#*cries in asexual*

[fearwakes]

Heartstopper 2.07

#heartstopper #heartstopperedit #Isaac Henderson #aroace #asexual #ace #aro #aromantic #tvedit #tvgifs #netflixedit #mine #** #userfearwakes #yeah i think i cried in most of isaacs scenes #representation sure does feel amazing #screaming crying throwing up #<3333

[thediamondarcher]

I want to thank Alice for this, in "sorry" it was the first time I've ever heard someone say the word "aromantic" in tv, it's something really important to me and generally to every heartstopper fan who's also part of the aro/ace community. It makes me so happy for this representation to also be made by my favorite author ever and someone who's also part of the community

#hstv #hstv s2 #heartstopper spoilers #heartstopper s2 #heartstopper netflix #heartstopper #alice oseman #isaac henderson #osemanverse #aromantic #aroace #aroacespec #aromantic asexual #asexual #I love alice so much and also tobie because they did a great job with this #tobie donovan #lgbtiqa #sorry for the late edits #i cried #aroace representation

[wastefulreverie]

every one one of my characters i write is aroace coded btw because figuring out how straight people think is fucking beyond me

#one time when I was 12 I tried writing a kissing scene between two characters for fan service bc I didn't want my readers to stop reading #my fic and I almost cried because it felt like pulling teeth. never occured to me for like. 6 years that that's not a normal reaction when #it comes to writing kissing scenes. didn't realize that people actually enjoyed that part of writing I thought it was just there for realism #aromantic #asexual #fanfiction #danny phantom fic girlies this ones for u

[ring-h]

The ace talk

The first reaction of the partner: they think you are afraid.

They think that they aren’t attractive enough, that it’s on them.

They think you never tried it (because if you did, you’ll “see the light” somehow).

New assumption: the sex you had before was bad.

The way it’s impossible to explain to someone that you see colors when they don’t (or that you don’t see colors when they do).

...And to explain that you like the non-sexual part of the romantic relationship

And then, with all the informations you gave them, they now have to choose if it could be enough for them.

#spoilers #massive spoilers #heartbreak high spoilers #heartbreak high #da$h #darrenxca$h #ace #asexual #representation #netflix #that scene had me in tears #and then i cried again #the way his voice cracks #the #i don't feel the same shit as you #... #it got me #right in my cold cold heart

[mintaikcorpse]

Me reading a fic where the person had an identidy realization that they were in he aroace spectrum and now they were figuring themselves out(I finally found something that understood me and a romance I could relate to after all these years)

#love loses! you're on the aroace spectrum and you dont fucking know what you are but you're definitely on the spectrum #but it's so hard to explain bcuz how do youve never had a real crush on someone but also have had platonic feelings for someone #and dont want to do the romance thing but also still want to have a queer platonic relationship and do romance things? #YOU DONT #IT DOESNT MAKE SENSE TO ME BUT I JUST KNOW #ESPECIALLY BECAUSE I CANT JUST GET CRUSHES ON PEOPLE IT TAKES YEARS I'VE ONLY HAD 1 CRUSH THROUGHOUT MY LIFE #AND I JUST WANTWD TO BE FRIENDS WITH HIM #I thought that was just me but the author was projecting and explained perfectly what i was going through #and ik i say “I cried” a lot when talking about something but i did actually cry #had to put my phone down bcuz it felt so nice to be understood #idk just venting and rambling lol #aroace #ace spectrum #gotta keep a journal on this bcuz i want to explain to people but it's so hard for even me to grasp #and i feel like they won't believe me anyways bcuz ive tried to himt st it but i just get weird looks #its annoying but it is what it is #aromantic #asexual #lgbt #queer #talking #rambling

[comparison-anxiety]

Nobody here consented to the bots

the fact that the porn bots here are intentionally putting #asexual (I saw a few with it as the only tag) is awful enough, but do you think the people on there are even associated with the accounts? They probably didn’t consent to any of this either. It’s all so awful and malicious it makes me sick

#asexual #the asexual bot war of 2024 #consent #wtf is with these bots #*cries in asexual*

[wh0re-behavi0r]

#queer #tumblr polls #bisexuality #asexuality #lesbian #had to redo this i spelled something wrong cries

[thebluemoo]

I'm so tired. And Frustrated.

I'm tired of characters needing to be "in love" every time they love each other. Especially when the media goes out of the way to make it clear that they love each other without ever trying to define that as "in love". They love each other. That is just as valuable. That is Just as worthy. They can be partners without romance. They can be partners without sex.

They Can Be Partners Without Romance.

I am so Sick of not only the idea that for some god forsaken reason, Every single queer relationship needs to be labeled and categorizable to "count" as explicitly queer, but the idea that it needs to be romantic. The notion that characters and stories cannot be queer until you get to see a kiss or people are declared "boyfriends" or something else like that. We are Woefully shy of queer representation on the whole— I'm not saying you can't interpret media however you like. Do what you want.

But I am so sick of characters that Clearly mirror aromantic stories or stories about queerness that just don't focus on romance be called "not good enough" or "homophobic". Not every story is about romance. Not every partnership is romantic.

That doesn't make them not queer. That doesn't make them not important. I can promise you, those of us who don't or can't center romance in our lives? We Are living a queer experience. We are antithetical to amatonormative allonormative expectations for how life "should" be lead.

We get to see ourselves in those stories you're calling "not queer enough". Queerness is complex and weird and Fucking Queer. It's not an analog of straightness or cisness. We're not playing opposite to straightness or cisness. We're not operating in the same Framework— that's what makes us so goddamn queer. We aren't easily definable, and when we try to force ourselves to find one definitive way to be queer, we leave community behind.

So yes. We need more queer stories. We need more queer stories of all kinds that are messy and weird and romantic and aromantic and trans and ace and nonbinary and all over the place because every single story about queerness is going to be different. And that's good.

#yes this is about good omens #but it's also about little women #and it's also about frozen #and it's about a hundred different ways and a hundred different times i've been told i'm erasing queer stories by seeing myself in them #queer stories deserve to be complicated #we deserve to be hard to define #but also we deserve to be seen #in every capacity that we can #I generally participate in a part of fandom that heavily partakes in shipping #For me one of the most important parts of the story is the characters and their relationships with each other #but I cannot fathom how people who also find that to be one of the most important parts of stories can be so Reductive about what that mean #good omens #aromantic #asexual #sorry for the big rant #I just cried my eyes out to the season finale of good omens and came on here to be excited about it #but almost everything i saw was about a very different takeaway than the one I had

[aroandawkward]

I get so emotional thinking about the kids who will grow up knowing words like aromantic and asexual...

I visited a junior school (for ages 7-11) the other day and they had a display of pride posters including one for ace! My 13 year-old neighbour identifies as aroace and has told her parents!

I get so emotional thinking about the aspec kids who will grow up knowing that those identities are an option, knowing that it's a valid way of existing in the world, knowing that it's okay if they don't ever feel (a particular kind of) attraction.

#aromantic #asexual #Yeah there's still a long way to go #but thinking about this makes me feel hopeful #I nearly cried at both of these things lol #I learned about asexuality/ aromanticism aged 16/ 17 #so still pretty young in the grand scheme of things #but the idea that young kids could know about it makes me feel very happy #I spent so long in the limbo of waiting for attraction #Imagine if I'd just known I might never feel those feelings and that was okay #I wanna be an aroace elder to the baby aroace next door if I can #Maybe she won't identify this way forever but she does right now and I'm so happy for her #aroace #actually aromantic #actually asexual

[ninacarstairss]

isaac crying at tara’s party hurt me in so many different ways. he’s at this party full of people who are kissing or flirting, and there’s james who’s been making him laugh and feel good but then he kisses him and it feels all kind of wrong. it doesn’t feel like what he reads in his books. it doesn’t feel like butterflies and sparks, it feels like alarms going off and moths in your stomach. and it kills him because why doesn’t it work?? what is wrong with him? why can’t he feel what he reads in his books?? why does it seem so easy for everyone else?? and so he starts to cry because it’s all hitting him. he’s been immersed in romance his whole life, and now he realizes he can’t have it. he can’t feel it. i felt all his pain, all the loss that he felt because of whatever society made him believe he was losing. i felt the romance dream slip away as he cried. but then he gets to see the lambert piece and it looks like something he can recognize himself into. he gets to talk to someone who is aromantic and asexual and who has also struggled at first, but realized that romantic love isn’t everything that makes life worth living as the world always makes it out to be. and something clicks in isaac as he hears those two words. something that finally fits. and seeing the leaves appear around him, only him, felt like happiness. it felt like hope

#i am still not over the fact that i’ve heard the word aromantic on tv #alice thank you so much for giving us isaac’s storyline #there’s hardly any representation on tv and whatever we have is usually made to be a phase to outgrow or a problem to be fixed #i really needed this #healthy aro ace rep #as much as that scene where he cries hurts me all the damn time #heartstopper #heartstopper spoilers #heartstopper season 2 #heartstopper tv #isaac henderson #alice oseman #asexual #aromantic #aro ace

[asexualbookbird]

hi hello hey im gonna need everyone, especially queer people, double especially aspec people, to read this immediately

cw for assault on page two

axolotl pin from Ray Starshine ( @raystarshine )

space ace and chaotic ace from thisishannako ( @thisishannako-real )

ace flag button was handmade by a friend

#bookbird babbles #snapshots #is love the answer #aspec #asexuality #uta isaki #books #book photography #book photo #booklr #YALL!!!!! I LAUGHED I CRIED I WAS CALLED OUT #WHAT A DELIGHTFUL LITTLE BOOK

[neim-batteries-not-included]

It’s asexual awareness week!!! I present the most aware asexual!!!

(Possible eyestrain and trypophobia, vague spoilers for tma under the cut)

That is not his cardigan. You can decide whose it is, but it’s. It’s not his.

(Click for better quality)

#god this took a while. But I’m pleased with it I think #tma #the magnus archives #jonathon sims #ok I’m listening to mag 195 rn it’s uh. I live in constant fear? /pos #but equally I’m incredibly gay about this man so. so it’s fine I definitely haven’t cried twice today over tma /pos #god if I start posting tma like I did skug I’m gon have to make another side blog #I spent like 5 hours on this for a very silly joke and I’m. I’m not sorry. /hj #art #artist on tumblr #neim actually does some actual art!! wow!!!!! #will do some actual worldbuilding posts soon I promise. so sorry if you follow me for that fhfhfhfhfh #asexual awareness week #asexual #I love this man. as an ace I platonically crush on him so hard #we love good ace rep in this household #tma spoilers #eyestrain #maybe???????? just in case #trypophobia tw #again. just in case

[arrows-and-ace-thetics]

Found a paper talking about asexuality today, on the topic of dehumanisation, from 2012.

I wasn't on tumblr for 2012, but I did join during the years after, when people were still scared, our language was still being taken. People were still being stigmatised for their explicit support of us.

I haven't read the paper yet, it probably is somewhat outdated, it's not speaking on aromatics at all from what I can tell but it's there. It's been references over 100 times. I found it from one of these references where asexuals were mentioned as its own group. Its not even about sexuality, its just a paper I have to read for uni but it's there.

It's there.

It's a reminder that we always were there.

Even when people barely believed us there was someone writing a whole paper on our experiences, and that paper was mentioned in a paper so significant that its one of three papers my course chose to assign for this paper.

Being visible is a wonderful thing

#asexual #ngl i nearly cried when i saw it #im surrounded by aces all the time and have had mostly good experiences #but i guess that 15 year old searching for “asexuals dni” in bios never quitr recovered from that #knowing that this paper so casually mentioned it before that time #idk it hit today #asexuality

[yelenapines]

i absolutely adore heartbreak high for including Ca$h's asexuality and making it an important part of the story

#and i absolutely love darren's growth over this and how the writers dont make him want to have sex at the end. they dont write it off #and i think thats fucking fantastic #especially seeing him know what he wants and not apologize for being ace and i. just. kasdb #heartbreak high #asexual #may or may not have cried in s2e7. and in season 1. which. teehee! #yelenaposts

[omg-gojo]

SS of my favorite ✨ LOGICAL PROPOSAL✨ moments

Spoilers ahead

It's completely random, really warned

My days after My college graduation were, looked for job, japonese class, read LP until passing out

#wavewave #transformers #soundwave #shockwave #if the author (that i know it's active here) doesn't like it i'll inmediatly take it down #i just snort and took the screenshot... or cried #LOGICAL PROPOSAL #the best fanfic in the hole world #asexual pairs my beloved

[shadowsbrainrot]

are you ever aspec and barely ever feel attraction at all but when you do it’s so strong you feel like you’re gonna die

#aspec #aroacespec #asexual spectrum #asexual #greysexual #demisexual #guys #lgbt #ace struggles #cries #someone tell me i’m not alone in this #pls