like, not only would they clearly never date as the people they are now, they wouldn’t even give each other a second glance. (And this is a guy who once walked around with heart eyes whenever she was around and a girl who thought he hung the moon.)

And like, a year ago we as fans were all sad for Taylor because by all accounts she’d found her person and were hard pressed to picture her with someone else who’d get her as much as he did, and now looking at it from above the trees (ahem) I can’t even ever picture them together because they just seem sooooooo different (in lifestyle, temperament, priorities, personalities, etc.) And while admittedly I could not picture her at all with Travis when the rumours first started about them dating, seeing them now they just seem to make so much sense despite the superficial differences.

Life comes at you fast etc.

#but also yet another example of how as extraordinary as their lives are the breakup is the most painfully normal thing to happen #as for my friends the guy got engaged to the next girl he dated (of course) #the girl who is still one of my besties has had a series of unfortunate breakups with emotionally immature men lol #then went through her Activities era this fall after her last breakup lol #but may have finally found one of the rare emotionally intelligent men so there’s hope! #like obviously the situations aren’t analogous because my friends were much younger and while they were serious #they weren’t cohabiting serious #but their families were enmeshed and my friend did grieve losing her bf’s mom as support when they broke up #I’m just saying that as ‘perfect’ as Taylor and Joe seemed a few years ago #I can’t picture them as ever sharing more than a passing hello if they met as their current selves #it’s wild how people and circumstances change