#this is isnt fair or right

[beansnpeets]

Thinking about human behaviour compared to animal behaviour again.

It's funny to hear people (the older gens) complaining that "kids these days are lazy, they don't wanna work, etc." What do we get for busting our asses? There is no reward. Many will never own homes. Many are unemployed, trying to find work, and nobody will hire them because they don't have a million years experience and a masters degree OR they want people to work for minimum wage??? People are giving up because there is no reward. Why would we do all this for nothing?

Same as a dog that won't recall when you haven't reinforced it with a reward. Your dog isn't going to do what you tell it to if there is no incentive. No, your dog SHOULDN'T listen just because you're boss and it should respect you. That isn't how it works. They don't think that way. And honestly neither do people.

When we went hiking Sprocket wasn't always taking treats gently from me when I recalled her or she checked in and I rewarded and my one friend told me to stop giving her treats. I told him I won't work for free so why should she. And he said "I do things for free all the time because I want to do them," and I didn't say it then, but I wish I had, but if you like doing it, that's the incentive. It's a self-rewarding behaviour. Just like anything else a dog does, like chasing a squirrel or sniffing things or getting into the trash. Heeling instead of going off to sniff stuff or recalling off of something they want to chase is something you have to reinforce. You have to give them something better so they make the choice you want them to make. They won't make it just because they *respect* you. They won't willingly recall off of exciting prey out of RESPECT. You need to give them a tangible reward for that. You cannot possibly expect your dog to listen just because and then punish them for disobeying you.

Yeah, Sprocket bit my fingers a couple times. The one time pretty hard. But she was excited. She knows how to take gently and I reminded her and she tried very hard to be gentle most of the time. I wasn't going to stop rewarding her for checking in with me and recalling while we were off leash hiking in the woods. I want her to know that coming back to me is good and in the event of an emergency I would like her to not blow me off.

#barkin up some trees #personal #the way my friends train their dog is not the way I would ever train a dog #in fairness he isnt food or toy motivated #and i dont have issues with ecollars #but they dont actually reward him for anything really #praise but little to nothing else #like yeah of course he is gonna blow you off to jump in the lake #lake is more rewarding than recalling to you when you have nothing to offer him in return #the way they recall him is that he has to come to them and then give a hand boop #and if he doesn't make contact they keep asking him until he does it #and then no reward #other than praise #which he doesnt seem to really care that much about #idk it just doesnt feel right the way they train him and i dont take advice from them on training #they also basically never have him on a leash even tho it is required by law in town #after the hike we went to the lodge restaurant and luckily we had an extra lead in the truck #otherwise they hadnt even brought one along so they were gonna leave him in their car while we ate #idk like i love my friends and they are nice people but jesus christ

[theoryandahalf]

Ok ok okkkk. So this Variety article has some great photos of Team Theorist, I'm totally stealing them, story for another day.

POOKIE GOT SOME ANSWERS?!

MATTHEW ROBERT PATRICK GET YOUR ASS BACK HERE, YA TROLL! YOU CAN'T SAY THIS IN VARIETY, YOU KNOW THIS SHIT IS ONLY READ BY MUGGLES!! MATTHEW, I ALMOST GOT A VIRUS JUST READING THIS BULLSHIT ON THEIR AD-RIDDEN BOOMER SITE; YOU CAN'T DO THIS TO ME, YOU MONSTER!!!!

#to be honest I'm more interested in the significance of midnight motorist than the damn box #we all know pookie was right #Matthew gets the most good looking version of scott AND the lore life isnt fair boys #matthew patrick #fnaf #scott cawthon #game theory

[whinesandwhimpers]

gaz spanking you while scolding you for being a brat, making you promise to be a good girl, all with that smooth fucking voice UGHHH

#literally why isnt he real its not fair #gaz x reader #i need to write the one shot im just physically incapable right now

[beyondthislifetime]

People who truly dislike Edwina Sharma are wild. Heaven forbid an 18 year old be charmed after being almost relentlessly pursued by an older man. Three married women, including her mother, are for the match. THE QUEEN is for the match. The only person saying he isn't right for her is her sister and like I'm sorry but my sister could swear that a man wasn't that into me and I would not listen if he BOUGHT ME A HORSE!???!!?!!

#having a s2 rewatch and truly. that is a teenager who has never been courted before. that's a girl with no experience with this at all. #she's being pursued by a nearly 30 year old man who we know will chase off a young lady's suitors (see The Daphne Debacle) #also we have no clue what kates love life was like or what she may have revealed to edwina so does eddy think #“my sister who has never entertained men or had a serious relationship is giving me courting advice” #and is that supposed to mean more than their mother's blessing and support? #fair enough mary is supposed to be complacent to an unbelievable level in this show but had kate said “mama he truly isnt right for eddy” #would mary just have handwaved it off? is that the deal the show was going for? #people online loooove to talk about how much you wanna hit your sibling for no reason but an acerbic “half-sister” is too far? #if my maid of honour wanted to fuck my future husband i'd hand the priest my earrings tell him to meet me in the confessional and go to tow #i think edwinas explanation of this anger was not well thought out but she was entirely right to be angry. #anyways. eddy darling i will live you until my dying days. #edwina sharma #bridgerton

[sleeplessdreamer123]

Fanfic Idea! (ABO Lucemond, part 1.5 of Lucerys sharing Aemma's fate, after his poisoning and death of child)

Part 1

Lucerys knows it was stupid of him, but he was desperate to keep his girls safe, and his last pregnancy scarred him, he almost died. His child died. They were truly out to get rid of him, replace him with a puppet. If they succeed, then he knows without a doubt in his mind that they would hurt his girls as well, either making them a bargaining tool, or, like Alicent did to his mother, ruin their home.

So he called for Alys, one of his daughter's nursemaids. She was rumored to be a Strong bastard, just as he was, but unlike him, Alys' fate as a bastard was cemented in her name. She was loyal to him, has taken great care of his girls, showed them love and care from what he saw everytime he enters their room, and she, despite looking quite young, has long past the point of being able to get pregnant, not that people would know.

So he gave her a dress that hugged her body well, the way he knows Aemond would like. He fixed her hair the way he did with his own when it was still long, gave her oils that smelled like him, and sent her to his husband's room. He closed his eyes and wept, but it was for the best. If he does die, and Aemond does marry, he'd rather he chooses who his successor would be.

He did not expect Alys to return so soon, only informing him that Aemond rejected her, before returning the dress and going back to his girls' rooms to check up on them. Aemond didn't remove her, like he did the others who tried to do the same. The girls love her too much, and Aemond always had a soft spot for them, regardless of what other say.

Lucerys thinks that it was because Alys was a bastard with not a drop of Valyrian blood. It was a hasty plot, he supposes, the people who supported his family would be greatly angered if he did marry someone who isn't part of the Blacks. So he sent for Rhaena.

She was hesitant, but Lucerys begged her. If anyone could care for his children and ensure their lives if he ever does die, it would be her. It could be that she saw the great desperation in his face, so she agreed. And he sent her to his husband's room.

He didn't expect his husband to enter his room in the middle of the night, rage in his eyes.

"In my years of living, this is the first time I have ever heard of an omega pushing another woman in his husband's bed."

He didn't deny it. Rhaena must have told him, or Aemond must have pieced it out himself. His husband isn't foolish, and he won't make it out so his husband would believe he sees him that way. He sat up from his bed and looked at him.

"We both know your council won't stop. They won't be happy unless you throw me away for another wife. That, or they would wait for my death, or guarantee it. At least with this route, I'd guarantee the life of my girls."

Aemond's anger reached new heights, his scent stronger, engulfing the room as he tries to keep his voice calm and leveled.

"But to ask me to go to another while you still live? No, to actually send them in my room at night? Did you forget our promise? The oath we both took when he married? Or do you wish me to be the villain in this play you decide to orchestrate? Do you wish the people would hate me? That our daughters would see me as a traitor? Is this your revenge against me?"

Lucerys winced a little. True, he hasn't thought of how the world, or even his girls would see his husband if he does decide to entertain another whilst he lived after being poisoned. In his defence, however, he was focused more on raising his daughters' chances of survival. He wouldn't wish for his daughters to hate Aemond, however. He was a perfect father to them and he'd never wish for them to hate Aemond.

"No. Never that. But they're already sending prospective brides to you. Don't look at me like that, we both know there can't be that many girls and omegas who gets lost and somehow entered your room. Especially with their Houses mostly aligned to your grandfather's council. Who knows if you might actually fall for one-"

"After all these years, do you think so little of me? That I would betray our oath? That I would even look at anyone else when you-"

He stopped, swallowing whatever words he was about to say. He turned around and walk towards the door. He stopped, and turned to Lucerys.

"The next girl you or anyone else will try to send to my bed will lose their life by my sword. I honor my oaths, Lucerys. As long as you breathe, as long as your heart beats, I will not betray our marriage."

He left the room, and Lucerys never sent another girl again.

#lucemond #aemond x lucerys #lucerys velaryon #aemond targaryen #lucerys x aemond #aemond one eye #alpha aemond #omega lucerys #lucerys isnt thinking right #to be fair he almost died so his brain isnt working properly #thank goodness aemond's brain actually stays working

[abirddogmoment]

Mav is gone. I have a thousand things I want to say but I don't have the bandwidth to write a proper post right now.

Send me asks so I can tell Mav's stories. I want to talk about him and remember all the funny and good stuff.

#about mav #tw pet death #he was the coolest dog in the world #i am so lucky that i got to plan his last days #he was truly happy right up until the end #i got to plan his last adventures and walks and meals and kisses and i got to tell him everything i wanted to tell him #and im so lucky for thay #but i dont feel very lucky #i just feel so cheated #i shouldve gotten ten more years #he only turned five last week #it isnt fair it isnt fair it isnt fucking fair #so send me asks so i can tell you the good stuff #you can ask anything and if its too personal i just wont answer #pinning thins so you dont have to scroll through a thousand asks to figure out whats happening

[rolandapostatize]

cannot get over how theodore 7th time loop is written actually. 13 year old's suicidal tendencies resolved by having polite conversation with the person he loves most and whom he was doing all that for, and who has never before in his life clearly communicated with him at all, and who due to his own emotional immaturity decided that the best way to protect his desperate younger brother is to never talk to him and act as terrifying as possible around him. one unwell child eliminating another unwell child's problems, that he was contributing to, in a single conversation

like i cant get over how quickly the conflict was introduced and resolved.

#v*ncent n*ghtray is crying in my brain as i write this #not to say that that was his exact situation he just lives in my brain so that subplot reminded me of him #i just wish 7th time loop was more fucked up and better written. like arnold is gonna commit patricide in a few years #youd think thered be some atmospheric tension regarding the complete absence of his father in the plot (when we know hes right there in the #same palace) #im just imagining a version of it thats more fucked up and better written and also with less generic alternate-europe worldbuilding #generally when i fing myself wishing a story was more fucked up i do stop to consider that maybe thats my fault and im expecting it to be #something it isnt. and that fair on its own #however the writing IS bad - disregarding my own preferences #and i suppose its just that when im thinking of how it could be better my preferences affect my ideas #however if i WAS well written - just not to my tastes - my brain would not be complaining about it #also the economics in this show are so nothing. like again no effort put in. i struggle with understanding money related concepts #all the time but even i can see that

[catboyidia]

what “holiday” cafe drinks/desserts i think asgzc would get:

angeal: he feels like a peppermint hot chocolate kind of dude, but add a shit load of espresso because the poor guy absolutely needs gallons of espresso to be able to put up with zack, genesis, and sephiroth on a daily basis (someone help that poor man)

genesis: IN THEORY he would absolutely be an apple cinnamon EVERYTHING kind of guy BUT not from any kind of cafe because he believes none of them can do it right! so he has to make it himself and he has been forbidden by the others to ever be allowed to order it again because it’s never good enough for him and it pisses him off, and every time they go to a new cafe and he orders an apple cinnamon anything he always spends the rest of the day critiquing every single little thing off about it, much to the rest of the guys annoyance because none of them want to hear genesis rant about a decently flavored cafe item just because it wasn’t up to his weird apple freak standards… so instead he is 100% one of THOSE pumpkin spice bitches! like the at the cafe the moment they release it kind of pumpkin spice bitch (but even though he likes it he still doesn’t think it’s as good as it should be and he can absolutely make it better but he doesn’t complain AS much)

sephiroth: every time he goes with the others he just lets them take turns ordering for him because he’s never had most of it before, but he never ends up with any strong opinions on any of the holiday items, and he never particularly loves any of them but he never complains about it or shows any distaste in any of it either, the only indication on how he feels about whatever has been ordered for him is that if it’s something he likes his pupils will dilate like a cats, although some of the more colorful treats tend to catch his eye, and if he had to rank the others orders on which he liked best it would probably go cloud (he likes the less sweet desserts), angeal (he likes the mint cocoa, but he prefers spearmint), genesis (he actually quite like the apple cinnamon but isnt fond of pumpkin spice), and zack (he doesn’t dislike it, but he prefers the others)

zack: he feels like he would get every overly sweet treat they sell and is probably an ultra sweet smores coffee drinker, except angeal has to go behind his back and tell the barista to make it decaf, not wanting to deal with a zack hopped up on tons of sugar AND caffeine, but then genesis goes behind angeal’s back and tells the barista to make it as highly caffeinated as possible

cloud: he would probably mainly just get a few of the less sweet holiday pastries and maybe a gingerbread hot cocoa/coffee if he had to get a drink, but he also lets the others order for him when he goes out with them just because he doesn’t want to cause too much trouble

#not a cafe item but the one thing they all collectively need is just a shit ton of spiked eggnog #i think ive just realized smores isnt a winter thing? its summer? but who wants to sit around a fire in summer heat??? wtf?! #also does pumpkin spice count as a holiday flavor? all the pumpkin spice spices separately seem to be so pumpkin spice should be too right? #at its core basically angeal has simple ‘mature’(?) tastes gen is ultra picky seph is ultra not picky zack is zack and cloud is an angel #ff7 #ffvii #final fantasy 7 #crisis core #angeal hewley #genesis rhapsodos #sephiroth #zack fair #cloud strife

[faerociousbeast]

happy pride! while this may sound like "dont police other peoples fun" or "its not harming anyone" or anything along those lines, reminder to please keep an eye out for how you treat poc in the community <3

while it might be "discourse" or "ruining the mood" to you to have to be a little bit more mindful of the way you act, being the victim of casual racism i guarantee is much worse !

we are also a part of this community and we deserve to feel welcomed here. listen to our voices and don't use your lgbtq labels as an excuse to hurt other marginialized people, some of whom are also in your very community. awesome! thanks

#this is not too much to ask or negative or causing drama #bc again. it might be annoying to you to examine some internal bias #but being the Victim of aforementioned internal bias while being told 'youre welcome in this community!' #does not feel very comfortable either #same idea as that one post about fandom spaces. #im here to have fun too! trying to think before what you fucking post is the least you can do #it isnt discourse it isnt drama bc it isnt fair that our experiences should suck so much when we are Also. here to be a part #your refusal to listen only shows how much regardless of if we're on the same side regardless of how much you say youre inclusive #you refuse to actually do anything about it bc its too much effort #just a reminder post anyway. im not mad at anyone or anything altho i certainly have the right to be #all i ask is that you be mindful

[orcelito]

He's gone.

#speculation nation #negative/ #im only 26 and my dad just died. #he was only 57. i shouldve gotten several more decades at Least. #but life isnt fair. #one day everything is normal. then two days later your dad's dead. #i have a long road ahead of me. i think im done crying for right now. #at this point im just tired. #death/

[acaciapines]

guys what if i told you ive been thinking about dess and actually i think dess/chara might be able to work out in the drkau...like ive been doing some thinking into dess and her reasons and why she does what she does and how she cares about people and im starting to nail down the role i want asriel to play, and. and.

guys i think dess is actually going to be able to change. i think dess figures out how to change but asriel never does....

#chatter #its about like. okay azzy's big thing is normality right. #ive decided hes our monster representative for the prophecy #(which i could make a whole post on but these tags are not the place) #which means dess ISNT which means dess isnt stuck by that #which means like. god this needs so much context i dont have time to give but. #in order for asriel to change he has to come to terms w the fact that a lot of things are his fault #like if he had reacted differently dess maybe stays #or at least doesnt take kris with her #and DESS comes to terms w this. dess is aware that she sorta fucked kris's life #and no shes not their mom but she does love them and care for them #and eventually would start to realize like. i have to be there for them #it wont be perfect but i can TRY even if trying is really really scary #and its this idea of like. what dess-chara-kris-frisk have #is family that could NEVER fit into what society sees as 'normal' #but they have each other. and they want to try. so they make something good #vs asriel chasing normality and pushing everyone away and at the end of it all like #that cant make you happy. all it does is make you Alone. and i dont know if he like #changes. cause hes so deep in he cant admit he was wrong cause then what was any of this for? #anyways let me remind you that noelle is our main character-- #(though tbf since azzy is her brother and has a huge impact on her life its fair he gets a focus too) #I LOVE MY OWN AU <3

[glavilio]

i really miss my grandma............

#:( #life really isn't fair #why do i have to be alone #i guess thats how it is. but i really wish i could still talk to her about everything but about gender stuff the most #how cruel is it that we missed that window by only a few years #and its not like the rest of my family isnt supportive but she would've actually understood. but of course i didnt get to know about her #til after the funerals. i dont know if ill ever really forgive my dad for that. but i guess its not just his fault #like i said life is not fair and the only thing i can do is keep living #i reserve the right to mope about it. as the only inheritor of this blessing/burden as the other trans woman in the family #i do have memoirs and pictures now tho! which is so much more than i ever imagined i would

[swordfaery]

anyway my favourite thing about dead men fanfiction is the wildly different characters we all write. like. not even the ones who have been dead for years and have so little actual characterisation but even the ones who were alive in canon were probably very different one hundred, two hundred, three hundred years ago. also theyre under characterised in fiction. also we are all just having fun

#guy who barely posts about skulduggery pleasant: so ive be rereading some of my old favourite dead men fanfiction #as well as my own dead men fanfiction #and damn if we arent all writing a bunch of different fucking guys. to be fair i have gone rogue bcos like. cant be fucked w canon #dont wanna write about war #heyo what if it was pre war and everyone was still. convinced their wouldnt be one #also i love the idea of skulduggery being. just super fucking irresponsible devil may care live laugh love sorta guy pre-war #spoilt. rich parents who dont care much about him. loads of magic tutors. #i mean think about the class implications of the dead men #skulduggery. an elemental. a difficult discipline that clearly requires a level of training and scholarli-ness #his NAME is skulduggery #you come across that name if your educated. if you read a lot #this is a man who has been afforded every privilege #and like. i think a lot of sorcerers are implied to be very upper class #or like. kinda rich and fancy about it #but obviously that wouldnt be the case for everyone bcos magic isnt just genetic right like some ppl just show up with it #and like even then #dexter vex #anton shudder #like as far as im aware these are just names ppl have #and slightly uncommonly used words #disciplines which are more emotional/physical #as opposed to 'learned' #i just think its interesting #i was gonna have my dead men all meet n be friends pre war #but tbh i think them meeting and not being friends is better #i think theres a sort of tragedy in them being as close as they were because of the war #and not having that post war or pre war #its actually really fucking sad but like. evidently they didnt hang out in the interim when most of em were still alive #or at least that much #im wondering if like. they needed a couple hundred years of like. detox bcos seeing each other just pulled them back into that mindset

[bapydemonprincess]

Hm. Seething.

#I want finny to have a flashback. I want finny to get to explain why he's loyal. I want to see how Seb and o!ciel dealt with this confusing #strong german boi #I WANT FINNY TO GET MORE LIMELIGHT FUCK YOU. #I'm mad I'm bitter I hate everything right now this isnt fucking fair. #Yall get billions of pages of Sebastian and Ciel from chapters long past and future. #Bard and Mey got to share their beginnings #FINNY ONLY GETS TO SHOW FUCKING TINY GLIMPSES THROUGHOUT THE WHOLE SERIES BUT NO HEAVEN FORBID MORE THAN THAT #GIVE HIM THE BAD END GIVE HIM THE DEATH BURDEN ANYWAY BACK TO YOUR FAVES~ #FUCK EVERYONE.

[jellytamalies]

they phantoms sure love them theaters

#or could i say auditoriums #yeah #so aperantly #goosebumps the musical #is a thing #listenedto the songs #and now they occupy about 80% of my brain space #though to be fair that still isnt alot #then i blacked out and somehow started on storyboarding a 5 minute song #(im only like 20 seconds through :\ ) #Phantom of the Auditorium #did i spell that right #Zeke Matthews #Brian Colson #Brook Rodgers #Ms. Walker

[veilkeeper]

im gonna say something controversial. im not sure id like astarion that much if i didnt have the spoilers about where his character is going.

by which i mean, i dont think id want to romance him, i dont think id be very invested in him at the moment. he's still fun to talk to and have around (the conversation where he asks how your PC would want to be killed in the event of mind flayer transformation is fun), and id probably have him in my party all the time, so id warm up to him. but right now, where i am in the early game story, he's just... not as compelling to me as what a couple of the other companions have going on

#and i say this as someone who HAS fair approval with him right now! #we get along fine #ive gotten several scenes with him #and im not DISINTERESTED #he's just sooooo fake at this stage that his 'charm' is kind of lost on me #BUT THATS JUST ME #I STILL LOVE HIM!! #im still romancing him and tbf this isnt... entirely exclusive to him #but.... you know. just some Thoughts. #i expected to be entirely bought in immediately but his act simply does not work on me #show me something real and true astarion!!! #roz pt