#the thing abt this is that certain things abt it are cliché (a shit thing to say abt a life but a fair thing to say abt art)

[aeide-thea]

In the City

                        for Monica Sok

These bridges are a feat of engineering. These pork & chive dumplings        we bought together, before hopping on a train & crossing bridges, are a feat of engineering. Talking to you, crossing bridges        in trains, eating pork & chive dumplings in your bright boxcar of a kitchen in Brooklyn, is an engineer’s dream-feat        of astonishment. Tonight I cannot believe the skyline because the skyline believes in me, forgives me my drooling        astonishment over it & over the fact that this happens, this night, every night, its belief, glittering mad & megawatt like the dreams        of parents. By the way, is this soy sauce reduced sodium? Do you know? Do we care? High, unabashed sodium intake!        Unabashed exclamation points! New York is an exclamation I take, making my escape, away from the quiet snowy commas of Upstate        & the mess of questions marking my Bostonian past. In New York we read Darwish, we write broken sonnets finally forgiving        the Broken English of Our Mothers, we eat pork & chive dumplings, & I know, it’s such a 90s fantasy        of multiculturalism that I am rehashing, but still, in New York I feel I can tell you how my mother & I        used to make dumplings together, like a scene out of The Joy Luck Club. The small kitchen, the small bowl of water        between us. How we dipped index finger, thumb. Sealed each dumpling like tucking in a secret, goodnight.        The meat of a memory. A feat of engineering. A dream of mother & son. Interrupted by the father, my father        who made my mother get on a plane, a theory, years of nowhere across American No’s, a degree that proved useless.        Proved he was the father. I try to build a bridge to my parents but only reach my mother & it’s a bridge she’s about to        jump off of. I run to her, she jumps, she’s swimming, saying, Finally I’ve learned—all this time, trying to get from one useless        chunk of land to another, when I should’ve stayed in the water. & we’re drinking tap water in your bright Brooklyn kitchen.        I don’t know what to tell you. I thought I could tell this story, give it a way out of itself. Even here, in my fabulous        Tony-winning monologue of a New York, I’m struggling to get to the Joy, the Luck. I tell you my mother still        boils the water, though she knows she doesn’t have to anymore. Her special kettle boils in no time, is a feat of engineering.        She could boil my father in it & he’d come out a better person, in beautiful shoes.        She could boil the Atlantic, the Pacific, every idyllic American pond with its swans. She would.

       —Chen Chen (2016)

#chen chen #poetry #the thing abt this is that certain things abt it are cliché (a shit thing to say abt a life but a fair thing to say abt art) #but then like. it's so clearly fully *aware* of that & also doing some clever interesting things that i still like & respect it anyway #also yeah predictably the bit that Got me was the sort of o'hara-ish 'unabashed sodium intake! / unabashed exclamation points!' #which is like. an obvious thing to like & not even the best thing it does‚ ultimately #like the way it dips back into 'bridges' #and 'feat of engineering' #and repeatedly reframes them #and like. that final 'she would'! #and 'this night‚ every night‚ its belief‚ glittering mad & megawatt like the dreams of parents'— #i'm always on abt similes that don't illuminate anything but this one literally & figuratively *does* #the parents' entrance to the poem is thru the simile #and then again the dumpling-making with his mother is 'like a scene / out of the joy luck club' #meta and metaphor and the way reality is only accessible thru these fictions #anyway. idk. i think it's easy to underestimate this poem & it's doing more than you maybe think

[zarisdonut]

My thoughts after watching Wednesday

Okay so since Wednesday came out only yesterday, there's still a bunch of my moots on twt that haven't seen it yet so I decided to express myself here since it's more of a safe space for spoilers and stuff and I will explode if I don't talk about it.

(Wednesday spoilers down below btw)

Okay so first, it was a pretty good show. I think I would've liked it much more if it didn't have that many ∼straightness∼ in it but that's just my very biased opinion cause straight people tire the shit out of me but what are you gonna do lol.

Also, these are my thoughts. If you do not agree, it's okay. I don't want to fight anyone (basically bc I don't have the energy for that) but I am always up for debating and exchanging different ideas.

PLOT

I think that plotwise, the show was pretty awesome. They didn't do anything completely new, never-seen-before or anything like that, but it was enjoyable. Some parts were a bit predictable but I also can't complain because this is, after all, a tv show about teenagers so there are obviously some tropes that are always gonna repeat themselves, which isn't exclusively bad. For example, I always love a good prom/ballroom scene, so yeah. Also, I think that even tho there were times everything was a bit cliché, they still found a way to make it interesting and not want to make me turn off my computer lol.

Also there were a bunch of times when stuff didn't make much sense? Like for example in the competition part. If there are no rules, why didn't they just exploit that? Like, if I had been in there, I would've used an engine for the boat, for example. It's little things like this that make me v mad, cause I feel it doesn't make sense. But I understand that it might just be me cause I tend to think in a more logical way than anything else and also, I'm a hell of a perfectionist, so yeah.

WRITING

This part is one of the most important ones for me (along with character development) and even though I thought that it was overall brilliant, there were some parts of the dialogue (not lots of them, but a few) that felt a bit cringe and that took me a bit out of place. Like, most times when I was watching the show, I felt totally immersed in the story and then BAM. There's a line where I'm like "oh. That's- No." Like, idk how to explain it but they just took me out of the story and I came back to myself, watching a TV Show abt teenagers instead of living in it. (idk if this makes sense lol)

ACTING

Special section to literally BOW to miss Jenna Ortega cause hOLY sHIT girl. I couldn't have imagined anyone better as Wednesday Addams.

THE CHARACTERS

Okay so here is where ∼probably∼ I'm the most conflicted of it all. I found the Addams family (special mention to Wednesday, obviously) truly amazing. It's true that I've known the Addams for a long time and I was already emotionally attached to them, so idrk if I find them amazing because I already knew abt them, or bc they are one of the few characters that are well-made in the show.

But apart from them, all the other characters I found them a bit bland. Where's the flavour, babes? Put some goddamned spices in it, god. Like, all of them fit a certain trope, which I'm not mad about cause at the end of the day all the characters in the world fit a certain group, but the thing is that none of them really stand out. There's nothing really special abt them, and considering that this is literally about a school full of vampires, witches (well, idk if they're actual witches but you get it), werewolves and sirens.... is deeply concerning to me. Like, there's not one character in there that I feel could be remembered, and the bad thing about all of this is that there is so much potential. It's physically painful, actually. (I might do another post with my ideas of how to improve some of the characters to make them seem more interesting according to myself, but we'll see)

I do understand, however, that this show is abt Wednesday, and she is supposed to be the 'special one' since she's the main character, but that doesn't mean you have to write the other ones as plain as a blank sheet of paper. I certainly could go on and on, but I don't want this post to be longer than it needs to lol. Maybe I could do another one where I get into the characters a bit more (cause analysing shit is like, my only thing) so yeah.

RELATIONSHIPS

Yep, here's where my ∼most unbiased∼ opinions end, cause yes, I'm obviously gonna trash all the romantic relationships of the show.

First: what the fuck was that.

Second: No, but fr. What the fuck was that.

I thought we were over the phase of guilting girls into going on dates with guys they're not interested in, but I guess not?

It still astounds me how none of the romantic pairings have a single atom of chemistry in them. And my question is, did they even try? Cause holy shit bro it was hard to watch. (Not talking abt the acting. Its more of a writing problem, I think)

Also, these romances added literally nothing to the storyline. Especially Enid's. Why are yall wasting screen time with useless plotlines and uneventful couples? Can't you use those minutes for something better? Like, literally anything atp. I have at least 20 ideas off the top of my head.

N e ways, moving on... Like I said in the beginning, I barely tolerate straight ships anymore, and sometimes I even gaslight myself into believing they're not that bad, that it's just me, but not here.

Wednesday Addams is the kind of character you can't just push to have a relationship with the first person she meets. And you certainly cannot write her in a love triangle because it just won't work. And what happened in the show? It didn't work. I'm actually really mad at this because that just tells me the writers/the people who were in charge of the show didn't get her character.

First of all, I don't think Wednesday should have a love interest, but if you, for some inexplicable reason wanted this, you need to play the long game. And by long game, I mean SO. MOTHER. FUCKING. LONG. I could make an entirely separate post abt this but I'm going to try to sum it up as well as I can.

Wednesday doesn't get attached to people. In fact, she hates people. So making her fall for someone to me is straight-up bullshit, but we're not gonna go there right now.

She is an egomaniac. If she doesn't find someone useful, she's not gonna talk to them. Obviously, that's not love. So apart from the "regular" process of liking someone, you also need to take into account this extra process that needs to happen. She has to go from "only seeing X as a tool" to "starting to acknowledge X as another human" ending in "holy shit I might like X".

So what I think they shouldve done is invest in friendships first. Build a good relationship with her love interest first, and everything else will come along when it needs to come along.

For example with (and yall prob know who I'm gonna say) Enid. I wouldn't say I ship them per se, but the development is there yk. I like the way their relationship evolved, and I think that if they were gonna give our main girlie a love interest, it would have to be like this (I'm not saying it necessarily needs to be her, but also I wouldn't be mad abt it).

Anyways, those are my main thoughts rn. Believe it or not, I did try to keep it short (lol) but I just get so motivated talking abt these things hehe.

If you stuck around to read what a random stranger on the internet had to say abt a tv show abt teenagers with weird abilities, you're the real one. If my brainrot continues, I'll probably make more of these posts analysing different stuff but with more depth n stuff, so maybe we'll see each other again, who knows.

Until then, have a very nice day and drink water.

Kindly,

The random stranger on the internet

#wednesday #wednesday addams #wednesday spoilers #wenclair

[sugarcherriess]

btw remember when i said i usually have very detailed n storyline-driven dreams . n i mentioned a certain juyeon rivals to lovers dream . i realized i never actually explained what that was abt . even if u dont remember its fine bc i got the sudden urge to infodump abt it (i actually hyperfixated on this dream a while ago . wow , the wonders of the human brain)

so basically it didn't have that many details bc with it being a dream it was all very inconsistent . but in short it was just some kind of volleyball team (haikyuu ? i haven't watched that anime in like 2 years omg) au . n juyeon was like the prodigy of the team with an innate talent for volleyball . n i wasn't (i cant even play volleyball irl lmao) like i was decent but not amazing yknow . n unfortunately (or maybe not rlly unfortunately since , yknow , rivals to lovers)( someone needs to take the word "yknow" away from me im addicted to it) he wasn't rlly the nicest person n got mad when i messed up with something during practice idk . but i actually messed up bc of him so the coach was like okay u (me) have to stay behind after practice since u messed up n u (juyeon) have to stay behind to help them since u r the reason they messed up . very cliché but i Live for this kind of cliché shit . then things were Actually getting a little interesting but ofc i had to wake up right at that moment .

thats a lot of words im so sorry -🦦

Now where do i find a slow burn series with this exact plot line word for word. Tell me. Tell me now

#˚₊· ͟͟͞͞➳❥ Adonis Speaks #˚₊·➴ My Lovely 🦦 #because???? #i wanna know more???? #so much more????

[baekhvuns]

can i have some encouraging words😞 -🤗

okay hi i did not know how to do this properly because i sat for a good five minutes just looking at this ask because i was afraid that the way i want to say certain things won’t come out a certain way and that they might be taken in a completely different or a negative approach but i’ll try to write this is my first time doing it i’m so sorry if i’m lacking in some thing !!

genuinely don’t know how to write this but if you’re looking for encouragement i would, i won’t be cliché or romanticize the positive aspects because i think looking through negative stuff is also a very healthy approach because certain things happen for a reason. and i know everyone says this yada yada yada and i personally never learn from this bc it keeps happening to me anyway fhwndhsj,, but i later end up realizing while i think about it. yes things happen for a reason, you grow from them. bc as you recite that certain thing again and again, be it at night or randomly throughout the day. u kind of realize how dumb it was, or how it passed so quick. i like to think of it as a sitcom whenevr i feel certain things, if i feel sad— id go “shit that’s a memory id laugh at in future and be glad its gone” and then go on to worry abt it weeks later

if you’re feeling sad or down and u wanna cry at the world, cry it out. bc who are u gonna hide this from??? yourself??? no bc it’ll grow worse, so do it for yourself, cry it, scream be as melodramatic as u can but don’t let it walk with you. once ur out of that room or that feeling, leave it behind and try to look past it, ik it’s hard, i do i rly do. but thinking about something happy or hilariously funny rly helps!!!!

let your emotions out bc who tf cares???? cry as loudly or as quietly as u want, bc at least it’ll make u feel good. bc one bad day doesn’t eliminate all the good days you had, if your tired, rest, have a snack, watch ur comfort movies. be in silence, turn the lights off and just stare at the ceiling. time flies fast when ur resting, but it’s incredibly slow when ur dealing with something bc it gives u the time to relook, rethink and change things. time flies but at the same time it allows u to grow!! pain happens, nothing is possible without pain. you want success? you’re going to have to go thru some pain, u want love? pain comes automatically, u want to feel good? pain always comes first and then comes the better part of it. bc once you’ve gone past the pain, the hurt and everything negative will look minuscule and itll be easier to move past it and go towards a positive outlook!!!

trust urself, bc ur the only one who can!! even if it’s not hard just do it, what matters is the most is u tried.

i rly hope this helped im terrible with words i like to say it more often and convert it thru my fics, but this is a lil different i was debating to do a voice record fbwnfbskfhke BUT NOFBWHNFJW but sincerely hope this helped even by a percent 💓✨💓 good things will come ur way when u are at ur best <3

#✉️ : ask #🤗 anon #OMF this do not make sense #✰ : advice #i truly don’t think #im legible enough to offer someone advice #but i hope it made a lil bit of sense #and provided u with comfort

[sotorubio]

I'm really confused cus ppl are attacking tiff for taking control of her life, saying she doesn't need to be rescued. I thought that's a good thing? But people are saying it's fake feminism because she was so mean to lola before. But isn't that the whole point of skam? People have this "shame" in their life that they grow from? Like how everyone wanted lola to be forgiven for stuff she did to other people in s6, (eliott, lucas, daphne, etc ,) because she had her own struggles but had grown /was growing from it? But with tiff we're not supposed to support her? It's hilarious how people have decided there's a right and a wrong way to react to clips and it you don't fit the "right" reaction box then you're some kind of heathen 😔

well if we're talking real life ofc something like that is a good thing, finding ur strength after going through trauma is always good n a common "feminist" trope is that a girl recognizes that she needs no man or whatever. i haven't been that active on here recently so i haven't seen the reactions to it but this season has not been a feminist one in the least no matter how many catchphrases they throw in there

above all this season is abt a cis, white, straight and rich girl so. failed step one. ppl need to understand that if feminism isn't intersectional it's worthless n this doesn't just mean they should've picked someone else for the role (which they should've, but there's more to it) u can't make a feminist season abt a white girl if ur gonna villanize all ur woc especially the black women. u can't make a feminist season abt a cishet, rich girl if ur gonna make the bisexual poor girl ignore the fact that this is the person who played w her trauma just a year before. u can't make a feminist season abt a rich girl if the previous season she was overworking her privilege to show how classist she was (which the fans love to forget bc they don't see poor ppl as oppressed lol) and again u can't make a feminist season abt a white girl if all her Cool Feminist Moments only happen when she's talking to a black man such as her snarky "that wasn't an invitation" when aurélien tried to kiss her or her physically attacking him bc he? cares abt their daughter? being consider a Powerful Mom Thing

if all this didn't exist sure it would be considered feminist for her to not need saving, but when we put it in the context of literally everything else we can see that this is yet another poor attempt at taking a cliché feminist phrase that u could see written by a male avengers movie director for woke points. ppl need to understand that tiff has huge amounts of privilege over both aurélien (being white) n max (being cis) so her being a woman doesn't even automatically place her social status "beneath" these men. even just outside of fandom shit ppl should understand that supporting certain women will inherently be anti feminist, just bc ur cheering on a woman doesn't make u feminist.

then second abt the shame thing & lola. the "shame" in all skam seasons has always been smth "innate" due to the lack of a better world. smth that the society shames u for. the isak seasons r abt being gay bc society makes ppl ashamed of gayness, but u don't think being gay is a "shame" do u? neither is being a muslim, but the sana seasons r abt that bc again the "shame" is smth society perpetuates. the fact that tiff was "mean to lola" (she was a classist, she told her to kill herself, she made her trauma n mental illness into her own little joke) is not her "shame" bc that was her choice....that's smth she chose to do she isn't misunderstood or oppressed bc she hates poor ppl lmao. if they made made a season abt the nico character would u say his shame is sexual harassment? i doubt it. bc that's not smth he's involuntarily shamed for that's an action he chose to take.

also tiff n lola's "forgiveness" or lack thereof isn't comparable. first of all i'm not sure why u mentioned lucas? she never rly did anything to him but he on the other hand has a shitload to apologize for to her. abt eliott & daphné i also don't quite understand bc as for daphné they had a mutually toxic sibling dynamic, both failing at communication n treating each other badly but like.. even in that situation daphné was literally stalking her sister so again not sure what blame lola has on her here. n for eliott i also don't get what she should've apologized for like if u mean the club clips then u r in the wrong place bc lola didn't even do anything bad other than be rude which every other character is also guilty of smfjlskd

like see the difference? tiff & lola's conflict wasn't mutual, tiff chose to harass n stalk her based on nothing at all, she was only able to do that bc of the privilege n power she (a white cishet rich girl) has over lola (a bisexual mentally ill poor girl). i don't see how those two r in any way comparable.

so i guess that's my explanation for it. as for ur last point i do agree i don't know why it's anyone else's problem how others react to clips but even then i do think we need to understand that skam remakes take pride in their "diversity" n "representation" so sometimes certain reactions actually r objectively wrong. like saying "i liked this clip" or "i didn't like this clip" is all cool n no one should get hate for that but if ppl watch a clip where certain stereotypes r used unironically n their decision is to actually enforce the harmful message n not waste any of their three braincells for critical thinking bc It'S jUsT FiCtiOn then u r not immune to me thinking ur a brainless idiot

#inbox #anon #skam france

[lucky-draws]

Hey!! Your art is awesome :) Where did you learn to draw? Did you go to school or are you self taught?

Hello!! Thank you so much!! :D

It's a bit of both really, I mean I studied art at gcse and A level (which I guess is basically the UK equivalent of us high school level?? Idk how to describe it since school systems are different in every country lol) but I've not studied it at university level or like a proper private art school kind of place or anything.

But also, and I this is gonna sound cliché or whatever, I guess I've been drawing since I was little so aside from school lessons I've had many years of practice of just kinda figuring stuff out for myself basically.

(LOL and I would also say that sometimes school art lessons weren't always that useful, especially for a couple of years when we had rly bad teachers lmao. We did some stuff that was beneficial like life drawing classes and such but in my experience so much of our time was spent writing a load of fake pretentious bullshit instead of actually being taught how to draw LMAO but that's just my feeling...I could write more abt the way art is taught but I won't xD)

Right now I'm not studying anywhere, so I'm working on getting better at drawing by myself. I only really post my fanart on this blog but sometimes I do other stuff like exercises and anatomy studies that I don't post, which are helpful,, maybe since I'm already waffling I'll mention a few things I find useful to do in case it's if interest to you or anyone else? Under the cut tho, since this is getting long LOL

Observational studies/drawing from life is something that's very useful I find; just in terms of generally training yourself to look at something and try to represent it accurately and learning more about what things, textures, shadows, etc actually look like. Lately I often take a sketchbook out with me and do things like sketches of people or buildings or studies of plants, flowers etc. None of them are masterpieces, but it's just the activity in itself that's fun. Sketching people or animals forces you to be quick, because you don't know when they might move positions or leave or whatever, and being able to quickly and confidently get down the basic lines and forms of something is a good skill to have and to practice.

I also enjoy human anatomy and figure drawing so I'm trying to get better at that. Anatomy is a huge subject and it's too much sometimes to get hung up on trying to learn all the bones and muscles; a while back I got myself a textbook and found videos with that object in mind, but eh. I realised it's kind of a little ambitious when there are still so many things abt drawing in general I still don't know how to do, so I'm going to leave properly teaching myself detailed anatomy until later. Running before you can walk kind of thing, maybe.

That said though, doing a few studies now and then is still very useful, just learning a bit at a time and gradually getting used to remembering certain aspects about drawing the human body is progress enough.

In school, life drawing classes were pretty useful but I don't have access to any rn sadly. However, and this is not a #spon or anything jfjffj it's just what I do, I like this website called line of action which has photo references for artists to use; obviously there are countless sites like it but I like this one because it provides you with a timer tool kind of thing, so you can set it to 'class mode' and it will give you images to draw from in stages of 30 second sketches, then moving to a minute, then longer 5-10 minute studies and so on.

Even if you don't know shit about muscles and whatever, just observing the human figure from the outside (via images on the Internet if you understandably do not have access to real humans to pose for you lmao) and drawing it a bunch of times is still beneficial. The other I day I realised that ab muscles were confusing to me, so I literally just googled male abs and copied from a few pictures, just noting how they look, what basic shapes to remember etc.

Another good exercise that I haven't done for a while actually is to do some continuous line drawing, which means drawing something without taking your pen off the paper. For a subject you can use something/someone from life or just a picture on your computer or whatever, but basically just focus on keeping your pen/pencil on the page without lifting it, it's really useful in building up, like, confidence in your line work I guess, and it can look pretty cool actually, because it makes this kind of squiggly effect.

I'm just answering this on mobile right now and don't have time to post any pictures, but I'm thinking I could always post some of my studies and practice work now and then. Some of them will be messy LOL but I guess it might be a good thing to show this kind of stuff instead of finished, polished pieces all the time idk?

Anyway this got long and you didn't rly ask for it sorry chjfnfkf but thank you so much for the ask!!! Hope you're having a good day :-) ❤️

#asks #ask and ye shall receive unprompted blah blah blah ing from lisette #lemme know if any of this was interesting or if anyone wants me to elaborate on something

[gray-warden]

can u explain how butches and femmes are counterparts and not opposites? or how femmes arent like lipstick lesbians? im not trying to be argumentative im just a very confused gay girl who Wants to Understand

First of all, sorry for taking like 50 years to answer your ask! I hope you still see the answer, though femmes and butches come from the same piece of history, where they were two sides of the same coin, a sort of “ying and yang”, if you’ll forgive the cliché. it’s more of an attraction to something that’s different but also the same in some ways, someone who might balance you out in a way in their differences but still gets where you’re coming from. it’s not uncommon for femmes to have previously thought they were butches because they felt a connection to the butch/femme history and dynamic but also felt alienated from womanhood due to their lesbianism. plus, two things being seen as opposites kinda often implies that there’s something in between those things, which isn’t the case here. butch/femme isn’t a “lesbian gender binary”, and the whole “futch scale” thing isn’t how it works, it was sort of a joke that got out of hand and led to many people misunderstanding identities that are important to many people. a stone butch isn’t just a super masculine and tough butch. “soft butch” meaning “butch who isn’t super muscular and who is sensitive” ignores that those things don’t make any butch less butch in the first place.femme is just an older identity and it just kinda goes hand-in-hand with butch because they have shared origins, and originally, in the past, the typical dynamic was a butch and a femme being together or seeking each other. it’s about complementing each other by having differences that work with each other, rather than differences that clash, and by having similarities that bring deeper understanding. of course stuff has changed, butches can date other butches ofc (there’s not really a different term for “gnc lesbian who exclusively or mostly seeks other gnc women”, and butchness, while it is a specific identity and a sort of “role”, is very associated with a specific kind of appearance. plus, many butches hear some dumbass shit about butchness even among wlw, so some of us might seek other butches so we finally feel understood. or just because they find other butches hot, which, in my opinion, is very understandable lol).also, a femme doesn’t necessarily have to always be super typically feminine, there’s an association with an older type of identity or role, so many femmes these days might incorporate a few things that could be considered gender nonconforming, like not shaving, not wearing makeup, having super short hair or buying some clothing articles from the men’s section (usually not all at once i guess? idk, i’m just giving a few examples). some might not use “she/her” and might not really see themselves as part of womanhood.or they might be very traditionally feminine, as many are.of course there are lesbians who might do any of those things but aren’t femmes, but that’d be because they just aren’t drawn to the identity, don’t long for a certain type of dynamic in their life, don’t feel connected to that part of history. most lesbians just aren’t butches or femmes. it’s not a bad thing, or a deep thing, most lesbians just aren’t! it’s a subculture, and that’s for a reason.but basically, butches and femmes just have more in common than we have differences. they’re complementary identities.originally, in specific contexts where those terms came up, butches and femmes were just seen as the possible different “types” of lesbians who seeked each other for relationships, sex, companionship, understanding, etc. it was originally a thing that came from lesbian bars, frequented by working-class women. so many butches and femmes worked in the same types of places (factories, often), so they still lived in the same type of context (though many femmes were sex workers, and that’s also an important thing to know, i don’t wanna seem like i’m ignoring it, but i’m not going deep into it bc in that case what they shared was still that they were also working class). of course many butches and femmes now aren’t working class, but those are the origins of those identities, and we should never forget who came before us.of course there are lots of differences between how lesbian working class bars were a few decades ago and how butch/femme is as a subculture now. the current subculture largely relies on writings from people who were always butches and always femmes back in the day, rather than those who sort of had to make themselves fit into one of those things because that was the expectation in those bars but otherwise didn’t feel connected to a certain identity or role outside of the specific context of the bars and relationships. so the modern butch/femme thing is, first of all, a subculture, because we don’t want people who don’t really connect to being a butch or a femme to feel like they have to fit in there, because if you don’t then you just don’t and there’s obviously nothing wrong with that, that’s why it’s a subculture, most lesbians just aren’t part of it, the same way most people aren’t parts of other subcultures. and since it’s so very based on the historic records left by people who were always butches and always femmes, regardless of where they were, who they were with, etc, it’s also about a constant identity now, rather than being someone who calls themselves a butch in a context where it’s about women seeking women but otherwise doesn’t really feel a connection to the identity in my experience, many femmes get annoyed at women who say they’re femme4femme bc they say that that’s why the term “lipstick lesbian” exists in the first place, as most women who call themselves “femme4femme” usually just mean “feminine woman seeking feminine woman”, using “femme” to just mean “feminine”. so that’s why there’s often an annoyance there.i’m not saying that a femme has to /exclusively/ be into gnc women to be a femme. just that being a femme and being a feminine lesbian don’t mean the same thing, and generally, femmes in the current butch/femme subculture often have at least a preference for butches, due to a desire for a specific kind of dynamic in relationships and anything surrounding that. there’s just a specific kind of historical connection and a sort of role connected to butchness and femmeness. it’s a subculture that’s more than just about what you look like and what the people you’re into look like. “butch” gets tied to a certain kind of appearance a lot more than femme does, as it’s a kind of appearance that stands out on its own, without the person saying anything about their identity, so many femmes rely on that connection to a specific part of history and certain desires and dynamics and roles a lot when it comes to their identity as femmes.lipstick lesbian is a term that sometimes just refers to very feminine lesbians, but very often specifically to feminine lesbians who exclusively or at least mostly seek other feminine lesbians. and to my knowledge there’s not any kind of deeper connection to any older identity or culture there, it’s like “masc4masc” or something like that, it’s just a description of your personal kind of aesthetic and the kind of aesthetic you find desirable (i’m not trying to imply there’s anything wrong with that, of course! just that it’s not the same as being a femme, but of course two things not being the same doesn’t automatically mean one is better than the other, which is something i want to make clear throughout this whole huge answer to your ask).idk, i’m no expert or anything, and i’m also just not great at explaining things, i tend to ramble a bit and i sometimes express myself in a way that was clear enough for other people, and sometimes i end up talking a lot. also, there just isn’t much butch/femme history where i’m from, at least not any /recorded/ history, there aren’t always words that describe the exact same things (of course there are people like me and people who are like many femmes, though, we’ve always existed, but there’s not really much of a butch/femme type of community thing because our history and words are different, and there’s generally fairly little LGBT or specifically wlw or lesbian history recorded), so this is about what i know of butch/femme culture in the US and online (since the latter relies on the former).there are a lot of people out there who talk abt butch/femme a lot, people who have read and watched and experienced more stuff connected to that, so you could ask people like that if you need more information (you can ask me, of course, i’m just saying they’ll know more), esp when it comes to femmes, since i don’t have their specific perspective on differences between femmes vs feminine lesbians who aren’t femmes, or on the femme4femme thing, which means i’m only talking based on my understanding of what they say, rather than from personal experience as a femme, just because i’m not one. (part of the reason why it took me a while was bc i asked some people i know, one butch and one femme, both have more knowledge about this stuff than me, esp the latter, to see if there were any inaccuracies they could see or something i didnt express well)

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@femmefareeha replied to your post “quentin tarantino's going to find a way to have a white guy say the n...”

Ppl are rlly saying tht... Like the politics of the Klingons are more ... Weird mb about bush & 9/11 but literally....that's so ugly claiming they aren't black nemore bc what ? The pigment ? When they literally flattened the nose bridges ?

I don't Agree w wht the article said abt discovery fully though

@pikeisaman replied to your post “quentin tarantino's going to find a way to have a white guy say the n...”

"Aren't black coded anymore" what the fuck they are especially black coded now

I’m gonna put this under a cut bc I word-vomited a little bit but short version: word pp are wiling over the klingons trying to pretend it’s not a racist reboot & that article... had issues.

the main defense I’ve seen for the new klingons is that they’re “supposed” to represent the MAGA/alt-right crowd with their militancy, religious zealotry, isolationism & xenophobia, etc. ... even though tbh I saw people right after the pilot aired saying the vibe felt more like reminiscent of ISIS/daesh, and I saw one person say that (possibly due to the more exaggerated mouthpieces; the prosthetic teeth are more prominent in this klingon design than they’ve ever been before) the accent & intonation in the klingon-language scenes-- which for sure has changed since the sort of standardized tng & ds9 inflections, like there are official klingon language tapes that were made in the ‘90s for nerds to teach themselves with-- sound more like they’re imitating a cliché “sub-saharan african accent.”

even before you take the redesign into account (which is... bad), there’s a lot of very loaded shit going on that very much points to increasing the correlation of negative stereotypes of ~primitive or ~savage blackness with these particular klingons. and it’s a ham-fisted allegory that I don’t think would be a progressive conversation even if the klingons suddeny were klan-coded or whatever, not just bc it undermines the previously established narratives of klingons, klingon culture, etc. over the last 50yrs, to idea of marking that kind of racism or “takeover” as an ethnically marked “other” & an outside problem rather than like... internal bigotry and bias even among “good” & “normal” humans... is not a helpful conversation.

even when tos tackled that kind of subject, like, the literal nazi episode featured human neo-nazis; episodes with aliens having their own racism to contend with had humans as outside observers noting that this was not going to be easily resolved & looks like absurd bloodlust once you’re able to be detached from the situation.

and even though you can argue that the tng & ds9 klingons were racist, too, bc there was a significant amount of brownface/blackface going on (I mean: this extends to tos as well, but brownface in star trek: tos is its own like... essay) trying to maintain a certain “aesthetic” for the species... and not to excuse that, but for one thing, it did get toned down over time, and for another, it wasn’t to this like goddamn... tar baby drow extent that dsc’s klingon makeup is on, and it wasn’t for sake of demonizing the species & the sort of conversations the show was trying to have about/involving klingons. like it wasn’t “they are savage + we coincidentally want the blackest makeup & widest prosthetic nostrils you have,” it was in the context of two series that explored klingon internal politics & culture and displaced diaspora, transracial adoption, rebuilding culture, etc.; there wasn’t a color difference between good & evil klingons, and there wasn’t a color difference between klingon & human skin color ranges to mark the klingons as excessively alien beyond facial prostheses and culture. they still looked like “people” to an extent, and moreso than several other characters did on those shows.

(tng & ds9 did ofc also have other racial-caricature characters that are v. much worth discussing and critiquing, like the ferengi, but again: another subject that could be a full-fledged essay.)

but so tbh if the dsc klingons had been presented as a new species... they would still be an aggressively racist set of tropes bound together in minstrelsy-looking blackface, and people would probably notice more that it’s fucking weird bc there’s no excuse of nostalgia or “reimagining” to slide this bizarre concept under the radar by labeling them as something familiar.

and as klingons, there’s a lot to be said for dsc going further backwards than tos did 50+ years ago wrt making them more caricatured in this racist way, and in so doing, less human than they’ve ever been on both an in-verse and on this meta, audience watching a screen sort of level.

as far as the article goes, I don’t agree with everything the author wrote, either-- though I really didn’t watch dsc after the pilot bc the klingons made me super uncomfortable and tbh... made me feel like I couldn’t trust what the storytelling & production values were going to be for the show, between that and kurtzman/orci still being involved (they took the reins from abrams more with star trek into darkness, which I thought was heinous, personally, and then one or both of them acted like v. dramatic over it when critique rolled in iirc).

but like I disagree with him that enterprise is a direct copy of tos, though that’s what it was aiming for-- ent was like weirdly conservative & felt like exactly the post-9/11 bush era media that it was... I think tng gets a bad rep as time goes on bc of people wanting to distance themselves from pc politics when it did a lot of groundbreaking stuff. ds9 was the bomb but a lot of people don’t want to acknowledge that it never got its due bc of having a black captain and a lot of poc or poc-coded aliens in the main cast, and that tbh part of why it doesn’t get pointed out as the “cool star trek” is bc not only was paramount not trying to make a sisko movie like that, st fandom is as racist as any other & won’t build internal buzz either vs. clamoring for a new tos movie in ‘09.

the conversation is just... not what the author presented it to be, I don’t think, but it’s better-written & better-thought-out than I thought any article defending tarantino for star trek would have or could have been. bc a lot of fans are just at very least not vocalizing or verbalizing... the fact that the franchise has internal issues on top of its issues reaching out to / profiting from “mainstream” audiences, like there’s that lack of critical awareness. and when you get that reality check of, ok, abrams never wanted this & tried to sell a plot about missiles & drone strikes with benedict cumberbatch as a genocidal eugenicist übermensch orchestrating poc suicide bombing shit in “the wrath of khan 2.0,” all dedicated to 9/11 first responders, like... that’s already happened. that fuck up is already here. so then, yeah, that’s a damn good point in favor of giving someone else a shot who actually says they want to be here, and who at very least won’t do & presumably isn’t interested in doing that specific dumbassed shit all over again.

I still don’t want him in charge, but like. it was a good argument, ngl.

#femmefareeha #pikeisaman #replies #long post // #sorry i just like... feel Very Strongly about klingons #i feel strongly about star trek in general bc i grew up with it yk? but the new klingons have turned me off of dsc entirely. #and i suspect tarantino wants to do some shit w. klingons or w. expanding old tos themes that never got fully fleshed out #and i proooobably will not fucking trust him with that either #like i don't... want... this. #but it's a fair point to say that whether or not tarantino sucks that like... abrams was confirmed to suck AND didn't give a damn. #so until & unless tarantino proves otherwise it's not actually a step DOWN so much as a potential lateral move in suckitude #but it will make paramount a fuckload of money in the process. #star trek

[dillinjake-blog]

multiples of 2 (:

njdgh this is so LONG its BULL jake the sapmaster

2: How long has your crush lasted?

fuck man idk a Long Time i dont remember things

4: Do you think they’ve ever liked you back?

i sure as fuck hope he likes me since we’re dating n all : /

6: Whats holding you back from making a move?

uhhhhhh my wall. his wall. the streets between us.

8: Do you think they could ever love you?

yeah??? wtf kind of questions

10: Have you ever had a crush on someone you really shouldn’t?

YEAH LOL???

12: Ever had a crush on what you thought was a platonic friend?

yeah lol im dating him now wyd

14: Has your crush ever hurt you?

bygones r bygones bitch

16: Why do you like them?

fuck ugh okay so hes like,,, so fucking beautiful right hes got these freckles and i could count them for days and hes so happy and smiley and hes got this energy that just makes me want to laugh and cry and hug him and just lie down on the floor with him just talking about shit forever hes just, so wonderful for me to spend time w i love him a lot

18: Do you have 1 specific song that is strongly associated with a certain memory or interaction with them?

uhhhhhh uh uh prob that one song that was playing during a party and we were talkin out the back n it was, quiet and nice and you could listen to the song and jam out but it wasnt like, head buzzy or anything

20: What would they have to do for you to stop liking them?

this is such a bullshit question next

22: Held their hand?

hell yeah theyre tiny i love them

24: Kissed them on the lips?

sure as hell i have

26: Had sex with them?

mwah

28: Does their touch set your skin on fire?

yea ig

30: Do they make you smile like no one else can?

he DOES i love him so much he gets those quieter parts of me tht nobody usually sees

32: Does it make you go crazy being around them and not ‘being with’ them?

uhhhh no? it didnt lol

34: Have you always been friends?

fuckin hell yea tbt the second year of highschool

36: Best phone call with them?

tht one time i fell asleep doing homework and we were just chatting like, utter shit for a full hour before that

38: Ever been drunk together?

not in my good mormon home

40: Ever made a mistake with them?

uhhhhhh wtf

42: If you could go back in time to that moment, what would you do?

fuckin!!! idk bitch think abt the future

44: If you could get a 100% honest answer from them, what 3 questions would you ask?

fuck uhhh this is so hard i dont fukign know!!! like???

are you okdo you wanna like, go on a date smtimefuck OFF i never know what to say this is stupid

46: Have they ever tried to make a move?

definitely ;)

48: Have they ever been infatuated with a friend of yours?

fuck idk hey rich have u ever been infatuated w a friend of mine

50: Where were you when you felt the most for them?

fuck the trail!!! we were on the trail and we had gotten ALL THE WAY to the end and i was lookin around and he was like “you made it dude” and i LITERALLY started crying i was such a fucin baby he was so happy and we were both just laughing and yelling and it was nice

52: Films that make you think about them?

the way he looks?? i dont know i dont watch movies tht much

54: What was your first impression of them?

cool ginger kid. ppl were like telling me all abt him i was rly curious

56: Do you remember the first thing you talked about?

fuckin!!! smth to do w classwork??? bitch i dont REMEMBER

58: Have they ever lied to you?

i dotn KNOW!!! i dont

60: What are you most attracted to about them?

fuck his fuckin!!! his entire face like not to be cliché but hes so hot hes got these sharp eyes tht just dig right into you and his jaw is so SHARP and he has this rly punky look but its also like,,, soft???

62: Have you sabotaged things between you two?

uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh no?

64: Could they make you happy?

unbelieveably so!!!

66: What’s something that only you two do?

trail bros trail bros

68: Have they ever given you anything?

yea he gave me a notebook for my birthday i love him, hes so sweet

70: Have they abused and manipulated you due to your feelings for them?

fuckin NO who tf

72: Have you ever accidentally nearly walked into moving traffic cause you were thinking about them?

yea i almost got hit by sb riding their bike

74: Have they ever made you feel so safe and content everything else slips away?

yeah its nice

76: Truthfully do you think you belong together right now?

bitch im not cupid!!!! hell yeah

78: Do you trust them?

w my life

80: Are they in love or interested in someone else?

no???? wtf

82: Will they be in your life a year from now?

fuck yeah we’re tight

84: Do they know you have feelings for them?

hm. idk. hey rich do you know i have Hella Feelings for you

86: Your ideal date with them?

the trail!!! anyday its jst iconic. but thts his place so uhhh i like taking him on walks like, literally anywhere spending time w him is so wonderful. i’d take him to hang out in a forest smwhere w the dog, and then we’d go for dinner, and then he comes back to my place and we watch a bad movie and cuddle

88: Have you ever been in their room?

yeah one or two times!

90: Have they ever made you a promise and broken it?

uhhhhh idk i cant recall??

92: Whats the most problematic thing about them, which you overlook due to your feelings for them?

WHATS THE MOST PROBLEMATIQUE THING UHHHHH hes gross but i love him so its fine

94: For as long as they’re in your life could you handle just being friends? 

ughfdg what kind of QUESTION

96: What’s standing in your way from being with them?

absolutely nothing that dragon has been SLAYED bitch

98: Ever had a bad feeling about them that’s screaming for you to get out while you still can?

fuckin. no?

100: You have 1 wish about them, what would you wish for?

id wish when we graduate, we go to the same college, n we share a dorm, and then when we graduate college, we get to live in a house together. somewhere nice w lots of room for bax to run around and lots of places we can go adventuring. id wish for us to have nice jobs n come back home and just be able to do whatever we want

#this is like..... so overwhelmingly gay #* richie g ! #* asks !