#hannah talks sometimes

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Honestly I can take the other definitions but, “not caring to act on attraction” just seems like celibacy. Imagine if we called people who felt romantic feelings but didn’t want to be in relationships aromantic instead of just “people who didn’t want to be in relationships”. Does the fact that they’re “functionally” asexual (ie meaning they’re not looking to have sex) mean that the label of asexual fits the kind of experience/treatment they want from people in the future anyway? Asking in good faith.

I think that if someone who experiences sexual attraction but has no interest in acting on it, in good faith identifies as asexual, they should be taken as such. I’m in the business of trusting people to know which terms will be most useful to them in describing themself and finding community.

My experience with asexuality includes many things. Here’s a short list of the ways it makes me feel outcast from society, driving me to find community with fellow asexuals:

Sexual attraction is viewed as an inherent part of the human experience, but it is something I cannot fully conceptualize, much less relate to and experience. Thus I am often deemed less human than my allo counterparts.

The society I live in is built around the idea that everyone desires and has sex, and often this means there is no place for me within certain areas of society.

Individuals and society as a whole treat those who have not had sex (for whatever reason) as less than and childish, so I am looked down upon by my peers for being asexual (and assumably never having had sex).

As someone who has occasionally desired romantic partnership, I am excluded from the world of romance because society deems romance and sexuality as inherently linked.

Now, not all of these points would necessarily apply to someone who experiences attraction but doesn’t want to act on it, but a lot of them would. And some of these points might not apply to even some asexuals who don’t experience attraction, like sex neutral and sex favorable aces. I’m sure there are also experiences some asexuals have that I don’t share.

At the end of the day, the asexual community, I think, should be a place for people who fall outside the allonormative, amatonormative societal model in terms of sexuality. If someone is experiencing sexual attraction, but does not care to act on it, they will have what I would be willing to define as an asexual experience. And if they deem it as such then I see no reason to exclude them from a community they could serve and be served by.

#I also think it’s worth further examining the idea of celibacy #most people who are celibate as we tend to think of it are doing so for a specific reason #usually either as a test of will or with the idea that their celibacy has a set end date #I think that’s notesble different from someone who is choosing not to have sex purely because they have no desire to #someone who would assumably plan on not having sex for the foreseeable future #and someone who may very well be in scenarios where celibacy is expected to be broken (like marriage) #hannah talks sometimes #aspec #asks #anon #anyways hope this was clear #also I didn’t fully understand the last part of this ask so I don’t know if I addressed that

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me when I’m in soup mode

#soup mode #hannah talks sometimes #this is peach-pot btw this is a blog I made for a gag #it used to be ‘definitely not peach pot’ but this is funny enough to sacrifice an old post #where that url was part of the joke #soup mode…

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harry potter is a weird girl

everybody point and laugh at the anon sending me a Harry Potter ask.

#hannah talks sometimes #anon #asks

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trans guy who doesn’t realize he’s turning into a werewolf because he assumes it’s all just normal side effects of starting testosterone

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I’m all for going about queerness with the goal of not being able to be understood by outsiders but like. you’ve GOT to be normal about aro & ace people if you do. you can’t go on about being confusing to cishets for fun and then complain about ace & aro people who go about sex and romance and attraction in ways that don’t make sense to you.

#hannah talks sometimes

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I loooove removing the additional comments from the version of a post I’m reblogging. get this shit out of here I wanna talk to op alone.

#hannah talks sometimes

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when it comes to asexuality and aromanticism you have to be okay with contradiction. one ace person will say asexuality is about not experiencing attraction, another will say it’s about not caring to act on attraction, another will say it’s not experiencing arousal. one aromantic will consider themself queer, one won’t. two people with seemingly identical experiences will use two different labels. aro people will be in romantic relationships, ace people will have sex. you get it.

#Hannah talks sometimes #aspec

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(if you don’t mind reblogging this post, that would be groovy ^_^)

#first and last time I ask people to reblog a post on the post lol #hannah talks sometimes #this will be my ‘general tumblr population poll’ #and then I can compare it to my blog one #it’ll still definitely be like. my side of tumblr because it’s starting on my blog but. eh you get it #asexual #aromantic #polls #aspec #arospec #acespec #asexuality #aromanticism #lgbt

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if you keep liking my posts we’re gonna end up like this

#hannah talks sometimes

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*guy forgetting the word for compromise* uhh what if our choice was bisexual

#does this mean anything to anyone #throwing shit at the wall era o #hannah talks sometimes

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if ever I were to transition to be a boy and then later one day went “fuck it. it’s girl time.” to me that would not be detransitioning. I’m built different that’s just trans gender 2!!!!!

#hannah talks sometimes

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when twins are stated to be identical in some show but different genders cause the people writing it don’t know how twins work it’s like oh rad cool trans. one of you is trans. but also both of you are trans. because when I ignore how twins work for Trans Reasons it’s chill.

#hannah talks sometimes

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women’s pants don’t have pockets? where do they store thoir penis?

#hannah talks sometimes

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#hannah talks sometimes

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bedtime wrapped:

you slept an average of 6.5 hours every night

your total hours slept was 2373! that’s nearly 100 straight days! so much bed!

you had 12 nightmares about that same one scenario

the longest you slept in one day was 14 hours. wow, you must love pillow!

your worst night of sleep was april 24th

#hannah talks sometimes #did someone do this already #sorry if someone did this already I forgot

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ok my turn

#I’m curious how confident people are in their math because I know the right answer #and I know why people reach the wrong answer but I still know that I’m right #and I wanna know if the people that are getting the same answer as me are confident #and the same of the people getting the other answer #also I simplified it down #cause what we’re really talking about is do you multiple or divide first in this problem #hannah talks sometimes