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#i hate being reminded that people can perceive me šŸ˜­šŸ˜­šŸ˜­
yourpsicodelicbitch Ā· 10 months
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astro thoughts šŸ‡šŸŒˆāœØšŸ’«šŸ³
HAPPY PRIDE MONTH ā¤ļø even though itā€™s almost July
disclaimer: I didnā€™t check my orthography
i hate it but whatā€™s trying to tell me the universe. my friend reminds me of my mom šŸ˜­ kill me pls. she have sun 11H, she worries a lot about how others understand what she saids, what others may think of her. she wants to be peaceful but at the same time she have moon in scorpio so sheā€™s struggling and she have a certain opinion about others based on the first impression or what made more impact -negative? idk. now I feel judge -I think itā€™s my anxiety-. Update: i said what was bothering me to her and everything is said, Iā€™m proud of me, Iā€™m in peace, she responded in a understanding manner. I can breath.
the degree of your ascendant says ALOT, not only about the physical appearance. it could point out even your career, howā€™s focused your life, how you reactā€¦now that I think about it, itā€™s like an ascendant in your ascendant pc (but if it confused you ignore it).
for example, my friend have gemini degree in his ascendant, heā€™s doing his major in communication, his family is full of artists and specially musicians, so he grew up knowing how to play every music instrument, itā€™s like breathing to him, music. heā€™s used to it and he express himself by composing and being curious, wanting to know about this and that. other example: my other friend has a gemini rising but I was thinking ā€œthereā€™s something thatā€™s missingā€ šŸ‘€ the leo degree of course. he be slayyiingšŸ’… heā€™s sassy. he knows what he wants and people always be wanting him not the other way around šŸ™„ heā€™s like purr stunning gurl šŸ’‹
the same friend told me the other day that his first impression of me was or exactly what he thought: ā€œyou donā€™t want to mess with herā€ ā€œI wouldnā€™t mess with her everā€. he told me I remembered him of maddy of euphoria -I gave him the idea bc I didnā€™t understand and he agreed-. Ascendant - Saturn aspects make you look like a bad bitch, like theyā€™ll kick your ass if you donā€™t do what they tell you, THEY ARE. The structure of their face is also bony. They look like theyā€™re mad, like theyā€™re on their way and if you step there youā€™re dead: karmic. The jawline, omg, is sharp, it could cut you.
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Also, bc Capricorn is ruled by Saturn, Capricorn ascendants and saturn-ascendant aspects share characteristics but are not the same? Capricorn risings have this cheekbones that are so sensual and even if they age, the cheekbones are still there, what you notice first is that. What they share is the intimidating aura strangers perceive. In different levels or forms I believe.
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Dakota Johnson Gisele BĆ¼ndchen
TWO QUEENS THAT I CANT FINISH TO DESCRIBE HOW THEIRE SO ETHEREAL BEAUTIFUL STUNNING ICONIC AND INFINITE THINGS MORE
I have Mars in Retrograde. I donā€™t know what bothers me until I explode or until I go to my psychologist. I minimize what bothers me and save it all in the back, so then my brain will hurt. I donā€™t figure out or notice when something bothers me bc I donā€™t think is a big deal or thatā€™s a joke, but even if itā€™s a joke I can still not like it -a side note-. Youā€™ll find me realizing later what was bothering me and then struggling to tell people how I really felt when they did THAT something.
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when the kidā€™s mercury is sextile Saturnā€™s dad (synastry: mercury sextile saturn), it means the dad communicates with their child as a way of teaching, caring about them. through their communication, they share childhood stories, experiences of any type and what they have learned about them, what they have observed. trough their talking they share their wisdom. the father have all the attention of their kid when he opens his mouth. the kid somehow knows something important is about to be said or they admires their dad that much.
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Leo moons 5H + aries degree can be pretty egoist, they could lost themselves in the idea of something, of having it. Also they donā€™t think, twice letting themselves be carried by the emotion that idea gives them. Theyā€™re in their pretty little world of fun but they are not looking whatā€™s happening to others, theyā€™re hungry for their passion. I HAVE TO TELL: not everyone with these placements are like this and blablabla -the same thing I say for precaution- AND I had something, itā€™s not even something šŸ™„ I had nothing with these placement k? but it gives you an explanation for my attitude. STILL, I think I gotta mention some of the synastry so itā€™ll make sense. In another time bc I donā€™t want to waste my energy in that -and donā€™t want to-.
Saturn in opposition with Uranus aspect makes the individual stay in the doubt. Theyā€™re stanched while they keep analyzing the pro and cons of the situation they want to start/be part. Even if someone extern try to help, theyā€™ll be doubting more.
Virgo moons are just so wholesome ā˜¹ļøā¤ļø They want to help. theyā€™re always doing something. they want the best for you. they care of others as if they take care of themselves but better, sadly. they work too much they need a rest but they know theyā€™ll be anxious of doing nothing. theyā€™re just pure souls. theyā€™re so kind. always helping in a ONG/organization that helps needed ones.
Aquarius mercury always have something to say, theyā€™re always right šŸ™„ even though they say itā€™s comprensible and natural that everyone have their own beliefs I donā€™t believe them. I think they think their mindset is better and everyone should follow it. LIKE GURL WTF I know you think you are wise and shit and youā€™ve passed through experiences that made you learned and that inspired you to tell them to others BUT let others make mistakes and be wrong, let others donā€™t be like you, thereā€™s the beauty. I always find them criticizing others for their manners, as if they have lived the same way you did.
I donā€™t believe/trust? in libras, yeah ok may be that my sun is in libra but not my whole chart. Thatā€™s what Iā€™m talking about, with that last sentence Iā€™m gaslighting you šŸ’Œ how tf you believe in libras when they donā€™t tell the truth directly I CANT. With my honesty I gotta mention that my libra sun appear when I donā€™t want to ruin something that benefits me, when I donā€™t know the person and I try my best, to my sag/scorpio/aquarius placements to not appear. They always keep something in their minds, they donā€™t tell you all, they keep to themselves some part, could be to not hurt you, doesnā€™t benefits them or whatever. a friend with moon in libra degree and another with libra moon: I always want them to say what they want, they canā€™t. I want to squish the hell out of them bc I canā€™t toošŸ˜­šŸ”Ŗ
Ceres 3H is a good placement for a psychologist. How they motivate others using their minds, that easily absorbs and process/analyses experiences and knowledge, to finally find a solution depending on the case -of the patient-, so itā€™ll be suitable. When they help others, their communication keeps improving with time. More experience = better. Still, itā€™s natural.
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ā€ Based on my personal experience.
ā€ English is not my first language.
ā€ Iā€™m not a profesional astrologer.
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likesunsetorange Ā· 5 months
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omg can i hear your thoughts about annie/armin as peeta/katniss iā€™ve been saying this for such a long time
omg yes!!! thank you for asking like nobody ever really sends me asks so this is so fun to me!!! also iā€™m sorry for getting on this train late but iā€™ve seen the light finally!
(also putting the preview thing bc i went on a long ass tangent, i told yā€™all if you get me started on this i wonā€™t stfu šŸ˜­)
but my mutuals and i have been talking about it and we were saying how katniss is definitely not the kind of person who ever wanted to be a hero. she certainly isnā€™t a selfish person (her volunteering for prim shows this), but she never intended to be the forefront of a revolution. also katniss is very socially inept and pretty unaware, she thinks everyone hates her or she doesnā€™t like people but she constantly goes out of her way for people bc she cares! i think these are really similar (in my head at least) to how annie is. annie only became a warrior to help her dad (well he also kinda forced her but anyways), and her intention was always just to get back home to him, so that kinda reminds me of katniss. also annie is perceived as mean and aloof, but sheā€™s just not the most social person and isnā€™t the best as socializing (i think this is most shown in aot jr high), and kind of misinterprets social situations, very similar to katniss! i think annie is a very caring and kind person but her situations have led her to be closed off and causing her goals to be the forefront of her mind, but towards the end of the series she realizes that people do care for her and starts to be more trusting/open (i.e. armin/mikasa/even reiner a bit) and we see a more lighthearted side of her (the okapi scene LOL)!! i think katniss and annie arenā€™t exactly the same but i see so many similarities between them, even with the whole aruani interaction too, it reminds me a lot of some of the more vulnerable everlark scenes. also annie is very aggressive and so is katniss, and that whole scene where katniss throws peeta into the wall after the whole ā€œif it werenā€™t for the babyā€ shenanigans, thatā€™s annie as hell LOL she wouldnā€™t want to be perceived as weak or vulnerable, itā€™s just not her
as for armin, armin is literally the equivalent to peeta to me. armin is actually my favorite character after eremika, so i adore the fact that heā€™s so similar to my favorite book character. i think armin is one of the most kind characters in the story, and his genuine care and devotion to mikasa and eren make me love him so much, but armin is also definitely a very manipulative person. he knew how to manipulate situations to his advantage in order to achieve whatever it is he wanted, and thatā€™s definitely in line with peeta. peeta put on a performance as much as katniss did, but because he knew how to work the room and use his charms to his advantage. i 100% without any thread of doubt in me know armin is capable of pulling off the baby stint, because he would think of the same scenario, using the capitolā€™s pity to their advantage. being able to be manipulative stems from your ability to read people and your intelligence, and we can tell that armin is good at both of those (how he got eren to confess his true feelings for mikasa just by fucking around with him lol)!! also cute blond boy, blue eyes thatā€™s so armin!!!! but beyond all the manipulation and working for the cameras, peeta did have a genuine care and he loved katniss his whole life, and armin had always been interested in annie as well and she was a bit naive to it too.
honestly i was never the biggest aruani fan (i like them but theyā€™re not a fav basically) but seeing their everlark parallels made me have a new appreciation for the ship!! i could honestly say more but i just woke up and i canā€™t think of as many canon references to as iā€™d like!!! but sorry for going on a whole tangent i just love the hunger games a lot šŸ˜­
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Hi, what is your pov on some of these comments about mileapo fans being ā€œdeluluā€ and naive bc itā€™s ā€œjust fake bl fanserviceā€?
Because idk if Iā€™m going crazy but like as a gay person this shit seems borderline homophobic? On the one hand I kinda get where theyā€™re coming from with like the concert ā€œplotā€ (idk what else to call it šŸ˜­), but otherwise seeing how they interact with each other in off-screen/stage moments and their chemistry and the huge ass difference with the entire cast, how they interact with each other vs others, the side couples energy with each other, itā€™s not that big of a leapā€¦ and to imply that itā€™s dumb or naive for ppl (lots of them queer themselves) to perceive that smells like homophobia to meā€¦ idk
Iā€™m not even trying to be mad abt the mileapo thing bc frankly i donā€™t give a shit what people do or donā€™t believe about two actors but itā€™s the dismissive tone of such comments that pisses me off, and I was wondering if maybe you or any of your followers have some thoughts about this too.
Hello friend.
Thank you for trusting me with this delicate ask. Hopefully I can do a good job with it.
I'm hearing a couple of things in your question, part of which I'm guessing is just being able vent (glad to provide the space!) but the crux of which is commenting on the irony of homophobia in Kinnporshe / BL fandom. And yeah. You're not imagining it.
CW: Homophobia. I'm serious, this is your only warning. Some of this really upset me today and I'm pretty good at compartmentalizing.
I saw this after I got your ask and already spent some time thinking about how to respond, but these comments were in response to Tong coming out at KPWT Manila on Tiktok. I hate looking at them, but I'll embed them in case the tweet ever gets deleted as a reminder that EQUALITY IS NOT REAL IN THIS WORLD.
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I won't lie, this hurt my feelings a lot and it's not even about me. I spent half a second being mad before just being sad about this for hours.
I've been into BL for so long, I am tired of this round-about argument we keep having over women, many of whom are queer or questioning, enjoying queer stories where the characters are male. There are culturally-adept literary and queer studies scholars who do research on this.
That being said, a not-small proportion of the fan base is made people who are genuinely homophobic and use BL as their fantasy. Just like watching lesbian porn doesn't make straight men allies, neither does watching BL make straight women allies. I am too exhausted to explain why they do but it's basically a mix of misogyny in not wanting to see other female actors opposite an actor you like but also using queer men as placeholders for your fantasy. Sometimes in fiction, but other times in reality.
I'm with @mirrorofprinces, we need to attack more homophobes for this. šŸ˜’šŸ˜’šŸ˜’ no more fighting over gay rights, time for KPTS-inspired gay wrongs and gay violence on the gaygenda.
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The "delulu" and "it's just fanservice" comments are...indeed kind of homophobic. I respect people who don't want to comment on or interpret their relationship, like you said, or interpret it differently. And it kind of sucks to be like "well some people will be homophobic and you have to share a space with them" in fandom about a queer story, but how do you confront people, some of whom are happy to be openly homophobic, about homophobia that is more nuanced?
But I think one thing that undermines MileApo's authenticity is that BibleBuild do so much fan service despite also claiming not to. Fan service is a Thai BL industry standard with other actor pairs. And as a reality check to myself, I have looked at some of those pairs interacting and yeah. Definitely brotherly or fan service there.
The other part of the problem is young people, especially after the pandemic, genuinely do not seem to know what normal human interaction looks like, including the difference between what's fake and what's real AND what's platonic vs. what's flirty or romantic affection.
As for what my friends/moots think, here's @mellowroxy and @cookiedoughfiesta's thoughts from August about Mile saying he was in love with Apo about the "delulu" comments. (Though let's be real... sometimes the fandom is also... a bit much šŸ¤£šŸ¤£šŸ¤£)
When I talked to Yams (@mellowroxy) about this earlier, here's what she had to add on to the point:
Me: fans were freaking out when Tom called Zendaya 'my MJ' on his birthday wish to her, and that's way more subtle than what Mile and Apo are doing
Yams: There wouldnā€™t be this much push back if it was a guy and girl. Most people would be like ā€œoh another on set romanceā€ and call it a day. On the Zendaya and Tom topic, if this was decades back when interracial couples were taboo as fuck then they wouldnā€™t come out as well.
A conscious reminder equality has always been hard-fought for.
But trust me, this paradox of people who watch BL who are homophobic have not escaped Mile and Apo's notice either.
"Equality isn't real in this world."
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Apo's comment at KPWT Bangkok day 2, which many people have noted was likely about complaints over them reenacting Kinn and Porsche's first kiss live. I'm not going to look for it but @soft-husbands mentioned she saw a fancam that blurred the kiss out on Youtube šŸ˜‘ (Why did you watch KPTS in the first place then.)
"People say that they are open minded, But they are actually not."
And isn't that the crux of it.
As I always say, you haven't have an opinion on the truth. So in the end, no one's opinions on the situation matters except for Mile's and Apo's. But it does suck to bear the brunt of people's negativity doesn't it.
Hopefully this didn't make you feel more sad... but you're not alone in noticing it at least.
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crescenthoax Ā· 3 months
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Hi Iā€™m that anon who sent you the GOT quote and I just wanna say to this beautiful bit šŸ˜­ ā€œAs for Floris and Aemond I know [my] Aemond is not everyoneā€™s favourite but I donā€™t knowā€¦ I feel like the lore about them I think every night before falling asleep is too deep and complex to even begin with. I adore them, even though heā€™s terrible and she deserves so much better, and yes, I see everyone pointing out that heā€™s not exactly mourning her but I think he is in his own way -and I will write about it. Just because.ā€
GIRLLL YOU DONT KNOW HOW MUCH /I/ LOVED THEM. They werenā€™t the main couple but I feel like all your side pairings are so much full of intrigue and drip with life. But yeaaahh um I loved them, I loved the whole ā€œthey prefer to look at each other than touch each otherā€ thing and how less physical They were, I loved their opposite personalities, and I loved how they kept their relationship to themselves and away from prying eyes of not just the other characters like Annika but to the reader as well (unfortunately Iā€™m a nosy bitch who wanted to see) They also reminded sooo much of Joanna and Tywin ā€œOnly Lady Joanna truly knows the man beneath the armor, and all his smiles belong to her and her alone.ā€ LIKE.. ugh my heart.
I definitely overromanticized them to a problematic degree in my head šŸ˜­ Iā€™m an optimist but I was so excited for the Christmas au bc I thought theyā€™d get the happy ending theyā€™d been robbed of by the Caswells in the main verse, I thought starting with them being broken up meant that their arc would be them getting back together so imagine my surprise and heartbreak when I read part 2 šŸ˜­šŸ˜­šŸ˜­šŸ˜­šŸ˜­
I definitely feel more than a little silly for misinterpreting their relationship so much and hearing that they donā€™t actually ā€œbelongā€ together in that way, Idk. I donā€™t hate your Aemond but I do want to shake him and scream that he needs to get his act together and BECOME BETTER AND BECOME DESERVING of her because in my head, she was all he wanted. Idk. Itā€™s stupid but I wanted them to be happy together so badly. I still really ship them even after alla dat which makes me a little bit of a šŸ¤” but I LOVE pain if I didnā€™t, I wouldnā€™t have made it this far into Aegon and Annikaā€™s story.
I think so many of the readers associated the found family with all three of the couples just being siblings together so itā€™s easy to forget how much Aemond loves our girl Annika, if heā€™s disloyal to his wife which I think is sad and a little unfair but a valid reading. Iā€™m also not ready to let go of this familial dynamic, it was definitely my favorite. I just hope for the best for all of the Targtowers and their remaining wives especially Aegon and Annika, but I know whatever you come up with, Iā€™ll be happy with even if Iā€™m sobbing on the floor.
Jeez that Tywin and Joannaā€™s comparison was truly something.
And, to be fair, I donā€™t think thereā€™s such a thing as 'misinterpreting them.' I believe you can interpret their relationship however you want and also perceive the characters alone as you please. That's what's fun and magical about reading. As a writer, I would never say, 'no, actuallyā€¦' when someone tells me their views on a character or a pairingā€”unless you're saying something absolutely out of context, like when someone said Annika enjoyed being with Jacaerys or that she didnā€™t love Floris. I want people to feel a genuine connection to the story and perhaps find themselves in the characters, to relate to them. I also love to see how what Iā€™ve written is interpreted because it helps me a lot to see if people understand where Iā€™m pointing. So, if you think they were in love (they were, I just think that if it were up to him he wouldā€™ve never taken a wife at all), then itā€™s okay. Aemond is a complicated dude driven by duty and greed, but yes, he loved her, and heā€™s in pain right now though he doesnā€™t let it show. Modern Aemond and Floris, howeverā€¦ I don't know I feel like modern Aemond would be so insufferable about women. Love him though.
On a side note, of course he loves and deeply cares about Annika too. I think I already talked about this, but he cares about her as an individual and also as an extension of his brotherā€™s honour. That's why heā€™s mad and upset about the entire baby situation, perhaps even more than Aegon. I think Aegon feels guilty, and heā€™s sick with worry thinking about everything Aemond is pointing out. But I believe we can all agree that we are all going to miss this family so much. I even have to confess that I wrote that Christmas au because I was too depressed about the main fic and I missed Floris and the six of them and I wanted Helaena to be happy lol.
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une-femme-de-lettres Ā· 1 year
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YEEEEESSSSSSS
I FINALLY ARRIVED TO YOU ON MY SUPPORTIVE RAMPAGE THAT J DEFINITELY WASNT TRYING TO DO THIS WHOLE TIME WITH TUMBLR BEING A BRAT AND CRASHING!
IT'S YOUR TURN FOR THE SUPPORTIVE MESSAGE
PREPARE THYSELF
FOR MY CHEESINESS TO SHOW ITSELF IN MY SUPPORT!
Okay with all that dramatic intro over that's atleast a little bit of energy gone so hopefully I can be calm enough šŸ˜…
First of all thank you so freaking much for indulging in my excitement for trying out fanfic writing for the first time and being a really cool friend šŸ˜
Next I'll swoon about your writing so buckle up and keep your hands and feet inside the safety box at all times during my hyperfixation on your fics šŸ˜…
You're so fuckin amazing at writing holy shit, GIVE ME YOUR SKILLS šŸ˜­
I can't get enough of your fics just like I can't get enough snuggles from animals! (And that's saying something that I'm comparing the two). Your fics are like drugs to me except not deadly (unless I get diabetes from Soap being so fuckin precious I swear)
Plus I don't do drugs but I'll EAGERLY indulge myself on your fics. You're 100% one of if not my favorite fanfic writer for COD MW2... HELL maybe even my favorite fanfic writer of all time! (Though, full disclosure, I might be a bit biased since you actually talk to me and interact with me on a semi daily basis depending on if I got more COD MW2 filth stuck in my head that I'm too excited excited tell you to wait to make a fic or headcanon out of it)
Pleeeaaaseee don't be weirded out by this all, I get super excited to have friends and even more excited to compliment them šŸ˜… I'm just not used to having friends ig
Anyways, I can't thank you enough for being so nice and cool! And not enough words can be used to explain how much I look up to you (kinda like how a younger sibling looks up to their older sibling like they're the coolest person ever and all that jazz)
Reminder this is all purely platonic (don't mind me worrying too much about how people perceive what I say šŸ˜…šŸ„²) so please don't take any of this the wrong way šŸ™
I'm super heckin excited to finish the first chapter of the series and the mistletoe headcanons (I'm away from home rn and I'm doing it in a Google docs because the tumblr app hates me or my phone, mayhaps even both)
Keep up the amazing work friend! If you ever need and support or comforting words let me know! Yes I'm always affectionate to my friends and yes I may be weird according to social standards but that comes along with life experiences and being me šŸ˜…
Don't let any haters get to you, you're a lovely person and friend and an absolute master at fanfics
Oh, and you dropped this queen, I saved my favourite gif crown for you
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I did not expect this OMG Thank you so much šŸ˜­šŸ˜­šŸ˜­šŸ˜­šŸ˜­
Your message means so much to me !!! I've been insecure about my writing skills for a few months now and the COD MWII fadom allowed me to shift back to my natural writing style and have fun again with writing !!
I'm so glad my work is inspiring you to make your own fics, the more stories there are out there, the better honestly !!! And you have so many wonderful ideas that deserve to be put into words !!!
I've been lucky to not have to face haters so far in my writing journey but what can really put someone down is the sheer lack of interaction (reblog and comments). The COD MWII fandom has been better to me than other fandoms so far but this is still something that is frequently talked about on here. That's why I'm glad there are people like you to share your enthusiasm with authors through asks and messages. You're awesome, I love you ā¤ļø
Thank you again, stay awesome, keep writing šŸ„°šŸ„°
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cozymochi Ā· 3 years
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Hey, i just want to say you are one of the coolest people ever-seriously. I love your art, even if you dont think so yourself. So many people here enjoy the content you make. Fanom will always be prettyā€¦. y'know. It's always okay to not engage with it. Just do things that make you happy; thats really all that matters in the end. (1/2)
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I dunno if Iā€™ll make it worse but not just answering this with ā€œšŸ„ŗšŸ„ŗšŸ˜­šŸ’•šŸ’•šŸ’•šŸ’•ā€, but I really feel like I should dive a bit deeper (not too deep, im not comfy enough for that), but dive just for a second.
I understand the intent behind this, I promise itā€™s really nice and I appreciate it.
But external validation online isnā€™t the problem I have. Iā€™m aware other people outside myself like it. I didnā€™t say they didnā€™t. Iā€™m aware enough. Iā€™m not as extreme popularity levels where Iā€™m actively spoken about or have influence to an obnoxious-name-dropping degree, but itā€™s a comfy enough spot I can recognize to some extent. I only know my bubble, though.
I just do not like my work. I feel like whenever I say anything close to that, people are quick to assure how much others like it- so that must mean something, and mean enough for me to take a second-thought if only for a minute.
My issues stem from personal stuff and enviromental things IRL outside of my control that have been building for years. But when I wanna (in theory) get away from thinking about that, or make a teeny tiny vent that doesnā€™t so much as scratch the surface, I come here. Which, yeah, itā€™s tumblr. No social media is a good spot to go. I donā€™t even care if people just scroll by them, nobody is obligated to say anything in my book. Theyā€™re not comfortable and look really bad- tho that comes with being emotionally charged.
However, this place reminds me how much (and this expands to IRL) how much Iā€™m just not satisfied with my work. It doesnā€™t stem from a perceived lack of external validation.
I just donā€™t like it.
I donā€™t know why.
But just to curb this before anybody wants to try: Iā€™m not looking for others to analyze or theorize ā€œwhyā€ either, thatā€™s not anybodyā€™s place to do that (frankly iā€™d be insulted if anybody tried to). I probably wonā€™t figure out ā€œwhyā€ for a while. If not for a long time.
And sometimes, it feels like Iā€™m not allowed to be dissatisfied with it. And if I donā€™t have a sufficient enough answer as to ā€œwhyā€ itā€™s perceived as irrational and not warranted. And while I know it is at least the former in some capacity, Iā€™m not given enough respect to just let me feel the way I do. This expands IRL with my other work, where I canā€™t even change my mind about something without being interrogated for it. I can take breaks all I want to (I do it a lot), but it wouldnā€™t really adjust my mindset.
But this has been an ongoing problem for years, and not a new thing. I just donā€™t actively bring it up much. I donā€™t bring up a ton of stuff here, cuz frankly, much of my personal life isnā€™t anybodyā€™s business. I canā€™t even count how often I stop myself from hitting that post button to make two sentence remarks. I just bother somebody else with paragraphs. But sometimes it will leak out in these awkward posts that happen in spurts. So, to that end, all this would seemingly look ā€œnewā€ to everybody else and purely recent- when it isnā€™t.
I swear external validation isnā€™t the problem. Iā€™m aware.
This will be more confusing. But, this whole ā€œnot liking my art and not finding it worth showingā€ isnā€™t even the problem either. This isnā€™t even what sets me off.
But, it is an issue that existsā€” but itā€™s at the bottom. Itā€™s not something I ā€œworryā€ about or fret over, so much as itā€™s just a very minor thing thatā€™s present. This place mostly just reminds me of that bottom tier issue when this place is supposed to be, and I hate using this, ā€œan escapeā€ from all the other more damning and ongoing more serious issues that actually make me break down and lose my composure and want everything to stop.
Itā€™s mostly just the equivalent of being beaten up in an ally, getting mugged, getting fired, ur pet dying, then when youā€™re trying to finally go home to unwind you trip and fall into a puddle and skid your knee.
I donā€™t lose composure from that. But it doesnā€™t help when u wanna get your mind off everything else.
P.S this wasnā€™t ā€œsaying the wrong thingā€ or inciting worse feelings!!! I donā€™t feel much, I just felt like I should clarifyā€” tho I have enough sense to know my own response like this was likely presumptuous and unwarranted too. I dunno. Seemed like a decent springboard to jump from to talk a very vague concept.
P.P.S: my digs at fandom stuff was just me being salty and unrelated tacked on remark and not so much personal nor related to any of the above, i promise i dont care about the cringe
but thank u for calling me cool
i wish i did more to really warrant that, though. Itā€™s hard to feel good about what others say when you yourself donā€™t feel it
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