#i am what I drink

[breakfastteatime]

(Yes, I am known as The Tea Lady™️at a local coffee shop.)

#breakfast tea #lololololololol #i am what I drink #which is tea

[laviejaguardia]

personally victimized by this show's soundtrack choices

#mmine #the bear #the bear fx #sydcarmy #syd x carmy #sydney adamu #carmy berzatto #carmen berzatto #syd adamu #sydney x carmy #just..... syd asking for help for what's like the first ? time #and then that song kicks in ?? i am UNWELL #also realized a ship name could be bermu like the drink which just makes me laugh #i'm like 3ys late to the party ik i'm just a late bloomer #it's more like i got the invite and it sounded cool but i was busy with another stuff #and just now read it completely and realized it's something i love

[scribefindegil]

When you encounter a person who does not do something that you consider normative, you need to understand that they could be either stating a barrier or expressing a boundary. A barrier is "I would like to partake of the normative activity, but I can't due to other factors." A boundary is "I have made a decision not to participate in the normative activity."

Many people do not believe that boundaries actually exist! This is why it's so common to give a clear "No" on an issue and get inundated with people saying "But have you tried-" They can't conceptualize that anyone might actually want to avoid X thing, so they assume that you totally want to do X and you would love X so much if only they could figure out a way around whatever pesky obstacle is getting in your way. But humanity contains multitudes, and for any given experience you consider vital for happiness I promise there are people who are Just Not Interested.

If someone is stating a boundary, do NOT talk about how sad their life must be, and do NOT try to push them! Just accept that their life experience is very different from your own, and isn't that a beautiful thing?

Barriers are different. Barriers suck. With boundaries, the only problem is other people being dicks. With barriers, the problem is the barrier itself . . . and probably, additionally, people being dicks. There's really not a way to win in the people being dicks department when you don't do something that other people have decided is Necessary For Humaning.

If someone is talking about a barrier they face, still don't talk about how sad their life must be, although it's fine to commiserate with a friend if they're complaining. It's hard! Some barriers are pretty insurmountable; the person might not ever get to do X even though they want to. And a lot of people don't believe that this kind of barrier exists either; we're very much taught that you can do anything if you try hard enough, when that is simply not true. If someone tells you that they can't do something, listen to them and respect that.

The only reason for not doing X that people really acknowledge as real are the surmountable barriers. And these are real, but even in these cases you should always assume that the person knows themself best and not give advice unless they've specifically asked for it. But if they have asked, it's chill to try to brainstorm solutions with them.

As someone who has both things going on, it really sucks that people tend to assume that everything is a) a barrier issue and b) that they personally have the solution to it. Don't do this.

The only way you can tell if something is a boundary or a barrier is to listen to people and believe them.

Example:

If you offer someone a drink and they say, "No thanks . . . I haven't really found anything that I like yet," (barrier, potentially surmountable) it is probably cool to ask them if they're open to trying something new, and if they say yes ask about their tastes to try to find a drink they would enjoy! They might like it or they might not.

If you offer someone a drink and they say, "I can't, it interacts with my meds," (barrier, insurmountable) you can say, "Aw, that sucks!" and offer them something nonalcoholic.

If you offer someone a drink and they say, "I don't drink," (BOUNDARY) you should give them a mocktail and shut the fuck up.

#this post is about being ace and also being a teetolaler and also being disabled and also-- #there are some things i don't want to do and i am sick of people assuming that really i *must* want to #becuase no one could *really* be uninterested in drinking or sex or whatever #and there are also some things that i desperately want to do that i can't because of the curse #but a random stranger doesn't know which is which unless i tell them #you've got to listen to people when they tell you what they want or don't want to do #and you've got to listen to people when they tell you what they can and can't do

[squuote]

this was meant for an ask my friend sent about what if stanley wasn't actually stanley's name but tumblr DELETED IT and now i am pissed take this comic from my hands NEOW

#the stanley parable #the stanley parable ultra deluxe #tspud #tsp #crows art #GUUUUUHHHHH #THE ASK WAS STILL THERE YESTERDAY WHAT THE FUCK!!!!!!!!!! #<- not actually super angry but!!!!!! frustrating!!!!!!! #anyway it was a silly fun ask and i loved it a lot >:-( so i drew a comic #just took me forever to actually get to #but here it is. in the flesh #now i am gonna go angrily drink ginger beer

[triona-tribblescore]

conversation with a friend went a little like this

#really quick silly doodle before i buckle down doing college work for the night #arent we all a little tired of having to grow up? #i am #make sure to take care of yourself <3 #have a warm drink and wear a cozy hoodie or something #rottmnt #rottmnt fanart #rottmnt leo #rottmnt raph #TCEST DNI!!!!! #cant believe I gotta add that #but just to be safe x #tribbleart #<3 #whats their duo name again?

[cimicherrychanga]

do NOT approach this guy at the pub they WILL talk about ninja turtles for two hours

#râma iese din pământ #me when i dress like pink human donnie :] #also fun fact i HAVE talked to a guy abt turtles for hours at the pub #he was specifically into the 2003 series and i prefaced the convo with 'i havent watched that but-' #and then talked abt it to much he forgot i havent watched it #he mentioned another arc and i wa slike oh idk that as i saif i havent seen the show yet he was like WHAT but u know so much abt it #that is because i am unwell!!!!!! and u let me lead abt the battle nexus arc and leos emo teenage angst!!! #also women keep buying me drinks. what does this mean

[carnivalcarriondiscarded]

i think i need a lobotomy

#weee single hued barn because i Couldnt Be Fucked! #also i Do love single hue things. it always looks tasty <3 #and its a fun little exercise in values! or something! am i making excuses! maybe! #anyway im back on my Putting Guys In Outfits bullshit #theres not enough barnaby art.... #theres not enough Handsome barnaby art.... #scribble garnish #welcome home puppet show #welcome home #barnaby b beagle #hes my everythinggggggg #cant wait to see him get Fucked Up 🕺 Fucked Up 💃 Fucked Up 🍻 #every day i wake up and look at the teeny tiny barnaby in the teeny tiny heart shaped locket In My Mind #Also. an aside. a Thought i had while doodling. #a Genuine Curiosity musing. #i wonder what kinda drinks the neighbors would favor... #what would they order at a bar if they could go to one... #im soooo fucking curious guys im. I WANNA KNOW #what drink should i have put in barn's hand. hm. This Question Will Forever Haunt The Depths Of My Skull

[fumifooms]

Chilchuck analysis speedrun: As a hardworking half-foot who grew up poor and discriminated against and had his gullibility taken advantage of multiple times in his early adventuring days, Chilchuck thinks optimism is a dangerous flaw. He’s stressed and strict all the time because his job is noticing details like traps that could get everyone killed before anyone knows it, he takes the lives of everyone to be on his shoulders, and with the way he speaks about it that probably partly reflects how he felt about taking it upon himself to provide for his family too. His life’s always been pretty centered around work and has become even moreso now that his wife left and everyone is independent, and due to past events he’s very iffy with bonding with coworkers. He thinks feelings and job are a disaster mix. Like with his wife or with parties hiring him as sacrifice, being open or having good faith is vulnerability which can get you hurt, so he processes and shows all his stress as anger instead of worry. Doing strict dieting probably isn’t helping the irritability what with hunger, and on top of being a hunger suppressant alcohol might be the main stress reliever he has.

His grey hairs are so earned

#Chilchuck tims #dungeon meshi #analysis #HAPPY CHILCHUCK DAY #You know what yeah understandable have a good day #Alcohol be a ticket straight to chilling out town I suppose #Spoilers #dungeon meshi manga spoilers #Thinking on if I should split my family masterpost into diff posts for max reach hmm #Anyways I’m def editing in the second page into that post that “I’ve got three people to think of here” sounds sooo much like that’s #How he’d think about it in a family setting as well. He works so hard for them 🥺 #I could have put 100 pics on this post to justify everything I mentioned but this is a speedrun for a reason. I’m planning so many #Compilations rn i need a break from rereading lol #He’s just here to do his work!! He just wanna do his work!!! #I’m always rotating him in my brain like rotisserie chicken :( Hopefully this doesn’t sound disjointed or insane to average readers #He’s always on his guard so he has a short fuse and his type of humor & liking for snarky remarks doesn’t help #Also bc he knows nothing lasts he has a very work hard play hard mentality where ‘dying doing something you love. Like drinking’ #Is nice in his opinion #This post makes it all sound so dry. Chilchuck is so messy thinking about him is thrilling I swear. This is concise but at what cost… #OH ALSO he has weird self-hate issues where he really values his skills but devalues himself on a personal level. #‘I am a coward. I only care about myself. I cheated on my wife (lying for no reason)’ etc etc #Can’t disappoint people and make them leave you if they already have no expectations and esteem of you 😏💡

[skellydun]

IT IS OVER!!!!! WORK IS OVER FOR THE DAY!!!!! EVERYBODY CLAP!!!! YAY END OF WORK DAY!!!

#end of workday would also be good but we will celebrate what we can #i have been part of this charity committee which we love bc its a good cause bUT IM HAPPY ITS OVER!!!! #i am so tired we have done so many team dinners / lunches/ today was the charity happy hour and tomorrow we have a lunch #i cant socialize this much. i cant. im antisocial i am so drained. #i had to drink a Yuengling at the happy hour like a straight dad and worked the door

[babibread]

I.N의 퐁당로그 : Coffee Time!

#yang jeongin #jeongin #skz jeongin #i.n #skz i.n #skz #stray kids #straykids #createskz #bystay #staydaily #vocalrachasource #inniesource #i actually am not sure what hes drinking #its ok! #the second gif is so cute #by babibread

[myuminji]

#not pictured: a wolfwood carrying a drunk vash up the stairs to his room #gently dresses him into comfier clothes and tucking him into his blanket #all while chastising him lovingly telling him he should cut out his bad drinking habits #vash asking him to stay and he did. shoes and all. #(his shoes weren't off the last time vash saw him isn't it?) #trigun #trigun maximum #vashwood #vash the stampede #nicholas d wolfwood #myuminjiart #i am allergic to panelling these days. i call it freeform art #i dont have any idea what i drew and kept on adding whatever pops in my head at that moment #90% dependent on my playlist

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

Creative Hubris takes another unsuspecting victim.

#non mdzs #It's not even that many pages and I'm getting my ass kicked! #As much as I have been clawing at the walls - I have learned so much! This project pushed me more than I thought it would #I am so excited to share what I've made. I think its actually some of the best work I've ever done. #but I really do feel like I've stumbled back into the room covered in blood and holding a smoothie. #The issue being: at some point the sunken cost fallacy kicks in and you go: #'well I might as well put in extra polish since I've spent so much time on this already' #That's your EVIL BRAIN talking to you who wants you to live in EVIL COMICS LIMBO. #Sorry to my followers who miss the mdzs comics. I went mad at sea for a month and all I brought back was a short comic. #Posting my silly side doodles to bide me time as I continue to drink the sea water. #Set me free into the plains where the horses roam and I will be able to heal <3

[ferngle]

silly little doodle of a special little guy

#glam deserves all the nice things #he's just a little guy #me? absolutely smitten with another fictional character??? #what??? nooo i would never #don't look at the anatomy. this drawing took non of my logical brain #this was just good vibes and coffee #(drinking coffee at 2:30 am. i'm so smart) #doodles #metal family #glam metal family #ferngle art

[clownsuu]

Your possessive/obsessive Wally reminds me of the song “Smoke and Mirrors” by Jayn! I think he’d gladly kill someone to have Howdy to himself

Don’t know much obsession/possessive songs, but I do think Mob!Wally would be “the red means I love you”-

as for normal Wally? I feel he’s a lil more “Stalkers Tango” or maybe even a “The tailor shop in Enbizaka” (though it’s a different culture and timeline all together JDHHDHDDHE- vibesl still there)

also Frank screams a lil bit of “my unhealthy obsession”-

cw more obsessive behavior, syringe

Ai adventures with yours truly: day 90- We are not gunna talk about the “uno reverse” arc, or the “tea shop” arc-

#Also sorry for lack of art of yesterday and today- I am not feeling very well atm #Hopefully later I’ll be a bit better #But for now take some mid life crisis doodles of me just trying to get angst MDHHFHHDDJJD #ALSO WHY DID THE AI DO THAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAT IM T R A U M A T I Z E D. D D D D #I swear the days are getting worse and worse howdy whAT HAPPENED TO U DAWGGGGGGGGG WHERE DID THE SCRUNGLY SCRIMBLO GOOOOOOOOO #Welcome home #welcome home howdy #welcome home wally #wally darling #howdy pillar #wallypillar #cw obsession #Bleh bleh I need to drink more fluids #AND U TOO I SEE YOU NOT DRINKING W A T. E R #SPECIALLY U M O N IF YOU ARE READING THIS #Welcome home mob au

[stuckinapril]

i think i really need to learn how to cold quit things... one habit i have that really bothers me is checking my phone first thing in the morning bc it's "just for 5 minutes" "just to see if anyone sent me anything important" no bitch literally nothing on your phone requires you to check your phone first thing when you open your eyes!!! stop it

#i want to keep it cute and say i drink water or some shit but i check my phone THEN drink water guys it's true #i like to think i'm pretty productive / do well w my time bc i get to studying/errands pretty quickly #but sometimes i think about how those minutes spent on my phone could be spent reading the book i said i didn't have time to read #or doing a quick stretching exercise #or just getting myself together before a long day of studying idk. anything really #i need stricter regulations for myself ik it #i am doing good rn but what is good if u could literally be the best just by being off ur phone more

[thebibliosphere]

Tw: restricted medical diet, missing hunger cues, death, general food and chronic illness stuff. (It's a good post tho)

Being able to eat cereal again has unlocked something actually feral in me. I'm so used to not being able to grab a quick little snack that won't have Medical Consequences later that I've pretty much gotten used to just... turning my hunger cues off and running at a deficit of calories.

It takes me literal hours to eat a bag of crisps because if I don't eke it out, my body will reject it. I can't have most fruits because my body will reject them. Raw vegetables will send me to the ER. All the foods I can eat require labor, either past or present, and when you're already running on a deficit of energy from chronic pain and constant hunger, well, that's easier said than done.

But being able to do something as simple as eating cornflakes, either with or without milk, and not have my body go into an anaphylactic meltdown is... This is game-changing.

When I say it has awoken something feral in me, I'm being literal. It's hunger. I'm feeling hunger, and for the first time in literal years, I'm able to sate it without having to burn up precious energy to do it.

And it's just so achingly normal that it feels like it shouldn't be a big deal. It feels ridiculous to feel tearful over a thing like cornflakes. But when I consider the fact that in 2019, I almost died from malnutrition because my nervous system was shutting down, and I couldn't eat anything because my MCAS was so advanced everything was sending me into anaphylaxis I, I just. Yeah.

Crying over cornflakes on a Monday night.

Just MCAS 'remission' things... ✌

#chronic health tag #MCAS #I'm so scared to say it's in remission #I am so so scared #but it's like #I'm drinking soda #I'm eating packaged foods #and I'm not going into spontaneous anaphylaxis? #like I'm not about to eat any of the foods that I *know* kill me but like... #I'm finally getting over 2000 calories a day for the first time in five years #is this... is this what... who... #*sweats nervously* #and I know recovery is non-linear with shit like this #but at the same time #I am grabbing onto this with both hands and RUNNING with it